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Single Mom Dilemma: To Remarry or Not?

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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Feb 26, 2025

Dr Upneet Kaur is a medical professional and therapist based out of Amritsar.
After completing her bachelor’s degree in Ayurvedic medicine and surgery from the SKSS Ayurvedic College and Hospital, Sarabha, Punjab, in 2008, she worked as a medical officer at various multi-specialty hospitals in Punjab, handling both physical and mental patient care and clinical decision-making. She spent the next decade leading multidisciplinary teams at various levels.
Since 2022, she has been practising as a clinical psychologist and marriage counsellor.
Dr Upneet also holds an MBA in hospital management from Alagappa University, Tamil Nadu, and an MA in psychology from the Indira Gandhi National Open University.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Jan 21, 2025Hindi
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I am a single mother of 5 year old. Now my family wants me to remarry as they are concerned i am alone. I am not sure if it is a right decision. Will it effect my child? What are the chances of finding right partner and how to make sure it will be a good decision for my kid too.

Ans: Hello mam
I must say that you are very brave that you are raising your kid single handedly. At this time you must be young and may be you don't feel the need of partner. But ultimately you have to understand that your kid needs a father's love also. And in the long run you will also miss a partner from whom you expect emotional support and companionship. So I think its not bad to think about re marriage. You can take some time to understand that person and can explain him about your situation. I understand you may have gone through some traumatic experience from previous marriage but for the secure future of you and your kid, you have to move on and lead a good and happy life.
Take care and do message me about your future plans.
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Dr Upneet kaur
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I am so sorry for your loss; the passing on of a spouse almost feels like you live that grief everyday.
Your relatives are simply reacting to what they see as loneliness that you are living and that you can bring a Mother for a child.
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Will she be fine raising your daughter as her own?
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Being a girl, will you commit to caring for your daughter in more ways than a father?
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I am a divorced working woman , with a daughter 8 yrs. I have been pursued for remarriage with a guy who is 10 yrs older to me and have 2 kids. 11 and 14 yrs respectively living in a small town. Initially it was agreed the elder child who is a boy would be living in hostel , but now since we are approaching near to the marriage, it seems the elder male child is going to stay at home and not hostel. This is making me really uncomfortable as I won't get much privacy also the male child is aggressive.Already handling one kid was difficult before. Also moving to small town was difficult transition from a metropolitan that I stay in. Moving there could mean losing job opportunities in future. I am really worried if I let this match go, I end up alone again. I am not able to make a decision, it's difficult to raise others children. It's just not naturally inbuilt in us.Although I try really hard to mould my thinking and be more generous, but somehow it suffocates me.
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Let me ask you one thing, if you knew a plane was going to crash, would you still get on it because you are worried you will reach your destination late? No, right? Similarly, if you know this marriage could be really tough on you, with the added responsibilities of a teenager and another soon-to-be teenager, do you still want to go ahead with it, just because you might have to stay alone for a while longer?

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Your JEE Main percentile
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List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
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