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My Boyfriend Hates My Music Video?

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Mar 25, 2025

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Question by Srijal on Mar 25, 2025Hindi

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I shot an mv with one of my friend who is also a friend to my bf. It was a simple video with no awkward or controversial scenes but my bf just hated it and kept on blaming me saying how could i do such an awful thing while he was away for training (btw, he was in his army training phase and got access to phones only on sunday the video got out on saturday). He kept on pastering the same thing over and over again despite me telling him several times that it is not what he thinks it is. It has been 2 years and more since that incident and he again brought that topic. This time he says that his mom saw it and looks really bad and he felt terrible and stuffs like that. hearing this i fell upset and cried too. We've been together for almost 5 years now should I breakup with him for never supporting me and always acting insecure. What's your opinion on this matter?

Ans: Dear Srijal,
If you know there is nothing awkward or controversial about the scenes, keep your head held high. The most you can do here is ask your partner what is it about the situation that’s bothering him so much- if his answer sounds reasonable, you can try to clarify things. But if it is simply his mindset or nature that is making the entire situation more complicated than it is, please rethink this relationship. This might repeat with several other innocent situations.

Hope this helps

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You are worried about you ex not valuing you No-s...then why did you not say NO to him when he asked you for private videos? And here you speak of loyalty? Obviously your ex's obsession over only the physical aspect has upset you and you looked for a more deeper connection which you hoped will happen with the new person. So, what if you had a crush? And that too after you had a break-up...Chill...
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