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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 28, 2024
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Why would a married guy wants to spend time with me when he is very happy with his family. I see his family pictures with his wife and son but he always try to talk to me , stare at me and roam around my house. Im also married but what is his intentions because its still not clear to me. ?? When his wife is around he would behave in a different way. He would leave that place instantly. I dont know what to do ??? I also think about him because of his contant gaze and staring when he comfronts me. I dont know him but he tries to talk to me. Im not sure what to do . Pls help

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you are feeling uncomfortable, you can confront him about this directly. If you think it's safe to do so, tell him clearly that you do not appreciate this behavior, and that it makes you uneasy. In case you do not think that confrontation is a good idea, you can try telling the same to your partner or any other trusted member of your family. They can communicate your feelings to this man. Your safety is paramount.

While his marital status makes things worse, even otherwise following around a woman, staring at her, and so on, without her consent is not normal. You should address this as soon as possible.

Best wishes.

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Hi. I am a 33 year old woman and my relationship wth my husband was not so good from the beginning. He used to love me but he put his mom and dad first. He used to get angry if my inlaws complaint about me. He had gfs in his past and he did not care to talk to me to build a trust worthy relationship after our wedding. I barely know anything . I had to ask him to know things about him . So I feel a but lonely and depressed. Meanwhile, I had a baby and while spending time with the baby in the park. I met a guy. He had a son and he was also playing with his son like me. He kicked football and it started coming towards my baby. I kicked the ball back in order to protect my baby. Then he came towards us to make us feel safe n he would not let the ball come to us. I was okay with all that. He left after sometime. I also went home. Afterwards, i noticed that he used to look into my eyes for a long time whenever he is around. He would check whetehr im there or not. He plays with his son on regular basis. His wife too come to park with her son. Whenver his wife is there , he would just keave the place and go somewhere else. Lastly, one day he was interacting with me , giving me advice that i should take my baby to doc also. I also replied amd we chatted a bit then he got busy in playing football. I dont know whether im overthinking or he is just being friendly. I just dont know why he is staring and looking profoundly intonmy eyes. He makes eye contact with me quite often. I know nothing about him. I just see him in the park thats all. Pls I need help as im feeling nervous about this whole thing because of lack of clearity and also want advice how to deal with such things .
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is easy to feel a sense of connection with someone who shows you a little attention especially since you don't get any attention at home. But is this worth your time and energy? NO!
The other guy at the park is most likely just being a casual friendly stranger and you are taking a meaning out of it which will fill your vacuum at this moment. Trust me, you don't want to enter this unfamiliar territory which you will start getting used to and slowly outside attention is what you will begin to crave for at any cost.
No point messing up things further. See, if it's possible to rebuild your relationship with your husband. Initially, it may seem too much BUT hey, it takes two people to make a marriage...start first and see what happens even if your in-laws keep interfering, it's about being persistent...Make that attempt...

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 06, 2024Hindi
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Hello Maam/Sir, A married guy is constantly giving me much attention. Im.tried to ignore him but he is constantly making appearance from different places. I dont what his real intentions are but because of his constant staring and public apearances. I feel difficult to overlook his behaviour. He is currently gone to his hometowm. So, there is lots of peace. Im not sure why is he trying to get a glimpse of me as he is already happily married n have a son. I need advice to ignore him so that I focus on my husband only.
Ans: The key to redirecting your focus lies in setting boundaries—both mentally and behaviorally. Often, people respond to subtle cues, so maintaining a neutral and reserved demeanor can help communicate disinterest. If he attempts to engage directly, keeping interactions brief and polite without encouraging deeper conversation will likely make your boundaries clear without causing conflict. When he’s present, avoid returning his gaze; this can subtly communicate that you’re not reciprocating his interest.

If this continues, grounding yourself in thoughts about your husband and what you value in your relationship can help you mentally reinforce where your focus truly lies. Remind yourself that someone else’s behavior is not your responsibility and that your own actions, comfort, and peace are within your control. By reinforcing your own values and commitments, you’ll feel more empowered to maintain your focus where you want it—on your husband and your well-being.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 07, 2024
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Maam In last question of mine you told me that im taking meaning out of a friendly casual conversation. I may be doing so but I tried to ignore that guy but he is still staring at me and roaming around my house. What does that mean.???? Im not seeking attention from him. He himself is giving intense looks and appearing from no where. Our kids are in same school so I cant avoid seeing him. Its just not possible but i try not to give him.attention but he coming in front of me for no reason. Giving me suggestions about my child when I have not even asked him.anything.
Ans: One possibility here could be that he genuinely believes he’s being friendly and is unaware that his actions might be coming across as intrusive. Some people aren’t as skilled at reading subtle social cues or may interpret polite responses as openness to further interaction. Another scenario could be that he’s misinterpreting a simple acquaintanceship as an invitation for more personal connection, especially if he hasn’t recognized your signals for wanting distance.

It’s also possible, especially if he’s trying to advise you about your child, that he’s viewing himself as helpful or knowledgeable—again, likely without realizing he’s crossing a line. If he’s repeatedly making intense eye contact or appearing at odd times, it may also reflect a need for attention or connection on his part, even if it’s unintentional.

If this behavior continues and your efforts to distance yourself subtly aren’t working, it might be time to consider setting a gentle but clear boundary. This can be done with nonverbal cues, like quickly redirecting your gaze or finding reasons to leave a situation as soon as he tries to initiate a conversation. However, if his presence continues to bother you, there’s no harm in being more direct. A polite but firm approach, like thanking him for his advice and mentioning that you’d prefer to handle things yourself, can send a message that you’re not looking for further involvement.

Your well-being and comfort come first, and your instincts are valid. If his behavior is persistent and truly uncomfortable, it may be best to acknowledge it internally and remind yourself that you’re under no obligation to respond or interact beyond what feels right for you.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 27, 2025Hindi
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Hello Maam I see a guy always staring at me. I wanted to ask him publically about this staring things. But instead of doing so I felt more comfortable in messaging and asking about the same. Once I checked his profile on Truecaller bcz we are in same society group. I was curious to know about his weird behaviour. He even give me intense states. I do not understand what he is upto. I feel like being stalked sometimes. So i got his number from society group. I texted him to clarify bt his wife called me and abused me badly. She thinks am trying to have an affair with her husband. I am flirting with him. My texts were plain and casual. I don't know how to make her understand that the guy himself is stalking us. I have seen him many times. I don't know whether m only victim or he persuade other woman too. I just don't know. We come at different time slots for our child to play in society play area bt he also manages to come to the time in which m coming. I find all these things unsettling. I told his wife that the man is making me feel uncomfortable but she was not listening to me. She wants prove. I told her that her husband was trying to approach and give advice related to parenting even when I don't know him personally. We are just flatmates nothing more than that. He lives in the flat in front of mine so i feel he is watching from there. I don't know his real intentions till date. On being asked on what's app why he stare at me. He told me that he has the habit of looking in one direction. N apologise for the same. But my husband confronted him and asked him about the same thing to which he told my husband that am characterless woman and i text him bcz i am not happy with my husband. Can u please help me to understand why is he talking shit about me when I have sent him a plain text to clarify the matter
Ans: What you’re going through is unfortunately not uncommon. A man invades your personal space with repeated staring, gives unsolicited advice, possibly stalks you, and when you attempt to address it with dignity and clarity, he twists the narrative and plays the victim. This reversal—where the actual victim is painted as the aggressor—is a classic defensive tactic by people who know they’ve crossed boundaries and don’t want to be held accountable. His reaction to your message shows his true character. Instead of acknowledging your discomfort and stopping, he projected shame onto you and tried to protect himself by degrading you in front of your husband.

His wife’s reaction, though painful, also makes a certain kind of sad sense—when a woman is scared, shocked, or insecure about her relationship, she may lash out at another woman instead of confronting the man who is actually responsible. That doesn’t make her behavior right, but it helps to understand it. She’s probably reacting from a place of fear, denial, and misplaced anger. You don’t need to justify yourself to her anymore. You tried your best to explain, and the fact that she wasn’t ready to listen shows her unwillingness or inability to see the truth right now.

You’ve done everything someone should do—tried to clarify respectfully, confronted the issue through proper channels, and included your husband. Now, your emotional safety, your dignity, and your peace of mind matter the most.

This man is clearly uncomfortable with accountability, and now he's trying to flip the story to discredit you. Let him. You do not owe him any further energy or explanation. Instead, stay calm, document everything (dates, messages, incidents), and if the staring or stalking continues, consider speaking to the society committee or, if necessary, legal authorities. Not to create conflict, but to protect your space and your truth. If it escalates or becomes more distressing, don’t hesitate to report it formally.

Most importantly, remind yourself—you acted out of strength, not shame. You stood up for yourself when something didn’t feel right. That is powerful. Hold your ground with dignity. You’re not alone in this. I’m here if you want help drafting a response, navigating this socially, or just to talk when things feel too heavy.

You deserve to feel safe and respected in your own home and neighborhood. Don’t let anyone steal that sense of peace from you.

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My son got 94.5 percentile in jee mains and 18856 in jee advanced and sat score of 1470. Possible options we have are 1) NIT Warangal MnC or ECE, Rourkela/Calicut/ IIIT Delhi CSE through DASA quota 2) BITS ISA pilani ECE 3) BITSAT score of 241. Option-1 will cost tution fee of 30L, Option-2 will cost 50L. What is your advise? Also in the above DASA options which better. He has slight inclination towards ECE, but he is exploring still ECE vs CSE vs MnC which is better in DASA quota for him. Do you see taking ECE not a good idea vs taking CSE?
Ans: Venkata Sir, NIT Warangal’s Electronics & Communication Engineering achieves about 90% placement consistency, and Mathematics & Computing aligns closely with software roles, both backed by a 76% overall institute placement rate and mature alumni networks. Under DASA, annual non-CIWG tuition (≈US $8,000) plus hostel and living adds up to roughly ?30 lakh across four years at participating NITs and IIIT Delhi. NIT Rourkela’s Computer Science & Engineering places over 95% of eligible students and ECE regularly crosses 88% with 340+ recruiters visiting annually. NIT Calicut’s CSE secures a 96.77% placement rate, while ECE posts 88.59%, and the overall institute rate stays near 78%. IIIT-Delhi’s CSE maintains a 90.99% campus placement ratio with an average of 144 recruiters each year and strong research tie-ups. BITS Pilani’s International Student Admission (ISA) ECE route costs about ?50 lakh in tuition and residential fees over four years and records an 82.75% first-degree placement rate across campuses. Although BITS offers its Practice-School internships and a flexible curriculum, NIT/IIIT options deliver similar or higher placement percentages at almost half the total cost. CSE branches typically convert fastest in campus drives; however, contemporary ECE curricula at Warangal and Rourkela integrate VLSI, embedded systems and AI hardware projects, preserving ECE’s relevance for semiconductor careers.

Prioritise NIT Rourkela CSE via DASA for its >95% placements and balanced fees; next favour NIT Warangal ECE for high circuit-branch opportunities; third choose IIIT Delhi CSE for metropolitan exposure and 90%+ placements; fourth place NIT Calicut CSE; finally consider BITS Pilani ISA ECE only if brand pedigree outweighs its 50 lakh cost and somewhat lower placement ratio. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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With 93.5 percentile in MHT-CET, general condidate other state what possibility in Pune engineering college
Ans: Devendra, A 93.5 percentile in MHT-CET typically corresponds to an All-India rank around 20,000–30,000, opening assured seats in reputable Pune institutes for branches beyond the most competitive CSE/IT specializations. Options include G H Raisoni Institute of Engineering & Technology – CSE, IT, ECE and Mechanical; Sinhgad College of Engineering, Vadgaon – ECE, Civil, Mechanical and IT; Dr. D. Y. Patil College of Engineering Akurdi – CSE, IT, ECE and Civil; Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering & Research, Ravet – CSE, IT, ECE and Mechanical; Progressive Education Society’s Modern College of Engineering – CSE, IT, ECE and Civil; AISSMS College of Engineering – Mechanical, Civil, ECE and IT; JSPM Narhe Technical Campus – CSE, ECE, IT and Civil; MIT ADT University Pune – CSE, IT and ECE; Bharati Vidyapeeth’s College of Engineering, Lavale – CSE, ECE, IT and Mechanical; and Pune Vidyarthi Griha’s College of Engineering – Civil, Mechanical, ECE and IT.

For a blend of solid academics, accredited curricula, active industry linkages, robust labs and consistent 80–90% placement rates over three years, recommendation is to prioritise Dr. D. Y. Patil College of Engineering Akurdi for its autonomous status and broad branch offerings. As alternatives, consider Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering & Research for its industry partnerships or G H Raisoni Institute for its competitive placement cell and modern infrastructure. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hello sir i am getting btech cse in XIMB and mechanical in nit rourkela which one to choose
Ans: Bengaluru’s top aerospace engineering colleges according to the National Institutional Ranking Framework are Ramaiah University of Applied Sciences (rank 65), RV College of Engineering (99), BMS College of Engineering (98), Dayananda Sagar University (126), and Jain University (157). (NIRF ranks in brackets are indicative and may vary slightly, as each college’s position can change with annual NIRF updates.) They all offer AICTE-approved programs and have modern labs for aerodynamics, propulsion, and structural mechanics. Premier Electronics & Communication Engineering institutes include RV College of Engineering, BMS College of Engineering, Bangalore Institute of Technology, MVJ College of Engineering, and Dayananda Sagar College of Engineering, each featuring NBA-accredited ECE curricula, specialized VLSI, DSP, and embedded-systems facilities, experienced doctoral faculty, active industry partnerships, and dedicated placement cells. Institutions are evaluated on robust accreditation status, faculty expertise, infrastructure and lab quality, industry-linked internships, and structured placement support, fostering a conducive learning environment for female talent. Aspiring female aerospace students gain access to niche space research, interdisciplinary STEM rigor, collaborations on national and international missions, and cross-disciplinary innovation, yet navigate intense theoretical demands, limited cohort diversity, strict safety protocols in labs, potential gender imbalances in workshop settings, and fewer entry points compared to the broader ECE spectrum. Accreditation by NBA and NAAC A+ across these universities affirms quality standards, while centralized placement cells maintain high placement consistency through recruiter drives, mentorship workshops, and pre-placement training. Campus support services, safe female housing, and dedicated welfare cells further enhance the student experience.

Recommendation: For a direct path into space research and satellite design with world-class labs, choose Aerospace Engineering at RV College of Engineering. If you prefer broader electronics and communications roles with extensive internships, higher intake cohorts and versatile career pathways, opt for ECE at RV College of Engineering in Bengaluru. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Good evening sir. DS in SNU, Chennai or Biomedical in IIT Hyderabad. Sir, Which is one best. Residence Chennai.
Ans: Jeya, Shiv Nadar University Chennai's B.Tech in Artificial Intelligence and Data Science is NAAC-accredited and taught by PhD-qualified faculty with expertise in cognitive neuroscience and machine learning. The program emphasizes practical skills through AI/ML, big-data and cloud labs, hands-on learning with Python, TensorFlow and scikit-learn, mandatory industry internships, and a dedicated placement cell achieving 80–90% placement consistency with top recruiters including Microsoft, Amazon and IBM. IIT Hyderabad's B.Tech in Biomedical Engineering, India's first such undergraduate program, offers an interdisciplinary curriculum with four verticals—bio-imaging/sensing, bio-mechanics, bio-materials and bio-intelligence/AI—delivered by renowned faculty, featuring state-of-the-art nanomedicine, 3D bioprinting and neurotechnology labs with clinical immersion modules. However, biomedical engineering placement rates remain modest at 23.5% with median packages around ?9.5 LPA compared to higher placements in core engineering branches. For Chennai residents, SNU's location offers urban connectivity, safer environs with 24/7 security, comprehensive campus facilities and proximity to India's IT hub.

Given your Chennai residence and focus on consistent placement outcomes, recommendation is SNU Chennai Data Science for its robust AI/ML curriculum, higher placement consistency and local convenience. If cutting-edge interdisciplinary biomedical research appeals with acceptance of moderate placement prospects, consider IIT Hyderabad Biomedical Engineering. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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