Is it okay for a single woman to text a married man who is interested in her?

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Tell him to back off. In no uncertain terms.

Let him know you are not interested in anything besides a professional relationship with him.

And if you feel like you're up against a wall, you have one of two options; inform the HR about his unwelcome advances, because they constitute sexual harassment in the workplace or just apply elsewhere and move to another company.

 

Ans: It is not uncommon for people to develop close friendships with their coworkers, but it's important to consider the context and the nature of your husband's text to his coworker. If your husband has a close working relationship with this coworker and the text was innocent in nature, there may not be any cause for concern. However, if your husband and this coworker have a history of flirting or if the text seems overly affectionate, it could be a sign of an inappropriate relationship.

In any case, it's important to have an open and honest conversation with your husband about your concerns. Ask him to explain the context of the text and his relationship with this coworker. If you have concerns about the nature of the relationship, express them and let your husband know how it makes you feel.

It's also important to consider whether this text is consistent with your husband's behavior towards other coworkers. If your husband has a pattern of texting or communicating with coworkers in an overly affectionate manner, it could be a red flag and may indicate a deeper issue.

Ultimately, it's important to trust your instincts and to have an open and honest conversation with your husband about your concerns. If you continue to feel uneasy about the situation, it may be helpful to seek the guidance of a therapist or a relationship coach.

Ans: Dear Bhavna,
What is the conversation that the two of you have had in this matter?
Have you been waiting for him to get a divorce so that you can continue your relationship with him?
Has he indicated that he also wants to be in a relationship with you after his divorce?
Did the decision to divorce happen because the two of you were in a relationship and his spouse found out about it?

This is vital information to consider as it will tell you if you must move on or wait for him. Each question will give you a clear idea of whether it was wise for you to pursue a married man, whether he is serious about commitment with you, whether there is a future for the two of you...
The very fact that you have asked me a question suggests that you have your doubts about where this is all leading you. Hence the questions will definitely give you a better idea into taking wise actions.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It largely depends on the nature of your relationship. If it's a friendship with no romantic implications, there is generally no harm in being friends with your ex, even if they are married. However, if it causes issues with their spouse, it is crucial to assess the situation and reconsider the friendship. Reflect if this friendship is something worth these potential complications.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

There is nothing wrong with being in a consensual relationship, regardless of the age difference. As you mentioned, you are already separated and there is no ethical issue either. As long as a 30 to 35-year-old woman is ready to date you, it is fine. And, as far as the possibility of it is concerned, I am sure many women wouldn't mind the age gap. But might I suggest chucking the age factor and focusing on personality, compatibility, and other such important factors.

Best Wishes!