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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 05, 2023Hindi
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Ravi, is it okay to be in touch with your ex-boyfriend who is married?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It largely depends on the nature of your relationship. If it's a friendship with no romantic implications, there is generally no harm in being friends with your ex, even if they are married. However, if it causes issues with their spouse, it is crucial to assess the situation and reconsider the friendship. Reflect if this friendship is something worth these potential complications.

Best Wishes!

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, you have chosen not to move on...Yes, as hard as that hits you, this is the truth...you are still pining for someone who has clearly moved on. Your attempts at reaching out to him in the hope that he will respond has already been met with disappointment!
Why go through the pain all over again?
Now, let's get to the main point of your LOVE right now...does it not seem that you are finding reasons to be with him...like, he helped me out during this time and that...that you felt happy talking to him all day...
When you base your happiness on anything/anyone outside of you, do know that it is temporary and never ends well...So, rather than basing all your happiness on him, find other reasons to be happy without involving him or anything else.
A bit difficult initially, but not impossible!
De-focus by building strong personal and professional goals for yourself. Reach out to a friend who will be of support as your go through this phase of releasing your past. Physical pain is real, Emotional pain is a choice...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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