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Iam a male aged 42 and my wife is 36.We have kid aged 9 years. We both are working and I visit home during weekends. My wife had developed a viginal allergy which affected our sex life for last two years. Now that the allergy is cured she is unwilling to resume having sex. She is not even comfortable me sleeping close to her or touching her Not even romance is what she is open for. Further she avoids any talks abt these issue which is a reason for my disappointment. Do ladies loose intrest in sex so early. I offlate feel Iam just a room mate than a loving husband.What should I do please advice.

Ans: Dear D,
The experience of the allergy has not been something that she has gotten over with! It still is on her mind and the fear of either getting the allergy back or pain from the sex or something unpleasant happening after sex is what she must be obsessing over. This is affecting her ability to want to get intimate and have sex. Why then would she want to have intimate talks as she fears that it might lead to sex!

And NO, you got it wrong; it's not that ladies lose interest in sex so early; you forgot that she has gone through a vaginal allergy that prevented her from being sexually active. So, that's the one that is playing a lot on her mind.

Instead of getting disappointed, it will be nice to support her, which I am sure you also want to do...
Sit down with her and encourage her to speak about it; without actually asking: Why don't you want sex? Instead ask: is there anything that we can do to ease your stress in getting intimate?
She will know that you are on the same side as her instead of feeling finger pointed and embarrassed. I hope this is making sense. This is something that I am sure you can do. It might just change things a lot and feeling at ease might help loosen her up more. Also, once you cross this stage, indulge in a lot of cuddling and hand holding (women like that, yes)...
If things are status quo, well then, it would help speaking with her gynaecologist or anyone who she can trust...they can help keep her fears at bay and things might resolve itself!

All the best!

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Hello, I am 3 yr neet dropper.in 2025 it will be my third attempt... I'm trying my best to crack neet ...i don't know what will happen will i score good marks or not ... please help me in suggesting good career options if not crack neet .....there are many options through neet marks also like bhms , veterinary...etc. i will also give entrance exam also like cuet ,gbpuat ,....but i want that what to choose which course will be best for me ...i want to make my life good and happy... having a good degree, good job ,...
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Have you analyzed your failure in 2 successive attempts in the NEET examination? If yes, then the question is what you have done for improvement and not then again the question arises why not? Here, I would like to suggest you focus now only on the NEET examination which is your 3rd attempt. Don't think about any other options right now till May 2025. After the NEET exam is over, you have ample time to explore the options available. Depending on your score in NEET 2025, we will guide you at that time. But yet, if you are confused, then looking towards your question and anxiety, you need personal counseling where you can express yourself face-to-face. Only after the NEET exam is over, you contact a counsellor for one-to-one counseling. Till then, keep mum and focus only on NEET. Take this exam as your mission and project. Work on this project, apply forces from all sides, success is there which is waiting for you eagerly.
Best of luck for your bright future.

Some tips: (1) Analyse separately Phy, Che, Bio (2) Prepare a list of hard topics (3) First focus more on the topics which are easy for you and then try to excel in hard topics (4) Appear more and more online/offline examinations (4) Prepare your short-cut file for all subjects (5) Prepare a file for each subject having only synopsis of all chapters (6) Try to solve the problems at the lightening speed and observe the period on regular basis (7) Create your time table to revise the topics on regular basis (8) Do not hesitate to ask your difficulties to your teachers, if you have joined to offline classes (9) Keep the habit of marking the answers which you know 100%. Don't guess the answers and mark them, as there is -ve marking scheme. (10) Be calm, quite, and smiling all the time to release the tension and always have a healthy chat with your friends.

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