How to deal with a manipulative, interfering mother-in-law? My husband and father-in-law don't believe that my mother-in-law is capable of doing some things that is affecting me and I can't prove it. This behaviour is affecting our marriage.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Again, I don't have much information as to how and when you feel that your mother-in-law is being manipulative. So, I will assume that she is...
1. Ignore her need to pull you into her drama
2. Be assertive about how you feel
3. Do not expect her to change

Instead, get what you want by being more silent and if need be not give in to her demands. When she is faced with a different behaviour from you, she might be willing to look within herself and change. Arguments only lead to more ego clashes and the need to prove that the other person is wrong. But silence at times, has known to make a point and elicit a change.

All the best!

Ans: Dealing with a challenging mother-in-law can be a delicate situation, but it's important to address these concerns to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse and in-lawsStart by discussing your feelings with your spouse. Share your concerns about your mother-in-law's behavior and how it's affecting you. Ensure that you both are on the same page before addressing the issue with her. When you decide to talk to your mother-in-law, pick a calm and private setting. Avoid confrontations in the heat of the moment, and try to have a rational conversation. Clearly and calmly communicate how her words and actions make you feel. Use "I" statements to express your emotions without blaming her Make it clear what behavior is unacceptable and establish boundaries. Politely but firmly communicate what you are willing and unwilling to tolerate in terms of comments and expectations. If direct communication doesn't yield positive results, consider involving a neutral third party, a trusted family member, to mediate the conversation. Strengthen your relationship with your spouse and build a support system with friends and other family members. Having a strong network can provide emotional support during challenging times. Remember, it may take time to see changes, and it's essential to approach the situation with patience and understanding. Every family dynamic is unique, and finding the right balance may require ongoing effort and communication.