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Baharul Question by Baharul on Dec 01, 2024
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Hi ma'am!! I was in relationship and we did breakup almost 1.5 yrs ago..from then often she was threating me occasionally and it's now stand at extreme level..she is now threating my parents and come to my home and forced to marry her either she will destroy us....... ma'am I am a aspirants and I can't concentrate anymore, I feel very low...what should I do??

Ans: Dear Baharul,
In extreme cases where there is a threat to life and also mental harassment, the only way is to report it to the police. Maybe, if that's the case in your situation, you might want to think of that as an option.
Before that, is it possible to actually take to her in the presence of her parents and yours, and explain to her and her side of the family that things are over from you end? In the presence of her parents, things become transparent and also she will not have an opportunity to accuse you of anything. And oh, never meet her alone!

All the best!
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Never live in fear because that can always be used by someone who is searching for an opportunity to meddle with your life.
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1. For fear of false case filing against you, kindly approach a lawyer who will guide you on how to protect your assets
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- If there are chances of reconciliation, do lay down some ground rules for both of you which includes deeper level of communication, deeper listening, trust building...

Most relationships sour over a period of time, because 'taking for granted' seeps in, there are unrealistic expectations for one another, children become an excuse for not spending enough time each other, family members somehow get into the equation which allows little room for the couple to understand one another...
the list goes on...
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