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Mohit Arora is a relationship coach, image consultant, soft skills trainer and the founder of Real Dating School. He has a BTech degree in computer science from the Rayat & Bahra Institute of Engineering and Biotechnology, Mohali, Punjab. He has been conducting customised skilling and communication workshops since 2014.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Jan 31, 2023Hindi
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Hi Mohit, I find it very annoying when boys don't make eye contact while talking to you. They are usually glued to their phones and respond mindlessly when you engage in a conversation. It's an instant turn off but is it also to do with a lack of interest or attraction? How do I tackle this?

Ans: Please realise,

Men are attracted to visual cues. If you want them to be attracted to you, get fit, dress hot because that's how we get attracted biologically.

So being in your best appearances is the way forward.)

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 07, 2025Hindi
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Hello Guru. I am a 35 Year old Female looking for marriage prospects.. I am talking to a guy past 3 months when the numbers were exchanged through parents. We have common interests and most of the non negotiables aspects also felt good so I have been positive about this alliance. However the concern with this guy is, he doesnt show much interest himself to start conversation or ask for call or texts me. Although he can see my instagram profile he said he just checked 1 or 2 posts. So not having interest or curiosity to know the person seems odd to me. I expect that he asks me about me ,my hobbies , family , aspirations, he will ask back only when I initiate and ask him the same question. Is this a point to consider ? Is this a indication of a person being full of themselves , will he have space and interest for a partner and her preferences ? He says he is quite flexible and friendly and seems his mother is also same. She spoke to my mom but just talking about their stuff and kind of boasting but not having any consideration to ask my mom about us or our family. He was in my city for 1.5 months but no effort to meet me, only once we met as a formality on the last day before he was leaving. Same with calls, in span of 3 months we hardly spoke for 4-5 times when I asked for. Through his mother got to know that they are interested to go forward and he likes me but I am not feeling doubtful with the above points. Please give me some suggestion on how to understand this kind of personality and whether I should consider confronting the same ? If I confront maybe he will start doing this, but is that worth ?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I know it can be very confusing, especially while seeking a life partner. It would be unfair to directly say that this guy seems uninterested and you should reject him. It would be unfair because we don’t know if he has always been this way or if he is this way only with you. But what’s completely fair is your doubt. You are right to feel worried and yes, it is not the ideal response from a potential partner. If your gut says something is wrong, please tread very carefully. You do not owe them anything, or you have not given your word; you still have ample time to take it slow and reconsider if needed. But before that, I’d say it can be worth having a clear conversation with the guy. Ask him directly if he isn’t interested in the alliance and if he says he is, then you can clarify why he never asks a single thing about you. After all is said and done, if his reasonings satisfy you, consider going ahead. But until then, don’t say yes.

Also, if behavior along with his family’s behavior is too odd, and you don’t want to put so much effort into clearing things out, you can distance yourself from this match. Again, you do not owe them anything. But it would be the decent thing to at least have one talk before doing so.

Hope this helps

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My wife posts everything on social media. Earlier she used to post about food and travel and our kids. Now if we have a fight or argument, she turns it into a funny reel or feminism post and everyone on her feed starts commenting. I am not on social media but when we meet socially, our common friends have started making fun of me like I am the villain. She calls herself an influencer and says it is helping her reach a wider audience. I told her she shouldn't post without my permission and it is leading to big arguments. I feel it is unfair. What should I do? Please help me sir
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand where you are coming from; it's not just the post. It's about your private life being turned into public content and mockery. Your reaction is valid and yes, it is unfair. I understand her interest in building an online presence, but it has to be separated from your right to privacy. Start with a calm conversation about this; express, verbally, how her posts make you feel. Instead of saying, "You can't post about is," try saying, "When our problems become content, it hurts the relationship and me." Or, you can say, "I am so happy that you are making content, but not when it involves our problems." It's the best way to frame the expression without sounding accusatory. Be clear about your boundaries: no posts about private matters, and consent is key. Give her real-word examples, like how your friends mock you. Try to keep the conversation as less accusatory as possible, to avoid a bigger conflict. Start with communicating your feelings.

Best Wishes

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