20 Years Married with No Physical Connection: Should I Fight for Divorce?

Ans: Hi Ijaz,

If you relocate to Hubli, getting into another fresh loan for 23 years is not a wise decision. Instead wait for some years and shell off existing plots to buy a home later.
Also your overall savings seem less. you should consider increasing your investments in mutual funds instead of direct stocks to get benefit of compounding. Use the hike from upcoming pay commission completely into starting new aggressive SIPs for your future. This way, you can buy a home in Hubli faster than you may plan to and that too without any loan.

For SIPs, you should consult a professional Certified Financial Planner - a CFP who can guide you with exact funds to invest in keeping in mind your age, requirements, financial goals and risk profile. A CFP periodically reviews your portfolio and suggest any amendments to be made, if required.

Let me know if you need more help.

Best Regards,
Reetika Sharma, Certified Financial Planner
https://www.instagram.com/cfpreetika/

Ans: Hi Vijay,

You are right in saying that there is no job security. One needs to be prepared for times ahead.

- PF - continue this investment.
- PPF - not of use to you, hence contibute bare minimum of 500 only once a year to keep the account active. Instead redirect the 12.5k monhly to aggressive mutual funds tto build wealth.
- FD - for emergecny fund - good hold.
- LIC and Tata AIA - policies like these are of no use , usually give 4-5% return and lock your money. Try to surrender if not at loss and reinvest into balanced funds.
- MF - current SIP 48k with total corpus of 8.5 lakhs till now. The current funds are average and overlapping. Need reallocation. And want to take your monthly investment to 60k.

Consider investing in 4 funds - 1 largecap, 1 midcap, 1 smallcap and 1 flexicap - 15k each.

If you decide to stop PPF contribution and LIC tata policies - redirect those 20.5k per month to momentum funds.

Achieving it fast is very tough. Slowly and consistently - you can achieve this target of 5 crores in next 14 years with 10% annual stepup. And if you add additional 20.5k per month into contribution, this can be achieved in 12.5 years.

You can also a professional Certified Financial Planner - a CFP who can guide you with exact funds to invest in keeping in mind your age, requirements, financial goals and risk profile. A CFP periodically reviews your portfolio and suggest any amendments to be made, if required.

Let me know if you need more help.

Best Regards,
Reetika Sharma, Certified Financial Planner
https://www.instagram.com/cfpreetika/

Ans: Dear Suraj,
I understand how difficult it must be when your family is giving you a hard time, especially when your wife is also suffering because of it. It is important to stand up for your partner if you think they are being unfair to her. It is important to set a boundary from the very beginning. Politely tell your family that while you love and respect them very much, you neither appreciate nor will tolerate this unfair treatment from them. Tell them that you expect their support, you expect them to love your wife as much as they love you, and most importantly, you never expected them to behave in this manner. Let them know how much their behavior has affected you. Sometimes people don’t understand that they are hurting someone with their words. And saying all these might create a little conflict, but it is important to stand up for what’s right, even if it is to family.

Other than that, communicate with your wife. Let her know that you are by her side and you realize that for no fault of her own she is suffering because of your family’s treatment and you are very sorry for that. Sometimes, even a few kind words from your partner can improve a situation.

Hope this helps.

Ans: Hi,

You are on the right path towards a steady and comfortable retirement after 3 years. Let us assess the entire financial one at a time.

1. Current MF corpus - 2.08 crore with ongoing monthly SIP of 3.5 lakhs. It will become 4.25 crores at your age of 58 if you continue investing.
2. FD - 1 crore. This entire amount can be treated as your emergency fund. Although use 50% of this fund to close your personal loan.
3. Direct equity - 45 lakhs. You can consider moving this entire allocation to mutual funds as direct equity investment is quite risky if you do not much about it.
4. CG Bonds - good debt investment option.
5. Life and health insurance - can increase the covers, specially now when you have time. Post retirment would be difficult for you.
6. 3 Flats worth 3 cr - with monthly rental income of 50k.
7. Plot worth 2.25 crores and Flat which will be fully paid before retirement from salary.
8. Physical Gold - good to carry.
9. Personal loan - 50 lakhs. Consider closing it using amount from your FD.

Goals:
1. Sons education - 1.5 crores
2. Sons marriage - 1 crore
3. Post-Retirement income - 2 lakhs monthly

- For education and marriage goal, you can consider tossing your plot valued at 2.25 crores and invest the amount in balanced funds. These will be more than enough for both goals for your 2 sons.
- Retirement - The MF corpus and stocks would be sufficient to fund your retirement in addition to your rental income. You will also get your PF and gratuity while retiring. These will fund your retirement in initial 5 years.
- For later years, post the age of 63, start SWP from your MF portfolio wrt your expenses (inflation adjusted).
- Work with a professional to reallocate the funds in your current portfolio so as to fund your retirment wrt to retirment strategy.
- Refrain from buying any policy to lock-in your funds.
- A professional can design a bucket strategy for your mutual fund corpus. This way, you will get your monthly expenses and the rest portfolio keeps on growing. This fund will never end and you will leave a great fortune for your kids.

Hence do consult a professional Certified Financial Planner - a CFP who can guide you with exact funds to invest in keeping in mind your age, requirements, financial goals and risk profile. A CFP periodically reviews your portfolio and suggest any amendments to be made, if required.

Let me know if you need more help.

Best Regards,
Reetika Sharma, Certified Financial Planner
https://www.instagram.com/cfpreetika/

Ans: Hi,

At the age of 42, you are headig in right direction. And I really appreciate your dedication in investing for past 7.5 years and creating an amazing corpus for yourself.
Currently you are investing 40k monthly in mutual funds and want to increase it to 50k per month which is a very good decision as step-up SIP can make a huge positive impact in your wealth creation.

- If you continue investing at this pace, with a monthly investment of 50k for next 10 years, you can easily achieve 2.5 crores with a CAGR of 13%. And if you step-up with 10% yearly investment, you can get more than 3 crores after 10 years.
- However the funds you mentioned are lil overlapping. It needs some minor re-allocation. You have 2 multi cap funds and 2 focused funds. You can keep one of both the funds.
- Increasing 10k SIP - Add 3500 to Axis Largecap (total 8000), 6500 in good Momentum fund.

As your portfolio size is quite big, it would be really better for you to work with a professional who reviews your portfolio periodically and changes it as per the requirement.
Hence a professional Certified Financial Planner - a CFP who can guide you with exact funds to invest in keeping in mind your age, requirements, financial goals and risk profile.

Let me know if you need more help.

Best Regards,
Reetika Sharma, Certified Financial Planner
https://www.instagram.com/cfpreetika/

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
So much of Sibling bonding can be very harmful for the marriage. If your husband cannot understand this, kindly make him understand this not by complaining or telling him what you don't like BUT what you would like him to do for you.
Make plans 2-3 times in a week about the same time that his sister visits, so that slowly that habit starts to break for her. When he says NO to this, he will realize the number of times that he says NO to you and may just start to change.
You have got to try whatever it takes BUT make sure it's not through a fight or demand because that is going to make him do more of what he is doing as a way of negating what you say.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: Dear Kumar,
You are obviously stunted in life with no movement and this happens when you are in fear of something going wrong in life. You end up not taking that first step in fear of failure, rejection, embarrassment...you are stuck...
The day you realize that the only way to be un-stuck is to actually take the first step and do something, anything without focusing on the result...
Your only motivation in life is YOU; if you want you can keep being stuck and then you know how life has been OR do something and break this loop that you are in!
Ask a friend to be by your side who can step in when you give up or feel tired from all that trying; it's YOU...go for it, take that first step...start with doing something that is even remotely little exciting for you!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: Hi,

It is very common to get into a home loan EMI as soon as one starts earning. Buying a house comes at a lot of extra expenses such as brokerage, registration fees and other miscellaneous expenses.
In your case, almost 50% of your household income goes into EMI which is not a financially sound decision. Maximum of 30% should be for EMI - in your case it is 60,000 per month.

Hence, if its possible, buy a smaller one or work so that 92,000 becomes only 30% of your household income. And make sure to invest remaining 30k into equity mutual funds for your long term goals.

Let me know if you need more help.

Best Regards,
Reetika Sharma, Certified Financial Planner
https://www.instagram.com/cfpreetika/

Ans: You are in a tough situation — but please know that you can recover from this. Many people who fall into payday or app-loan debt traps eventually manage to come out, provided they take disciplined, structured steps. The key now is to stop the bleeding, regain control, and rebuild systematically.

Let’s go step-by-step, calmly and practically.

1. Stop borrowing further

This is the most important step.
Every new short-term loan or “quick fix” will only deepen the hole.
Even if you miss payments now, do not take another app loan or credit advance to repay existing ones. You must stop the debt spiral.

2. List all your debts clearly

Write down every lender, outstanding balance, interest rate, and due date.
Prioritize them in three categories:

High-interest / payday apps (these can have 24–100% annual rates or hidden fees)

Personal loans / credit cards (moderate interest, regulated lenders)

Friends / informal borrowings (zero or low interest, but moral pressure)

Knowing exactly what you owe helps you plan repayment logically, not emotionally.

3. Prioritize survival, not perfection

Right now, your focus should be on keeping your job, maintaining mental stability, and avoiding harassment.
You are earning ?55,000/month — protect that income. Keep aside your essential expenses (rent, food, commute) first.
Whatever remains after necessities will form your debt repayment pool.

If, say, ?15,000–?20,000/month is what you can afford to repay, that’s your realistic capacity — not what lenders demand.

4. Communicate only in writing

Many payday lenders and app-based collectors use illegal intimidation — calling references, shaming borrowers, or using fake legal threats.
These tactics violate RBI guidelines. You have rights.

Do not argue over phone calls.

Ask for all communication in writing or email.

If they harass your references, you can file a written complaint with the local Cyber Crime Cell or email RBI Ombudsman (if it’s a registered NBFC).

Save all screenshots and call logs.

If a lender isn’t RBI-registered, it is an illegal app lender — and you owe them only what was actually disbursed, not inflated fees or harassment penalties.

5. Seek formal credit counselling

You can get free or low-cost help through registered credit counselling agencies:

DebtDoctor, DEBT CLINIK, ICICI Foundation’s Disha Financial Counselling, Abhay Credit Counselling (by RBI).

You can also contact CreditMantri, Paytm CreditMate, or your local bank’s grievance desk.

A counsellor will assess your situation and may help you design a repayment plan or even negotiate with legitimate lenders for rescheduling.

6. Try structured negotiation

Once you know your true monthly repayment ability, contact each legitimate lender (banks/NBFCs) with a written request like this:

“I’m facing temporary financial hardship due to medical expenses and job-related constraints. I intend to repay fully, but request a repayment restructuring or a reduced EMI plan for the next 6–12 months. Kindly treat this as a genuine request and allow time to regularize payments.”

Banks and registered NBFCs sometimes allow restructuring or moratoriums for genuine hardship.
App-based payday lenders often don’t — but even then, if they are illegal, you can stop engaging and report them.

7. Repair credit over time

Your credit score will dip temporarily, but it’s recoverable.
Once you stabilize your cash flow, start with a secured credit product (like a credit card against FD) to rebuild your record.
It may take 1–2 years, but it’s achievable.

8. Emotional and mental health check

Constant calls and pressure can cause anxiety and burnout.
Take this seriously. Talk to someone you trust, or seek online counselling support (e.g., MindPeers, YourDOST, Manas helpline).
Staying mentally steady is essential to executing your recovery plan.

9. Concrete monthly action plan

Here’s how to proceed starting this month:

Month 1–2:

Stop all new borrowing.

Prepare full debt list.

Inform each lender of your financial hardship.

File complaints if harassed.

Open a new clean salary account (avoid auto-debits).

Month 3–6:

Start paying small, regular amounts to the most aggressive or legal lenders.

Keep proof of each payment.

Negotiate settlements only with written confirmation.

Month 7–12:

Continue repayments systematically.

Begin rebuilding an emergency fund of even ?1,000–?2,000/month.

10. Long-term perspective

You are 27. You have decades ahead to rebuild your financial life.
Yes, this phase is painful — but it will pass. Once you clear these debts and recover stability, build these habits:

Never borrow for consumption or short-term gaps.

Maintain 6 months’ emergency savings.

Use credit only within your repayment capacity.

Track your net worth monthly.

hope atleast now taken health insurance

Disclaimer / Guidance:
The above analysis is generic in nature and based on limited data shared. For accurate projections — including inflation, tax implications, pension structure, and education cost escalation — it is strongly advised to consult a qualified QPFP/CFP or Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD). They can help prepare a comprehensive retirement and goal-based cash flow plan tailored to your unique situation.
Financial planning is not only about returns; it’s about ensuring peace of mind and aligning your money with life goals. A professional planner can help you design a safe, efficient, and realistic roadmap toward your ideal retirement.

Best regards,
Naveenn Kummar, BE, MBA, QPFP
Chief Financial Planner | AMFI Registered MFD
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