Dear Love Guru,
I am 30 and have not been able to find a partner.
So have agreed to look at bridegrooms my parents suggest and consider an arranged marriage.
What kind of questions do you think I should ask the men I meet on our ‘arranged dates’.
Thank you,
Manali

Ans: Hello;

She will need a corpus of 10.5 Cr to generate a post-tax monthly income of 3 L.

It is considered that she might invest corpus in a equity savings type mutual fund with "low to moderate" or "moderate" risk rating.

A 4% SWP will provide her income above 3 L(post-tax)and indexed to inflation.

A modest 8% return from the fund is considered. At 6% inflation this corpus will surely last her for 30 years and more.

The existing corpus of 1 Cr will grow into a sum of 3.41 Cr in 10 years.

For the balance 7.1 Cr, she may do a flat monthly sip of 3.1 L or begin with monthly sip of 1.8 L and step it up by 14% every year for 10 years to achieve 7.1 Cr target.( A modest return of 12% is considered from a combination of pure equity mutual funds).

Happy Investing;

Ans: Hello;

You need a corpus of 6 Cr to be able to get post-tax monthly income of 2L+. (6% annuity rate considered from an immediate annuity offered by a life insurance company).

You may keep aside 50 L towards marriage expenses and another 20-25 L as emergency fund.

Best wishes;

Ans: Hello;

If your time horizon is 1-3 years you may invest in an equity savings type mutual fund with growth option.

You may use any of the online apps available for making this investment.

If you are not ready for mutual funds, a simple bank FD with any nationalised bank would be good to beginwith.

Happy Investing;

Ans: Hello;

When you are holding a portfolio of direct stocks, it is not possible that you will make profit in all of them.

As long as you are profitable at the portfolio level you should focus on reducing the losses and maximizing your gains.

Coming to Laurus Labs, I am not a chartist so won't be able to predict price movement but a basic research into the stock's financials and valuation does not give any comfort.

My view is, the earlier you exit it, the lesser will be your losses.

You may cross verify with a sebi registered research analyst.

Happy Investing;

Ans: Many options are there
1. School Teaching or College/University Teaching
2. Ph.D. in Physics
3. Technical Roles in Core Industries
4. R&D Positions
5. Government and Competitive Exams

Ans: there are no stocks in the world which will give you 25% monthly returns. I am sorry but you need to keep your goal realistic.
if your goal is 25% monthly then I would suggest you to stay away from markets as you may end up putting your hard earned money in some ponzi scheme and loose it.
The real goal should be anything between 12-14% yearly and if you need that over a long term (10-15yrs) then plz buy a bluchip mutual fund.

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Radheshyam

Ans: One possibility is communication breakdown. Over time, couples may fall into patterns where they no longer communicate as openly or effectively as they once did. Misunderstandings, unmet expectations, or unspoken feelings can lead to tension and disputes. It’s important to reflect on whether you both are expressing your thoughts and emotions clearly and listening to each other with empathy.

Another potential factor could be unmet needs or changes in individual priorities. As people grow and evolve, their needs, desires, and priorities may shift. If these changes are not acknowledged or discussed, it can create friction. Consider whether you or your wife feel that certain emotional, physical, or practical needs are not being met.

Stress from external factors, such as work, finances, or family issues, can also spill over into the relationship. If either of you is experiencing significant stress, it might contribute to increased irritability or conflict. Identifying these stressors and finding ways to manage them together can be helpful.

Changes in intimacy or connection can also lead to disputes. Emotional or physical intimacy might wane due to various reasons, such as busy schedules, health issues, or unresolved conflicts. It’s important to nurture the bond and find ways to reconnect.

Lastly, unresolved past issues can resurface and cause ongoing disputes. If there are lingering resentments or unresolved conflicts, they might continue to affect the relationship. It’s crucial to address these issues constructively, possibly with the help of a couples counselor if needed.

Reflecting on these areas and having open, honest conversations with your wife can help you both understand the root causes of your disputes. Working together to rebuild communication, connection, and trust can guide you toward a healthier, more harmonious relationship.

Ans: allow yourself to process your feelings. It's normal to feel a range of emotions—shock, hurt, confusion, or even betrayal. Give yourself the space to sit with these emotions without rushing to any immediate decisions or confrontations.

Consider the source of this information. An ex-partner might have motives that are not aligned with the best interests of your marriage. It's crucial to evaluate the credibility of the information and not act solely on a third-party account.

Open, honest communication with your wife is key. Instead of approaching the conversation with accusations, try to express your feelings and concerns calmly. Let her share her perspective and feelings. This conversation is not just about the past, but about building trust and understanding in your relationship moving forward.

Reflect on the importance of your wife's past in the context of your marriage. Everyone has a history, and it's essential to consider how much weight you want to place on past relationships versus the present and future you are building together. Focus on your current connection, values, and shared goals.

If this information continues to weigh heavily on you, consider seeking professional support. A couples counselor can provide a safe space to explore these feelings and help you both navigate this challenge. Counseling can also strengthen your communication, trust, and emotional intimacy.

Ultimately, the decision on how to move forward lies with you both. Reflect on the foundation of your relationship, your shared values, and your vision for the future. It's about understanding, forgiveness, and whether you both are committed to growing together despite the challenges.