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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 12, 2024

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ASHOK Question by ASHOK on Apr 10, 2024Hindi
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Hi Ma'am, I am 66 years old my wife has expired since 11 months and i am in affair with my brother sister in law who is divorce and by age 55 years in services .I have two audit children's well settled married and living separately . they have their kids and enjoying their life . I feel alone and could not pass time on holiday . During my working days services it is ok in office . we use to meeting on holiday . she is staying with his younger brother . even she want to have happy relation with me . How can i convene my children's and her family member . kindly advise .

Ans: Dear Ashok,
I am truly sorry for your loss...
Find courage to sit with your children and tell them about it. Do expect that there is a possibility of rejection from them as they have never seen you with any other lady other than their mother. So the initial rejection and mockery is a possibility. It will be the same at her end as well. The family members will cite age, society etc as a reason as to why this relationship/alliance is wrong.
Both of you must be patient through all of this and give it some time. Your children and her family members may still after all this still be uncomfortable and not accept this, be prepared and do what you must. It's your lives, isn't it?
But do keep a positive outlook and expect things to go in your favor as sooner than later, people will see the intent behind all this is the need for companionship. Also, on your part, do ensure your children that no one can replace their mother; though they are adults, they will still need this reassuring...Take it one step at a time...

All the best!
Asked on - Apr 12, 2024 | Answered on Apr 13, 2024
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But can i offer in live-in relation ship for some time if she agreed along with her family consent .please advise we are liking each other and she is matured enough to take self wise decision she can handle the situation well . please advise
Ans: Dear Ashok,
That is a decision for you to make after evaluating your respective family values. Since you are not living in isolation and you definitely seem to care about your near and dear ones, make sure that any decision that you make does not impact the sentiments of family members.
Of course, finally it is all up to you and the lady as it's your life and you both deserve to be happy.

All the best!
Asked on - Apr 15, 2024 | Answered on Apr 15, 2024
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Thanks Dear Ma'am i appreciate your advise in case i need any thing else i will write back .
Ans: Dear Ashok,
Thank you for your kind words.

All the best!

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Current Financial Snapshot
Ongoing SIPs: Rs. 55,000 monthly.
Current Portfolio Value: Rs. 1.85 crore.
Target Corpus: Rs. 7 crore within 4 years.
Your consistent investing habits have built a solid foundation. However, to achieve your target, adjustments are needed.

Key Challenges
Short Time Frame: Four years is a limited period for aggressive wealth accumulation.
Significant Gap: A gap of Rs. 5.15 crore remains to meet the Rs. 7 crore goal.
Market Volatility: Equity investments might face short-term volatility.
Recommendations to Bridge the Gap
1. Increase Your SIP Contributions
Raise your SIP amount to Rs. 1.25 lakh per month.
This increase ensures faster wealth creation through compounding.
Prioritise high-growth funds in equity-oriented categories.
2. Invest Lump Sum Amounts
Consider deploying a lump sum if you have idle savings or low-yield investments.
Invest in aggressive equity mutual funds for higher potential returns.
Break down the lump sum into tranches for better market timing.
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Focus on small-cap and mid-cap mutual funds for higher growth potential.
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