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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 18, 2023Hindi
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Mam, is it possible to fall in love with more than one person with the same intensity? In such a case how does one decide who would make a better life partner? When it comes to marriage, it is so difficult to decide because one wrong step or decision can ruin so many lives.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Yes, it is possible to be in love with more people at the same time. Can a man love his mother and his wife or his wife and his child?
So, love isn't restrictive but is encompasses within itself many relationships and yes it involves romantic relationships as well. But of course, society and hand-me-down beliefs will make you believe that it is all wrong and taboo.
On the other hand, being in love with two people or more causes a lot of confusion and entanglements; in your case, whom to choose? Besides, the emotional investment in each can be time consuming and energy draining. Keeping that in mind, it feels better that we have certain societal code of conduct to keep us sane.
And how do you choose a life partner? Simply list down your core values and if you are aligned on the long term value system and being with that person makes your life easier to be in and live in, then you know.
All the best!

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Heloo I have been a single mother for the last 10 years. Last year I found a guy to retain he loves me and had a physical relationship with me. Six months it was good. suddenly he realized that he had family and started ignoring me, and stop chatting meeting me. I am waiting for him till date. But in the last four months, I start liking another guy who is married with two children and who also loves me a lot. We had a long-distance relationship. He comes from Pune to meet me. We talk a lot on calls. But still, I am confused about what to do. I cannot forget my first guy and also don't know what I feel for the second guy. but I like to talk to him. Please guide me. I don't want to be alone.
Ans: Dear SSV,

It might help you to take a second and think about what you want. You loved someone and now he is gone. Moving on and finding another person to love is natural. Not being able to forget your ex might not be so much about your ex, as much as it is about you not being ready for another relationship. Allow yourself the time to heal and then look to love and be loved.

Introspection- asking yourself, "Am I really in love?" "Do I need some more time to move on?" "Am I completely healed from the previous breakup?" and so on can help you identify the real problem at hand.

You said, "I don't want to be alone." Are you sure you are not jumping from one relationship to another from the fear of the same? Don't let the fear of loneliness rush you into making moves that you might regret. You can consider stepping back from your current relationship for a heartbeat and figure out what it is that you want without your feelings clouding your judgment. Relationships don't usually work out when you are in two minds about it.

Best Wishes!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 25, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 21, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu! So, I'm in dilemma of choosing a partner for me second time. I'm 36 yo divorcee, and met with a person 4yrs back with whom I shared great bonding and chemistry, but he never showed his love and care to me in past these years (as he was going through his divorce process too), but we both know that we both share some exceptional kind of bonding. Now, the twist comes, as we always have this on and off kind of relationship, so I started dating to a man from a matrimonial site. This matrimonial person seems in love with me and show the concern and love to me, the kind I wanted. Now, I am confused, because my previous bf is also thinking our future together as well as the matrimonial one. can you please help me in choosing the right partner for me. I can provide more information about both men in detail.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Aren't we always seeking for something that we lack within us?
Why the yearning for a particular expression of love? And how are you so sure that this person that you met on the matrimonial site already is in love with you?
Having said this, the off and on relationship is a person who will express love in a way that he is comfortable with but that is setting you off...so the matrimonial person seems exciting in a way as it aligns with your way of expressing love.
When in a dilemma, put all the cards on the table...there are other things besides expressing love that goes into making a relationship and/or a marriage. Have you factored all of that?
- List down things that are important to you in a marriage and a spouse
- How compatible are the two of you in terms of emotional bonding?
- Do your respective family values match?
- What are your thoughts on money, children, travel, passion etc?
These questions are a good start point exercise with both the men...it will give you a fair idea as to who is more aligned to your way of life. Then you can go ahead and make your decision.

All the best!

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Milind Vadjikar  |239 Answers  |Ask -

Insurance, Stocks, MF, PF Expert - Answered on Sep 28, 2024

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First of all I want to thank you sir for sharing your advice to the persons in need.I am Shiva and I am 28 years old. My father took a home loan of 35 lakhs in January 2019 .My father's current salary is 87000 rupees after deductions .My father is paying monthly installment of 33500 rupees for home loan.My father doesn't have pension and will retire in 2years. My salary is 50000 rupees after my deductions and I have term life insurance of 1.8 cr. my brother's salary is 1 lakh after deductions and both of us are married .After retirement of my father ,he will lumpsum of 40 lakhs and we do not want to use that to pay our home loan as there was no pension for my parents. How can we pay our home loan without affecting our children education and how can we manage my expenses for my parents and also for ourselves.I and my brother are interested in investing in mutual funds .My brother has health insurance of 10 lakhs which includes my parents .please suggest a way to manage our home loan , children education expenses and we want to become debt free as soon as possible and want to build our wealth. Please give your valuable advice sir.I will be eagerly waiting for that. Thanking you, Shiva
Ans: Hello;

You are most welcome for seeking probable answers to your queries.

After the retirement of your father he may buy immediate annuity from a life insurance company. Considering annuity rate of 6% he can expect to receive a monthly payout of 20 K immediately from next month. (You can try to shop around and negotiate for a better annuity rate).

Out of the monthly payout of 20 K your parents may keep 10 K for own expenses and balance 10 K may be earmarked towards loan emi.

Since home loan emi is 33.5 K, I suggest yourself and your brother can share the balance amount(23.5 K) in equal proportion(11750 per person, per month).

As rightly pointed out your family should focus on early repayment of this home loan by pre paying the principal as much as possible.

If the loan repayment tenure is more than 10 years then yourself and brother may be added as co-owners of the property alongwith your father.

This can then enable yourself and your brother to seek income tax deductions on account of home loan repayment.

This will involve stamp duty, registration and legal expenses so it will make sense only if loan repayment term is more then 10 years.

It would be better if you seek advice from a CA to pursue this option.

Despite the monthly payout of 11750, you and your brother will have surplus funds to invest for other goals.

Good to know that your parents are covered under healthcare insurance.

Your parents may not have left a huge fortune for you both but they have ensured best education for you by virtue of which you are decently settled in life. Keep that in mind.

Happy Investing!!

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Sep 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 28, 2024Hindi
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Sir I am age of 50 , present I am having own 2 house of buit up area 30 x40 , and gold 30 lakhs and fd of 10 lakhs and lic will come in next year around 40 lakhs , I have to kids one is studying in B.E 2nd yr, and one more 8th std , I have only 10 yrs in my hand I will get retired, presently I started 25000 sip and one ppf of 5k ,is it enough fr my next retirement life....
Ans: You have 10 years until retirement and are keen on assessing your current financial situation. With two kids, one in college and the other in school, it’s important to ensure that your retirement and their future are secure. Let’s analyze your financial position and evaluate whether your current plan is enough for a comfortable retirement.

Current Financial Position
Let’s take a quick look at your assets and existing savings:

Two Houses: You own two houses with a 30x40 built-up area. While real estate adds to your net worth, they may not provide immediate liquidity for retirement. We will focus on financial assets for now.

Gold Worth Rs 30 Lakh: Gold is a good long-term investment. It acts as a hedge against inflation, but it shouldn’t be the sole focus for retirement planning.

Fixed Deposit of Rs 10 Lakh: This is a stable, low-risk investment. However, fixed deposits generally offer lower returns, which might not be sufficient in the long run.

LIC Maturity Next Year: You expect Rs 40 lakh from your LIC maturity next year. This can be a good lump sum amount to invest further for your retirement.

Current SIPs: You’ve started a Rs 25,000 monthly SIP. This is a great step towards building your retirement corpus, especially in equity mutual funds.

PPF Contribution: You are contributing Rs 5,000 per month to PPF. This provides a safe and guaranteed return, ideal for retirement stability.

Assessing Your Retirement Goals
To determine if your current investments are enough, let’s break down some key factors:

1. Retirement Corpus Requirement
Based on your current lifestyle, you will need a retirement corpus that can generate enough income to cover your post-retirement expenses. Assuming your expenses continue to grow with inflation, you will need to account for this in your savings plan.

At retirement, you will need:

Monthly Income for Living Expenses: Estimate your monthly expenses post-retirement. This includes your daily living costs, medical expenses, and any other regular commitments. Typically, you should plan for at least 70-80% of your current monthly expenses, adjusted for inflation.

Inflation: Consider an inflation rate of 6-7% over the next 10 years. This will erode the value of money, meaning you’ll need a higher corpus to maintain the same standard of living.

2. Education Expenses for Your Kids
Your children’s education will likely require significant funding. With one child in BE 2nd year and another in 8th standard, you must plan for both higher education expenses. Factor this into your savings to avoid dipping into your retirement corpus later.

Allocate a portion of your investments for their education costs. Higher education can be expensive, so it’s important to set aside a separate fund for this purpose.
3. Health and Medical Emergencies
Medical costs tend to rise with age. Ensure you have adequate health insurance coverage for you and your spouse. This can safeguard your savings against unforeseen medical expenses.

If you haven’t already, consider increasing your health insurance coverage to Rs 20-25 lakh to cover any medical emergencies.

Evaluating Your Current Investments
Now, let’s assess whether your current investments are aligned with your retirement goals.

1. SIP Contributions
A monthly SIP of Rs 25,000 is a good start. Over the next 10 years, this can grow significantly, thanks to the power of compounding. Continue this investment in equity mutual funds to benefit from long-term market growth. You can expect a higher return from equity funds compared to traditional investments.

Consider increasing your SIP contributions annually. As your salary or income grows, increase your SIP by 10-15% each year. This “step-up” approach will ensure your investments keep pace with your growing needs.
2. Public Provident Fund (PPF)
You are contributing Rs 5,000 per month to PPF. This is a safe and tax-efficient investment that provides guaranteed returns. The current interest rate for PPF is around 7-7.5%. While this is stable, it might not be sufficient on its own to meet your retirement goals. However, it provides a good balance against your riskier equity investments.

Continue your PPF contributions, but rely on it as the stable portion of your retirement corpus. It will act as a safety net in your portfolio.
3. Fixed Deposits (FD)
You have Rs 10 lakh in fixed deposits. While this is a low-risk option, fixed deposits typically offer lower returns. Over time, inflation will erode the purchasing power of these funds.

Consider moving a portion of your FD into better-performing instruments like debt mutual funds, which offer slightly higher returns and are still relatively safe.
4. LIC Maturity
You expect Rs 40 lakh from LIC next year. This is a significant amount, and how you invest it will be crucial for your retirement. Lump-sum investments in mutual funds, balanced between equity and debt, can help grow this corpus efficiently.

Equity Mutual Funds: Consider investing a portion of the Rs 40 lakh into equity mutual funds. This will give you market-linked growth, essential for building a larger retirement corpus.

Debt Mutual Funds: For the more conservative part of your portfolio, invest in debt mutual funds. These are less risky and provide stable returns, balancing your overall investment.

5. Gold as a Backup
You have Rs 30 lakh in gold. While gold is a good hedge against inflation, it’s not a liquid asset that can easily fund regular retirement expenses. You can keep it as a backup or sell it during emergencies if needed. Avoid depending solely on gold for your retirement.

Recommendations for a Secure Retirement
Here are some key actions you should consider:

1. Increase Your SIP Contributions
As mentioned earlier, consider increasing your SIP contributions each year. A gradual increase will help grow your retirement corpus significantly. You might also want to explore investing in a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and hybrid mutual funds for diversification.

2. Diversify with Debt Mutual Funds
Debt mutual funds are a safer option for the conservative portion of your portfolio. As you approach retirement, you’ll need to gradually shift your equity investments towards debt to reduce risk. Start with a 10-20% allocation in debt funds now, increasing it as you near retirement.

3. Create a Separate Fund for Children’s Education
Ensure you have separate investments for your children’s education. You can start a dedicated SIP for this purpose, or invest a portion of your LIC maturity and FD towards their higher education needs.

4. Health Insurance
Increase your health insurance coverage if it is insufficient. Medical expenses tend to rise with age, and a higher health insurance cover will prevent you from dipping into your retirement funds.

5. Emergency Fund
Keep at least 6 months of your living expenses in an emergency fund. This fund should be easily accessible and should cover any unexpected expenses, such as job loss or medical emergencies.

6. Avoid Real Estate Investments
As you already own two houses, you should avoid putting more money into real estate. Real estate is not very liquid, and it may not generate the regular income you need during retirement. Focus on financial assets like mutual funds for liquidity and growth.

7. Regularly Review Your Plan
Review your investment portfolio every year. Rebalance it to ensure that your equity-to-debt ratio remains appropriate for your risk appetite and changing goals. As you get closer to retirement, shift more towards conservative investments.

Final Insights
Your current investments are a great starting point, but there is room for improvement. By increasing your SIP contributions, diversifying into debt funds, and planning for your children’s education separately, you will be on track to meet your retirement goals. Ensure that you have enough health insurance and keep a portion of your assets in safe investments like PPF and debt funds. Regularly review and adjust your portfolio to ensure that your investments are aligned with your goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Ramalingam Kalirajan  |6444 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Sep 28, 2024

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Dear Experts, I am 33 years old now my salary is 35000 per month, i haven't made any investments as of now, I have 1 year girl baby now i wanted to invest now please suggest how i will get 2 to 3 crore while i get retired and my daughter future plan
Ans: You are 33 years old, earning Rs 35,000 per month. Your goal is to accumulate Rs 2 to 3 crore for retirement while also planning for your daughter’s future. Let's break down the process to help you achieve these goals, keeping in mind both your long-term financial security and your daughter's education and other expenses.

Retirement Planning: Building a Rs 2 to 3 Crore Corpus
A time horizon of 25-30 years for retirement gives you an opportunity to build significant wealth. Here's how you can approach this:

1. Start with Equity Mutual Funds
Equity mutual funds are ideal for long-term wealth creation. Since you have a long investment horizon, equities can deliver inflation-beating returns. A Systematic Investment Plan (SIP) in diversified equity funds can help you build your retirement corpus.

Make sure to invest a percentage of your monthly income towards equity mutual funds. Start with at least 20-30% of your salary (Rs 7,000 to Rs 10,000 per month). You can increase this amount as your income grows.

Invest in funds that focus on:

Large-cap and mid-cap stocks to balance risk and reward.

Diversified portfolios with exposure to different sectors.

Equity mutual funds offer compounding benefits over time. The longer you stay invested, the greater your potential returns.

2. Increase Your SIP Annually
As your salary increases, increase the amount you invest. Even a 10% increase in your SIP annually will have a significant impact over 25-30 years. This is called the step-up SIP approach.

3. Tax-Saving Investments
You can also consider investing in Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS) under Section 80C for tax benefits. ELSS has a lock-in period of 3 years and offers equity-like returns. The tax-saving aspect makes it an attractive option as you build your retirement corpus.

4. Keep Debt Funds for Stability
Although equity funds offer higher returns, it’s good to have some portion of your investment in debt mutual funds for stability. This will help balance market volatility. Start with 10-20% in debt funds. You can increase this allocation as you approach retirement.

Planning for Your Daughter's Future
1. Education Planning
Your daughter’s higher education will likely require a substantial sum when she turns 18. You need to start early to accumulate this amount without putting pressure on your finances.

Equity Mutual Funds for Long-Term Education Planning
A separate SIP for your daughter’s education can be started in equity mutual funds. Education inflation is quite high, and equity investments will help you stay ahead of rising costs. A monthly SIP of Rs 5,000 to Rs 7,000 could be a good start.

Consider Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY)
You are already contributing to Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY), which is a great scheme for your daughter. Continue contributing the maximum possible each year (Rs 1.5 lakh per annum), as this offers a guaranteed return and tax benefits. SSY can form the low-risk component of your daughter’s education plan.

2. Insurance for Protection
Ensure that you have adequate term insurance coverage. You are the primary breadwinner, and your daughter’s future is dependent on your income. A term insurance cover of at least 10 times your annual salary is essential to secure your family’s financial future. Term plans are affordable and should be a priority.

3. Health Insurance for the Family
In addition to life insurance, comprehensive health insurance for your family is essential. Medical emergencies can deplete your savings, so it's better to be prepared. Family floater plans can provide coverage for you, your spouse, your daughter, and your mother. Opt for a policy that covers critical illnesses as well.

Regular Monitoring and Adjustment
1. Review Your Investments Annually
It’s important to track your investments and adjust as needed. Equity funds may need rebalancing based on market performance and your changing risk profile. As you approach retirement, you should gradually shift your portfolio to more stable debt funds.

2. Emergency Fund
Keep at least 6 months’ worth of expenses in an emergency fund. This will provide a financial cushion during unexpected situations. This fund should be liquid and easily accessible, such as in a liquid mutual fund or savings account.

3. Avoid Unnecessary Loans
Try to minimize or avoid unnecessary loans, especially for lifestyle expenses. Paying high-interest loans can drain your resources and slow down your wealth-building process.

4. Stay Disciplined with Long-Term Goals
Discipline is key to achieving long-term financial goals. Avoid the temptation to redeem your investments prematurely. Equity markets can be volatile in the short term but tend to deliver robust returns over the long term.

Final Insights
You are at the perfect stage to start investing for both retirement and your daughter's future. By allocating your resources wisely, you can meet your long-term goals of accumulating Rs 2 to 3 crore and securing your daughter’s education and future.

Start with equity mutual funds through SIPs for long-term wealth creation.

Consider Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana for your daughter’s secure future.

Balance your portfolio with some debt investments for stability.

Ensure you have sufficient insurance coverage to protect your family.

Regularly review and increase your SIP contributions as your salary grows.

With disciplined savings and strategic investments, you can achieve both your retirement goal and secure your daughter’s future. Remember, the earlier you start, the better your chances of reaching your targets.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Milind

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Insurance, Stocks, MF, PF Expert - Answered on Sep 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 26, 2024Hindi
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I am a doctor currently practicing in my home town with my wife.I have three financial goals 1. To accumulate atleast 1.5 to 2cr in 5 years - to establish a health centre 2. 15 cr in 15 years - for my kids education 3.25 cr in 30 years for our retirement Can you suggest us how to go about it?
Ans: Hello;

1. First target is to accumulate 1.5-2 Cr for establishing health centre. For the achievement of this target either you can do a flat monthly sip of 1.8 L for 5 years
Or
You may begin with a monthly sip of 1.25 L and top-up each year by 20% upto 5 years.

Both routes will yield you a corpus of 1.5 Cr for health centre as desired.

2. Second target is 15 Cr target for kid's education to be achieved in 15 years. For the achievement of this target either you can do a flat monthly sip of 2.7 L for 15 years.
Or
You may begin with a monthly sip of 1.2 L and top-up each year by 15% minimum upto 15 years.

Both options will led you to a corpus of 15 Cr for child education as desired.

3. Third and important target of retirement corpus of 25 Cr to be achieved in 30 years.
For the achievement of this target either you can do a flat monthly sip of 57 K for 30 years.
Or
You may begin with a monthly sip of 24 K and top-up each year by 10% minimum upto 30 years.

Either ways you will achieve your targeted retirement corpus of 25 Cr.

A modest return of 13% assumed for investments in pure equity mutual funds for all workings.

You may follow us on X at @mars_invest for updates.

Happy Investing!!

*Investments in mutual funds are subject to market risks. Please read all scheme related documents carefully before investing.

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