I am Mahesh and I am in relationship from last 4 years and we were planning to get married. But all of a sudden things changed.
My girlfriend started working and during that period she met with a guy and she said the person is her friend and she get good vibes while talking to him.
I stated that you should limit your friendly behaviour with everyone and asked not to hang out with that person. Instead of taking thing into positive way she started disclosing the things and a day I saw her taking lift with that person.
When I asked about that thing she said I didn't wanted to hurt you that's why I didn't told you anything about it because you will react badly. After that things have changed and we both are not having good relationship. Should I just end or should wait for some time?
Thanks and regards,
MB

Ans: Dear Himanshu,
How does her past matter in your present and future? Exactly how will her living together with her ex, at a point in time when you did not exist in her life, matter to you today? Why are you judging her based on the fact that she loved someone else before you? I understand that these feelings can creep in, but you have to counsel yourself. She isn't at fault here because everything that is bothering you today is in her past and she cannot change that, and why should she have to change it, anyway? Every time you find yourself feeling this way, you can ask the same question and answer honestly. And in case you think you cannot get over these thoughts, let her go. No one deserves to be in a relationship where they have to be constantly reminded of their past or judged for it.

Best Wishes.