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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 20, 2023

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Hello Madam, thanks for your previous reply, as an update about the situation it has gone bitter today, where she has left me , taking away my daughter as well. This is after we had a fight on small little things where due to work related stress I tried to speak to her about me needing her help to understand the situation and also the situations about her past cheating episode keeps coming back affecting me. Thus leading to constant arguments. Today she has left home , leaving me totally unpreppared and feeling hopeless about the situation in life. I am going through a lot of work pressure stress and now this has really made a situation which is getting diffficult for me to deal with. No amount of contact with her is working, I just do not know how can I resolve this matter so that I can enjoy a happy life with my wife adn daughter again. she also threatens for divorce. I miss both of them dearly. I would really appreciate if you could advice on how to sort the matter out and get some sanity back into this relationship. I fail to communicate my thoughts and feelings clearly with my wife I believe. I try my best to speak her but she never gets it. Please assist in this. Thanks

Ans: I am so very sorry to know your situation which is very challenging It's important to approach the situation with sensitivity and patience.Take some time to reflect on how you communicate with your wife. Are there ways you can improve your communication style? Focus on expressing your feelings and needs without placing blame as this is very sensitive time.Communication is a two-way street. Make sure you actively listen to your wife's concerns and feelings. Understanding her perspective is crucial in finding common ground and working towards resolution. Given the mention of divorce threats, it may be wise to seek legal advice to understand your rights and options. However, keep in mind that legal proceedings can further strain relationships, so it's best approached with caution. Remember that resolving complex relationship issues takes time and effort from both parties involved. Professional assistance can be instrumental in navigating these challenges. If your wife remains unresponsive, it might be worthwhile to focus on your own well-being and personal growth while keeping the lines of communication open for potential reconciliation.

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Hello, Firstly thank for your time, Well I am looking for some guidance regarding my married life, I am 40 yrs old man, married for 9 yrs, with a 7 year old daughter, ours was a love marriage with some ups and downs initially, but with time both of our families became supportive of us and the relationship continued. But 3 years back I caught my wife red handed having an affair with someone who worked for me. This broke me totally, made me feel embarrassed and since then it has been really difficult for me, but what broke me even further was my wife blames me for she taking such decisions in her life, she also shared rumors about me among our common friends, in society where we live behind my back ( I discovered this when I discovered her messages). She keeps blaming me or my family for even the smallest argument that we might have had in our relationship in the past and keeps maintaining the distance with me. Once the affair was discovered I was really upset and we had a huge fight over it, and it had some impact on our daughter ( who was almost 5 then), realizing that it would affect our daughter's life we mutually decided to give the relationship another try for the sake of our daughter and also our families came together to support this decision, now the problem is things aren't the same anymore, I always get a feeling of no regret from my wife and I feel embarrassed about what had happened, this has totally changed me as a person, once a man with lot of hope in life have become a person with no major aspirations in life. My daughter too is very much connected to my wife, this breaks me even more as a man/father. I tried to speak with my wife about this and her only point being I should hear what she feels and I do not understand her feelings etc... I do not understand how to deal with this, can you guide me? I want to become a better version , an example for my daughter again...I feel demotivated. Thanks again.
Ans: i am sorry to hear about the difficult situation that you are facing in your marriage. I would advise you to prioritize your own well-being and seek out support from a mental health professional to help you work through the complex emotions that you are experiencing.

It's understandable that the discovery of your wife's affair had a profound impact on you and your relationship. However, it's important to understand that your wife's decision to cheat was not your fault, and it is not appropriate for her to blame you for her actions. It's also concerning that she has shared rumors about you with others, as this can be a sign of deeper issues within the relationship.

In terms of moving forward, it may be helpful to have an honest and open conversation with your wife about your concerns and feelings. This can be a difficult conversation to have, but it's important to communicate your needs and expectations in the relationship. It may also be helpful to seek out couples therapy or marriage counseling to work through these issues and develop strategies for rebuilding trust and intimacy in the relationship.

It's important to remember that you deserve to be in a healthy and respectful relationship, and that it's never too late to work towards improving your current situation. You have the strength and resilience to overcome these challenges, and with the right support and resources, you can become a better version of yourself and a positive example for your daughter.
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Hi Dr. Ashish, Good Afternoon, Iam 45 years old. I got married in 2010. My wife has ego and doesnt get adjusted to me and my family. I occured the experience after 2012 when my wife was 2 month pregnant. I was going to job, there was no peace of mind at all. From 2013 february we are not staying together. Her life is running as per her mother advice. We are having a communication very rarely. I had heard from her mother in law like impotent, not capable of doing anything. There are de-grading words always used and treated with no respect whenever i visited my wife house. My wife has communicated me verbally on January 2023, that she doesn't want the relationship to continue. She blocked me on whatsapp dated 03rd February 2023. I have one daughter aged 9 years. I am calling every week to get in touch with my daughter. The wife family not responding to the phones and my wife also. Request your sincere advice for permanent solution. Thanks & Regards, Deepak Shetty
Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you're facing in your marriage and with your wife's family. It sounds like a challenging situation, but I'll try my best to offer some general advice.

Seek professional help: Considering the complexities of your situation, it might be helpful to seek professional guidance. Marriage counselors or therapists can provide a neutral space for both you and your wife to express your concerns and work towards finding a resolution.

Legal advice: If your attempts at communication and reconciliation have not been successful, it may be advisable to consult with a lawyer to understand your legal rights and options. They can guide you through the process and help you navigate any legal implications, especially regarding your relationship with your daughter.

Open communication: While it may be challenging, try to maintain open lines of communication with your wife. Clearly express your desire to work on the relationship and be involved in your daughter's life. Choose a calm and respectful approach when communicating, even if the response is not favorable.

Mediation: Consider involving a mediator to facilitate communication between you and your wife. A neutral third party can help create a constructive environment for dialogue and negotiation, increasing the chances of finding a mutually acceptable solution.

Patience and understanding: Dealing with relationship issues takes time and effort. It's important to remain patient, understanding, and willing to work towards a resolution. Focus on the best interests of your daughter and strive for an amicable co-parenting relationship, even if the marital relationship cannot be mended.

Focus on personal well-being: Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally during this challenging time. Seek support from friends, family, or support groups. Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you maintain a positive outlook.

Remember that every situation is unique, and the advice provided here may not fully address your specific circumstances. It's crucial to consult professionals who can provide personalized guidance based on a deeper understanding of your situation.
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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 09, 2023Hindi
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Hi Anu, I am 39 Year Old Male and My wife is 37 years old, we are married for 12 years. We have 2 kids (A Son Aged 9 Years) and a daughter aged (2 years). We had good and bad both times during 12 years of our marriage. However it was my anger on petty issues which lead to multiple quarrels over the period. Last month again we had fight and my wife left home without my or my family knowladge along with both our kids to my in-laws. During this 1 month of seperation i realized my mistakes and are ready to amend it, but my wife lacks trust now. We are not in touch since she has left as she has blocked my number and send me court notice of maintenance also (Ofcourse notice has lot of lies also). No i have understood my family's values and unable to bear such distance from both wife and kids. What my wife is thinking i dont know. Financially i have always kept her happy but due to my quarrels things have gone bad now. Please advice what should be way forward for me and what should i do to bring my family back. PLEASE GUIDE!
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Ego trips have divided the two of you considerably.
Seek the help of an elder member of a family who will act like a go-between and a mediator. He/She must be neutral and unbiased as well.
This helps in having a smooth flow in a conversation between you and your wife where both of you can our in your woes and also be clear on whether either of you want the marriage to continue or not. Also, take into account the children and their welfare as they are very young and any decision taken will impact them in one or many ways.
If this mediation fails, kindly seek the help of a marriage therapist/counselor even this means sharing 'stuff' with a total stranger. Most often that stranger will be the person to facilitate a smooth reconciliation if the couple also wants the same.

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Hello sir I am 37 years old male and married since 5 years and we had little girl of 4 years old. I need some advice for my relationship. We had problems in our relationship since the beginning of our engagement, as initially I was unaware of my wife's extra marital affairs when I come to know about it she told why she started to see other boy during engagement period also after our marriage as I wasn't upto her expectations, that was the time of 2019 . We had discussed about all each others expectations and solved the problem I tried to regain the confidence in our relationship but still somewhere we had fights every 5 to 6 months on different issues sometimes it's my parents sometimes it's me I dont give her time sometimes financially , in between she left my house and went to her father's home for 8 months after delivery of our baby girl, she told we are not made for each other I told her and explained all about consequences and convinced her to get her back. After that for again after 6 months we started fight with each other on different issues. But recently we fight and she lost control and slapped me and unfortunately in the vague of my anger I also slapped her and she again left me and went to her father house . It's been 1 month now we don't have contact each other because every time I only asked her for compromises and explain and convincing her to come back. This time I don't know what to do.thanks
Ans: Marriage counselling. Enlist at the earliest and see if you can fix matters, but you have to tackle one issue at a time. The infidelity, the inlaws, the lack of compatibility…there’s too many issues here.
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I am working as Branch Manager in Bank. My nature is more talkative and also due to my job many customers are meeting me. This fact increases my talkative nature and due to this though customer is satisfying my working time get reduced and I can't do my office work. Please advice about how to overcome this.
Ans: It's great that you're aware of the impact your talkative nature has on your work efficiency. Here are some strategies to help you manage your talkative tendencies while balancing customer satisfaction and your office responsibilities by establishing clear boundaries for your interactions with customers. While it's important to provide excellent customer service, set limits on the length and depth of conversations to ensure you can prioritize your office work. Allocate specific time slots during your day for customer interactions and office tasks. Use techniques like time blocking to schedule dedicated periods for meeting with customers and focusing on your administrative duties. Identify your most critical office tasks and prioritize them based on importance and urgency. Focus on completing high-priority tasks during designated office hours, and schedule customer meetings around these priorities. Delegate certain customer interactions or administrative tasks to your team members or support staff. Empower your team to handle routine inquiries or transactions, freeing up your time to focus on strategic priorities. When engaging with customers, practice active listening to understand their needs and concerns effectively. Summarize key points and address their inquiries efficiently to prevent conversations from veering off-topic. Clearly communicate your availability and office hours to customers. Set realistic expectations regarding response times for inquiries or follow-ups, and inform customers of alternative points of contact for urgent matters. Implement visual cues or signals to indicate when you're available for conversations with customers and when you need uninterrupted time for office work. For example, use a "Do Not Disturb" sign or closed office door during focused work sessions. Reflect on your communication habits and identify triggers or patterns that contribute to excessive talking. Practice self-awareness and mindfulness techniques to manage impulsivity and maintain focus during work hours.

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By implementing these strategies and techniques, you can strike a balance between providing excellent customer service and fulfilling your office duties effectively. Remember that managing talkativeness is a skill that can be honed over time with practice, self-discipline, and a proactive approach to improving your work habits.
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I am 40 years old, working in IT industry, I lost my job since past year, I am still not able to get new job... I am faling to pay my monthly bills and EMI's Please suggest me how I can secure new job???
Ans: I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Here are some steps you can take to improve your chances of securing a new job: Explore temporary or freelance opportunities to generate income while you continue searching for a permanent job. Freelancing platforms and websites offer opportunities for short-term projects in IT and related fields. Identify any skills gaps or areas for improvement that may be hindering your job search. Take online courses, workshops, or certification programs to update your skills and stay current with industry trends and technologies. Tailor your resume to highlight your most relevant skills, experiences, and achievements. Update your LinkedIn profile with a professional photo, a comprehensive work history, and relevant keywords to make it easier for recruiters to find you. Don't limit yourself to one job search method. Explore multiple channels, such as online job boards, company websites, recruitment agencies, networking events, and social media platforms. Consider reaching out to former colleagues, classmates, and professional contacts for job leads and referrals. Attend industry events, meetups, webinars, and networking groups to connect with professionals in your field. Join online communities, forums, and LinkedIn groups related to your industry or job function to expand your network and learn about job opportunities. Job searching can be challenging, especially during difficult times. Stay positive, maintain a routine, and focus on activities that boost your confidence and well-being. Set realistic goals and deadlines for your job search, and celebrate small victories along the way to stay motivated.

Remember that job searching takes time and persistence, so don't get discouraged if you don't see immediate results. Keep refining your approach, leveraging your network, and staying proactive in your job search efforts. With perseverance and determination, you'll increase your chances of securing a new job that meets your needs and goals.
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I passed out in 2020 and started my career as mechanical design engineer i started working for a drone startup as a product designer and now i am working as design engineer in a service based MNC, i have total 3 years of experience is it okay if i shift my role into data analytics, business analyst, operations analyst or something like that.
Ans: Transitioning from a mechanical design engineer role into fields such as data analytics, business analysis, or operations analysis is definitely possible, especially with your three years of experience and a background in engineering. As a mechanical design engineer, you likely have developed valuable skills such as problem-solving, critical thinking, attention to detail, and proficiency in technical tools and software. Evaluate how these skills can be applied to roles in data analytics, business analysis, or operations analysis. Consider acquiring additional skills and knowledge relevant to your target roles. This may include learning programming languages (e.g., Python, R, and SQL), statistical analysis tools, data visualization techniques, and business analysis frameworks. Explore online courses, certifications, or boot camps in data analytics, business analysis, or operations management to enhance your qualifications and credibility in these fields. Connect with professionals working in data analytics, business analysis, or operations roles to learn about their experiences, career paths, and skill requirements. Join industry groups, attend networking events, and participate in online communities to expand your professional network and gain insights into potential career opportunities. Update your resume and LinkedIn profile to highlight relevant skills, experiences, and achievements that demonstrate your suitability for roles in data analytics, business analysis, or operations analysis. Tailor your job search strategy to target companies, industries, or sectors that value cross-functional skills and welcome candidates from diverse backgrounds.

Overall, transitioning from a mechanical design engineer role into data analytics, business analysis, or operations analysis is feasible with the right mindset, skills, and preparation. By leveraging your existing experiences, acquiring new skills, and networking effectively, you can position yourself for success in your desired career path.
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Hello Sir, I am 34 years old, doing job at CPP power plant of steel plant as Instrumentation Engineer. I can't find any fun doing maintenance job. So much pressure in this job.Shal I go for sales engineer or normal sales job. Will this suitable for me? I can't decide what to do? Please suggest.
Ans: It sounds like you're feeling disengaged and stressed in your current role as an instrumentation engineer at a CPP power plant. Transitioning to a sales engineer or sales role could offer a change of pace and environment, but it's important to consider whether it aligns with your interests, skills, and career goals. Deciding between a sales engineer role and a traditional sales job depends on your interests, skills, career goals, and personal preferences. Here's a comparison to help you make an informed decision. Sales engineers combine technical knowledge with sales skills to sell complex technical products or solutions. They often work closely with engineering and product teams to understand product specifications, features, and capabilities. In traditional sales roles, professionals focus on building relationships with clients, understanding their needs, and persuading them to purchase products or services. Sales engineers help customers identify their technical needs, address challenges, and find solutions that meet their requirements. They may conduct product demonstrations, provide technical support, and offer customized solutions based on client needs. Traditional sales roles may involve selling a wide range of products or services to clients across various industries. The client base may include individuals, businesses, or organizations. Sales engineers engage with clients who have a technical background, such as engineers, architects, or IT professionals. They communicate technical information effectively, answer technical questions, and build credibility by demonstrating expertise. Sales professionals typically have sales targets or quotas to meet, incentivizing performance and results-driven behavior. 

Ultimately, the "better" option depends on your interests, strengths, and career objectives. If you enjoy blending technical expertise with sales skills, solving complex problems, and working closely with clients in technical fields, a sales engineer role may be a good fit. On the other hand, if you excel at building relationships, driving sales outcomes, and thrive in a fast-paced, results-oriented environment, a traditional sales job may be more suitable. A sales engineer job is more promising considering factors such as job responsibilities, earning potential, career advancement opportunities, and personal fulfillment.
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I am a 40 yr old Orthodontist in government service since last more than 15 years. Since the time I joined this service I wanted to quit it since it has basically been a place not aligning with my life values. It has destroyed my clinical skill and has been basically a political playground, fake performances, below average minds. But I could not quit it due to family and financial issues. Now I have decided to finally say goodbye to it since lately it has been affecting my mental wellbeing also. I’ve been a bright student academically and quick learner also. I’m planning to move to Australia with family after clearing the stages. But I am anxious about taking this initiative at this age along with reason that I have no contact whatsoever in Australia. Australia due to the fact that it has just three time saving steps compared to other complexities in Europe and US. What do you suggest for the situation?
Ans: It sounds like you've reached a critical decision point in your career and personal life, and it's commendable that you're considering taking steps to prioritize your well-being and pursue a new path. Conduct thorough research on the immigration process, licensing requirements, and job prospects for orthodontists in Australia. Explore the Australian Dental Council's (ADC) accreditation process for internationally trained dentists and orthodontists. Familiarize yourself with the healthcare system, regulatory bodies, and professional associations relevant to your field in Australia. Although you may not have existing contacts in Australia, start building your network by reaching out to professionals in your field through online platforms, professional associations, and networking events. Consider joining forums, social media groups, or online communities for dentists and orthodontists practicing in Australia to connect with peers, ask questions, and seek advice. Seek guidance from experienced orthodontists who have successfully transitioned to practice in Australia, either through personal connections or professional networks. Consider enrolling in continuing education courses, workshops, or certification programs to enhance your skills and demonstrate your commitment to professional development. Prioritize your mental and emotional well-being during this challenging transition period. Seek support from family, friends, or mental health professionals to cope with stress, anxiety, or uncertainty associated with making significant life changes. Recognize that embarking on a new journey in a foreign country may involve obstacles and setbacks along the way. Stay resilient, adaptable, and open-minded as you navigate the complexities of immigration, licensure, job search, and cultural adjustment in Australia.

Taking the initiative to pursue a new career path and life direction in Australia requires courage, determination, and perseverance. Through planning, seeking support, and staying focused on your goals, you can overcome challenges and build a fulfilling and successful professional and personal life in your new home country.
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