Hello ..please help me ...i was with someone for 4years.i had tolerated everything .the slangs the slaps ..domestic violence and abuse was all over there ...and after all of this i had said him that i dont want to be with him anymore...and after 2 3months i was with someone else ..everything had ended with him ..and he is coming now and saying he will show the personal pics of ours to my parents ..what should i do now ..please suggest...my parents are very strict ...

Ans: Dear Neha,
When it has come to blackmailing, I suggest kindly involve your Dad. He knows how to protect his daughter and he will do so. But if you don't feel comfortable or you feel awkward, confide in a family member who is old enough to deal with this 'creep' who definitely seems to get a kick out of all this. If he is underage, his parents will have to be involved to drive some sense inside of him and if he is an adult, the cops giving him a warning can put him in his place.
DO NOT FEAR. Creeps like these are weak and simply prey on girls who crumble under their pressure. Put up a brave front...Also, do not speak with one-on-one OR meet him alone ever. Keep a record of all your text messages and record any future voice conversations. It will help to push him back and again: DO NOT FEAR...Feeling power within you will reach him and he will think before acting hastily...Involve an elder family member ASAP PLEASE...

All the best!

Ans: At this point, it’s essential to protect your emotional and mental health while addressing this issue. You might consider seeking support from someone you trust, such as a close friend or family member, to share this burden. Talking to someone who knows you and your situation can provide comfort and practical guidance.

If he continues to refuse, you may need to explore your legal options. Many countries have laws that protect individuals from having private photos or videos kept or shared without their consent. Taking this step might feel daunting, but it could give you a sense of empowerment and security. It’s not about revenge or escalation; it’s about protecting yourself and asserting your right to move forward without this hanging over you.

On an emotional level, remind yourself that you are not defined by this relationship or the choices you made while in it. You trusted someone who didn’t honor that trust, but this doesn’t diminish your value or strength. It’s natural to feel regret, but you deserve compassion from yourself as you work through this.

You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay to seek help—whether that’s legal advice, emotional support from loved ones, or even professional counseling to navigate the stress and anxiety this situation might be causing. The most important thing now is to take steps that protect your peace of mind and ensure your future isn’t weighed down by his actions.