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I am not going to judge you or lecture you as to your one sided-affection as that is a choice that you have made. But, why give someone so much power to rule your mind that they seem to take the driver’s seat and take decisions for you? Your job, you love…your emotions.
Do remember, that you cannot be an option is someone’s life which is what has happened here.
The hit to your self-esteem has been for you to act in disappointment/anger where you have dropped his number off your list with a curt ‘bye greeting’ which has irked him and his ego.
What were you doing? Throwing the spotlight back onto yourself where you have given him a chance to antagonize you at work?
Can you even complain about it in public? And especially when you knew his loyalties lie with his wife which he made it evidently clear by them taking decisions jointly for their future.
All that has happened, is you being at the receiving end, by laying out your emotions for a little attention from him.
And well, he possibly was enjoying some of it as well. If you were to rewind the clock, go back in time, and ask yourself: What can I do? What must I do where I can keep my emotions healthy and protect my emotional boundaries? Do exactly that now.
Nothing is lost. I can’t promise that he will be back to giving you the attention that you have been used to; all I can say is find some healthy options and grow your social circle.
You may meet someone interesting or you may simply find someone who shares common interests irrespective of gender.
Bottomline; get unstuck from this unhealthy string, cut and maintain that healthy boundary, stick to your work and create a circle of friends and family that care for you. That will be your strength and helo in making better decisions the next time.
Be happy and make the best of life!
This is something that I have been seeing lately with a lot of people.
Something lacks within your current relationship and to fulfil that you look for it elsewhere only to realise that things have gotten out of hands.
In your case, love has blossomed in and suddenly now you have realized that it might cause a flutter within two relationships.
He has made it clear that he wants to be with his wife which should give you an idea not to make any more emotional investment. You will end up getting hurt even more if you do.
Time for you to start feeling solace and gaining better self-esteem by valuing yourself more. You don’t need anyone for you to love yourself, do you?
So, stop giving this so much importance. He was there when you needed him and vice-versa. Now, that things are getting a little complicated, time to revise the way you think and act.
You don’t need to lose a friend if the feelings that you have for him can be healthier and not draining on either of you.
If not, maybe you need to think how you can handle this agony better. Be your own friend first and then you start making better choices on who to let into your life.
Possible? Yes, start now…
All the best!