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Gouri Question by Gouri on Apr 03, 2023Hindi
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How can I become happy without any expectations nd those dirty talks can't effect me. I want to be happy

Ans: Hello Gouri

That's beautiful question. Most of us struggle to find happiness in today's world.


Becoming happy without any expectations and being unaffected by negative comments or "dirty talks" from others can be a challenging but achievable goal. Here are some tips that may help you in your journey towards happiness:

Focus on the present moment: Happiness is often found in the present moment, so try to focus on what you're doing right now and enjoy the little things in life. Practice mindfulness, which means being fully present and aware of your thoughts, feelings, and sensations.

Practice gratitude: Take time each day to reflect on the good things in your life and express gratitude for them. This can be as simple as writing down three things you're thankful for each day.

Let go of expectations: Sometimes, expectations can lead to disappointment and unhappiness. Try to let go of expectations and instead, focus on what you can control and what you can do to improve your situation.

Develop a positive mindset: Focus on the positive aspects of situations and try to reframe negative thoughts into more positive ones. Surround yourself with positive people who uplift and support you.

Practice self-care: Taking care of yourself is important for overall happiness. This can include things like getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and doing activities that you enjoy.

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i feel defeated in life how to start again and move on path of happiness
Ans: It's normal to feel defeated and stuck at times, but it's important to remember that it's never too late to start again and work towards a happier life.

Here are some suggestions to help you get started:

Identify your goals and passions: Take some time to reflect on what you want to achieve in life and what makes you happy. This could be a new career path, a hobby, or a personal goal. Identifying your passions and goals can give you a sense of direction and purpose.

Break down your goals into small steps: Once you have identified your goals, break them down into small achievable steps. This can make them feel less daunting and help you stay motivated.

Create a plan: Develop a plan for how you will achieve your goals. This could involve taking classes, networking, or seeking out mentorship or guidance.

Surround yourself with positive people: Seek out the company of people who support and encourage you. Positive relationships can provide you with the emotional support and motivation you need to move forward.

Practice self-care: Taking care of your physical and emotional health is important in achieving happiness. This could involve eating healthy, getting enough rest, and engaging in activities that bring you joy.

Remember, moving on from a difficult time in your life takes time and effort. Be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate this process. Seeking the help of a therapist or counselor can also be beneficial in working through feelings of defeat and developing a plan for moving forward.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 03, 2025Hindi
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I have invested in ICICI Prudential Nifty 50 index SIP. I have noticed that from past 6 months the fund is not performing. Should I keep this fund or liquidate and invest in in multi asset fund?
Ans: The ICICI Prudential Nifty 50 Index Fund replicates the Nifty 50 index. It is a passive fund that mirrors the index performance. The last six months have been volatile for the stock market, which has affected index funds. This is expected in short-term market conditions and does not reflect the long-term potential of index-based funds.

However, relying on index funds for wealth creation in volatile markets may not always be optimal. Active funds offer the flexibility of stock selection, better risk management, and potential for higher returns.

Why Active Funds May Be a Better Choice
Volatility Management: Active fund managers adjust the portfolio based on market trends. This flexibility helps during volatile times.

Higher Growth Potential: Actively managed funds can outperform index funds by investing in sectors and stocks with higher potential.

Diversification: Multi-asset funds allocate across equity, debt, and other asset classes. This reduces risk and provides stability.

Assessing Your Current Investment
Index Fund Performance: While the last six months may seem disappointing, index funds are designed for long-term investors.

Cost Factor: Index funds have lower expense ratios but lack active management during market fluctuations.

Active vs Passive: Actively managed funds are better during periods of market instability. They offer professional stock selection and sector rotation.

Benefits of Multi-Asset Funds
Balanced Portfolio: Multi-asset funds invest in equities, bonds, and gold, diversifying your investment.

Risk Mitigation: Allocation to multiple asset classes reduces portfolio volatility.

Stable Returns: These funds aim to provide consistent returns, even during volatile markets.

Suggested Action Plan
Reevaluate Goals: Align your investment decisions with your financial goals and risk tolerance.

Shift to Active Funds: Consider shifting from the Nifty 50 index fund to an actively managed multi-cap or multi-asset fund.

Monitor Performance: Choose funds with a strong track record and consistent performance across market cycles.

Consult a Certified Financial Planner: A planner can help you select the right actively managed funds and align your investments with your financial plan.

Final Insights
While index funds like ICICI Prudential Nifty 50 are suitable for passive investors, active funds offer an edge in volatile markets. Shifting to a multi-asset or actively managed fund may help you achieve better returns and stability.

Invest wisely, monitor regularly, and stay disciplined to maximise your wealth creation journey.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 02, 2025Hindi
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Hi Sir/Ma'am, I am here to know if there is a problem with my mind or body as I am having a strong sense of demotivation to work towards the upcoming exams. I had taken a 3 months study leave from my work for the upcoming exams to be held in January . The first month was excellent but the next was not good and last month was pathetic. For the past 2 months I have been trying to work hard sincerely but failed. I sat at the study table, but could not achieve my targets. I wrote the targets , but still failed to complete them. I tried watching self help videos and read self help books but nothing is helping me. Today, it is like my brain signals not to work towards any of my targets. I am a CA aspirant and I tried all these ways but nothing worked for me. My exams are in 9 days and my family is not ready to give me any more chances because this is my 7th attempt. Even if I talk about this problem with my family, they become extremely negative and say harsh words about my future. Since I do not have family or friends to talk about it , could you please provide me sincere help in this ?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Kindly work with someone who can get you out of this mindset and into a mindset that is not motivating but also inspiring. Right now what you face is lack of inspiration which is understandable given the many attempts. But you are aware that some professional exams are like this; so persevere...
If it makes sense, take a break from it all...Breaks can refresh the mind and also help you realign yourself back to your goal. But make sure it's a short break and not something that will get you to a place of procrastinating. The break is to help you slow down the mind so that you can bring yourself back to your goal and take necessary steps to achieve it.

All the best!
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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