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Dating Coach - Answered on Apr 04, 2023

Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Seetha Question by Seetha on Apr 03, 2023Hindi
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Hello Mam ! Mam I don’t know if I have right to ask you this cause Iam still 17 ! Mam Iam Seetha ..I have completed my inter 2nd year and I am preparing for Neet 2023 and Yes I am least confident about my first attempt so I’ll be preparing for Neet 2024 to ! There is a boy whom I know him since 5th class but we were close to each other from 9th class ….. but like a good friend and 4 months ago he proposed me and I slowly fell in love with him !!! He is a good guy he respects me a lot and he respects everyone …from past one month we were very close and we met several times ….. He is a guy who respects my time and his time he don’t have obsession like I have for him ….I always force him to stay or talk bit longer and he felt like I won’t respect his time and Said Iam a person who won’t understand his efforts he puts for us and he said 10 days ago that we should be away for a year so that concentrate on ourself and he said to that I should change to a mature person …and he blocked me everywhere but I refused but I done it I mean neither we talked or chatted with each other for 5 days but after few days I called him from other number and he know that and unblocked me so we spoke to each other ! He said that we should be apart for our self but then again he said we should have been friends only but whatever happened is happened now we can’t do anything he said ! I asked him that be true and if you want to ask for a break up you can buy he said no I want you and I don’t want to leave you … and yeah mam he never tried to be physical with me …only I was and for this he sayid that I never understand him and etc etc and said that I just loved him physically not truely and that broke my heart ! But I don’t know what I should do now ? He said this is test for us that will our love be the same for one year ? But then again few days ago We talked to each other and that to I started first …yesterday as a friend we were talking and he said he wrote a poem and I asked for whom u wrote this he said For my ex …he said that if she comes again then he will accept and I was really confused 😐…And we had a huge fight he felt bad and I too but lastly I said sorry and today he asked for a break up and I said I won’t repeat my behaviour gain and I asked for last chance so that I could change from childish behaviour to a mature girl as he likes … Now you please say me mam that what should be done ? Should I have to stay away from him temporarily until I get changed to a better person as he wants or should I break up with him since he said we should have been frnds only ! What should I do mam ? Kindly please reply me as fast as you could mam !!! 😕

Ans: Its important you focus on 2 things for now - (1) your self esteem and your confidence & (2) your education and career. Once you are financially independent is when you can think of a serious relationship - all the best.

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Hello Mam ! Mam I don’t know if I have right to ask you this cause Iam still 17 ! Mam Iam Seetha , Iam in Inter 2 ne year now and yes it is yet to complete in two days and I am preparing for Neet 2023 and Yes I am least confident about my first attempt so I’ll be preparing for Neet 2024 to ! There is a boy whom I know him since 5th class but we were close to each other from 9th class ….. but like a good friend and 4 months ago he proposed me and I slowly fell in love with him !!! He is a good guy he respects me a lot and he respects everyone …from past one month we were very close and we met several times ….. He is a guy who respects my time and his time he don’t have obsession like I have for him ….I always force him to stay or talk big longer and he felt like I won’t respect his time and Iam a person whiny understand his efforts he puts for us and he said 5 days ago that we should be away for a year so that concentrate on ourself and he said to that I should change to a mature person …and he blocked me everywhere but I refused but I done it I mean neither we talked or chatted with each other for 5 days but yesterday I called him from other number and he know that and unblocked me so we spoke to each other ! He said that we should be apart for our self but then again he said we should have Naeem friends ! I asked him that be true and if you want to ask for a break up you can buy he said no I want you and I don’t want to leave you … and yeah mam he never tried to be physical with me only I was ! But I don’t know what I should do now ? He said this is test for us that will our love be the same for one year ? Now you please say me mam that what should be done ? Should I have to stay away for one year or should I break up with him since he said we should have been frnds only ! What should I do mam ? Kindly please reply me as fast as you could mam !!! 😕
Ans: Dear Seetha,
Yes, please stay away from this boy.
He has no clarity about what he wants or what he is doing. He wants you around and then doesn't and then again on his terms. Both of you need to become emotionally mature to handle a relationship.

Like he said: Give yourselves that time and space to focus on studies first. If you add all these confusions, your studies will suffer and you will end up feeling frustrated.
Put down a goal list with a timeline for your forthcoming exams and keep a check at the end of the day as to how much you have accomplished. This is the age for focusing on academics as well besides relationships. Right now, what seems most useful for you is your focus on academics and having a strong friends circle. This will not only distract you but also allow you to see that there is a lot of life outside of this boy that you are stuck on...So, move on, take a break and enjoy life and study hard!

Best wishes for a bright future!

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Hello Mam ! Mam I don’t know if I have right to ask you this cause Iam still 17 ! Mam Iam Seetha ..I have completed my inter 2nd year and I am preparing for Neet 2023 and Yes I am least confident about my first attempt so I’ll be preparing for Neet 2024 to ! There is a boy whom I know him since 5th class but we were close to each other from 9th class ….. but like a good friend and 4 months ago he proposed me and I slowly fell in love with him !!! He is a good guy he respects me a lot and he respects everyone …from past one month we were very close and we met several times and mam Highlighting this point —-mam we had passionate romance twice but not that intensely and now I feel regret of doing so if he leaves me ….. He is a guy who respects my time and his time he don’t have obsession like I have for him ….I always force him to stay or talk bit longer and he felt like I won’t respect his time and Said Iam a person who won’t understand his efforts he puts for us and he said 10 days ago that we should be away for a year so that concentrate on ourself and he said to that I should change to a mature person …and he blocked me everywhere but I refused but I done it I mean neither we talked or chatted with each other for 5 days but after few days I called him from other number and he know that and unblocked me so we spoke to each other ! He said that we should be apart for our self but then again he said we should have been friends only but whatever happened is happened now we can’t do anything he said ! I asked him that be true and if you want to ask for a break up you can buy he said no I want you and I don’t want to leave you … and yeah mam he never tried to be physical with me …only I was and for this he sayid that I never understand him and etc etc and said that I just loved him physically not truely and that broke my heart ! But I don’t know what I should do now ? He said this is test for us that will our love be the same for one year ? But then again few days ago We talked to each other and that to I started first …yesterday as a friend we were talking and he said he wrote a poem and I asked for whom u wrote this he said For my ex …he said that if she comes again then he will accept and I was really confused 😐…And we had a huge fight he felt bad and I too but lastly I said sorry and today he asked for a break up and I said I won’t repeat my behaviour gain and I asked for last chance so that I could change from childish behaviour to a mature girl as he likes … Now you please say me mam that what should be done ? Should I have to stay away from him temporarily until I get changed to a better person as he wants or should I break up with him since he said we should have been frnds only ! What should I do mam ? Kindly please reply me as fast as you could mam !!! 😕
Ans: Seetha, he proposed to you. Then you got physical with him, then he conveniently said you’re better off as friends and blocked you! And then came up with this one year test nonsense! He’s taking you for a ride, and you’re falling for it; don’t be so stupid. I understand that you’re young, but you haven’t done anything wrong and there is no need to feel guilty about anything that has happened. What is important, however, is that you understand this boy is not quite as wonderful as you think he is! He’s taken advantage of you and now he’s trying to worm his way out of it. Cut him off completely, he’s no good. Focus on your studies and if you meet someone else, no harm in exploring a relationship. But this worm doesn’t deserve a minute of your time or attention.

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I am 64 years old and previously worked at Observar India Ltd. for over 15 years. However, the organization shut down many years ago, and I do not have the UAN (Universal Account Number) or PF (Provident Fund) number associated with my employment during that period. After my tenure at Observar India Ltd., I began working with Viacom18, where I am currently employed, and I have all the necessary details of my present PF account. I would like to know the process for retrieving or transferring the PF funds accumulated during my time at Observar India Ltd. to my current PF account. Considering that the company no longer exists and I lack the old PF details, what steps can I take to initiate the process? Additionally, what documents or records will be required to locate and claim the funds from my previous employment? Any guidance on dealing with such situations where the employer is no longer operational would be greatly appreciated.
Ans: Hello;

If you don't remember your EPF account number and your employer is closed, you can try these options:

1. Check your salary slip: Employers usually include the PF account number on the employee's salary slip.

2. Visit the EPFO office: You can visit the EPFO office with your identity proof and application form to get your PF number.

3.Call the EPFO helpline: You can call the EPFO helpline for information and to track past accounts.

4.Go to the EPFO website: You can fill out some basic information on the EPFO website to locate your dormant account.

Once you get the pf account number you may proceed for offline or online withdrawal of the same.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 18, 2024Hindi
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Please suggest if following investment are good as SIP started last year sep 2023 HDFC Flexi cap 5000, Parag Parikh 5000,SBI L & Mid cap 2500/-, Axis Blue chip fund 2500, AXis Mid cap fund 2500/- HDFC mid-cap opportunities fund 5000, Kotal emerging fund 2500/- Nippon India smal cap fund 5000/- HDFC Pharma & healthcare fund 4000/- Nippon India multicap fund 2500/- HSBC value fund 3000/- Investment are on monthly basis. Pease advise
Ans: Your portfolio demonstrates a proactive approach to wealth building. It includes diverse mutual funds across categories. Monthly SIPs indicate your long-term financial discipline. This is commendable. However, let’s evaluate its alignment with your financial goals.

Below are detailed insights for your portfolio assessment:

Strengths of Your Portfolio
Diversification

You’ve invested in funds from multiple categories. This includes large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, flexi-cap, and sectoral funds.
A diversified portfolio reduces overall risk. It balances growth potential across market segments.
Consistency

Monthly SIPs ensure disciplined investments. This helps capture market volatility effectively.
Long-term SIPs can create substantial wealth through compounding.
Exposure to Growth Opportunities

Investments in mid-cap and small-cap funds offer higher growth potential. These funds are suitable for long-term wealth creation.
Sectoral funds provide concentrated exposure to booming sectors like healthcare.
Inclusion of Value and Multicap Funds

Value funds identify undervalued stocks. This can deliver long-term growth.
Multicap funds offer flexibility to invest across market capitalizations.
Areas for Improvement
Overlapping Fund Categories

Having multiple funds in the same category might lead to redundancy. For example, multiple mid-cap and flexi-cap funds.
Similar funds can increase portfolio overlap. This reduces the benefit of diversification.
Sectoral Fund Allocation

Sectoral funds like healthcare have high risk. These funds depend on sector-specific performance.
Such funds should have limited allocation in a balanced portfolio.
Number of Funds

A portfolio with too many funds can be hard to track. It dilutes returns without adding significant diversification.
Fewer funds with distinct strategies are easier to manage and monitor.
Portfolio Insights
Risk Assessment

Your portfolio leans towards high-risk categories like mid-cap and small-cap.
Consider balancing it with funds having stable growth, such as large-cap or flexi-cap.
Goal-Based Allocation

Align investments with specific financial goals. For example, retirement, child’s education, or buying a house.
Define timelines for each goal. Adjust fund categories based on risk tolerance and time horizon.
Taxation Awareness

Equity fund gains above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term gains attract 20% tax.
Ensure to account for these taxes in your investment strategy.
Regular Fund Investment Benefits

Investing through a Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD) with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) offers advantages.

They provide expert insights, fund tracking, and timely rebalancing.

Direct fund investments might lack professional guidance. This could lead to suboptimal decision-making during market volatility.

Suggested Course of Action
Streamline the Portfolio

Reduce the number of overlapping funds. Keep one or two funds per category.
Focus on high-quality funds with a proven track record.
Adjust Sectoral Fund Exposure

Limit sectoral fund exposure to a small percentage of your total investment.
Use these funds only for specific, high-risk goals.
Rebalance Annually

Review your portfolio at least once a year. Rebalance it to maintain desired asset allocation.
Shift funds if they no longer align with your goals or risk tolerance.
Emergency Fund Allocation

Maintain a liquid fund or emergency fund equivalent to 6-12 months of expenses.
This avoids withdrawing SIPs during unexpected financial needs.
Monitor Fund Performance

Regularly review the performance of each fund against its benchmark.
Replace consistently underperforming funds with better alternatives.
Long-Term Discipline

Stick to your SIPs, especially during market downturns. This helps average out costs.
Avoid making decisions based on short-term market fluctuations.
Final Insights
Your portfolio reflects a strong commitment to financial growth. However, streamlining your investments can enhance efficiency and returns. Focusing on goal-based allocation ensures better alignment with your financial objectives.

Consider professional guidance to refine your portfolio and stay on track. This ensures your investments work harder for your future.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Archana

Archana Deshpande  |66 Answers  |Ask -

Image Coach, Soft Skills Trainer - Answered on Nov 18, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 16, 2024Hindi
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Dear Ms. Archana, I am a 50 year old middle management officer & have 24 years of experience in banking industry. But I want to shift to HR or life coaching industry. Kindly guide me with ur coaching & I would also like to work part-timr with your organization if you are satisfied with my skills & knowledge.
Ans: Good afternoon!!

If you have been in the banking industry for the last 24 yrs, don't you think now is the time to consolidate on your skills and do something which brings out your expertise ? Think of moving up the ladder in your organisation or look for coaching/training people to pass a bank exam or any other subject you love to teach.

And trust me 50 is also an age -
1. when you look back and see all that you have accomplished
2. then look into the future and think about all that you wanted to do and want to do
For you to really look into the two questions above, sit with a quite mind and explore all options , write them down for clarity and for the way forward.

If HR is where you want to go in, then look for an MBA in HR while you are continuing to work( I am very particular about being financially independent too during a career shift or the transition phase)!

If Life coaching is what interests you then check out India's leading life coach Puja Puneet and the courses she offers.
To be a life coach is to work a lot on yourself before you can become one.

Working part-time in my organisation is a "no" right now as I am not hiring!!

All the best in your exploration of the self and the clarity on forward path!!

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Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |7042 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Nov 18, 2024

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Hi sir just to get 1 lakhs per month from mutual fund account, how much total money is required to invest in mutual funds account. Thanks
Ans: To generate a monthly income of Rs 1,00,000 through mutual funds, you need to determine the total investment amount based on the withdrawal rate and expected returns. Here's a detailed analysis:

Key Considerations
Withdrawal Rate

A safe withdrawal rate is around 4–6% annually for sustainable income.
A higher withdrawal rate risks depleting your corpus prematurely.
Investment Returns

Equity mutual funds can give 10–12% annual returns over the long term.
Balanced or hybrid funds may offer 8–10% returns with lower volatility.
Debt mutual funds typically yield 6–8% returns with stable income.
Inflation

Factor in inflation to ensure the corpus lasts through your lifetime.
Taxation

Gains from mutual funds are taxable. This affects your effective returns.
Approximate Corpus Needed
1. Using a 6% Withdrawal Rate
Monthly income required: Rs 1,00,000
Annual income required: Rs 12,00,000
Corpus needed: Rs 12,00,000 ÷ 6% = Rs 2 Crores
2. Using a 4% Withdrawal Rate
Monthly income required: Rs 1,00,000
Annual income required: Rs 12,00,000
Corpus needed: Rs 12,00,000 ÷ 4% = Rs 3 Crores
Recommendations
Invest in Diversified Funds

Allocate your corpus across equity, hybrid, and debt funds.
Equity for growth, debt for stability, and hybrid for balance.
Use SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan)

SWP allows you to withdraw a fixed amount monthly.
It ensures steady cash flow without disturbing the investment.
Reassess Periodically

Review returns, inflation, and withdrawal rate annually.
Adjust withdrawal amount to maintain corpus longevity.
Plan for Taxes

Consider the impact of LTCG and STCG taxes on withdrawals.
Equity mutual funds' LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Include an Emergency Corpus

Keep 6–12 months’ expenses in a liquid fund.
Avoid dipping into your main corpus for emergencies.
Final Insights
To get Rs 1,00,000 monthly, aim for a corpus of Rs 2–3 crores. Choose mutual funds that align with your risk tolerance and income needs. Start with a Certified Financial Planner to tailor a portfolio for sustainable income.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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