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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 12, 2023

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Question by Bhavna on Apr 11, 2023Hindi

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My partner Mujhe kisi se baat nahi krne deta hain wo vahta ki sirf hum career par focus kre maine usse kafi jhooth bole h but sb sach btaya hain mere jiju bhi msg karte h to mera bat karna use pasand ni mai kya Mujhe kisi se baat nahi krne deta hain wo vahta ki sirf hum career par focus kre maine usse kafi jhooth bole h but sb sach btaya hain mere jiju bhi msg karte h to mera bat karna use pasand ni mai kya

Ans: Dear Bhavna,
Jab koi partner ya koi bhi aapko control karne lagta hai toh yeh jaan le, ki us control ko aur badhaawa milta hai jab aap unki baat maan lete ho.
Agar aapko itni bhi azaadi nahin ki aap apne marzi se jiske saath chahe baat kare, toh yeh ek tarak ka jail ki sazaa kaatne ke baraabar hai. Shuru shuru mein aapko shaayad yeh accha bhi lagta ho ki mera partner mujhse kitna pyaar karta hai ki use bilkul accha mahin lagta ki mein uske alaawa kisi aur se baat karoon. Par aage chalke yahi aapke liye adchan ban sakta hai. Phir har waqt aapko usse ijaazat maangni padegi. Kya aap ek aise insaan ke saath rishta rakha chahte hai joh aapko har waqt control mein rakhe? Joh aapko yeh bataaye ki ab exams pe focus karna hai aur tab yeh karna hai, woh karna hai.
Soch lijiye, kitne hadd tak aap is control ko sehen kar paayenge. Apne partner se baat kariye or saaf bataa de, ki aapko unka control karna accha nahin lagta aur aap khuli hawa mein saans lena chahte hain. Unka chal chalan uske baad dekh lijiye; aap phir jaan paayenge ki kya karna chahiye!

All the best!

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