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Deepak Question by Deepak on May 22, 2023Hindi
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Hi Dr. Ashish, Good Afternoon, Iam 45 years old. I got married in 2010. My wife has ego and doesnt get adjusted to me and my family. I occured the experience after 2012 when my wife was 2 month pregnant. I was going to job, there was no peace of mind at all. From 2013 february we are not staying together. Her life is running as per her mother advice. We are having a communication very rarely. I had heard from her mother in law like impotent, not capable of doing anything. There are de-grading words always used and treated with no respect whenever i visited my wife house. My wife has communicated me verbally on January 2023, that she doesn't want the relationship to continue. She blocked me on whatsapp dated 03rd February 2023. I have one daughter aged 9 years. I am calling every week to get in touch with my daughter. The wife family not responding to the phones and my wife also. Request your sincere advice for permanent solution. Thanks & Regards, Deepak Shetty

Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you're facing in your marriage and with your wife's family. It sounds like a challenging situation, but I'll try my best to offer some general advice.

Seek professional help: Considering the complexities of your situation, it might be helpful to seek professional guidance. Marriage counselors or therapists can provide a neutral space for both you and your wife to express your concerns and work towards finding a resolution.

Legal advice: If your attempts at communication and reconciliation have not been successful, it may be advisable to consult with a lawyer to understand your legal rights and options. They can guide you through the process and help you navigate any legal implications, especially regarding your relationship with your daughter.

Open communication: While it may be challenging, try to maintain open lines of communication with your wife. Clearly express your desire to work on the relationship and be involved in your daughter's life. Choose a calm and respectful approach when communicating, even if the response is not favorable.

Mediation: Consider involving a mediator to facilitate communication between you and your wife. A neutral third party can help create a constructive environment for dialogue and negotiation, increasing the chances of finding a mutually acceptable solution.

Patience and understanding: Dealing with relationship issues takes time and effort. It's important to remain patient, understanding, and willing to work towards a resolution. Focus on the best interests of your daughter and strive for an amicable co-parenting relationship, even if the marital relationship cannot be mended.

Focus on personal well-being: Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally during this challenging time. Seek support from friends, family, or support groups. Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you maintain a positive outlook.

Remember that every situation is unique, and the advice provided here may not fully address your specific circumstances. It's crucial to consult professionals who can provide personalized guidance based on a deeper understanding of your situation.

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 09, 2023Hindi
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Hi Anu, I am 39 Year Old Male and My wife is 37 years old, we are married for 12 years. We have 2 kids (A Son Aged 9 Years) and a daughter aged (2 years). We had good and bad both times during 12 years of our marriage. However it was my anger on petty issues which lead to multiple quarrels over the period. Last month again we had fight and my wife left home without my or my family knowladge along with both our kids to my in-laws. During this 1 month of seperation i realized my mistakes and are ready to amend it, but my wife lacks trust now. We are not in touch since she has left as she has blocked my number and send me court notice of maintenance also (Ofcourse notice has lot of lies also). No i have understood my family's values and unable to bear such distance from both wife and kids. What my wife is thinking i dont know. Financially i have always kept her happy but due to my quarrels things have gone bad now. Please advice what should be way forward for me and what should i do to bring my family back. PLEASE GUIDE!
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Ego trips have divided the two of you considerably.
Seek the help of an elder member of a family who will act like a go-between and a mediator. He/She must be neutral and unbiased as well.
This helps in having a smooth flow in a conversation between you and your wife where both of you can our in your woes and also be clear on whether either of you want the marriage to continue or not. Also, take into account the children and their welfare as they are very young and any decision taken will impact them in one or many ways.
If this mediation fails, kindly seek the help of a marriage therapist/counselor even this means sharing 'stuff' with a total stranger. Most often that stranger will be the person to facilitate a smooth reconciliation if the couple also wants the same.

All the best!

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Hello Madam, thanks for your previous reply, as an update about the situation it has gone bitter today, where she has left me , taking away my daughter as well. This is after we had a fight on small little things where due to work related stress I tried to speak to her about me needing her help to understand the situation and also the situations about her past cheating episode keeps coming back affecting me. Thus leading to constant arguments. Today she has left home , leaving me totally unpreppared and feeling hopeless about the situation in life. I am going through a lot of work pressure stress and now this has really made a situation which is getting diffficult for me to deal with. No amount of contact with her is working, I just do not know how can I resolve this matter so that I can enjoy a happy life with my wife adn daughter again. she also threatens for divorce. I miss both of them dearly. I would really appreciate if you could advice on how to sort the matter out and get some sanity back into this relationship. I fail to communicate my thoughts and feelings clearly with my wife I believe. I try my best to speak her but she never gets it. Please assist in this. Thanks
Ans: I am so very sorry to know your situation which is very challenging It's important to approach the situation with sensitivity and patience.Take some time to reflect on how you communicate with your wife. Are there ways you can improve your communication style? Focus on expressing your feelings and needs without placing blame as this is very sensitive time.Communication is a two-way street. Make sure you actively listen to your wife's concerns and feelings. Understanding her perspective is crucial in finding common ground and working towards resolution. Given the mention of divorce threats, it may be wise to seek legal advice to understand your rights and options. However, keep in mind that legal proceedings can further strain relationships, so it's best approached with caution. Remember that resolving complex relationship issues takes time and effort from both parties involved. Professional assistance can be instrumental in navigating these challenges. If your wife remains unresponsive, it might be worthwhile to focus on your own well-being and personal growth while keeping the lines of communication open for potential reconciliation.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 15, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir I am 37 years old male and married since 5 years and we had little girl of 4 years old. I need some advice for my relationship. We had problems in our relationship since the beginning of our engagement, as initially I was unaware of my wife's extra marital affairs when I come to know about it she told why she started to see other boy during engagement period also after our marriage as I wasn't upto her expectations, that was the time of 2019 . We had discussed about all each others expectations and solved the problem I tried to regain the confidence in our relationship but still somewhere we had fights every 5 to 6 months on different issues sometimes it's my parents sometimes it's me I dont give her time sometimes financially , in between she left my house and went to her father's home for 8 months after delivery of our baby girl, she told we are not made for each other I told her and explained all about consequences and convinced her to get her back. After that for again after 6 months we started fight with each other on different issues. But recently we fight and she lost control and slapped me and unfortunately in the vague of my anger I also slapped her and she again left me and went to her father house . It's been 1 month now we don't have contact each other because every time I only asked her for compromises and explain and convincing her to come back. This time I don't know what to do.thanks
Ans: Marriage counselling. Enlist at the earliest and see if you can fix matters, but you have to tackle one issue at a time. The infidelity, the inlaws, the lack of compatibility…there’s too many issues here.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 04, 2024

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I am married person since 2015. From last 2 to 3 years it is not working properly. Due to some following problems, 1. I am only one boy in my family. I don’t have any brother or sister. My father is also passed away, so there is need of child in my family because now I am at the age of 30. But my wife is not physically strong. There is always some health issue with her. 2. There is education gap too in between us. She is metric level education and I am engineer. Due to this we don’t have that much effective communication leads to conflicts in every situation. She never give respect to my mother and never do regular house works to and at the end of the day again conflicts arises between my mother and my wife. 3. I want to give divorce to her but unfortunately she is purposely not ready for that because she knows very well that she will never been happy in another house like my house. 4. Same problem when I discussed with her mother and father, they straight forward refuse to give divorce; they said, “if you have any problems or want to give divorce then go to those person who are responsible for marriage or who finalize your marriage”. Lastly, I am now at dead end and don’t know the solution of how to escape from this situation.
Ans: Dear Rajesh,
First and foremost, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, as well as that of any potential children involved. While divorce may seem like the only solution, it's also worth considering seeking professional help, such as marriage counseling or therapy, to try to address the issues in your relationship and explore potential avenues for improvement.

If communication is a significant challenge due to education and cultural differences, a therapist or counselor can help facilitate more effective communication and understanding between you and your wife. They can also provide guidance on how to navigate conflicts and differences in a constructive manner.

Additionally, it may be helpful to involve a neutral third party, such as a religious or community leader, to mediate discussions between you, your wife, and your respective families. They may be able to provide support and guidance in finding a resolution that is mutually acceptable and respects the well-being of all parties involved.

Ultimately, the decision to pursue divorce or to work on improving the relationship is a deeply personal one, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. It's important to take the time to carefully consider your options and seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals as needed.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 26, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I married 1 year ago my wife told me she was forced to do a marriage against her concern and she didn't want the marriage life and wanted to live as strangers, also she refused to take wife responsibilities at home i have waited trusting she would change but she never changed. She is alone daughter to her parents borned after 16 years to their parents and she used to live outside around 17 year for her studies. After marriage whenever her parents come she used to ignore me, also she work in private sector and not share even single rupee to home. However all house hold work i do being boy, also she is not at all interested in intercource as well. After marriage 2 week she stayed in PG stating that my close friend will go to native allow me to spend time with her reast all i will be with you like. I agreed. Later 6 Month she used to give reasons for intercource i got periods, rashes, not feeling good, tiered, no mood, etc this happen till 6 month. After this we had 4 times in 2 month with protection that too just for 1 or 2 min as she mentioned lot of pain, after that she started avoiding, since i was not fulfilled by sex desire i started making extra marital affairs in facebook and turned to whatsapp only text, one fine day she saw all msgs i did with extra marital affair and she took photos of that and went to PG without informing any one. Later both families elder sat and asked she used to show the msgs that i did with extra marital affairs and she wanted seperate now from me. Though i accepted the extra marital affairs only interms of msgs and since you not willing to do sex i choose this way i mentioned. But she dont like to come back now. Her father took 2 month of time that he will change her mind set but i dont think she can. As her mother is also not good women, suporting her daughter and making such big issues and she also not interested in this marriage itself.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Sometimes people are just not ready for marriage and here your wife certainly came along with a huge baggage of unresolved issues behind her.
Marriage requires both partners to be responsible not just towards one another but take an active interest in their roles. This calls for maturity from both partners here.
Now, this was never a possibility with your spouse as she felt the marriage was a forced one. That is enough to destroy any chances of the marriage falling in place. You are also in a soup now that she has found her 'proof' that gives her a ticket out of this marriage.
The question here is: Do you want this marriage? If YES, then you will have to start down the part of proving your innocence and what led to what and how and when...If NO, then since your spouse has found her ticket to freedom, the only thing you might have to do is clearly state and not explain anything as to how things went downhill right from the beginning. Her parents may believe you or not, but that's what your decision needs. They may try to malign you in the family, just stick to your version of what happened and move on.
So, you are at that point where you need to make a decision. What is it going to be?

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Dear Sir, My son has secured a seat in CSE at PES University, RR Campus, Bengaluru based on his JEE PES ranking. His JEE Main rank is 39,257, and he has also been allotted AI & DS at IIIT Dharwad and IIIT Kalyani in the first three rounds of counselling. As per last year's CSAB data, he is likely to get CSE, AI & DS, or ECE in IIITs such as Dharwad, Raichur, Kottayam, Nagpur, and Bhubaneswar in the upcoming rounds. We are seeking your guidance on which would be the better option for him. If he opts for an IIIT, which one among these within his expected range would you recommend as the best choice?
Ans: Prashant Sir, PES University’s Ring Road Campus CSE program is NBA- and NAAC-accredited, taught by PhD-qualified faculty, and supported by advanced computing, AI/ML, and networking labs. It recorded an 82.97% placement rate in 2023 with a median package of ?8 LPA and an average of ?8 LPA–?12 LPA, engaging 350+ recruiters including Microsoft, Amazon, Google, Cisco, and Cisco. Among IIITs in your son’s rank range, IIIT Nagpur leads with an 88.5% placement rate, average package ?13.11 LPA, median ?11 LPA, and participation from 200+ recruiters like Adobe and Accenture. IIIT Kalyani follows with an 89.33% placement rate and average package ?10.72 LPA. IIIT Dharwad has a 66%–78% placement rate, average ?10 LPA, and strong industry tie-ups via its Career Guidance Cell. IIIT Kottayam achieved an 83% placement rate in 2024, average ?12.66 LPA with 86 recruiters including Bosch and Infosys. IIIT Bhubaneswar reports a 79% placement rate, CSE average package ?9 LPA and median ?10 LPA across 42 recruiters like Amazon and Capgemini. IIIT Raichur’s emerging 68.8% placement rate with average ?18 LPA and median ?15 LPA positions it as a growing option. All IIITs are Institutes of National Importance, offering robust labs, research centers, student clubs, and industry internships under PPP models.

Final Recommendation: Select IIIT Nagpur CSE for its superior 88.5% placement rate, ?13.11 LPA average package, and diversified recruiter pool. Next, consider IIIT Kalyani CSE & DS for its 89.33% placements and solid PPP backing. Third is IIIT Dharwad CSE, offering a balanced ?10 LPA average, followed by IIIT Kottayam AI & DS for ?12.66 LPA average. Choose PES University CSE only if private-university infrastructure and near-100% placements outweigh the specialized focus of IIITs; IIIT Bhubaneswar CSE and IIIT Raichur CSE serve as reliable backups. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Ans: Saamarth, Among these five CSE programs, JIIT Noida’s NBA-accredited curriculum features 20+ specialized computing labs, PhD-qualified faculty, and achieved a 94% placement rate over 2022–24 with median package ?8.50 LPA and 112% branch offer rate in 2024. Thapar Patiala (TIET) boasts NAAC A+ accreditation, ACM/IEEE-aligned CSE, strong research labs, and recorded nearly 100% CSE placements in 2024 with an overall UG placement of 83% and 334 recruiters. UIET Panjab University, NAAC A-rated, delivered 86.8% CSE placements in 2024–25 via 100+ recruiters, offering average packages of ?6–8 LPA and solid campus–industry tie-ups. NMIMS Chandigarh’s 2025 cohort has no historical placement data yet, but benefits from NMIMS’s NAAC A+ brand, modern AI/DS labs, 120-seat CSE program, and a robust parent network. Symbiosis Institute of Technology (Pune), NAAC A++-accredited, recorded a 77.8% placement rate in 2024 with average package ?9.32 LPA, top recruiters like Deloitte and Microsoft, and evolving research collaborations.

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Hello, my son is getting B. Tech. CSE seat in GITAM Hyderabad as well as in Mahindra University, Hyderabad. He is waiting for BITSAT counselling as well where he is expecting to get a new course (3+2 programme) launched by BITS Pilani. This course is integrated course where 3 years for BE programme followed by 2 years of MBA from BITSOM. He is expecting Civil Engg. with MBA based on his BITSAT score. Can you please suggest which would be the right choice among these 3 options?
Ans: GITAM School of Technology Hyderabad’s CSE program (NAAC A+ accredited) is delivered by PhD?qualified faculty across AI, data?science, and cybersecurity labs, engaging 900+ recruiters for internships; over 2,262 of 3,474 participants secured placements (~65%) with a median package of ?4.80 LPA. Mahindra University Hyderabad’s B.Tech CSE (NAAC A grade) features multidisciplinary cloud, AI/ML, and cybersecurity labs, partnerships with global firms for six?month internships, and a ~90.7% placement rate in 2023, engaging 48 recruiters with a median package of ?8.50 LPA. BITS Pilani’s new 5-year 3+2 integrated Civil + MBA (NAAC A++, NBA accredited) combines core civil engineering labs (structures, geotech, materials) with two years of MBA at BITSoM, aiming to produce technology-enabled managers; mature placement data for the dual?degree cohort is unavailable, though Civil Engineering at BITS Pilani sustains ~90% placements over three years, and the MBA arm leverages BITSoM’s corporate network.

Recommendation: Prioritise Mahindra University CSE for its proven ~90% placements, robust specialized labs, and global internships. Next, choose GITAM CSE for strong foundational training and broad recruiter engagement. Opt for BITS Pilani Civil + MBA only if your son seeks an elite integrated leadership pathway in civil and can accept inaugural?batch placement uncertainty. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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