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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 05, 2023Hindi
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Ravi, is it okay to be in touch with your ex-boyfriend who is married?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It largely depends on the nature of your relationship. If it's a friendship with no romantic implications, there is generally no harm in being friends with your ex, even if they are married. However, if it causes issues with their spouse, it is crucial to assess the situation and reconsider the friendship. Reflect if this friendship is something worth these potential complications.

Best Wishes!

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Hi, I was in a relationship rather I can say love bonding with a man who is 7yrs elder to me. We both loved each other. It was 2yrs of relationship and it was strong from my side. But we had a religious/spiritual constraints to get married . Elders did not agree to get us married. Finally he left because of this reason and married another girl. I was depressed for 2 yrs then gradually came back to normal. My instincts still tell that he liked me but he never reached out to me after that. It’s been 15yrs and I still think of him even though I’m happily married. There is never a single day I don’t think about him. Recently I texted him casually without bringing the past in our conversation. He was chatting normally , but suddenly he restricted me and stopped texting. He came into my life like a rescue as I was mentally very weak facing family issues. I can never forget him For being with me and for having given me happy days atleast until He was with me. I used to Feel so happy to be with him and talk to him all day. Off late I’m thinking of him all the time and want to see him and talk to Him. I know it’s wrong and not good to disturb his life but why not just 10mins to express how I felt when he left me?? I really miss that I am Not able to spend the rest of my life with him.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, you have chosen not to move on...Yes, as hard as that hits you, this is the truth...you are still pining for someone who has clearly moved on. Your attempts at reaching out to him in the hope that he will respond has already been met with disappointment!
Why go through the pain all over again?
Now, let's get to the main point of your LOVE right now...does it not seem that you are finding reasons to be with him...like, he helped me out during this time and that...that you felt happy talking to him all day...
When you base your happiness on anything/anyone outside of you, do know that it is temporary and never ends well...So, rather than basing all your happiness on him, find other reasons to be happy without involving him or anything else.
A bit difficult initially, but not impossible!
De-focus by building strong personal and professional goals for yourself. Reach out to a friend who will be of support as your go through this phase of releasing your past. Physical pain is real, Emotional pain is a choice...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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I have got CS core in VIT Vellore. I know many VITians who are doing much better professionally than some of their IIT/NIT counterparts. VIT CS labs are very advanced, I have heard. Many 98+percentilers in JEE Mains are in VIT CS. Placements are good. Despite this why is there a general notion that if an institute is private (barring BITS) it's not as good as a govt. institute.
Ans: Hello dear.
You're right to question the common perception, and your insights about VIT Vellore’s CS program are grounded in reality. The Computer Science department at VIT Vellore is among the strongest in private engineering colleges, with advanced lab facilities. Many top JEE Main percentilers (even above 98) choose VIT. Several VITians have gone on to have excellent careers, sometimes even outperforming their IIT/NIT counterparts largely because of their individual initiative, internships, and skill-building. IT, especially if they narrowly miss out on NITs or prefer the modern infrastructure and course flexibility that VIT offers.
Despite these strengths, private colleges in India often face bias. This stems from the legacy and prestige of government institutions like IITs/NITs, which admit students through highly competitive exams and are seen as more merit-driven. In contrast, private colleges are sometimes viewed as less rigorous or overly reliant on high fees and donations, leading to skepticism about their quality.
However, this perception is slowly changing, especially in CS and tech fields where practical skills matter more than college branding. For motivated students, VIT CS offers a strong foundation and the opportunity to build a successful career. Ultimately, outcomes depend more on individual effort than the institution’s name.

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