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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 26, 2024Hindi
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Hi Shalini ji i am married since 2007 last 18 years my life was going very we'll and we both have good understanding and we both taking care of our family having two kids very well last year i come to know that before marriage my wife were having one male friend this male friends usually meet my wife at that time and gossips and even he taken her to visit on some locations 4 to 5 times as per my wife this friend was taken her to his room also 4 time but as they were good friends only so they just gossiping there as well as per my wife she had no any feeling with that guy but in between one day he asked her that he want to marry her , as per my wife he was telling him that he has been broken by his old girl friend and now since my wife listening him very carefully he started liking her , my wife still meeting him in between and go for outing at that time one day he asked to visit her home for marriage than my wife reject his proposal, after that this man gone out of station and than not met her, as per my wife telling me that i have not liked him and not having any feeling at that time and she telling that my 1st love is my husband only i am not able to decide anything now and not able to sleep properly not able to focus on me my health and my work i am vey shocked that the girl i love how she met with other man in past why she gone for outdoor and his room in past i am vey upset from last one year now and nkt able to find any Solution what to do now how to live life ahead pl guide me

Ans: Whilst I comment on dating and how to find your person, I will like to comment on this

1. basis of what you have shared you are overthinking and ruining what you have had since 18 years. your wife decided to stay with you and invest in the relationship with you is the fact that she cares for you and the relationship so stop being upset, be kind to yourself, her and the relationship.

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2. marriage should not stop us from having close friends from the opposite gender.

3. if you are married, it means you are an adult which means if two adults consent to adultery its their responsibility to accept it. say if you are attracted to a woman and go all the way its not the woman who has lured you, both are in their senses and know what they are doing.

4. yes even after marrying or being in a committed relationship you can and will find others attractive and you will be found attractive to others. Its upto you and only you on how you wish to act if such a situation arises. As I shared you are an adult and someone who can not think but also overthink so you decide how to act in such a situation.
Asked on - Mar 27, 2024 | Answered on Mar 27, 2024
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Thank you ???? my problem is that I can trust my wife that she told me that she was not liking that man but why she went with him outside and also why she went in his room for just gossiping they can chose any public place , as per my wife told me that nothing happened in room but sometimes I went in shock thinking if my wife telling me anything lie on this . How ro trust my wife words actually my very big problem now
Ans: Unfortunately you have not read my response in completion - the 1st point talks about how you may wish to address the issue, please read and comprehend what has been written. You are overthinking - and messing it for yourself. wishing you the best.
Asked on - Mar 27, 2024 | Answered on Mar 27, 2024
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Ok thanks yes read the same pl help how to overcome on this overthinking problem within me how I can have beautiful life and better relationship again and happy life again
Ans: You need to help yourself, you need to talk to yourself to forget things...no one else can do it for you. Those who overthink usually have enough time in their hands, work in doing something productive in this 'overthinking time' - read a book, watch a fun movie with the wife, go for walks with the wife or without her, help her in the house , play board games as a family, learn yoga, join dance or painting classes together or solo.... You are responsible on how you behave and wish to lead your life. I may not be able to respond beyond this....however it will be nice to get an update after 30 days. All the best
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So, in a nutshell, you think your wife was flirting behind your back, you dropped some hints and then she has either stopped, or then stopped you from spying on her phone.

First of all, why are you dropping hints to her instead of talking straight? Which husband is going to appreciate his wife being wooed by other men with all this darling-baby love talk?

Even if she’s not having an affair, the flirty behaviour is bound to make you uncomfortable. Don’t you think you should call her out on it instead of pretending like some other man is making her uncomfortable?

Clearly, she’s enjoying the attention!

You seem very timid and intimidated by your wife. And if her behaviour has changed toward you for the better because you suspect she is guilty of something, all the more reason to get to the bottom of it!

Stop playing games and pussyfooting around her. Do some straight-talking for a change instead of going behind her back and reading messages!

And FYI, being good-looking doesn’t give any spouse licence to make their partner insecure!

 

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Ans: Dear Rajesh,

I can understand it is an impossible situation for you but this too shall pass. First things first, are you happy in a relationship that involves cheating, not once, but twice and who's to say there won't be a third? Ask yourself that. If the answer is no, it is quite understandable, but if it's yes, then why? Why would anyone be happy with a partner who cheats over and over again? Why do you think you deserve such a life? Granted, relationships are not all rainbows and butterflies all the time, but they should not look this grim either. You alone have kept it going for this long, and maintained harmony by accepting your partner's infidelity time and again; ask yourself what would happen if you allowed yourself to stop. You can stop tolerating it, you know?

The question isn't how you should deal with your partner who is evidently a repeat cheater. The question is how you should deal with the situation and why are you reacting in a way that almost makes me think that you believe you deserve such a relationship. As for your kid, divorce or separation has much less effect on a child than a broken marriage with two unhappy parents.

If you still want to continue, that is also okay. To each their own, but don't forget to ask yourself what are you staying in this marriage for; your kid, societal pressure, or is it unconditional love for your wife, who, by the way, does not reciprocate the same for you.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You seem to have done a lot to try and get her back. What can you do if she doesn't want to acknowledge your efforts or appreciate what family life is! One would imagine that a child in the equation may bring about a change in heart but that doesn't seem to be the case here at this moment.
Your family members are right in their mind about the way that see your wife as they have been observing how this has impacted you and your son.
Either you wait for her to come to her senses OR simply learn to live life without her. If the outside world of social media is what seems to satisfy her, no matter what you do, she will be dissatisfied and unhappy. This only means that she has to learn and appreciate what she has with you and your son.
It is also possible that she has been disinterested in the marriage for a while now and has been seeking approval and validation from people on social media. Even if this is the case, being angry with you is understandable BUT what about her own child? What makes her not want to deal with that reality? If you need an answer to this, simply WAIT and WATCH without begging her to come back...That will give you an idea as to where her mind is and then decide on the future course...

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Arun Prasad v k, hi sir, I am 46 yrs wish to retire by 55. Presently I have 25 lacs in fixed deposit, 15 lacs in post office savings , house rent8k, monthly 25k as salary. Besides, this I have 30k as monthly expenses... I have no idea / knowledge about mutual fund and I want to invest regularly for more 10 years...systematically and at the time of 55 I want to get best amount as pension amount..without loosing investment amount to beat the inflation. Kindly suggest me good mutual fund and tell me how to invest directly..without agent.. 2. My fixed deposit going to mature this month for Rs.11 lacs. Kindly suggest ,is it advisable to invest as lumpsum Or in what way to invest.
Ans: t's commendable that you're planning for your retirement and seeking to explore mutual fund investments to achieve your financial goals. Here's a tailored approach to help you get started:

Selecting Mutual Funds: Since you're aiming for long-term wealth accumulation with the goal of generating a pension-like income at the age of 55, consider investing in a mix of equity and debt mutual funds to balance growth potential with capital preservation. Look for funds with a track record of consistent performance, experienced fund managers, and low expense ratios. You may consider diversified equity funds, balanced funds, and debt funds based on your risk tolerance and investment horizon.
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Lack of Expertise: Direct investing requires a deep understanding of the mutual fund landscape, market dynamics, and investment strategies. Without proper knowledge, you may struggle to select the right funds and construct a well-balanced portfolio.
Risk of Mistakes: DIY investing increases the risk of making costly mistakes such as selecting unsuitable funds, mistiming the market, or misinterpreting fund performance data. These mistakes can hinder your investment returns and jeopardize your retirement goals.
Limited Access to Research: Individual investors may have limited access to research tools, market insights, and expert analysis compared to financial professionals. This can make it challenging to make informed investment decisions and navigate complex financial markets effectively.
Lack of Personalized Advice: Investing directly means missing out on personalized financial advice tailored to your unique needs, goals, and risk tolerance. A Certified Financial Planner or Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD) can provide valuable guidance and help you build a customized investment plan aligned with your objectives.
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Lumpsum Investment: Regarding your maturing fixed deposit of 11 lakhs, consider your risk tolerance and investment goals before deciding how to deploy this amount. Since you have a relatively short time horizon until retirement, you may consider investing a portion of the amount in debt funds for stability and liquidity, while allocating the remainder to equity funds for potential growth over the long term. Alternatively, you can stagger your investments over time through systematic transfer plans (STP) to mitigate timing risk.
Regular Monitoring: Once you've invested in mutual funds, monitor your investments regularly and review your portfolio periodically to ensure alignment with your financial goals and risk profile. Consider rebalancing your portfolio if needed based on changes in market conditions or your financial situation.
By following these steps and staying disciplined with your investment approach, you can work towards building a robust investment portfolio to support your retirement goals while safeguarding your investment against inflation.

By working with an MFD, you can access professional expertise, receive personalized recommendations, and benefit from ongoing guidance to make informed investment decisions and achieve your retirement goals more effectively.

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I'm 27 year old female. I earn 29k per month. I want to start an SIP and save enough (5lakh) for my marriage that I expect will happen after three years what's the best way for me to go about this goal?
Ans: Starting an SIP to save for your marriage is a wise decision, and with a clear goal in mind, you can work towards achieving it effectively. Here's a suggested approach tailored to your situation:

Determine Required SIP Amount: Calculate the monthly SIP amount required to accumulate 5 lakhs in three years. Assuming an average annual return of around 10%, you'll need to invest approximately 12,000 INR per month.
Select Suitable Mutual Funds: Choose mutual funds that align with your investment horizon and risk tolerance. Given your relatively short time frame of three years, consider allocating your investments to relatively safer options such as debt funds or hybrid funds with a higher allocation towards debt.
Explore Debt and Hybrid Funds: Look for debt funds or hybrid funds with a conservative allocation that prioritize capital preservation while aiming for modest growth. Consider funds with a track record of stable returns and low volatility.
Set Up SIPs: Open SIPs in the chosen mutual funds and set up monthly contributions of 12,000 INR. Ensure that the SIP amount is deducted automatically from your bank account each month to maintain consistency in your investment approach.
Regular Monitoring: Keep track of the performance of your SIPs and review them periodically. Make adjustments to your investment strategy if necessary based on changes in market conditions, fund performance, and your financial goals.
Explore Additional Savings: Consider supplementing your SIPs with additional savings from any windfalls, bonuses, or surplus income to accelerate your goal achievement.
Stay Committed: Stay committed to your SIPs and avoid withdrawing funds prematurely unless absolutely necessary. Remember, consistency and discipline are key to achieving your financial goals.
By following these steps and staying focused on your goal, you can save enough for your marriage within the desired timeframe while building a healthy financial habit for the future.
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Sir please suggest amount as well as mutual fund for 15 years to generate corpus of 1cr
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Determine Investment Amount: Considering your goal of accumulating 1 crore in 15 years, you'll need to calculate the monthly investment required based on expected returns. Assuming an average annual return of around 10%, you'll need to invest approximately 30,000 INR per month.
Select Mutual Funds: Choose a mix of equity mutual funds that offer potential for capital appreciation over the long term. Consider allocating your investments across large-cap, mid-cap, and multicap funds to diversify risk and maximize returns. Look for funds with a consistent track record of performance, experienced fund managers, and a robust investment strategy.
Allocate Funds: Divide your monthly investment amount of 30,000 INR among different mutual funds based on your risk tolerance and investment goals. For example, you could allocate 40-50% to large-cap funds, 30-40% to mid-cap funds, and 10-20% to multicap funds.
Regular Monitoring: Regularly review the performance of your mutual funds and make adjustments as needed based on changes in market conditions, fund performance, and your financial goals. Stay disciplined and committed to your investment plan to achieve your target corpus of 1 crore in 15 years.
Consult a Financial Advisor: Consider seeking advice from a Certified Financial Planner who can provide personalized recommendations based on your financial situation, risk profile, and investment objectives. They can help you create a customized investment plan and guide you towards achieving your long-term financial goals.
By following these steps and staying disciplined with your investments, you can work towards building a substantial corpus of 1 crore over the next 15 years. Remember, consistency, patience, and informed decision-making are key to successful long-term wealth creation.
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Hi sir, Maine niche likhe hue sabhi fund mein mutual fund investment ki hai Small cap fund... Quant, HDFC, Mahindra, ICICI, canara rebeco Mid cap fund....Quant, HDFC, Mahindra, motilal oswal, canara rebeco Multicap fund.... HDFC and Mahindra Sectoral themetic fund... Nippon power& infra, DSp India tiger fund, ICICI manufacturing, ICICI innovation, axis manufacturing Plz mujhe suggest Karo.. aage bhi main yeh invest ment continue Karu ya . Fund change Karu...
Ans: It's great to see your diversified investment approach across different categories like small-cap, mid-cap, multicap, and sectoral thematic funds. However, the decision to continue or change your investments depends on various factors such as fund performance, your investment goals, risk tolerance, and market conditions.

Here are a few steps to consider:

Review Fund Performance: Evaluate the performance of each fund relative to its benchmark and peer group over different time frames. Look for consistency, risk-adjusted returns, and the fund manager's track record.
Assess Investment Goals: Reflect on your investment goals, time horizon, and risk tolerance. Are you investing for short-term gains or long-term wealth creation? Your goals should drive your investment decisions.
Analyze Fund Strategy: Understand the investment strategy and underlying holdings of each fund. Ensure they align with your investment objectives and risk profile. Assess if any funds are deviating from their stated strategy or experiencing manager changes.
Consider Market Conditions: Take into account current market conditions, economic outlook, and sectoral trends. Certain sectors may perform better in specific market cycles, so diversification across sectors can mitigate risks.
Consult a Financial Advisor: Seek advice from a Certified Financial Planner who can provide personalized recommendations based on your individual circumstances. They can help you assess your portfolio, identify any gaps, and suggest appropriate changes.
Ultimately, the decision to continue or change your investments should be based on a thorough analysis of fund performance, alignment with your goals, and professional advice. Regularly review your portfolio and make adjustments as needed to stay on track towards achieving your financial objectives.
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Hello sir, I am 34 yeRs old and monthly income is 1.8 lakhs. I have a home loan EMI of 55000. I want to invest 40000 in MF SIP. Can you please provide a breakdown where should i invest and how much?
Ans: It's great to see your proactive approach towards investing despite having home loan commitments. Given your financial situation, here's a suggested breakdown for investing 40,000 INR in mutual fund SIPs:

Diversified Equity Funds (Large Cap/Multi Cap): Allocate around 60-70% of your SIP amount, i.e., 24,000 to 28,000 INR, to diversified equity funds. These funds offer exposure to a mix of large-cap and multi-cap stocks, providing stability and growth potential over the long term.
Mid Cap and Small Cap Funds: Allocate around 20-30% of your SIP amount, i.e., 8,000 to 12,000 INR, to mid-cap and small-cap funds for higher growth potential. These funds are more volatile but can offer significant returns over an extended investment horizon.
Balanced/Hybrid Funds: Consider allocating a small portion, around 10-20% of your SIP amount, i.e., 4,000 to 8,000 INR, to balanced or hybrid funds. These funds invest in a mix of equities and debt instruments, providing a balance between growth and stability.
Asset Allocation: Adjust the allocation percentages based on your risk tolerance, investment horizon, and financial goals. Regularly review your portfolio's performance and make necessary adjustments to ensure alignment with your objectives.
Professional Advice: Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner who can provide personalized guidance based on your financial goals, risk profile, and investment horizon. They can help you select suitable mutual funds and create a well-diversified portfolio tailored to your needs.
By following this breakdown and seeking professional advice, you can build a robust mutual fund portfolio that aligns with your financial objectives and helps you achieve your long-term wealth creation goals.
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I am regularly investing via SIP in UTI flexicap since last 6 years. Now, I am seeing that, UTI FLEXICAP is underperforming relative to its peers. What should I do now? Should I stop SIP or continue?
Ans: When faced with underperformance in an investment like UTI Flexicap, it's essential to assess your options carefully. Here's a suggested approach:

Review Performance: Evaluate the fund's performance relative to its benchmark and peer group over various time frames. Consider factors like consistency, volatility, and risk-adjusted returns.
Understand Reasons: Research and understand the reasons behind the fund's underperformance. Assess changes in fund management, investment strategy, sectoral exposures, or market conditions that may have contributed to the performance lag.
Assess Your Portfolio: Consider how UTI Flexicap fits into your overall investment portfolio. Evaluate its role in diversification, risk management, and alignment with your financial goals and risk tolerance.
Consult with a Certified Financial Planner: Seek advice from a professional who can provide personalized guidance based on your individual circumstances. A Certified Financial Planner can help you assess whether to continue SIPs in UTI Flexicap or consider alternative options.
Explore Alternatives: Research other mutual funds in the flexicap category that have demonstrated consistent performance and align with your investment objectives. Compare their track records, investment philosophies, and expense ratios before making a decision.
Monitor Regularly: Regardless of your decision, continue to monitor the performance of your investments regularly. Stay informed about market trends, fund developments, and changes in your financial situation that may warrant adjustments to your investment strategy.
Ultimately, the decision to continue or stop SIPs in UTI Flexicap depends on your assessment of its performance, your investment goals, and your risk tolerance. With careful consideration and professional guidance, you can make informed choices to optimize your investment portfolio.
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I am 30 years old earn 1.35 lakhs monthly. I have 55 Lakhs of Loan taken for 30 yrs and my Investments goes in PPF-1.5 Lakhs, NPS-50k, Mutual Fund(White Oak)- 5k, Parental Med Insurance-50k, Loan Insurance HDFC- 1.35 lakhs for 5 yrs(2 yrs completed), PF amount- Around 8k. I am not understanding how to save and repay my loan within 12-15 yrs. Please suggest how to manage. Where to fluctuate.
Ans: Managing a significant loan burden alongside investments can be challenging, but with careful planning, it's possible to achieve a balance between debt repayment and wealth accumulation. Here's a tailored approach for you:

Assess Loan Repayment Strategy: Given your loan amount and income, aim to accelerate repayment to reduce interest costs. Explore options like increasing EMI amounts or making occasional lump sum payments whenever possible.
Prioritize Debt Repayment: Allocate a significant portion of your surplus income towards loan repayment while maintaining essential expenses and savings contributions. Consider adjusting your budget to free up more funds for this purpose.
Optimize Investments: While continuing essential investments like PPF, NPS, and mutual funds, consider temporarily reducing contributions to free up more funds for loan repayment. You can gradually increase contributions once the loan burden reduces.
Review Insurance Policies: Evaluate your insurance policies to ensure they align with your current needs. Consider maintaining adequate coverage while optimizing premium costs.
Utilize Windfalls: Any unexpected income, bonuses, or tax refunds can be directed towards loan prepayment to accelerate debt reduction.
Consider Refinancing: Explore options to refinance your loan at lower interest rates or shorter tenures to reduce overall interest costs and accelerate repayment.
Track Progress Regularly: Monitor your loan balance, investment performance, and overall financial health regularly. Adjust your strategy as needed to stay on track towards your goals.
Seek Professional Advice: Consult with a Certified Financial Planner who can assess your financial situation comprehensively and provide personalized guidance on optimizing debt repayment and wealth accumulation strategies.
By adopting a proactive approach and optimizing your resources effectively, you can work towards both debt freedom and financial security. Remember, consistency and discipline are key to achieving your financial goals over time.
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I am 38 yr old with 2 daughters 14 n 7 yrs old. I earn a monthly salary of 50k per month.I have invested in SIP just since last 4 months. Aditya Birla Sun Life digital India fund growth: 3000/- ICICI prudential commodities fund direct growth: 500/- Quant small cap : 1000/- SSY: 1000/- I have a monthly emi of 15k. And other expenses of 15k Please help with me know if the MF are fine to go ahead or should I stop. If so...pl suggest better ones.
Ans: At 38, with two daughters and a monthly salary of 50k, your commitment to investing for your family's future is commendable. Let's review your current SIP investments:

Aditya Birla Sun Life Digital India Fund: This fund offers exposure to the digital revolution, which can be a high-growth sector. Given the increasing digitalization trend, it's a promising choice for long-term growth.
ICICI Prudential Commodities Fund: Commodities can be volatile and subject to market fluctuations. While they offer diversification benefits, they may not be suitable for all investors due to their inherent risk.
Quant Small Cap: Small-cap funds can offer high growth potential, but they also come with higher volatility. They're best suited for investors with a high-risk tolerance and a long-term investment horizon.
Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY): This government-backed scheme is an excellent choice for securing your daughters' future education and marriage expenses. It offers tax benefits and guaranteed returns, making it a reliable investment option.
Given your financial responsibilities and investment horizon, it's essential to ensure that your portfolio is well-balanced and aligned with your risk tolerance. Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner who can assess your financial goals and recommend suitable investment options.

While your current SIPs show diversity, you may want to review the ICICI Prudential Commodities Fund due to its higher risk profile. Instead, you could consider adding a diversified equity fund or a balanced fund to your portfolio for stability and growth potential.

Remember, regular review and adjustment of your investment strategy are essential to ensure it remains in line with your financial goals and risk tolerance. With careful planning and professional guidance, you can build a robust investment portfolio that secures your family's future aspirations.
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I want to invest 1000000 for 5 yrs. my age is 65 yrs
Ans: As you embark on this investment journey at 65, it's crucial to follow a systematic process to ensure your financial goals are met while considering your age and time horizon. Here's a general roadmap:

Define Your Goals: Clearly articulate your financial objectives for the next 5 years. Whether it's funding retirement expenses, leaving a legacy for your loved ones, or achieving a specific milestone, knowing your goals is the first step.
Assess Risk Tolerance: Understand your risk tolerance and investment preferences. At 65, capital preservation may be a priority, but some exposure to growth assets could still be beneficial.
Consult with a Certified Financial Planner: Seek guidance from a Certified Financial Planner who can assess your financial situation, goals, and risk tolerance. They can recommend suitable investment options tailored to your needs.
Choose Investment Avenues: Based on your goals and risk profile, select appropriate investment avenues such as mutual funds, fixed deposits, bonds, or a combination thereof.
Diversify Your Portfolio: Diversification is key to managing risk. Spread your investment across different asset classes and sectors to reduce vulnerability to market fluctuations.
Monitor and Review: Regularly monitor your investments and review their performance. Adjust your portfolio as needed to stay aligned with your goals and changing market conditions.
Stay Informed: Keep yourself informed about economic trends, market developments, and regulatory changes that may impact your investments.
By following these steps and seeking professional guidance, you can navigate the investment landscape with confidence, ensuring your financial objectives are met over the next 5 years. Remember, it's never too late to invest wisely and secure your financial future.
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Hallo Sir, I'm Railway employee, aged 33 yrs, married and glad to have 8 months baby boy. My gross income Rs. 8,00,000/- Per annum... I have House building lone of Rs. 31,000/- pm. After all expenditure of per month. Deduction of NPS fund are there per month as the guide line of govt. Except the NPS deduction I have PPF account where I'm Investing of Rs. 1,500/-pm. Now I am determined to invest of Rs. 17,000/- pm per month to secure the future of my son and I have a long term goal minimum of 10 years. May please advise me where I shoud invest the Rs. 17,000/- pm. Let me also know how to invest the aforesaid amount in different ways to earn maximum profit. Thanking you in anticipation.
Ans: Congratulations on the newest addition to your family! It's heartwarming to see your dedication to securing your son's future. With a clear goal of investing Rs. 17,000 per month for the next 10 years, you're taking a significant step towards long-term financial stability.

Considering your circumstances, it's wise to explore a diversified investment approach tailored to your risk tolerance and financial goals. This might include a mix of equity mutual funds, debt instruments, and possibly even some exposure to balanced or hybrid funds.

By diversifying your investments, you spread risk and maximize potential returns over the long term. Remember, investing is a journey, and it's crucial to stay focused on your goals while navigating market fluctuations.

Consulting with a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized guidance aligned with your aspirations. Together, you can craft a robust investment strategy that caters to your son's future needs and ensures financial security for your growing family.

Your commitment to securing your son's future is truly commendable, and with strategic planning and prudent investment choices, you're laying a solid foundation for his bright tomorrow.
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