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Anu Krishna  |1540 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 26, 2023

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ASHOK Question by ASHOK on Sep 25, 2023Hindi
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i am 65 years old person religious active in pvt services getting handsome salary my wife expired in may 23 and i am along living in big house at noida having own property and car lavish life but no use . i have cook and maid servant part time . looking living relation adjustable lady loving nature without issue can take care . my children are married and living in faridabad and gurgaon coming oftenly . please advise

Ans: Dear Ashok,
I am truly sorry for your loss...
What you are looking for is something people used to put out as an ad in the newspaper...well, you might try your luck through the old route as well.
Another place that I see 60+ individuals find like-minded people is exclusive trips organized for senior citizens. You can go onto the internet to get more information on this. This will enable you to travel and see places and also connect with similar people with similar interests.
You can also join organizations like Rotary where people meet and who knows you might come across someone who shares your thoughts and views.
There are also Dating apps for the older population which again you can try and figure out if that is the place that you want to explore.
What you are looking at is perhaps driving away your loneliness and what I am suggesting is ways in which you can connect with different people which may lead to you finding a companion for yourself.

All the best!

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Good morning sir My self Erla srinivas age 50 years working in pharmaceutical company Having own flat in Hyderabad and no loans. Tax payer. My only one child is studying 9th standard EPF 20 lacs and having 5 Open plots Kindly suggest me after retirement fixed monthly income Regards Srinivas
Ans: Financial Assessment

Your financial situation looks good overall. Well done!
You have a stable job and own property. That's great.
Having no loans is excellent for financial health.

Current Assets

EPF savings of Rs. 20 lakhs is a good start.
Five open plots provide some diversification.
Owning a flat in Hyderabad adds to your assets.

Retirement Planning

We need to plan for steady income after retirement.
Your EPF and property can be part of this plan.
We should look at other investment options too.

Investment Strategy

Mutual funds can be a good choice for you.
They offer better liquidity than land plots.
Professional fund managers handle the investments.

Disadvantages of Plot Investments

Plots can be hard to sell quickly.
They need maintenance and may have legal issues.
Returns depend on location and market conditions.

Advantages of Mutual Funds

Easy to buy and sell units.
Professional management of your money.
Diversification across many stocks or bonds.
Regular income options are available.

Action Steps

Review your current expenses and future needs.
Start investing in mutual funds for retirement.
Consider selling some plots for more liquid assets.
Speak with a Certified Financial Planner for personalized advice.

Finally

Your financial base is strong. Good job!
With some changes, you can have a secure retirement.
Start planning now for a comfortable financial future.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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Kanchan

Kanchan Rai  |552 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 06, 2024

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Dear Ma'am Ms Kanchan I am 65 and still working on senior position getting very handsome salary plus perks ,having own pent house at Noida own car and with lavish life but my wife is no more she died last year and i have two adult married children's and well settled in NCR . please advise how can i have good life and what is the procedure i should adopt to get a match lady without children's and stay with me as excellent life partner .
Ans: Ashok Ji,
First, it's important to acknowledge your feelings and needs. Losing a spouse is incredibly difficult, and it's a positive step that you're looking to find companionship again. Your desire for a life partner who can share your lifestyle and provide mutual support is completely understandable.

To start this journey, consider what qualities and values are most important to you in a partner. Reflecting on your past relationship experiences can help you identify what worked well and what you might want to avoid this time around. Understanding your own needs and preferences will guide you in finding someone who is truly compatible with you.

Given your professional standing and lifestyle, you may want to explore avenues where you can meet like-minded individuals. Networking within your social and professional circles can be a good start. Friends and colleagues might know someone who is also seeking companionship.

Online platforms specifically designed for senior dating could also be helpful. These sites allow you to specify your preferences, such as looking for a partner without children, and can connect you with potential matches who share similar interests and values.

Another option is engaging in social activities, clubs, or groups that align with your interests. Whether it's a hobby, a sport, or a community service group, participating in these activities can naturally lead to meeting new people who share your passions.

When you meet someone who seems like a potential match, take the time to build a genuine connection. Open and honest communication is key. Share your thoughts, feelings, and expectations for the future, and encourage your partner to do the same. Building a strong emotional bond and mutual understanding will lay a solid foundation for a lasting relationship.

Lastly, be patient with yourself and the process. Finding the right person can take time, but maintaining a positive outlook and being open to new experiences will make the journey more enjoyable.

If you feel comfortable, seeking guidance from a relationship coach or counselor could also provide personalized support and advice as you navigate this new chapter in your life.

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Hi Mam, Hope you are doing well. I am very worried about my son who is now 12.5 years old and studying in 7th standard in a very reputed school. Since childhood, he has no interest in studies, unless we doesn't seat in front of him, he doesn't study. Every teacher from his kindergarten days upto now has the same complaint that he is doesn't pay attention in class and the result is he doesn't get good marks in the exam. When we scold him for studies, he does it for that particular time only and then get back to his non-interest mode again and start to run from studies. He will play video games, goes to play around with his friends, he will find some or the other reason for not doing studies or homework. The irony is that he is not interested in any sports or any other kind of activities. In every summer holidays, we make him to join some sports or music classes, but there also he doesn't show interest and do things just for the sake of showing. From last year, we have started sending him to tuitions also, but no change in attitude. This year we have found a teacher of his reputed school who is retired and taking tuitions, we are sending him to her and she is charging a big amount for tuitions. please guide how can we change his attitude and make him more serious in any activity he does as he doesn't have interest in anything (we have observed doing everything we can).
Ans: Hello Sunil!!

I am doing great, thank you for asking, God bless you!

I can totally understand when you say you are worried.

Your son is 12.5, he will soon be a teenager. There will be different challenges, I want you to read up on parenting a teenager and be ready to handle him well.

The problem as I see it is that everyone of you, his teachers included have made studies like a burden for him.... and subjected the young child to a lot of anxiety, he just wants to run away form it....
"Every teacher from his kindergarten days upto now has the same complaint that he is doesn't pay attention in class".... this statement of yours... it is the teacher's duty to ensure the child listens to him/her, how can she start labeling a child like this. From a young age your son has been conditioned to believe that he is not not good in studies, he doesn't focus and he doesn't sit in one place. All my sympathies are with your son...every child comes with immense potential and it's our duty as parents and teachers to nurture the child.

The following is what I propose so that we bring him back to loving to learn ( not score marks, that should never be the barometer)-
1. Love your child the way he is now
2. Give him lot of positive strokes
3. Have one on one sessions for any activity you plan for him... let him choose the activity, empower him
4. choose a teacher, who can get along with him and help him develop a positive attitude towards studies and life in general
5. look for a school where they nurture him... not just a reputed one...less number of students and a teacher who is invested in her/ his students,

If you can connect with me, I can help him. Have had many a students in this kind situation.
This is my website..
https://transformme.co.in/

Loads of best wishes to the whole family..

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