I am in a relationship since 2019 the guy is married but he is taking divorce from his wife should I wait for him or move on

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Become real about this. Sometimes, realism saves us a lot of trouble that we face from riding emotions that sway us from one pole to the other.
You are in a dilemma as you have allowed yourself to have feelings for another person while you knew all along that you have a wife. Now, is it wrong to have feelings for someone else? NO, but you do not have to act on it. That is a choice that you make. Since, it has progressed into Love, you feel torn between both of them which is very straining.
Let the lady bounce back first...sort her life out...a divorce is not easy on a man or a woman...allow her time to become strong and do not allow her to lean onto for emotional support beyond what a friend will. This will give lead to her expecting more from you which you will not be able to fulfil as you mentioned: I can't leave my wife also.
Bring the relationship to a place where the two of you are friends who care and support one another without any expectations. This will be a healthy space to be in and allow her to explore her life after the divorce and also keep your family life intact. Difficult as it sounds, it is possible provided you make that choice...

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It largely depends on the nature of your relationship. If it's a friendship with no romantic implications, there is generally no harm in being friends with your ex, even if they are married. However, if it causes issues with their spouse, it is crucial to assess the situation and reconsider the friendship. Reflect if this friendship is something worth these potential complications.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am assuming your boyfriend is married to another woman. Then legally, he is her partner, not yours. I am not sure what suggestion or advice you are asking for, but nevertheless, I will go ahead and advise you to sever ties with him. I don't know what else to tell you. If he did love you, he wouldn't be married to another woman. Don't ruin your life like this. You deserve better. In fact, so does your BF's wife.

Best wishes.

Ans: It’s important to begin with honesty—both with yourself and with what he has shown you through his actions. While he may have once said he would leave his wife, he has now clearly stated that he cannot take that step. That shift in his stance is not just hesitation—it is a boundary he has chosen, one that may not change despite how strong the emotional connection between you may feel. His inability to move forward isn’t just about his circumstances; it’s a reflection of where his commitments lie, and it leaves you emotionally stranded in a space that is neither fully committed nor completely free.

Waiting for someone who says they cannot take action means putting your life—and your ability to find happiness and stability—on hold. Ask yourself: what are you truly waiting for? Hope? A promise he might never fulfill? Or are you waiting because the pain of letting go feels greater than the pain of staying in uncertainty?


You deserve to be with someone who chooses you fully, without delay or hesitation. Someone who can build a life with you, not just speak about a love that lives in a future that never arrives. The hardest thing to do in love is to walk away from someone we deeply care for—but sometimes that is the very act of self-respect and self-love we need to grow and truly heal.

You are not wrong for loving him. But ask yourself now—do you want to keep loving someone who has told you he cannot be yours? Or do you want to start the difficult but empowering journey of making space for someone who truly can?

The answer lies not in waiting for him to change, but in deciding what you deserve—and then standing by it.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how difficult it is to let go of a relationship you have built from scratch, but is it really how you want to continue? It really seems to be going nowhere. His parents are already in bad health and he married someone else for their happiness. Does it seem like he will be able to leave her? So many people’s happiness and lives depend on this one decision. I think it’s about time you and your BF have a clear conversation about the same. If he can’t give a proper timeline, please try to understand his situation. But also make sure he understands yours and maybe rethink this equation. It really isn’t healthy. You deserve a love you can have wholly, and not just in pieces, and in the shadows.

Hope this helps