Please help me, I am 20 years old. I pass out class 12th from Maharashtra board in 2022, I have been preparing for NEET exam from class 11th, 2 years I studied in Aakash Institute gave NEET after class 12th, my first attempt 289/720 (2022). After that I decided to take one year drop, so I went Kota studied in Allen Institute for one year, My father took a loan of 5 lakhs for me, but again I failed in second attempt 362/720(2023), came back home, enrolled in a private university for bsc biotech and along with it I again start preparing, now only 6 days left for exam & i have not touch my book since last 1 month, I studied hard for few months after second failure but then I quit studying I waste my time into relationship,porn, overthinking, masturbation etc. Now what I should do I know I will fail again in my third attempt but what I will do after that? Should I start prepare for UPSC? Should I do BBA ? Im totally confused about my future! ease someone help me should I take regular admission into some university? Should I do BA? Im totally fucked up, I have even tried to end my life so many times, I have even ran away to haridwar when I was in Kota ..but things dont happen according to me i always failed in anything I do...My friend now are in their third year they will complete their undergraduation & im here whining about my life.. even my parents have started to hate me..leave relatives...please guide me my mental health has been derailed by these exams...please help me ???? i dont jave even friends to whom i share my pain and from whom i should get guidance

Ans: Yadnya,
stop feeling negative about yourself. There are phases in life and you have to come out of it strong. If you are really interested in becoming a doctor only then why not you try exploring the MBBS from abroad? Since NEXT is going to be compulsory for both Indian & Foreign students. It won't affect you.

In India there is cut-throat competition for medical seats plus the fees of private medical colleges are very high.
Try talking to your parents openly and make them understand your state of mind and your passion. I think they will understand you. If you need any help further you can contact me.

Ans: Yadnya,
You cannot sail on 2 boats. If your real passion is MBBS then go for it. Age doesn't matter.

Ans: Dear Yadnya,
Dream Big and never be afraid to Fail. Most often, we are told that failure is not an option. Failure when accepted as a part of life, then loses power over us.
1. Never become attached to the outcome so that fear does not play in your mind
2. Understand that We win some and Lose some and losing does not mean all is lost
3. Draw a clear plan to achieve your goal
4. Work on your state of mind for optimum performance
5. Develop hobbies outside of studies that can support you have a positive outlook on a daily basis
6. Family and friends are your best support system, so talk to them regularly about your challenges to enable them to support you

Smile and dream big again; tomorrow is another new day.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Friend,

Think about your parents, relatives & friends who are very affectionate over you. NEVER think of committing Suicide Dear.

To avoid negative thinking and negative about you, please change your lifestyle and start doing yoga / meditation daily. Your mind will feel better and relaxed.

Also please stop thinking that if you do not join IITs / NITs, you won’t have future. Nothing like that. There are a lac of Students who have been successful both in India & Abroad, without joining IITs / NITs

Simple solutions for you to be successful in your career.

1) Prepare for your 12th Board and appear again with full concentration / focus. You will definitely score good marks.
2) Prepare for some entrance exams for getting admission into any good college (in & around UP). No need to prepare separately for each entrance exam for BTech. Syllabus will be more or less same.
3) Appear for 3-4 State entrance exams of UP / Delhi. Ignore JEE.
4) Shortlist 10 top colleges of UP / Delhi. Choose the most suitable one after you get confirmed admissions from 3-4 colleges.

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