Ravi, is it okay to be in touch with your ex-boyfriend who is married?

Ans: It is not uncommon for people to develop close friendships with their coworkers, but it's important to consider the context and the nature of your husband's text to his coworker. If your husband has a close working relationship with this coworker and the text was innocent in nature, there may not be any cause for concern. However, if your husband and this coworker have a history of flirting or if the text seems overly affectionate, it could be a sign of an inappropriate relationship.

In any case, it's important to have an open and honest conversation with your husband about your concerns. Ask him to explain the context of the text and his relationship with this coworker. If you have concerns about the nature of the relationship, express them and let your husband know how it makes you feel.

It's also important to consider whether this text is consistent with your husband's behavior towards other coworkers. If your husband has a pattern of texting or communicating with coworkers in an overly affectionate manner, it could be a red flag and may indicate a deeper issue.

Ultimately, it's important to trust your instincts and to have an open and honest conversation with your husband about your concerns. If you continue to feel uneasy about the situation, it may be helpful to seek the guidance of a therapist or a relationship coach.

Ans: Dear Bhavna,
What is the conversation that the two of you have had in this matter?
Have you been waiting for him to get a divorce so that you can continue your relationship with him?
Has he indicated that he also wants to be in a relationship with you after his divorce?
Did the decision to divorce happen because the two of you were in a relationship and his spouse found out about it?

This is vital information to consider as it will tell you if you must move on or wait for him. Each question will give you a clear idea of whether it was wise for you to pursue a married man, whether he is serious about commitment with you, whether there is a future for the two of you...
The very fact that you have asked me a question suggests that you have your doubts about where this is all leading you. Hence the questions will definitely give you a better idea into taking wise actions.

All the best!

Ans: Absolutely its ok...how has relationship status got to do with knowing or keeping friends...but wait, is the married man interested in the single woman and she in him - if you want my opinion then - everything is OK, you are adults and know what you are doing...having said this, I ask a question, will this single woman once in a relationship be ok to have her partner send romantic text other women (single or not) and will this once upon a time single woman be ok to send romantic text to other men? We make our own rules, so you decide how you want to take your life ahead.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, you have chosen not to move on...Yes, as hard as that hits you, this is the truth...you are still pining for someone who has clearly moved on. Your attempts at reaching out to him in the hope that he will respond has already been met with disappointment!
Why go through the pain all over again?
Now, let's get to the main point of your LOVE right now...does it not seem that you are finding reasons to be with him...like, he helped me out during this time and that...that you felt happy talking to him all day...
When you base your happiness on anything/anyone outside of you, do know that it is temporary and never ends well...So, rather than basing all your happiness on him, find other reasons to be happy without involving him or anything else.
A bit difficult initially, but not impossible!
De-focus by building strong personal and professional goals for yourself. Reach out to a friend who will be of support as your go through this phase of releasing your past. Physical pain is real, Emotional pain is a choice...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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