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Hello, I had a very disturbed childhood. My marriage was also in troubled waters with fights happening twice in a week.
Then I came across a girl who was 17 years younger than me. I am a model from a reputed college and was earning much better.
That girl became die-hard fan. Once I scolded her in the middle of the road for her advanced steps toward me like touching etc.
I was very much attached to my kids. Then she became friendly with my 2-3 year old kids.
After 2 years of relationship we became physical. I used to send her Rs 3,000-4000/ month for her expenses in her engineering college.
She used to hug me, love me (acted like she did). When my father expired, I was low. She was there during all those dark times.
Then she got a job and broke up with me. She came back to me after a year. Instead of kicking her out, I got addicted to her and changed myself to keep her happy.
I even went to her native town to assist her during super cyclone risking my own life. I spent 3 days there as a refugee because cyclone had devastated the entire city. There was no food and water. She got me food 2 times a day from her home. After 3 days train services resumed.
I spent my best time with her and felt like a 17 year old boy in her company and I lived my life.
Seven years later she told me that she will not marry me. In between she insisted to get divorce.
I applied for a mutual divorce in family court.
Then I told her to break up. She refused saying she did not want to face that pain again.
She said if she found someone she will say upfront to me.
I agreed and wasted another 3 years with her. I was her CA/bodyguard/driver.
One day she told me she finalized someone and I went for sudden breakup.
We exchanged few e-mails till my ego got hurt.
It’s been 3 years now I have not replied to her mail.
She kept sending mails till March last year.
During this phase I had pain during breathing, high BP and no sleep for 4-5 days.
I consulted doctor and took medication for almost for 6 months.
I suffered from broken heart syndrome.
I am 45 years old now and have no interest in my life.
I am just doing my duty.
My ego does not permit to see her FB/TWITTER. It’s been two years since I saw her on social media.
It appears like everything is fine but I feel hollow from within.
I don’t want her back or her smile. Whenever someone talks about love, I smile from within on his stupidity and try to figure out what benefit the girl is getting from him.
My issue is hollowness and hopelessness.

Ans:

Dear SB,

Whatever you did in the past with the girl, simply gave you a sense of validation at that point in time. Isn’t it clear that she has moved on?

Simply be thankful to her for the way she stepped in when you were in need. What didn’t happen was not meant to happen!

No point being angry with her for moving on in her life. Try and be happy for her and focus on yourself now.

What do you love doing?

Who are your friends that you love spending time with?

When was the last time you took care of your physical health?

Do you know that spending time in Nature heals your broken heart as well?

All these questions, are for you to have a reality check on how much you have focused on the outside and no focus on yourself.

Answer these questions and start to look after yourself with a lot of self-love and care. You will heal and move ahead very meaningfully.

Be well and all the best!

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I'M 40 years old man, i have had troubled childhood. I faced abuse from my elder brother who later on developed mental health issues whiich broughg lot of stress to the family. I worked very hard to achieve reasonable professional success but my personal life has been very difficult. I got married with lot of difficulty despite being well placed professionally and decent looks. It was an arranged marriage but things went bad after a year. I caught my wife having an affair with her ex but i fogave her for the sake of myndaugher who was just 1 year old then. She keept on having flings with gym instructor and later on her colleagues which i dont have any proof of. She would humilate me in front of my maid driver and other people. But i wanted ti save my marriage for the sake of my daughter who was only 4-5 years old then. Finally she started asking me for divorce after every trivial fights. Fed up i finally agreed and we separated in 2021 November. During that time i came in contact with my school friend. She proposed to me during our school days but due to stress at home and other issues i said no but i always liked her. When we started talking around December 2021 and we realized we still love each other after 20 years. But problem was though i was divorced she was still married and she is from a different religion. She is trying hard to get separated from her husband but her family being very conservative is not allowing her to do so. I'm stuck with her emotionally. Now my ex-wife has started approaching me for reconciliation. Im totally confused now what should i do? Should i wait for my friend knowing that chances are very slim that her family would leave her. Or should i patch up with my exwife for the sake of my daughter. I dont feel any emotional connection with my exwife now as she was never nice to me. But my parents are telling me to go for patch up. They are nkt aware about my school friend and i doubt they would approve her due to religious beliefs. Pls guide me I'm totally confused. Thanks A confused Homo Sapiens
Ans: Dear Pratik,
At this point in time, choose neither. You need space to clear your head first.
Too many emotional situations to jump into one more...Give yourself time to figure out what is that you want out of life?
Do you want to get into another commitment in a short gap? It could be an attraction on a rebound as well; so take time to figure these things out well before you decide to patch up or wait for your friend.
You deserve this time off, to make sure that you not only heal from the marriage but also put things in perspective.
So no need to bring on a new confusion for the time being till you get strong enough in the mind to decide the next course of your life. Making a choice right now means you will be bringing in more confusions of either of the two women into your life as well. So, PAUSE and take this time...

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 16, 2024Hindi
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Hi , I am a professor mech engineer , after death of my wife and due to having 5 year girl baby I planned for 2 nd marriage as I live alone away from home town because my of job with my little baby . I accepted a widow having 2 child ,she was working in a govt job 250 km away , after ensuring and agreeing her possibility of transfer and job vacancy @govt office near my house and ensuring she agreed that she will come to live with me along with her 2 kids and my little baby as her trasfer was due in comming few months . We lived apart during her job at 250 km away.,while meeting on weekly offs 6 /7 time in 6 months , then she take 360 degree u turn and said she will not get job transfer to my place and get her trasfer in other dept. in same previous office. And started telling many reasons like she will loose her children's inheritance in her in-laws property ,she will loose promotion , kids Don't want trasfer , and said we will live apart forever . This was contradictory to earlier agreed things .and my my purpose to live in family with my baby not fulfilled , so after long ruckus ,I mutually got divorce from her , Then After divorce I decided to marry non working women having no child and don't expect child as I am @48 year old and tired of living alone and managing job ,girl , house chores . I married to a divorcee girl from Pune ,she was BA first year college drop out girl of 44 yr age after 6 months of long dating on week ends . During 6 months I tried to know her indepth but was don't used to talk much as I was trying to know her true nature, we visited many places ,movies . She seemed perfect as per my requirement of girl wanting no child , and she is house wife . after marriage she behave well for 1 st week ,then she started trouble to hate my baby ( became kaikai )on pety things , she want my baby to house chores at the cost of her important year of 10th std study . She don't liked me taking tution of girl , she didn't like if I help my girl any way . She don't like if I spent some money on my girl . She used to fight all night and don't let me sleep . Now she stated demanding that she want baby , though I was against and b4 marriage agreed to not have any more child due to old age ,cost ,and no personal time for self , then I agreed to have child but b4 that I got her and my fertility tested ,she had weak eggs and syst on her reproductive organs and doc warned to not go for pregnancy due to risk and probability of unhealthy baby birth , but she kept repeating That she want child we consulted 4 Drs. She used to fight and go to her mother's home for 2/4 months after living with me for 2/3 days only . Now she wants divorce , and asks me to keep my girl in hostel if I want her in my life . This Ramayan has left me baffled , What should I do ??? .....
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The reason to marry for you mainly has been companionship, a mother for your daughter...
And marriage is not a transaction BUT a meeting of minds...when there is no compatibility, there is no space for agreeing on the same things or wanting to make things work which is possibly what has happened with your 2nd and 3rd marriage.
If you want this marriage to work, there has to be an equal commitment by both of you, so, start by emotionally bonding first. Slowly build on this by making goals for the marriage and the future...your only goal can't be mother for your child...not all women are going to readily accept this and some may even falter along the way. Allow the lady and your daughter to bond together for sometime so they develop a unique relationship...
Understand that transactional relationships do not last; so, invest enough time in building trust in that companionship for it to become something meaningful

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 14, 2025Hindi
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Hi Mam, I met my ex wife in the college where we both were pursuing out studies. We exchanged contacts and started speaking over phone like couple does. When we fall in live we ourselves don't know as no one propose to each other. As i finished my studies, she quit studies in the middle and decided to do hotel management course. Amd it so happened, next day her interview was lined up but unfortunately due to unavoidable circumstances she has to go to her native place. As Covid struck she git stuck in her native place and couldn't come back. And when everything became normal i insisted her to come but her mom was not allowing. After a lot of struggle her mom allowed her and she came back. In this course of time both families was aware about our relationship. My mom was against her because of 2 reasons, 1) Intercaste 2) She was from very poor and low caste background. Them too i continued the relationship and i convinced to my sister and she convinced to mom. And when she was in native place, she said once that her voice has gone has gone she need 50k for operation. I trying madly to arrange funds and one of my friend told me that she is playing with you be careful but as i was blind in love i necer listened him. When she came to Mumbai i arranged a pg accommodation for her for some time and i use to take her out for dinner as there use to be regular fights with owner. Somehow i convinced my mom and shifted her to my place. There use to be fights but we use to care for each other also at the same time. She started to do events and slowly and steadily started to work in media. She was well aware that i dont like girls working media then too i have her permission to work in media temporary. I went against everyone, my family and friend and after 7yrs of relationship we decided to get marry and it was working fine. After marriage fight increased and she used to taunt though i did so much for her. Once she was not well and as she used to taunt me i never took care of her. One day my dear friend told me to check her phone, she might be seeing someone. And when i checked she was having an affair with Assistant director, i saw msgs photos. And when i confronted she said "He is just a friend and we talk normally" I saw they both on one bed and when i forward their pics to her mom she said "There might be some problem in you only." And when i asked to my ex wife about all this she said "A person goes where he or she gets love and care" All this happened within 6-8 months of our marriage. When i came to know about all this i tod her to leave my house and she was asking for divorce because of my mon's behavior also. I think i should have not tell her to leave as when she left i don't know but i love her very much. I even told her to give me one chance as i gave her but she didn't stopped talking with her bf. And she didn't gave me a chance and went away. We have been legally divorced but still i love her and ready to accept her. But she doesn't want to come back. I am trying to forget her but couldn't. Luckily we don't have kids. Sometimes my heart says let her go she cheated you. Sometimes it says i love now also. I am struggling to forgot her as i am in contact now also. Please suggest. Thank you
Ans: it's important to acknowledge and honor the love you felt and still feel. Love doesn’t simply disappear overnight, and it’s natural to have lingering emotions, especially when you’ve shared so much history and effort to keep the relationship going. However, it’s also crucial to recognize the harm and hurt caused by her actions and the unresolved issues that led to the breakdown of your marriage.

The fact that she chose not to return and continues to maintain contact with the person she was involved with suggests that she has moved on emotionally, even if you haven’t. Holding onto hope for reconciliation can keep you trapped in a cycle of pain and longing, which makes it harder to heal and move forward.

Your heart and mind are sending you mixed signals because you’re torn between the love you still feel and the reality of the betrayal. This is a common struggle after a significant loss, but it’s important to focus on what’s best for your emotional well-being. Continuing to be in contact with her may be preventing you from healing fully. It might be beneficial to create some distance, at least temporarily, to allow yourself the space to process your feelings and begin the healing process.

Focusing on yourself and your own growth is essential. Consider engaging in activities that bring you joy, spending time with supportive friends and family, and possibly seeking professional counseling to help you work through your emotions and develop strategies to move forward.

Letting go is difficult, especially when you still have love for someone, but it’s a crucial step towards healing. Accepting that the relationship has ended and focusing on your future can help you find peace and eventually open the door to new possibilities for love and happiness.

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I am a 65+ retired govt employee. My monthly pension is rs 100000 as of today.My wife gets rs 26500 monthly rent from a flat in Banglore.She has a 300000 lac senior citizen bank account from where she receive 60000 thousand in three month. We both have ppf account for 7 years where we contribute rs 150000 each anualy .We have invested rs 100000 lac in stock in good company.We also have a fixed deposit of 200000 lac in psu bank.We have no insurance cover of any type but our names are co-included in my daughter’s insurance cover.We also don’t invest in mutual fund.Our medical expenses are reimbursed by government though it takes some time. Our childrens are highly educated,well paid in multinational company in India and aboard.My both daughters are married.Only son working in USA is likely to be married soon.We save something like 04 lac annually. We don’t have more than 50000 in saving account for anytime.We don’t have any type of loans either. Pl advice if this is all ok or we should save more. Pl advise
Ans: Your financial position is strong. You have stable income sources and no liabilities.

However, there are areas where you can improve. Let’s assess your financial stability and suggest better allocation.

Current Financial Position
Income Sources
Pension: Rs. 1,00,000 per month.

Rental Income: Rs. 26,500 per month from your wife’s Bangalore flat.

Interest from Senior Citizen Bank Account: Rs. 60,000 every three months.

Total Annual Income: Rs. 18.86 lakh (excluding stock dividends).

Savings and Investments
Public Provident Fund (PPF): Rs. 1,50,000 each per year for 7 years.

Stocks: Rs. 1 crore invested in good companies.

Fixed Deposits: Rs. 2 crore in PSU banks.

Savings Account Balance: Less than Rs. 50,000 at any time.

Annual Savings: Rs. 4 lakh.

Insurance and Medical Cover
No personal health or life insurance.

Medical expenses reimbursed by the government, though with delays.

Included in daughter’s insurance policy.

Areas That Need Attention
Emergency Fund Planning
Your savings account balance is too low.

Keep Rs. 5-10 lakh in a liquid fund or sweep-in FD.

This will help in case of sudden expenses.

Health Insurance Protection
Depending on government reimbursement is risky.

Delayed reimbursements can cause financial stress.

Buy a personal senior citizen health insurance plan.

This ensures quick cashless hospitalisation if needed.

Investment Diversification
Too much money is in FDs and stocks.

FDs provide safety but do not beat inflation.

Stocks provide growth but can be volatile.

You don’t invest in mutual funds, which can provide balanced returns.

Allocate part of the FD amount to actively managed mutual funds.

This will improve long-term returns while keeping risk moderate.

PPF Strategy
PPF is a safe option, but liquidity is an issue.

Continue investing as it helps with tax savings.

However, don’t over-allocate beyond tax benefits.

Future Financial Planning
Retirement Corpus Allocation
You have built a strong retirement corpus.

Ensure withdrawals are planned for long-term sustainability.

Use a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) from mutual funds.

This provides a steady monthly income while preserving capital.

Wealth Transfer and Estate Planning
Your children are financially stable.

Prepare a will to distribute wealth as per your wishes.

Consider a trust for smooth wealth transfer.

Keep nominee details updated for all assets.

Finally
Your financial foundation is strong.

Increase emergency savings for liquidity.

Get a senior citizen health insurance policy for faster claims.

Diversify investments beyond FDs and stocks.

Invest in mutual funds for balanced risk and inflation protection.

Plan estate distribution for hassle-free wealth transfer.

With these changes, your financial stability will improve further.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

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I am a 53 year old male working abroad. I am well covered in terms of medical insurance and life insurance. Pls guide me on further investments to make as regards to these goals 1) My plan to retire at 60 with 1.5 lakhs per month withdrawal from SWP 2) Son will complete engineering in 3 years, planning for his higher education abroad. 3) Daughters marriage in 5 years. Also any other avenues to invest (do you recommend AIF?) or should i continue to invest in what i have done so far? I have below investments so far: PPF 51 lakhs EPF 32 lakhs MF (total cumulative) 5.5 crores Employee superannuity+gratuity 14.5 lakhs NPS 15 lakhs Monthly MF SIP ongoing 2 lakhs Company FD 10 lakhs Gold 16 lakhs
Ans: Your financial discipline and structured investments are remarkable. You have built a strong portfolio, and your goals are well-defined. Now, let’s optimise your investments to ensure smooth execution of your plans.

Retirement Plan – Rs 1.5 Lakhs Monthly Withdrawal from SWP
Your Corpus Requirement: You need a corpus that generates Rs 1.5 lakh per month.
Existing Portfolio Strength: Your mutual funds and NPS provide strong long-term growth.
Strategy for Stability:
Allocate part of your corpus to hybrid and debt mutual funds for stability.
Keep 2-3 years of expenses in liquid or ultra-short-term funds.
Use a mix of equity and debt mutual funds for SWP to manage volatility.
Gradually move some equity investments to balanced funds before retirement.
Continue investing in mutual funds to ensure corpus longevity.
Son’s Higher Education – 3 Years Away
Estimated Costs: Higher education abroad is expensive and varies by country.
Liquidity Requirement: Funds should be easily accessible within 3 years.
Investment Strategy:
Move part of your mutual funds to short-duration or dynamic bond funds.
Keep a portion in fixed deposits to safeguard against market fluctuations.
Avoid equity investments for this goal, as the time horizon is short.
Daughter’s Marriage – 5 Years Away
Time Horizon: Five years allows for a balanced investment approach.
Investment Strategy:
Keep 50% in conservative hybrid funds for stability.
Allocate 30% in large-cap mutual funds for moderate growth.
Keep 20% in fixed-income instruments to protect against volatility.
Redeem investments in phases to avoid market fluctuations.
Review of Existing Investments
PPF & EPF:

These provide stable returns but lack liquidity.
Continue them for long-term safety but avoid fresh investments.
Mutual Funds (Rs 5.5 Crores Total):

Your SIP of Rs 2 lakh per month is well-structured.
Maintain equity allocation for long-term growth.
Ensure diversification across large-cap, mid-cap, and hybrid funds.
Monitor fund performance annually and rebalance if needed.
NPS (Rs 15 Lakhs):

Good for retirement but lacks full liquidity.
Continue contributions for additional tax benefits.
Employee Superannuation & Gratuity (Rs 14.5 Lakhs):

Treat this as a retirement safety net.
Avoid using this fund for short-term needs.
Company FD (Rs 10 Lakhs):

Provides stability but offers lower returns.
Avoid increasing FD exposure as it is taxable and may not beat inflation.
Gold (Rs 16 Lakhs):

A reasonable allocation for diversification.
Do not invest further unless required for family traditions.
Should You Invest in AIF?
Alternative Investment Funds (AIFs) Are High Risk

They are illiquid and require large-ticket investments.
Returns are uncertain compared to mutual funds.
They lack transparency and regulatory oversight like traditional investments.
Stick to What Works

Your mutual fund portfolio is already diversified and growing well.
Instead of AIFs, you can consider actively managed mutual funds for better liquidity and control.
Additional Investment Avenues
International Mutual Funds

To diversify across global markets.
Useful since your son’s education goal is abroad.
Debt Mutual Funds for Short-Term Goals

Better taxation benefits than FDs.
Suitable for education and marriage planning.
Hybrid Funds for Retirement Stability

Offers a balance between equity and debt.
Reduces volatility while ensuring steady returns.
Finally
Your portfolio is well-structured and diversified.
Stick to mutual funds and avoid AIFs for now.
Optimise asset allocation to ensure stability and liquidity.
Continue SIPs for wealth accumulation and long-term financial security.
Keep reviewing your portfolio and rebalance as required.
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My wife and I are both 55. We would like to retire in the next five years. We live in Mumbai, where the cost of living is high. Our monthly expenses are around ₹1.2 lakhs, excluding any medical emergencies. We have two children settled abroad, and while we’ve saved ₹1 crore in mutual funds, ₹50 lakhs in FDs, and ₹20 lakhs in PPF, we’re concerned about the long-term sustainability of our funds given the rising living costs here. We’re considering relocating to a smaller city like Pune or Nashik, where property prices and daily expenses are more manageable. However, we’re worried about healthcare access, social connections, and whether this move will truly offer financial benefits. What financial and lifestyle factors should we evaluate before making such a big decision?
Ans: You have planned well for your retirement. A Rs 1.7 crore corpus is a good foundation. However, with rising living costs, careful planning is needed to ensure financial security. Relocating to a smaller city can reduce expenses, but it has other factors to consider.

Key Financial Considerations
1. Analysing Your Retirement Corpus
Your current investments of Rs 1.7 crore need to support you for at least 30 years.
Inflation will increase living costs over time.
A sustainable withdrawal strategy is required to avoid depleting funds early.
2. Expected Monthly Expenses Post-Retirement
Current expenses are Rs 1.2 lakh per month.
Relocating may reduce costs, but essential expenses remain.
Medical costs tend to rise with age, so a buffer is needed.
3. Income from Investments
FDs provide stable returns but are taxable.
PPF matures soon, but withdrawals must be planned.
Mutual funds offer growth, but market fluctuations must be considered.
A mix of these assets can help maintain cash flow.
4. Tax Implications on Withdrawals
Mutual fund redemptions have capital gains tax.
FD interest is taxable as per income slab.
Efficient tax planning can help reduce liabilities.
Factors to Consider Before Relocation
1. Cost of Living in a Smaller City
Pune and Nashik have lower rental and grocery expenses than Mumbai.
Utility bills, transportation, and leisure costs are also lower.
A detailed comparison of current vs expected expenses is needed.
2. Healthcare Facilities
Mumbai has world-class hospitals with specialists.
Smaller cities have good hospitals but may lack super-speciality care.
Access to emergency healthcare and quality medical services is crucial.
3. Social Life and Lifestyle Changes
Mumbai offers an active social life and conveniences.
Smaller cities may have fewer social events and entertainment options.
Adjusting to a new environment after decades in Mumbai can be difficult.
4. Proximity to Children and Travel Costs
Your children are settled abroad.
International travel costs will be a recurring expense.
Mumbai has better flight connectivity than smaller cities.
5. Rental vs Buying a Property in a New City
Buying property in retirement reduces financial flexibility.
Renting offers mobility and liquidity.
A trial period in the new city before finalising relocation is advisable.
Investment Strategy for a Secure Retirement
1. Maintaining Liquidity for Regular Expenses
Keep at least 2 years of expenses in liquid assets.
FDs and liquid mutual funds provide stability and accessibility.
Avoid locking funds in long-term investments.
2. Growing Wealth for the Long Term
Equity mutual funds can help combat inflation.
Debt funds provide stable returns with lower risk.
A balanced portfolio ensures both growth and stability.
3. Medical and Contingency Planning
Increase health insurance coverage for future needs.
Keep an emergency fund for unexpected medical expenses.
Regular health check-ups can help in early diagnosis.
4. Safe Withdrawal Strategy
Limit annual withdrawals to avoid depleting savings early.
Adjust withdrawals based on market performance.
Diversifying income sources can ensure financial security.
Finally
Relocating can reduce expenses but must be evaluated for healthcare access and lifestyle impact. A well-structured investment strategy can make retirement stress-free.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 07, 2025Hindi
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I’m 53 now. My spouse and I have saved diligently for retirement. Together we’ve built a corpus of ₹1.5 crore through mutual fund SIPs, PPF, and NPS contributions. Our two children, both in their late 20s, are financially independent but still early in their careers. We’re considering downsizing from our current house, worth ₹1.8 crore, to free up equity and move closer to one of our children. We’re debating whether to discuss our retirement plans with them, especially regarding potential financial assistance if we face health issues in the future. We also want to clarify any inheritance expectations and ensure they’re not financially burdened later. Please advice how to have a stress-free retirement plan.
Ans: You have planned your retirement well. Now, you need a stress-free approach to enjoy it.

Let’s create a structured plan for financial security and family discussions.

Assessing Your Current Financial Position
Retirement Corpus: Rs. 1.5 crore in mutual funds, PPF, and NPS.
House Value: Rs. 1.8 crore.
Children’s Status: Financially independent but early in their careers.
Potential Downsizing: Considering selling the house for liquidity.
Future Concerns: Health costs, financial support, inheritance, and stress-free living.
Your savings provide a solid base. But planning ahead is crucial.

Should You Downsize Your House?
Selling will free up capital for better investments.

A smaller house will reduce maintenance and property tax costs.

Moving closer to children will offer emotional and logistical support.

Consider renting instead of buying again for more flexibility.

Structuring Your Investments for Retirement
Ensure a Steady Monthly Income
Keep part of your corpus in mutual funds with Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWP).

Invest in a mix of flexi-cap, mid-cap, and debt funds for stability and growth.

Avoid index funds, as actively managed funds perform better in the long run.

Emergency and Health Fund
Keep Rs. 10-15 lakh in liquid funds for medical and emergency needs.

Ensure you have adequate health insurance to cover medical costs.

If needed, set aside funds for assisted living or home healthcare later.

Should You Talk to Your Children About Finances?
Clarifying Expectations
Your children are financially independent but may not be prepared for your needs.

Have an open conversation about healthcare, inheritance, and financial support.

Make sure they understand your plans to avoid future stress.

Discussing Financial Assistance
If needed, discuss potential financial support in case of emergencies.

Avoid becoming financially dependent on them unless absolutely necessary.

Keep them informed about your health insurance and long-term care plans.

Managing Inheritance and Estate Planning
Prepare a clear will to avoid legal complications.

Nominate beneficiaries for all investments, insurance, and bank accounts.

Inform your children about your financial plans without creating unnecessary expectations.

Finally
Your retirement is well-planned. But small adjustments will enhance security.

Sell your house if it aligns with your lifestyle goals.

Ensure a steady income from mutual funds while keeping an emergency fund.

Talk to your children about expectations but maintain financial independence.

A stress-free retirement is possible with proper planning and clarity.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Hello Sir, I’m planning to construct a house within the next 12 to 15 months. I have already received a pre-approved home loan, but I need to accumulate an additional ₹60 lakh. I plan to save between ₹30,000 to ₹50,000 each month. Could you suggest the best investment options for this amount, such as Fixed Deposits, RDs, Mutual Fund SIPs, etc.? While I’m open to SIPs, I’m unsure about the market conditions when I’ll need to withdraw the funds.
Ans: You have a clear financial goal and a disciplined savings plan. Since your time horizon is short, choosing the right investment options is crucial. Safety, liquidity, and stable returns should be the focus.

Key Considerations for Investment Choices
You need Rs 60 lakh in 12-15 months.
Market-linked instruments carry short-term volatility.
Stability and liquidity are more important than high returns.
Capital preservation is a priority.
Investment Options Based on Risk and Returns
1. Fixed Deposits for Stability
FDs provide assured returns without market risk.
Choose short-term FDs with flexible withdrawal options.
Laddering deposits can help manage liquidity better.
Premature withdrawal may have a penalty but ensures emergency access.
2. Recurring Deposits for Systematic Savings
RDs offer stable returns with disciplined monthly investments.
Suitable for parking Rs 30,000 to Rs 50,000 per month.
Works best when combined with other safer instruments.
3. Debt Mutual Funds for Moderate Growth
Suitable for earning slightly better returns than FDs.
Opt for low-risk funds to avoid market volatility.
Ensure easy liquidity for fund withdrawal within 12-15 months.
Gains are taxed as per income slab, so tax impact must be considered.
4. Liquid Funds for Parking Lumpsum Amounts
Best for parking funds with better liquidity than FDs.
Withdrawal is processed within 24 hours on working days.
Offers stable returns without market fluctuations.
A good option for money required in the last few months.
5. Ultra Short-Term Funds for Balanced Approach
Suitable for a 12-15 month horizon with stable returns.
Carries slightly higher risk than liquid funds but offers better returns.
Low volatility compared to equity-based investments.
Investment Plan Based on Monthly Savings
Allocate 50% in FDs and RDs for safety.
Park 30% in ultra short-term and liquid funds for flexibility.
Invest 20% in debt mutual funds for slightly better returns.
Finally
Avoid equity investments due to short tenure. Prioritise safety over returns to ensure smooth fund availability for house construction.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

...Read more

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