Hello Sir or Madam.
Please keep me as anonymous only.
Let me tell my story. I am 29 now. Work for an MNC for the past six years. From middle class family with big circle.
Before going to speak out on my problem, let me tell my nature, how I was brought up, studies and attitude.
Since we are middle class family with no financial crisis, I never seen ups and downs in Life accordingly.
In the case of studies, I was topper at all levels of education till MBA from reputed institute.
I was like love is trash n waste of time. When I used to hear all love stories, I used to feel pity on them. But I did maintain very good relationship with many, many girls (not GF type).
But now I am going through the hell just because of one girl whom I was forcibly loved her and later I addicted to her with true love.
During COVID I had to go WFH for two years. She visited her granny’s house and stayed back for few weeks. They live in Bangalore.
I have never seen her face or noticed her during the time when she stayed. But she noticed, observed and enquired about me. So once she left to Bangalore, she sent FB request and I accepted.
Immediately we have exchanged numbers and started texting ‘n’ talking.
Initially I rejected her since she is eight years junior to me. Later she emotionally told once as she lost her father very recently and she just don’t want to go into depression again if I reject her. I got convinced and started loving truly. I replaced her father in her life which she used to tell.
One day, she got caught by her brother while she was on call with me. Since we belong to different castes, they rejected me. She got house arrested. There was no connection between us.
First time in life I fell into depression. I lost my job after just three weeks when she got separated from me. I was unable to speak anyone in the world. My family ‘n’ circle was afraid as I may do harm to myself for her.
On December 16, 2021, I tried to commit suicide by writing a letter in laptop to her telling how I was missing her ‘n’ needed her. Took print and left to railway track to die. I took alcohol and was on the track. Someone rescued me and took me to hometown from Bangalore with PAN card address which was in my purse.
Every day I was losing hope on my life.
Finally I got call from her number in the first week of Jan. I was happy and cried like anything with her on call. She told that she would never leave me alone whatever happens ‘n’ who ever tries to separate us. Again, I took my energy ‘n’ hopes back and started job searching.
There was 1 month gap again until Feb 8, 2022.
After that she used to call me whenever it is possible. From March 15 to March 31, she kept fighting with me over call and spoken mercilessly. There was no kindness or love or concern on me.
Again, I lost hope on my life. She kept asking me to stay away from her. She knew that I cannot initiate contact from my end, since she only should do whenever she able to do.
Day by day, I am losing interest on my Life. I left the job. Now I’m alone with her thoughts and words spoken by her.
My family n circle knew all this drama what’s going on. They hate me for losing self-respect for a girl.
But I have never seen that girl as a girl. I am addicted to alcohol, day ‘n’ night drinking and surviving.
I knew she won’t come back if I ruin my life like this by drinking ‘n’ all. But I just can’t control myself over her.
The promises which she made me were gone... But still I stand for her, for what I promised. I begged the girl like anything not to leave me alone. I just can’t digest that she won’t be no more for me.
N number of the times I used to tell her that You are my first priority over all in my life, like family, siblings, money, career and what not. Most of the times I told her that I’ll commit suicide for you if I come to know that you are not there for me. It doesn’t mean that I am an emotional fool who does not know how to live or unable to get another girl. But you have such significance in my life.
I elaborated as much as I can. But she never listened me. I am just wonder where was her sweet words ‘n’ promises, what’s the reality now?
I am upset with me -- where was original me and who I am now without self-respect.
My parents ‘n’ siblings are forcing me to give up on her. As per them, she is just a golddigger and cheater without love and trust...
My mind n heart never ever forgets her. Don’t know the future. But many times I pray God to kill me in sleep itself without pain so I can reach Venkateshwara...
Entire world is against that girl, but I am defending her at every passing moment.
Human beings invented many amazing things. My wish is we should be available with tablets or injection which can erase memories which belongs to particular person or for particular time in life...
The real enemy to the human beings is LOVE....
Finally I am just waiting for my death... I knew that she won’t realise even if I die also. But I should sleep forever and ever just because for the crime I did love her....
Dear Bujji, it’s for you. I am also a human being as like U. As like your mother, even my mother has given birth to me.
Finally, no words.... I am alone... Memories are hunting me.... chasing me...
Love Guru, please publish this story as it is. Because someone may going through hell with similar story at least they will read the Q&A as well.
Love Guru... I hate me... I do have all with me -- good health, 21 LPA job now, stabilised family and friends ‘n’ family circle... But this bloody struggling to get her love amongst the 7 billion people on this Earth...
Love Guru, I feel that I lost. I am feeling low... I got cheated by her... Finally I am nothing to her.
Dear readers, don’t think that why this fool is suffering for a girl like this.... I have seen her my GODDESS...
Thank you... Have a nice day…

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sorry that you put your trust in someone and they failed you. As unfortunate as it is, this happens more often than we can imagine. Going forward, I would like you to be extremely careful about sharing your sensitive information with friends and family, no matter how close they are. I am not saying they are discussing the matter with others because they wanted to gossip about it; it might have stemmed from a place of concern but still doing so without your permission is unacceptable. If you are comfortable with it, it is completely reasonable to confront them and establish a boundary about what can be shared and what can't be. Have a polite and respectful conversation, but be strict about the part where they did not take your consent before sharing your personal information.

Hope this helps.

Ans: Dear Partha,
I am not sure how old you are but everyone finds love in their own timeline. If you look at others and compare your love life, you are bound to be left feeling sorry for yourself. But the point is not to have at least one girl friend; the point is to find the right person and I am sure you will find her at the right time. I know it's easier said than done, but trust me, finding the right person, even if it's late, is much better than finding 10 wrong people.

Hope this helps.

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Ans: Dear Prateek

Please note you have articulated your question and also given the answer.

Imagine you driving a car and you come to a crossroads. Now you have to decide either to go left, right, straight or take a U turn. Any decision is based upon the destination where you want to go. Even if you are simply wandering, yet you cannot stop at the crossroads, you must decide which turn to take. Or else you will miss on EVERYTHING that is there on the left, right, straight or even U turn.

Now by taking left definitely you will miss on somethings on right or straight or even from the road you travelled. But if you don't take a turn then you will miss on EVERYTHING that is there in a particular turn.

A good doctor can also be a good painter or a good engineer can also play guitar. However a good piano player cannot be a good lawyer unless and until he or she has learnt law and practised it in the court of law.

Expertise in professional filed comes through education and practise.

So, take up any profession that you want to, decide by asking a simple question, what is it that you would continue doing if there was no fame or fortune or power. What will you do just for the sake of doing it. start pursuing that field.

Home is built on a strong foundation but interior of drawing room we can change it even mix and match. So build one rock solid foundation by choosing a particular field of profession and explore other areas as intrest or hobbies.

All the best

Regards
KK

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Ans: The key issue is not simply non-allotment of a locker. It is the alleged linking of a banking facility with an insurance purchase, followed by repeated assurances and difficulty in getting the promised benefit.

If the facts are supported by documents, this should be treated as a formal mis-selling and deficiency-of-service grievance.

» Keep the two issues separate

There appear to be two connected but separate matters:

– The promised medium/large locker facility against the banking relationship.

– The insurance policy that you say was purchased only because of pressure and assurances from branch officials.

This distinction is important. The insurance company may take the position that the policy was issued after completion of its own proposal and free-look process. Your grievance against the bank, however, can separately concern what was represented to you by its employees and whether the insurance purchase was induced by a promise relating to the locker.

» Build a proper documentary record

Please collect and preserve:

– Original advertisement/circular or written communication regarding the Rs.5 lakh deposit and locker facility.

– Deposit/account records showing when the Rs.5 lakh was placed.

– All emails exchanged with the branch, backend team and senior officials.

– SMS messages and other communications relating to the locker.

– Insurance proposal form, policy document, premium receipts and cancellation correspondence.

– Your emails requesting cancellation during the free-look period.

– Any complaint numbers generated by the bank or insurance company.

– Communications concerning the later cashback/moneyback facility.

– Details of the branch officials who made the representations, as far as available.

– A chronological record of every important visit and conversation.

The chronology you have already provided is useful. Put it into a simple date-wise This can make your grievance much stronger.

» The free-look argument needs careful examination

The insurance company may focus only on whether your cancellation request was received within the applicable free-look period.

Therefore, the important question is not merely:

“Did I cancel after the free-look period?”

It is also:

“Did I attempt to cancel within the free-look period, and was that attempt prevented, delayed or interfered with because of the conduct of the bank staff?”

If you have evidence of an earlier call, email, complaint or other communication, preserve it carefully.

If the first cancellation request was actually made within the applicable period, but the matter was subsequently delayed because you were persuaded by the branch officials to continue with the policy, that fact should be clearly highlighted in your grievance.

» Do not make the insurance company the only target

Based on your narration, your primary grievance appears to be against the bank officials who allegedly represented that purchasing an insurance policy would result in a larger locker being provided.

So your complaint should clearly state:

– What was originally promised.

– What actually happened.

– What the branch officials subsequently offered.

– Why you purchased the insurance policy.

– When you first tried to cancel it.

– What response you received.

– How the matter continued thereafter.

This gives the matter a much clearer structure than simply asking for a refund of the insurance premium.

» Escalate through the formal grievance mechanism

Since you have already approached branch officials and senior bank personnel, the next step should be a properly documented complaint through the bank's formal grievance/redressal mechanism.

Similarly, raise a separate written grievance with the insurer regarding the insurance policy.

Do not depend only on telephone conversations. Written complaints with acknowledgement are much more useful.

If the bank does not resolve the grievance after exhausting its internal complaint process, you can consider approaching the RBI's complaint mechanism, subject to the applicable eligibility and jurisdiction.

For the insurance-related grievance, the insurer's internal grievance mechanism should first be exhausted, followed by the applicable insurance grievance redressal route if the matter remains unresolved.

» About the pending cashback

This needs separate verification.

If the cashback was contractually payable under the insurance policy and you have satisfied the applicable conditions, ask the insurer to provide a written reason for withholding the second year's amount.

Ask them to specify:

– The exact policy condition under which payment was stopped.

– Which customer detail was allegedly incomplete or incorrect.

– When you were informed about this deficiency.

– What documents are required to rectify it.

– Whether the first year's payment was made under the same conditions.

This forces the matter to move from verbal explanations to a specific contractual response.

» Be careful about the remedy you demand

I would not make only a general request that the officials be reprimanded.

Your complaint should first seek specific relief:

– Payment of any legitimate pending cashback.

– Review of the premium paid, considering the alleged inducement and the circumstances in which the policy was purchased.

– Written explanation from the bank regarding the locker representations.

– Written explanation regarding the role of the branch officials.

– Appropriate compensation/redressal, if supported by the facts and applicable grievance mechanism.

Disciplinary action against employees is ultimately for the institution or regulator to decide based on the findings. Your complaint will be stronger if it concentrates on facts, evidence and the specific financial loss suffered.

» 360-degree assessment

From an investment professional and AMFI-Registered MFD perspective, I would also suggest one broader lesson.

Banking products, insurance products and investment products have different purposes. A customer should not be pushed into an insurance policy merely because another banking facility is being discussed.

Whenever a bank employee links one product with another benefit, ask for the offer in writing before making any payment or signing any proposal.

In your case, the most important thing now is not to lose hope. You have a detailed sequence of events, and that can be converted into a strong documentary grievance.

» Finally

Your case should be presented as a documented sequence of alleged mis-selling, inducement, failure to provide the promised banking facility, attempted cancellation of the insurance policy, and subsequent non-payment of the claimed cashback.

Avoid emotional or very strong allegations unless you have documentary evidence supporting them. Use words such as “represented”, “assured”, “alleged”, “requested”, “refused” and “not provided”. This makes the complaint more precise and credible.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
AMFI-Registered MFD – ARN 4188
www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

Ans: The exact maturity amount cannot be determined from the monthly premium alone. For Jeevan Saral, the entry age, policy term, maturity sum assured and applicable Loyalty Addition are important.

» Your policy details

You have mentioned:

– Entry age: 52 years
– Policy commencement: October 2011
– Monthly premium: Rs.4,083
– Premium-paying term: 15 years
– Expected maturity: around October 2026

Jeevan Saral provides maturity benefit based on the applicable Maturity Sum Assured, along with Loyalty Addition, if applicable.

» Why I cannot give an exact figure

For Jeevan Saral, the maturity benefit is not simply the total premiums paid.

The applicable Maturity Sum Assured depends on the policy details, including the entry age and policy term. Loyalty Addition, if applicable, is also added at maturity.

Therefore, giving you one exact maturity figure based only on Rs.4,083 monthly premium could be misleading.

» What you should check

Please look at your original policy bond and give me these 4 details:

– Plan No.

– Policy term.

– Sum Assured / Maturity Sum Assured.

– Date of maturity.

You can also upload a photo or PDF of the first page of the policy bond after hiding your policy number, address and other personal details.

Once you provide these details, I can help you work out the likely maturity amount, including the applicable Loyalty Addition, as far as the available policy information permits.

Since your policy is reaching maturity now, I would also suggest obtaining the maturity quotation directly from LIC before making any decision about reinvestment.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
AMFI-Registered MFD – ARN 4188
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

Ans: Hello

Very relevant question, thanks for asking.

Firstly let me tell you from the way you have written and structured this question actually shows that you have very good command over the English language, so compliments to to you.

Please note English is not our mother tongue so we will have some difficulty in the flow and fluency, however speaking fluent (read fast) English no way reflects our understanding of the subject or depth of our thinking. Rather at times speaking fast can make us sound shallow.

What I would suggest is be confident in your command over English, speak in your natural and normal speed and when someone interrupts you, stop and say politely, please let me complete my point and I will be open to listening to your views as well. When you say this you will see that people will stop interrupting you.

Be polite, yet firm. Be assertive not aggressive.

Hope this helps, wish you all the best.

Warm Regards
KK