29-Year-Old Bangalore Man Seeking Marriage Advice: Struggling with Compatibility and Communication

Ans: Why is it getting difficult? Just because the boy is earning a certain income and is smart to look at and is intelligent at work does not guarantee a life partner. Curious to know why is it getting difficult?

Ans: How about asking these women on what should you do to be taken seriously for a long term relationship. Doing so will give you insights into things you can work upon.

Ans: Dear R,
You can try asking close friends and family members to set you up with someone compatible. If you want more control over this, try a matchmaking and dating app. A little research and you will find the right apps, ideally, the ones that cater to serious daters who are looking to get married. Once you find that, update your profile with a recent picture; write your qualifications in the BIO to impress your matches, and mention exactly what you expect from your match- good looks, caring, loving, and responsible- this would help you attract the right people and save you time and energy from chatting up the wrong matches that will go nowhere. These platforms are perfect for finding a compatible partner because you can, quite literally, filter through tons of people and find the one that suits you best.

Hope this helps. Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I agree what's happening to you is not fair, and however you are feeling right now, it is valid. But having said that, you can't justify saying "why cry later for justice, domestic violence and cheating." These are entirely different and serious matters. Do not trivialize them. Rejecting a man who would've loved her does not automatically mean the woman deserves to find a man who should cheat, beat, or abuse her.

Now, coming to your issue, rejection comes for several reasons; it doesn't necessarily have to do anything with your appearance. Since you mentioned getting rejected even before a conversation, my first guess would be that the profile might not be standing out in the crowd of profiles out there. You can try adding hints of humor to your BIO to make it more attractive. Use the 70-30 method in your Bio, where 70% of it showcases you as a person and the remaining 30 subtly indicates your version of an ideal partner. Additionally, try optimizing your DP and select something that shows your fun side.

But I would like to remind you that not everyone's love story runs at the same pace; some take time to start. I know you think it's cliched but people say it because it has truth to it- keep going; I am sure you will find someone.

Best Wishes.