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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Micheal F Question by Micheal F on Mar 09, 2023Hindi
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secret to a happy marriage

Ans: Secret which is not a secret to a happy relationship are the following (1) feel good about who you are. (2) invest in growth of the relationship with your partner (3) moving on, letting go of challenging episodes.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 12, 2024Hindi
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There is news of so many celeb divorces in the news. Marriages are so much more challenging these days. What is the secret to a good relationship between a husband and wife? How to make sure a marriage is long lasting?
Ans: Hello.
I can understand your worry.
It’s important to remember that celebrities are humans like the rest of us and face their own problem. At the same time, do also remember that many celebrities have marriages that have lasted decades and continue to flourish.
As a couple, you can build a strong, lasting relationship through effort and commitment. While guaranteeing a marriage's longevity is impossible, there are certainly qualities and actions that contribute to healthier relationships.
1. Strong communication:
Be open and honest. Share your thoughts, feelings and needs with your partner and ask them to share with you as well.
Be respectful and empathetic when you listen to their perspective. Don’t interrupt. Don’t judge.
2. Healthy conflict resolution
Learn to disagree respectfully and constructively.
You may have read/heard this before but it is important that you remember this. During these kinds of conversations in particular, avoid blame, personal attacks and bringing up past issues. Seek solutions together rather than trying to ‘win’ arguments.
3. Be kind, be respectful. Appreciate what you partner does
Treat each other with kindness.
Acknowledge and appreciate each other's contributions to the relationship and express gratitude regularly.
Respect individual differences and boundaries. Allow space for each other's individual interests and pursuits.
Support each other's goals and dreams. Be each other's cheerleaders and encourage personal growth.
4. Quality time and intimacy:
Make time for each other as a couple doing something you both enjoy. This time does not include daily routines and responsibilities.
Nurture physical intimacy in ways that feel comfortable and fulfilling for both partners.
Maintain emotional intimacy by sharing experiences, vulnerabilities and dreams.
Try your best understand your partner’s emotional needs.
5. Shared values and goals
Have open and honest conversations about your core values and long-term goals.
Work together towards achieving shared goals and dreams. Support each other's individual goals as well, even if they differ slightly.
Be adaptable and willing to grow together. Life experiences and individual needs may change over time, so be prepared to adjust and support each other's evolution.
6. Professional help
Seek professional help from a therapist or counsellor if you're facing challenges in communication, conflict resolution or other areas of your relationship.
Therapy can provide a safe space to explore issues and develop healthier communication and coping skills.
Remember, every relationship is unique and what works for one couple might not work for another. The key is to nurture your relationship, communicate openly and honestly and be willing to adapt and grow together.
It's also important to acknowledge that, even with best efforts, challenges may arise and sometimes relationships end. If you find yourself struggling, remember that seeking professional help or ending a relationship that is no longer healthy can be positive steps towards personal growth and future happiness.

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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Feb 07, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 01, 2025Hindi
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I am 36 and my wife is 33, both of us have a monthly SIP of 1.25L. Our corpus in MF has just crossed 1Cr, we have gold worth 40L and other cash reserves worth 5-6L for emergency. This is the wealth built by both of us, family money is not included which is considerable in real estate. We have one son, 6Y and plan to retire by 50. We'd have an estimated monthly expense of 2L-3L per month since we don't own a house so far and plan to stay for rent till I retire. Just need to know if I am on the right path? Should we diversify the investment portfolio? We like to live very comfortably and don't like to think before making an expense or plan for it financially.
Ans: Your financial journey so far is impressive. Your disciplined SIPs and strong corpus show great financial foresight. With early retirement at 50 as your goal, a structured approach is essential.

Current Financial Overview
Mutual Fund Corpus: Rs. 1 crore
Monthly SIP: Rs. 1.25 lakh (combined)
Gold Holdings: Rs. 40 lakh
Emergency Cash Reserves: Rs. 5-6 lakh
Real Estate: Considerable family wealth (not included in investment planning)
Planned Retirement Age: 50 years
Monthly Expense Expectation: Rs. 2-3 lakh
Housing Plan: Staying on rent until retirement
Strengths in Your Current Plan
Consistent Investing: Your monthly SIP ensures disciplined wealth accumulation.
Diverse Asset Allocation: Equity, gold, and cash reserves balance risk and liquidity.
Strong Emergency Fund: Ensures short-term financial stability.
Flexibility in Housing: Staying on rent provides location freedom and liquidity.
Areas for Improvement
Portfolio Diversification: High reliance on mutual funds and gold.
Retirement Corpus Planning: Ensuring Rs. 2-3 lakh per month after 50 requires a detailed strategy.
Child’s Education Fund: Higher education costs need structured investments.
Tax Efficiency: Optimising taxation on investments can enhance post-tax returns.
Optimising Investment Portfolio
Balancing Equity and Debt: Actively managed funds ensure better growth than index funds.
Reducing Gold Exposure: Gold is a hedge, not a wealth-building asset.
Adding Debt Instruments: Government bonds and debt funds provide stability.
Avoiding Direct Mutual Funds: Certified Financial Planner guidance ensures better fund selection.
Retirement Corpus Strategy
Target Corpus: Should sustain Rs. 3 lakh per month for 40+ years.
Inflation-Proofing Investments: Equity allocation must outpace inflation.
SIP Increment Plan: Increasing SIPs annually ensures stronger growth.
Cash Flow Management: Systematic withdrawal planning will be key post-retirement.
Child’s Education Planning
Higher Education Costs: A structured education fund is essential.
Mix of Equity and Debt: Balancing risk ensures fund availability when needed.
Avoiding High-Risk Investments: Stability matters more than aggressive returns.
Taxation Considerations
Mutual Fund Taxation: LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Short-Term Gains: 20% taxation applies on redemptions within a year.
Debt Fund Taxation: Gains taxed as per the income tax slab.
Tax-Saving Opportunities: Utilising exemptions can reduce liability.
Finally
Portfolio diversification is necessary for stability and growth.
Increasing SIPs gradually will build a stronger corpus.
Retirement planning should focus on generating stable post-retirement income.
Education planning should begin now to ensure timely availability of funds.
Consulting a Certified Financial Planner will help fine-tune the strategy.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Feb 07, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 28, 2025Hindi
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I am 33, married having a kid of 2 years age, my current corpus is around , 1.10 cr, with 70% in equity. I have home in tier 3 city. Along with farm income of 6 lakh /year along with few rentals that's around 20-30k per month. I want to retire early by 36 year age. My expenses will be limited in tier 3 city once I move there around 30-40k per month. Will it be wise decision to retire early?
Ans: Retiring early is an attractive goal, but it requires careful evaluation. Your current corpus, income sources, and expected expenses play a key role in deciding feasibility.

Here’s a detailed breakdown of your financial readiness for early retirement:

Current Financial Position
Corpus: Rs 1.10 crore
Equity Allocation: 70% in equity
Passive Income:
Farm income: Rs 6 lakh per year (Rs 50,000 per month)
Rental income: Rs 20,000 - 30,000 per month
Planned Expenses in Retirement: Rs 30,000 - 40,000 per month
Your passive income (Rs 70,000 - 80,000 per month) seems sufficient to cover basic expenses. However, retirement is not just about covering expenses. Inflation, emergencies, and long-term wealth preservation must also be considered.

Key Factors to Consider Before Retiring at 36
1. Corpus Sustainability
Your corpus of Rs 1.10 crore should last for decades.
Equity allocation is high, but market risks can impact withdrawals.
Early retirement means relying on investments for 50+ years.
Solution: Maintain at least 50% in stable, income-generating assets. Keep equity exposure for long-term growth.

2. Inflation and Lifestyle Adjustments
Expenses of Rs 30,000 today will rise due to inflation.
At 6% inflation, Rs 30,000 will become Rs 96,000 in 20 years.
Solution: Ensure your passive income keeps growing to counter inflation.

3. Medical and Emergency Preparedness
Rising healthcare costs can drain savings.
Your child’s education and future responsibilities need planning.
Solution: Maintain a high medical cover and an emergency fund of at least Rs 10-15 lakh.

4. Investment Portfolio Structure
Equity investments may not always provide steady returns.
Rental and farm income may fluctuate.
Solution: Diversify by adding stable, low-risk income sources. Keep a mix of equity, debt, and liquid funds for security.

5. Future Earning Potential
Retiring at 36 does not mean you can’t work part-time.
Passive income is strong, but a secondary income stream adds security.
Solution: Consider freelancing, consulting, or part-time work to maintain cash flow if needed.

Final Insights
Early retirement is possible for you, but only with disciplined financial planning.

Ensure your investments generate inflation-adjusted returns.
Have at least 3-5 years of expenses in low-risk assets.
Keep a strong medical cover to avoid financial stress later.
Maintain financial flexibility by having an option to earn if needed.
Retirement at 36 can work if your income sources remain stable and your expenses stay in control. However, financial independence does not mean stopping work completely. It means having the flexibility to work on your terms.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Feb 07, 2025

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Salaried income net 80000. EMIs for Car loan and personal loan is Rs.40000/-. Monthly expenses about 20000/-. Retirement in 2031. No FD or PPF. EPF of Rs.1800pm only deduction from salary. Son in class 10th. Daughter in 7th. Living in father's property. What kind of investment plan I should adopt for 5 to 7 years.
Ans: Your financial planning for the next 5 to 7 years is crucial. With retirement in 2031, loan EMIs, and growing education costs, a structured plan is necessary.

Current Financial Situation
Monthly income: Rs. 80,000
Loan EMIs: Rs. 40,000
Household expenses: Rs. 20,000
Net savings potential: Rs. 20,000
No fixed deposits or PPF investments
EPF deduction: Rs. 1,800 per month
Living in a family-owned house
Key Financial Priorities
Clearing personal and car loans before retirement
Building an education fund for children
Creating a retirement corpus for post-2031 expenses
Ensuring sufficient liquidity for emergencies
Debt Repayment Strategy
Loans take up 50% of your income.
Prepayment of personal loan should be a priority.
Car loans should be cleared before retirement.
Reducing debt improves future investment capacity.
Emergency Fund Creation
At least 6 months' expenses should be set aside.
The fund should cover loan EMIs and essentials.
Investing in safe, liquid instruments is ideal.
Investment Plan for 5-7 Years
A mix of growth and stability is needed.
Mid-cap and small-cap exposure should be limited.
Actively managed funds offer better returns than index funds.
Debt investments ensure safety for short-term goals.
A combination of equity and hybrid funds can balance risk.
Education Planning for Children
Your son will need funds in 2-3 years.
Your daughter will need funds in 6-8 years.
A mix of equity and debt can provide growth with stability.
Avoiding high-risk investments ensures goal fulfillment.
Retirement Planning Approach
Your EPF contribution is minimal.
A dedicated retirement corpus must be created.
Investments should provide returns that beat inflation.
Structured investment through a Certified Financial Planner ensures stability.
Avoiding Direct Mutual Funds
Direct plans lack professional oversight.
A Certified Financial Planner helps manage risk better.
Regular funds offer expert-driven investment choices.
Portfolio rebalancing is essential for long-term success.
Taxation Considerations
Long-term capital gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Short-term gains attract a 20% tax.
Debt fund taxation depends on your income tax slab.
Efficient tax planning ensures maximum post-tax returns.
Finally
Debt clearance should be a top priority.
Education funds must be secured with a balanced approach.
Retirement investments should be structured for stability.
Market corrections can be used for additional investments.
Consulting a Certified Financial Planner ensures a structured financial journey.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Patrick

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CAT, XAT, CMAT, CET Expert - Answered on Feb 07, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 05, 2025Hindi
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Prof. I went to university when I was 17 and studied computer science graduated with a third class because of challenges from both my health and the staff adviser in the department at that time. My transcripts till date can attest that I have an ample of B grades and C's. But my health was a challenge,I suffered from migraines at that young age. The departmental staff adviser just refused the approval given by the registrar for Seven courses I couldn't take including my project because of ill health and these courses are reflected as F`'s till today.I do not know what to do and it's about 17 years today. I was advised to take a postgraduate diploma in Computer science that it will supplement the degree which I did and I graduated with a GPA of 4.36/5. But since then it has not been easy to get admission into MSc. in computer science.For instance I have applied to some school in Finland and Lithuania and they have turned down my application. Prof. Please in this case what should I do? I like studying as a person,if not for this single challenge I would have bagged my PhD. I have both a postgraduate diploma in management and a postgraduate diploma in Education. Should I go back and start a fresh Bachelor Honours degree in Computer science? Should I take the University to court? I have written series of letters to them, I personally went there they kept telling me they can't find my records in the department. Can you graduate a student with a Bachelor's Honours degree with out a project and a project score, with 7 Fail grades on his transcript and say he has satisfied the fulfilment of an award for the Bachelor's of science honours. I am from Nigeria and schooled in Nigeria. I am 42 years old at the moment. Thank you for your time and your counsel.
Ans: Can file a case against the university. In most cases the university will try to settle before it goes to the court. Simultaneously can look at option of doing correspondence post graduation where you can get admission based on your current credentials.

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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Feb 07, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 07, 2025Hindi
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I am planning to invest monthly 10,000 in nifty ETF, 10,000Motilal Oswal NASDAQ 100 ETF, 8000 in Axis Midcap fund, 6,000 in Tata small cap Fund, 3,000 in SBI innovation Fund, 3000 in Tata consumer fund, 3,000 in Tata nifty 200 alpha 30 fund and 2,000 in Motilal oswal nifty 500 momentum 50 fund. I am planning to invest for next 25 years for my daughter's education and marriage. My risk appetite is high. Is above strategy or funds are good for maximum return? I am planning to deploy more whenever market corrects and hold investment for 25 years, will it work for maximize portfolio return?
Ans: Your long-term investment plan is well-structured and shows a strong commitment. Since your goal is to maximize returns for your daughter’s education and marriage, let’s evaluate your approach from multiple angles.

Investment Horizon and Discipline
A 25-year investment horizon is a strong advantage.
Staying invested through market cycles can help compound your wealth.
Adding more funds during market corrections is a smart approach.
Avoid panic selling during market downturns.
Disadvantages of Index ETFs
Index ETFs do not aim to beat the market.
They follow a fixed set of stocks, limiting growth potential.
Active funds adjust portfolios to maximize returns.
ETFs do not benefit from expert fund management.
Some ETFs struggle with liquidity and tracking errors.
Advantages of Actively Managed Funds
Fund managers select high-growth stocks.
They adjust portfolios based on market conditions.
Active funds can outperform indices over long periods.
Well-managed funds can deliver higher alpha.
Diversification within active funds helps reduce risk.
Portfolio Diversification
Your investments cover large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap segments.
Exposure to international markets adds diversification.
Including thematic and sectoral funds increases risk but can yield high returns.
A balanced mix of growth and stability is important.
Potential Portfolio Improvements
Reducing ETF allocation can improve long-term returns.
A mix of flexi-cap and focused funds can enhance growth.
Too many funds can dilute portfolio performance.
Reducing overlapping funds may improve efficiency.
Mid and small-cap allocation should align with your risk profile.
Investment Through a Certified Financial Planner
Direct plans lack expert guidance.
A Certified Financial Planner (CFP) helps in fund selection.
Portfolio rebalancing is crucial for maximizing returns.
Regular funds through a CFP provide structured wealth management.
Risk Management and Market Corrections
Market downturns are opportunities, not threats.
Investing extra during dips can boost returns.
Avoid over-concentration in a single asset type.
Ensure an emergency fund before deploying surplus.
Taxation Impact on Mutual Fund Returns
Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%.
International fund taxation differs from domestic equity funds.
Reviewing tax implications can optimize post-tax returns.
Inflation and Future Planning
Education costs will rise significantly over 25 years.
Inflation-adjusted returns matter more than absolute returns.
Staying invested in high-growth funds helps beat inflation.
Regular portfolio reviews ensure alignment with goals.
Final Insights
Your plan is strong but needs fine-tuning.
Reducing ETF exposure can improve long-term gains.
Active fund management provides better growth potential.
Investing through a Certified Financial Planner ensures structured wealth building.
Market corrections should be used strategically for additional investments.
Periodic review and rebalancing will keep your portfolio on track.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Tax Expert - Answered on Feb 07, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 19, 2025Hindi
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My querry is income taxrelated . I am under zero tax liability. I am a housewife. Earlier about twenty year back , I applied for PAN card and for the first year filed IT return with income of about 1 lacs from petty jobs ( like stictching, tuition etc.). After that I never filed return. But I was investing in mutual fund. In A.Y. 2021-22, I had divided income of about 38000/- in which TDS was deducted. To get the refund, I filed IT return showing income of rs. 38,000/- FROM MF dividend and I got the refund. In A.Y. 2022-23, I did not filed return . for A.Y. 2023-24, I filed for 4.5 lacs and for A.Y. 2024-25, I filed IT return for 4.88 lacs and tax liability was zero. for both the year source of income was indicated as: income from other sources, (sticting, tuition etc). Now a few days ago, I received email for IT department: please file updated return for A.Y. 2022-23." I tried using utility form. Filing updated return will attract a fee of rs. 1000/-. Is it necessary to file updated return for A.Y. 2022-23. If I do not file the updated return, what are the complications.
Ans: 01. First of all, kindly confirm what was your Income during A/Y 2022-23.
02. If this income was less than Rs.2,50,000.00, you may not file your ITR.
03. If your income during this period was more than Rs.2,50,000.00, it is mandatory for you to file your ITR.
04. You may file Updated ITR, if para no.3 above is applicable in your case.
05. Otherwise write to IT Department that your income was below minimum taxable limit, as such you are not required to file ITR. In this case, you are not required to take any action on the mail of department.
Most welcome for any further clarifications. Thanks.

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