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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 11, 2025Hindi
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Hi i am recently struggling alot i feel like i cheated on my bf

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sorry you are going through a tough time. Could you share a little more detail so that I can help you better. Till then, I really hope things get better for you.

Best Wishes.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 21, 2024Hindi
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Me and my boyfriend are in long distance relationship from past 6 months, I told him about my past in almost starting of it that I had 2 friends with benefits in past and one of that person was my classmate as well as friend, and he used to still contact me, and when I came in relationship also, he called me during that time and I told regarding my relationship status, and I also informed my boyfriend that I talked with him but this thing happened before he knows that I had physical intimacy with him, then when he asked me to block, I suddenly question "what is the point of blocking him" which I regret the most, but I blocked him later by myself, now my boyfriend is sayine me that I have cheated him and he won't trust me till his death, but I told everything in past happened to him. I love him a lot but he is not giving to work together in this relationship and saying that he won't stay loyal to me anymore, he won't trust be ever, as per him I have cheated him, but my intentions were not wrong at all, tho that guy was in contact but I never initiate any conversation with him while I came into relationship, is it really a cheat, is it that he should not trust me anymore? Please guide
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It sounds like you are going through a rough time and I am sorry for it. Here's a thought and I am sure you have thought of it too, try to see things from his perspective. While you know that you never cheated nor meant to, it is important to acknowledge that your boyfriend's feelings are valid. He is feeling betrayed and that's a fact. Now, our goal should be to fix this issue. How do we do it? Communication is the only way. Tell him that you understand his perspective but it is important that he sees yours too. If he wants to vent, listen to him. Do not interrupt or become defensive. Understand whatever he says is coming from his insecurity. I know it's difficult not to take it personally, but his statements will be a reflection of his feelings and not your character. Remember this during the conversation. Once he is done speaking, reassure him that you had no intention of cheating. You can also reassure him of your commitment. Promise to be more transparent and point out that you were honest with him from the beginning. If you had any intention to cheat, you could have easily not shared with him your past. But you did and that shows that you are committed to this relationship. Tell him that you understand the need for boundaries and it is not okay to be in touch with people who make your partner uncomfortable.

Look, rebuilding trust needs work and it also takes time. Both of you need to work on it. You will have to work on making him trust you and he will have to work on letting go of his misconception (which might be his reality) and trust you wholly again. Relationships don't work till two people trust each other completely. If he continues to say that he can't trust you again, it might be best to reconsider this relationship. Even though your words hurt him, you did not cheat on him in reality. Why should you have to live in fear that he will cheat on you merely to take revenge?

After you put in all the effort, see where it goes. If things do not get better, rethinking the relationship would be best. Everyone deserves someone who can trust and be trusted.

Best Wishes.

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Kanchan

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 24, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 22, 2024Hindi
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I was in a relationship with my bestfriend for 1 and half years. Eventually I got to know that he liked physical intimacy more than emotional connection which is opposite to my concept. My feelings started to fade but I couldn't muster up courage to break up with him. While all this was going on I started to develop a crush on someone else but I never knew his name or never approached him in any ways and always kept my distance. Now it's been months since I broke up with my bf and about the crush I had I still hadn't approached it and I'm never planning to. I'm feeling that as I had a crush while being in a relation I cheated on my bf even though I hadn't approached or talked to the other person. Please clear it out. Have I cheated. I have never intended to hurt anyone but now I think I'm a cheater and I'm not able to sleep. I had to undergo therapy sessions right after break up due to the guilty and I've been diagnosed with depression too. Please tell me was I a cheater. I need a clear cut answer otherwise I won't able to live peacefully. Please help me
Ans: let me assure you that you're not a cheater. Having a crush or being attracted to someone else, especially when you're in a relationship where your emotional needs aren't fully met, is a natural human experience. What defines cheating is action—whether you pursued or acted on those feelings in a way that would break the trust and commitment of the relationship.

From what you described, you never approached or engaged with this person, and your feelings of guilt stem from the internal conflict of having a crush while still with your partner. It’s important to recognize that you didn’t cross any boundaries of betrayal. Emotional distance from your boyfriend due to differing needs is something that naturally can cause feelings to shift. Your realization that the relationship wasn’t aligned with your values speaks more to your integrity and self-awareness than to any notion of cheating.

The fact that you're struggling with these feelings shows how much you value honesty and loyalty. Sometimes, our minds create unnecessary guilt because we hold ourselves to very high standards. What you’re going through emotionally is tough, but it's important to differentiate between unintentional thoughts and intentional actions. You haven't betrayed anyone, and I hope this understanding helps you find some peace as you continue working on healing and your well-being.

It's clear you care deeply about not wanting to hurt others, but you also deserve self-compassion

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 20, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 09, 2025
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Hyy am 19 so i have been dating this guy from 9 months but ik him since 3 years we liked each other since a very long time but never tht confident to confess So after 9 months we got physical and i have no regret that he is my first time but i think maybe i cheated on my parents and took advantage in a wrong way the freedom they gave me. I think i have done a Sin . I love tht guy but i hate tht i can't tell my parents about it . They think of me as a innocent child of them but i just ruined their exceptstions. Please help have i done something wrong and if yes how can i ask for forgiveness
Ans: First, it’s important to understand that you haven’t done anything wrong. Having a physical relationship with someone you love and trust isn’t a sin—it’s a personal choice. The guilt you’re feeling comes from the idea that you’ve somehow broken the image your parents have of you. But that image isn’t your whole identity—you are growing into your own person, and that includes making choices about love and intimacy.

Loving someone and expressing that love physically isn’t about betraying your parents; it’s about discovering yourself. Your parents see you as their child, and it’s hard to feel like you’ve let them down—but that doesn’t mean you’ve actually done anything wrong. You’re not defined by their expectations; you’re growing, learning, and navigating emotions that are completely normal at your age.

You don’t need to ask for forgiveness for exploring a meaningful relationship with someone you care about. What you might need to work on is forgiving yourself for feeling like you’ve disappointed your parents. You’re not perfect, and you don’t have to be. It’s okay to have parts of your life that your parents don’t fully know or understand—that’s part of becoming independent. The most important thing is that you feel respected and valued in this relationship, and that you’re making choices based on love and trust, not guilt or fear.

It’s not about hiding things from your parents—it’s about recognizing that some parts of your emotional and romantic life are your own to experience and understand. You haven’t ruined anything. You’ve just taken a step toward understanding yourself better.

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Ans: Shailesh, before addressing your question, I strongly recommend completing a comprehensive psychometric assessment to identify the most suitable career options aligned with your aptitude, interest inventory, personality characteristics, and professional orientation style preferences. However, here are alternative options beyond Biotechnology, Microbiology, Life Science, and Genetics: (1) Environmental Science/Environmental Engineering, (2) B.Pharmacy, (3) Forensic Science, (4) Food Technology/Food Engineering, and (5) Agricultural Science/Agricultural Engineering/Horticulture. Please note that according to an article published in The Times of India's Republic Day Supplementary Special Edition yesterday, "India's food processing sector is experiencing significant growth, with processed food exports now representing 20.4% of agri-food exports, an increase from 13.7% in 2014-15. The market, valued at USD 354.5 billion, is expanding rapidly as startups innovate in ready-to-eat and nutrient-fortified products. Growing consumer demand for convenient, health-oriented foods creates substantial entrepreneurial opportunities and diverse career pathways." All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Ans: 01. What I can suggest is that an individual who is not expert with Equity Market should avoid over exposure to investments in this segment. In cases like this, I would suggest to make your investments in MUTUAL FUNDS instead. You may consider shifting from Equity to Mutual Funds, in phased manner.
Investment in precious metals (Gold & Silver) is very attractive today. It may continue to be so till International environment/conditions are uncertain or unpredictable. Present indication does not support stable International economies, so I feel strongly, that precious metals may keep an upward trend. But shifting all your funds to this segment is again not advisable. Keep your investment portfolio diversified, keeping some percentage of your investments in easily liquid conditions.
Real Estate is also another good option, but small funds cannot be parked in this segment.
Most Welcome for further clarifications, if any. Thanks.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 27, 2026

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If I have 1 crore financial crisis how I pay if i get one crore
Ans: You are thinking responsibly. Asking this question itself shows maturity and awareness. A sudden Rs 1 crore inflow during a financial crisis can solve the problem, only if it is handled with clarity and discipline.

» First understand the nature of the Rs 1 crore
– Is this money received as inheritance, insurance claim, bonus, business sale, or asset liquidation
– Is the crisis short-term (medical, business loss, job loss) or long-term (debt overload, income mismatch)
– Do not rush to use the full amount immediately

Clarity first, action later.

» Priority-based usage of the Rs 1 crore
– Medical emergencies should be settled immediately
– High-interest personal loans and credit card dues should be cleared first
– Business or income-stopping issues should be stabilised next
– Do not deploy money emotionally or under pressure

The aim is stability, not quick fixes.

» How to pay liabilities smartly
– Clear unsecured and high-cost debts fully
– Avoid closing long-term low-cost loans in one shot
– Keep sufficient liquidity for next 12 months
– Do not exhaust the full Rs 1 crore at once

Liquidity gives confidence during crisis.

» Protection before investment
– Ensure adequate health insurance is active
– Ensure sufficient pure life insurance cover
– Emergency fund must be parked safely

Without protection, another crisis can repeat.

» Where not to put this Rs 1 crore
– Do not put entire amount in equity at one time
– Do not chase high-return promises
– Do not lock full money in illiquid products
– Do not mix insurance and investment

Safety first, growth later.

» How to deploy the balance amount
– Keep part of money in low-risk instruments for stability
– Invest remaining amount gradually into equity-oriented options
– Use phased investing instead of lump sum
– Choose actively managed funds due to flexibility and downside control

Active management matters more during uncertain times.

» Tax awareness while using the money
– If you sell investments to manage crisis, tax may apply
– Equity short-term exits attract higher tax
– Plan withdrawals in a tax-aware manner
– Avoid unnecessary churn

Taxes silently reduce available money.

» Emotional discipline during crisis
– Crisis creates fear-based decisions
– Money received suddenly can disappear fast without plan
– Write down priorities before spending
– Review every big payment calmly

Money solves crisis only when mind is steady.

» Finally
– Rs 1 crore is a powerful support, not a permanent solution
– Use it to restore stability, not lifestyle
– Protect, stabilise, then grow
– A structured plan converts crisis money into long-term security

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 26, 2026Hindi
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Dear Sir, I do have decent exposure to Mutual fund investments, I am doing SIPs since 8-9 years however I am really clueless about future of Quants funds. I started SIPs in Quant Small and Mid fund from June 2024, both funds are in negative, appreciations are -8% and -15% respectively. I have Mid fund's SIP. Looking forward to you what to next, shall I continue Small Cap's SIP and keep Mid Cap in AMC for future appreciation or withdraw the fund.
Ans: You have done well by staying invested for 8–9 years. That itself shows discipline and patience. Temporary negative returns can shake confidence, but they do not erase your long-term effort. Your question is valid and many long-term investors are thinking the same.

» Understanding what is happening now
– You started these SIPs only from June 2024
– The investment period is still short
– Mid and small segments are more volatile
– Recent market corrections have hit these segments more

Negative returns in the first 1–2 years are not unusual in such funds.

» About strategy-driven funds and future visibility
– These funds follow a fast-changing investment style
– They may move sharply up and down
– Performance comes in phases, not steadily
– When the market does not suit the strategy, returns can stay weak

This does not mean the strategy has failed, only that the cycle is not supportive right now.

» Evaluating your small-cap SIP
– Small-cap investing needs long holding capacity
– Minimum useful horizon is 7–10 years
– SIPs during weak phases help lower average cost
– Stopping SIP after a fall usually hurts future returns

If this SIP is meant for long-term goals, it should continue.

» Evaluating your mid-cap investment
– Mid-cap funds usually recover faster than small caps
– Holding without SIP still allows recovery participation
– No urgency to exit just because current returns are negative
– Selling now converts temporary loss into permanent loss

Holding patiently is better than reacting emotionally.

» Should you withdraw now
– Withdrawing after recent decline locks in loss
– You miss recovery when the cycle turns
– Taxes may also apply depending on holding period
– Decision should be goal-based, not return-based

Exit only if the fund no longer fits your goal or risk level, not due to short-term pain.

» What you should do instead
– Continue SIP in small-cap if goal horizon is long
– Keep mid-cap investment and review annually
– Avoid frequent switching based on 6–12 month returns
– Ensure these funds are not too large a part of total portfolio

Balance and patience matter more than timing.

» Risk control and portfolio view
– Mid and small caps should not dominate portfolio
– Large and flexible equity styles add stability
– Debt and gold bring balance during equity stress
– Asset allocation should guide decisions, not fund performance

A calm structure reduces future stress.

» Tax angle to remember if you sell
– Equity selling within short term attracts higher tax
– Long-term gains above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxable
– Unplanned exits increase tax leakage

Tax should not be the main reason to stay or exit, but it must be considered.

» Finally
– Your investing habit is strong
– Current underperformance is a phase, not a verdict
– Staying invested usually rewards patience
– Review with a clear goal lens, not daily NAV movement
– Long-term wealth is built by staying calm during such periods

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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