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Suganya Question by Suganya on Nov 08, 2024Hindi
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Hi Mam we are living happily from marriage to till now. But for last three months i m in stressed because my husband schoolmates formed a watsapp group and he is always on the phone and talking to another woman that is his ex. I convey to him that I am uncomfortable so don't speak but he continues.

Ans: Dear Suganya,
Well, this is not a good sign...it's like a child finding his/her old toy that was lost and then find great happiness in playing with it. Just that for your husband, this has become a habit.
Yes, you are uncomfortable and yes, your husband must understand this...if he doesn't, it's unfortunate.
Actually set up a date night, just the two of you...talk, express...allow him time to understand that it's not about who he is talking to but what that is doing to you...
Maybe the chat is clean and there is nothing...but he needs to take you along until you are ready to understand this. Of course, you are free to not or never understand in which case his marriage takes prominence and he needs to make a choice...

All the best!
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Asked on - Nov 12, 2024 | Answered on Nov 18, 2024
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Thank you mam. I conveyed to both of them that I feel uncomfortable but they still saying that I understood wrongly and there is nothing between them.but my husband shares everything with her but not with me. Me and my husband had a difference of ten years may this might be a reason and I m a house wife after completing twelth I got married and then i didn't study. He is a good caring husband and good father for my two childrens and nice person. But I feel uncomfortable only with this problem what to do may be I am thinking wrong.
Ans: Dear Suganya,
Never let anyone make you feel low or less...So, if you are a homemaker, that's your choice and if that is the reason that your husband seeks the company of another woman, then he honestly does not deserve your attention and love. He will realize it over time...
What you can do in the meanwhile is to develop your identity, your personality that is different from your husband. have a friends circle where you not only have fun but also do something together which is besides what family responsibilities demand. Since your husband is caring towards you and your children, that is a huge plus point...request him one day or half day over the weekend, to take care of the children, where you can go along with these friends to trek or on a picnic or doing some voluntary work or just about anything...you will have something to look forward to and this will also give your husband a signal that you don't look to him for your happiness. This will surely make him wonder what he is doing with the other person and that realization will also have a positive effect on the marriage.

All the best!
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Asked on - Nov 18, 2024 | Answered on Nov 18, 2024
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Thank you so much mam. I definitely work on this and see the difference in myself.
Ans: Dear Suganya,
Thank you for acknowledging. Changes maybe slow, but never give up...Learn to love yourself and then you will find that you do not depend on anyone else for your happiness...

All the best!
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Asked on - Dec 09, 2024 | Answered on Dec 10, 2024
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Thank you so much mam your words are so refreshing to me and relieving my mind from depression once again thank you so much
Ans: Dear Suganya,
I am truly happy that you are happy as well. Thank you for your kind words.

All the best!
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Dear LK,
Some people are absolutely finicky when it comes to their privacy.

They love protecting and guarding their space and allow no one into it.

I am sure this causes you to think that there might be more to it and that’s why it has begun to bother you.

If you have been complaining about this, he mostly likely will retract and become defensive and not even offer an explanation to it.

Instead have you tried, being softer, yet assertive in a way that you make him realise that it bothers you. Also, an assurance that you are not out to stalk him or spy on his movements but give him that space where he can be free around you.

It might take time for him to release the old behaviour and form a new one, and you can simply support that change by reiterating that you are part of his journey and that it is okay for him to take a call with you and that you will not judge him for anything.

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I am pregnant.. We hd love Marriage.... But after marriage i came to know that my husband hd 3 relationship with Married women and hd child with one. Still after marriage one of the women calls him and even me to disturb.. She infored me that my husband hd taken money from her and she need it all back... I tired asking about it but my husband ignores that questions.... but very single day that ex women calls me and disturbs me. She only inform me about all his Affairs..... Please help me
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your husband seems to have been in a series on relationships...This could be a pattern; a habit, something that needs intervention.
What is your stand in all of this? Are you fine with knowing about all this after marriage?
What is the reason that he hid this from you?
How are you sure that he is not in a relationship with someone else right now?
This is not to frighten you but for you to start taking note of how this could affect your life.

As for the woman who keeps calling you about your husband; you were not a part of their relationship, they did not consult with you before having the child...why should you be involved in that? Tell her to contact him and leave you alone.
I would also caution you that this woman could also be lying as your husband possibly could have ignored her BUT what makes me suspect him is the fact that he kept all this hidden from you.

So, it's time that your husband came clean...Ask and do not rest till you get your answers! You will save yourself from a lot of pain and agony...

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Further to my previous query, my wife is still secretly talking to her ex boyfriend and chatting with him on watsapp behind my back. She is very cautious with her phone and always places it heads down and it is always locked. This is really bothering me? I dont know what to do.. our relation is good and i dont want to ask her again and confront this as she may think i am controlling her. I dont want this to continue? How can i make her stop talking to him? Please advise
Ans: First, it's important to acknowledge your feelings. It’s perfectly normal to feel uneasy and even hurt by your wife's behavior. When someone we care deeply about maintains contact with an ex in a hidden manner, it can shake our sense of security and trust. Your emotions are valid, and they deserve thoughtful consideration.

To navigate this, it’s essential to approach the situation with a focus on open communication rather than confrontation. Start by reflecting on what exactly bothers you about her communication with her ex. Is it the secrecy, the content of their conversations, or how often they’re in touch? Understanding your emotions clearly can help you articulate them better when the time comes to talk.

Choose a calm, private moment to have this conversation with your wife. It’s best to avoid bringing it up in the heat of the moment or when either of you is stressed. A peaceful setting will help you both engage more constructively. When you speak to her, try to express your feelings calmly and use “I” statements. For example, you might say, “I feel uncomfortable and uneasy when I see you being secretive with your phone because it makes me feel excluded and anxious.” This way, you’re sharing your emotions without sounding accusatory, which can help her understand your perspective without feeling attacked.

After you’ve shared your feelings, give her a chance to explain her side. There might be reasons for her behavior that you haven’t considered. Listening to her perspective can provide valuable insights and help you understand her actions better. It's crucial to approach this conversation with an open mind and a willingness to understand her viewpoint.

Discussing your boundaries and expectations regarding interactions with ex-partners can be helpful. Every relationship has different comfort levels when it comes to staying in touch with past relationships. Finding a balance that respects both of your feelings and fosters trust is important. If she acknowledges your discomfort and agrees to limit or end contact with her ex, you can work together to rebuild trust. This might involve more open communication, sharing more about each other’s day, or finding ways to reconnect emotionally.

If the issue persists or if you find it challenging to navigate this on your own, seeking help from a relationship counselor can be very beneficial. A professional can provide a neutral space to explore your concerns and work on solutions together. They can offer strategies to improve your communication and help both of you feel heard and understood.

Remember, the goal is not to control your wife’s actions but to address your discomfort and work towards a solution that strengthens your relationship. Trust and transparency are key components of a healthy partnership, and addressing these issues openly can help you both grow closer. With patience, understanding, and a willingness to listen and compromise, you can navigate this challenge together and come out stronger on the other side.

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Ans: In your heart, it’s clear that you love him deeply and that, ideally, you want to preserve your family and relationship. However, it’s important not to dismiss your own needs for validation, love, and respect. Sometimes, the process of forgiveness includes setting strong, clear boundaries. Your husband needs to understand that while you’re willing to work on the relationship, trust is fragile and requires commitment to restore. This might mean a commitment on his part to keep all communication with this colleague strictly professional and transparent, or even a decision to minimize interactions with her entirely if necessary. Expressing these boundaries clearly may help him see the gravity of what’s at stake.

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Ans: A fund of Rs 1 crore in 5 years is an ambitious goal.

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Analysing Investment Options
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Avoid index funds; they lack active management advantages.

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Importance of Regular Fund Investments
Avoid Direct Funds

Direct funds lack advisory support for tax or portfolio management.

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Avoid Sector-Specific Funds

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Risk Management and Contingency Planning
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Avoid withdrawing from growth investments during the goal period.

Taxation Considerations
Equity funds have LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

STCG for equity funds is taxed at 20%.

Debt funds are taxed as per your income tax slab.

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Track Fund Performance

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If you hold LIC or ULIP policies, consider surrendering them.

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Aligning with Financial Discipline
Stay invested for the full tenure to benefit from compounding.

Avoid panic selling during market downturns.

Regular investments and patience are key to achieving Rs 1 crore.

Final Insights
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Dear sir My daughter, Her Age is 26, Started investing in 2000 per month in Bandhan Small Cap Fund, HDFC Large & Midcap Fund and SBI Magnum Comma Fund @ 2000/- each. Planning to invest for a period of 15 - 20 years. She is also like to add additonal 10,000 per MT in due course. Would like to know the above said Mutual Funds are better or suggest any better funds so that she can diversify her funds.
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Benefits and Limitations of Current Funds
Small Cap Funds: These funds can offer high growth but are riskier during market downturns. It’s important to assess risk tolerance and market cycles.

Large & Midcap Funds: These funds tend to provide balanced exposure and relatively better stability compared to small caps, but they may not achieve the same high returns during bullish phases.

Sector or Thematic Funds (like the SBI Magnum Comma Fund): Sectoral funds can be beneficial during a boom in their respective sectors but can underperform during sector-specific downturns. Diversification across sectors is important.

Recommendations for Diversification and Growth
To provide a more balanced portfolio and achieve better risk-adjusted returns, diversification across fund types and investment styles is crucial. Consider the following points:

Actively Managed Equity Funds: Actively managed funds with skilled fund managers can outperform in various market conditions. This is especially important for Indian markets, where a proactive approach can yield better results.

Balanced or Hybrid Funds: These funds can balance risk by investing in both equity and debt instruments, offering moderate growth with less volatility.

Systematic Investment Plan (SIP) Increase**: Increasing SIP contributions, as planned, can significantly boost your daughter’s long-term corpus through the power of compounding. Regular top-ups, combined with diversified funds, will help in creating a stable portfolio.

Multi-Cap Funds: Multi-cap funds invest across all market caps and provide better diversification. They can help mitigate the risks associated with market-cap-specific funds.

Additional Key Considerations
Regular Fund Review: Actively review fund performance every six months or annually. This will help realign the portfolio based on performance and market trends.

Avoid Direct Funds: Direct funds may seem cost-effective but lack advisory support. Investing through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) ensures informed decisions, portfolio rebalancing, and tax optimization. The benefits of regular funds via an MFD with a CFP credential outweigh the perceived cost savings of direct funds.

Points on Tax Efficiency
Tax Planning: Be mindful of long-term and short-term capital gains taxation. While equity mutual funds have a LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5% and STCG at 20%, debt funds are taxed as per the income slab. Consider this when diversifying into debt or hybrid options.

Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP): For tax-efficient withdrawals later, consider using SWPs. They allow for periodic withdrawals while minimizing tax implications.

Investment Strategy for Additional Rs 10,000 Per Month
Incremental SIPs: The additional Rs 10,000 can be diversified into multi-cap, flexi-cap, or hybrid funds. This can provide exposure across different market segments and reduce risk concentration.

Sectoral Funds with Caution: If she is interested in thematic funds, it should be a smaller portion (around 10-15%) of her portfolio. Over-reliance on sectors can result in higher volatility.

Emergency Fund and Risk Coverage: Ensure she has a proper emergency fund and adequate insurance coverage. This provides a safety net and ensures long-term goals are not compromised by unforeseen events.

Financial Literacy and Discipline
Stay Informed: Encourage her to regularly learn about market trends and investment principles. Financial literacy will empower her to make independent and informed decisions.

Patience and Discipline: Investing in equity mutual funds requires patience and discipline. Encourage her to remain invested through market cycles and avoid panic selling.

Avoiding Common Pitfalls
Don’t Over-Diversify: While diversification is important, holding too many funds can dilute returns and make tracking cumbersome. Aim for a balanced number of well-researched funds.

Avoid Performance Chasing: Funds that perform well now may not sustain that performance. Focus on funds with consistent track records rather than the latest top performers.

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Your daughter's current and planned investments show promising potential if aligned with a disciplined and diversified strategy. Ensure she leverages professional guidance through a Certified Financial Planner and stays informed about market trends and regulations. Long-term discipline and strategic allocation will help maximize wealth creation.

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Need to invest in mf thru SIP of rs 10000 monthly with time horizon of 3 years and one lumpsum investment of rs 25 lacs in mf. Which are best options? Regards GK Raju
Ans: Your plan to invest Rs. 10,000 monthly through SIP for 3 years and Rs. 25 lakhs as a lumpsum is an excellent step. Let us evaluate and design an optimal strategy for both investments to suit your goals and time horizon.

SIP Investment for a 3-Year Horizon
A 3-year horizon is relatively short for equity mutual funds. Hence, capital preservation and moderate growth should be the primary goals.

Recommended Fund Categories
Hybrid Funds: These balance equity and debt, offering lower risk than pure equity funds. They are suitable for a 3-year horizon.

Arbitrage Funds: These invest in arbitrage opportunities and have minimal risk. They are a safer choice for short-term SIPs.

Short-Term Debt Funds: These focus on fixed-income instruments with shorter maturities, ensuring stability and predictable returns.

Key Considerations
Risk Mitigation: For a short horizon, avoid high-risk funds like small-cap or thematic funds.

Liquidity: Choose funds with no exit load beyond one year for better flexibility.

Lumpsum Investment of Rs. 25 Lakhs
Lumpsum investments require careful allocation to balance risk and return, especially over 3-5 years.

Recommended Fund Categories
Dynamic Asset Allocation Funds: These adjust equity and debt allocation based on market conditions, offering balanced returns.

Equity Savings Funds: These combine equity, arbitrage, and debt for steady growth with controlled risk.

Corporate Bond Funds: These focus on high-quality debt instruments and are ideal for preserving capital while earning stable returns.

Short-Term Debt Funds: These ensure low risk and predictable returns, making them suitable for conservative investors.

Avoid High-Risk Investments
Avoid pure equity funds for lumpsum investment over 3 years. The short horizon increases market timing risk.
Thematic and sectoral funds should also be avoided due to volatility and concentration risk.
Tax Implications for Both Investments
Understanding taxation is crucial for maximising post-tax returns.

Equity Funds: Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20% for holdings under one year. Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.

Debt Funds: Both STCG and LTCG are taxed as per your income tax slab.

Hybrid Funds: Taxation depends on the equity-debt ratio. If equity exposure is over 65%, equity taxation rules apply.

Arbitrage Funds: Treated as equity funds for taxation purposes.

Active Funds vs Index Funds
Active funds aim to outperform the market and are managed by expert fund managers.
Index funds only mirror the market and may underperform during volatile periods.
For a 3-year horizon, actively managed funds provide better growth potential and risk management.
Importance of Regular Plans Over Direct Plans
Regular plans offer professional monitoring by a Certified Financial Planner (CFP).
CFPs optimise asset allocation and ensure timely portfolio rebalancing.
Direct plans lack advisory support, leading to missed opportunities or inefficient decisions.
Final Insights
For your Rs. 10,000 SIP, hybrid or short-term debt funds are ideal for balancing growth and stability. Arbitrage funds can also be considered for their low-risk profile.

For the Rs. 25 lakh lumpsum, dynamic asset allocation funds and corporate bond funds offer a balanced and low-risk investment approach.

By combining these fund types, you can achieve steady returns and protect your capital over the next 3 years. Consult a Certified Financial Planner to tailor the investments further to your needs.

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Looking to start SIP . We came up with flexi cap , multi cap and thematic fund for investment . Kindly guide if i had to choose just one , which one would be better.
Ans: Your interest in starting a SIP in equity mutual funds is a great step. Selecting the right category is key for achieving your financial goals. Let us assess the three fund types to help you make an informed decision.

Understanding Flexi Cap Funds
Investment Approach: Flexi cap funds invest across large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap stocks.

Flexibility Advantage: Fund managers have the freedom to allocate funds as per market conditions.

Risk and Return Profile: These funds balance stability and growth. They suit investors with moderate to high risk tolerance.

Diversification: You benefit from diversification across market capitalisation, reducing risk.

Recommended For: Long-term investors seeking steady returns with lower volatility.

Overview of Multi Cap Funds
Diversified Investment: Multi cap funds invest at least 25% in large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap stocks.

Balanced Exposure: This allocation ensures exposure to all segments, reducing dependency on one category.

Risk Profile: These funds are slightly riskier than flexi cap funds due to mandated small-cap exposure.

Consistent Returns: Historically, multi cap funds have delivered stable and competitive returns.

Recommended For: Investors aiming for balanced growth over a long term.

Insights on Thematic Funds
Sector-Specific Focus: Thematic funds invest in specific themes, sectors, or industries like technology or infrastructure.

Higher Risk: Concentrated exposure increases sector-specific risk. Returns depend on the theme’s performance.

Volatility: These funds are highly volatile and require active monitoring.

Time-Dependent Success: Themes may perform well only during certain economic phases.

Recommended For: Seasoned investors with a high-risk appetite and deep market understanding.

Key Factors to Consider When Choosing
Investment Horizon
A longer horizon (7-10 years) benefits from flexi cap and multi cap funds.
Thematic funds suit shorter periods if timed with market cycles.
Risk Tolerance
Flexi cap funds carry moderate risk, ideal for balanced investors.
Multi cap funds are riskier but provide exposure to small-cap growth potential.
Thematic funds are best for aggressive investors with sector knowledge.
Diversification
Flexi cap funds offer flexibility and broad diversification.
Multi cap funds mandate a fixed allocation across all market caps.
Thematic funds lack diversification due to sector concentration.
Fund Manager’s Expertise
Thematic funds require a skilled fund manager with a strong understanding of the theme.
Flexi and multi cap funds also depend on manager expertise but involve less concentration risk.
Advantages of Active Funds Over Index Funds
Active funds aim to outperform the market, while index funds only match it.
Skilled fund managers in active funds adjust allocations during market changes.
Index funds may underperform during volatile or corrective phases.
Importance of Investing Through Regular Plans
Regular plans with Certified Financial Planners provide ongoing monitoring.
They ensure timely rebalancing of your portfolio based on market conditions.
Direct plans lack expert guidance, which may lead to missed opportunities.
Final Insights
If you must choose one, flexi cap funds are the most versatile and balanced option. They offer stability, diversification, and growth potential. Multi cap funds are also strong performers for long-term goals.

Thematic funds can be rewarding but are highly volatile and risky. They suit seasoned investors or as a small portion of your overall portfolio.

Focus on aligning your investment choice with your goals and risk appetite. A Certified Financial Planner can help you optimise your SIP strategy for better wealth creation.

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Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Should I Stay Invested in Quant Mid cap , Flexi cap & infrastructure MF or Switch?
Ans: Your investment in mid-cap, flexi-cap, and infrastructure funds is commendable. Let us analyse whether staying invested is better or switching to other funds is necessary.

Assessing Mid-Cap Mutual Funds
Risk and Return Profile: Mid-cap funds invest in medium-sized companies. These funds have high growth potential but come with moderate to high risk.

Market Conditions: Mid-caps perform well during economic growth phases. They might underperform in volatile markets.

Performance Check: Compare your mid-cap fund’s returns with the category average over 5- and 7-year periods. Consistent underperformance might indicate a need to switch.

Recommendation: Stay invested if the fund aligns with your risk profile and shows consistent returns.

Evaluating Flexi-Cap Funds
Diversification Advantage: Flexi-cap funds invest across large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap stocks. This flexibility balances growth and stability.

Fund Manager’s Role: The success of these funds depends heavily on the fund manager’s skill.

Performance Consistency: Check the fund’s track record over multiple market cycles. It should outperform the benchmark consistently.

Recommendation: Continue if the fund provides stability and growth, and aligns with your long-term goals.

Understanding Infrastructure Funds
Sector-Specific Risk: Infrastructure funds focus on a single sector, increasing concentration risk.

Economic Dependency: Their performance is tied to government policies and economic growth.

Volatility: These funds are highly volatile and may not suit conservative investors.

Recommendation: Diversify if you have overexposure to this sector. Stay invested if the sector aligns with your financial goals and risk appetite.

General Guidelines for Mutual Fund Investments
Diversification and Portfolio Balance
Avoid overexposure to one sector or category.
Ensure your portfolio includes large-cap, mid-cap, and sectoral funds for balanced growth.
Fund Performance Review
Review fund performance annually.
Stay with funds that consistently beat their benchmarks.
Tax Implications
Long-term capital gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Short-term gains are taxed at 20%.
Plan exits strategically to minimise tax impact.

Expense Ratio
Check the expense ratio of your funds. High expense ratios eat into returns.
Benefits of Actively Managed Funds Over Index Funds
Actively managed funds aim to outperform the index.
Index funds only replicate market returns.
Fund managers in active funds adjust strategies based on market trends.
Active funds offer better potential for high returns, justifying their expense ratio.

Regular Plans Over Direct Plans
Regular plans through a Certified Financial Planner provide guidance.
They help you rebalance your portfolio and monitor fund performance.
Direct plans lack professional advice, which may lead to suboptimal decisions.
Investing via a certified planner ensures better wealth management.

Final Insights
Your decision should align with your goals, risk profile, and market trends. Mid-cap and flexi-cap funds offer growth, while infrastructure funds require cautious monitoring.

Evaluate fund performance and diversification before making changes. Consulting a Certified Financial Planner can optimise your investment strategy.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I have commercial industrial property in well designated industrial area in delhi of 1800 sq ft worth 1.8 Cr. It is giving me rental value of 60k/month . Need to seek your suggestion whether I dispose it Off and put the money in MF for higher returns or I keep it current way only. My target is purely to have passive income with property and money with target of being invested for next 5-10 years .
Ans: Your commercial property is a valuable asset providing steady rental income. Let us analyse whether keeping it or shifting to mutual funds is better for your passive income goal.

Current Property Returns
Rental Yield: Your property gives Rs. 60,000 per month, or Rs. 7.2 lakh annually.
Yield Percentage: This translates to a rental yield of 4% on Rs. 1.8 crore.
Assessment: A 4% rental yield is on the lower side. Real estate returns largely depend on location and demand.

Market Risk: Property prices may not grow substantially in the short term (5-10 years).
Liquidity: Selling property is time-consuming compared to liquidating mutual funds.
Potential Returns from Mutual Funds
If the property is sold and invested in mutual funds:

Equity Mutual Funds: Could generate 10-12% annualised returns over 5-10 years. Suitable for long-term wealth creation.

Balanced Advantage Funds: Offer moderate risk with potential returns of 8-10%. Ideal for balancing growth and income.

SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan): Generates monthly income while keeping the principal invested. Returns can surpass the rental yield of your property.

Key Factors to Decide
Rental Income vs. SWP Income
Rental Stability: Real estate provides stable monthly income but with lower yield.
SWP Flexibility: Mutual funds via SWP offer flexibility and tax-efficient income.
Growth Potential
Real estate appreciates slowly in urban areas.
Mutual funds, especially equity, have historically outperformed real estate over the long term.
Liquidity
Property sale takes time and effort.
Mutual funds offer liquidity, allowing quick access to funds in emergencies.
Tax Implications
Rental income is taxed based on your slab.
Mutual fund gains have structured taxation rules:
LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh: Taxed at 12.5%.
STCG: Taxed at 20%.
Ensure you calculate post-tax returns when comparing both options.

Suggested Approach
Retain the Property If:
You value stable rental income without much market exposure.
You expect property appreciation in the next 5-10 years due to location demand.
You have emotional or personal attachment to the property.
Sell the Property If:
You seek higher returns for wealth creation and passive income.
You want liquidity and flexibility to diversify investments.
You aim to optimise tax efficiency on your income.
Roadmap for Reinvesting Rs. 1.8 Crore
Short-Term Needs
Keep Rs. 20 lakh in Fixed Deposits or Liquid Mutual Funds for emergencies or opportunities.
Long-Term Investments
Allocate Rs. 1.2 crore to equity mutual funds for growth potential.
Use Rs. 40 lakh in balanced funds for moderate risk and steady returns.
SWP Plan for Passive Income
Set up an SWP from mutual funds to generate monthly income.
Aim for Rs. 80,000 monthly withdrawals to surpass your current rental income.
Final Insights
Your decision depends on risk tolerance and goals. Selling the property and reinvesting can boost income and returns. However, retaining the property ensures stability.

Assess market trends and consult a Certified Financial Planner for tailored advice.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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