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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 07, 2024Hindi
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Hi I am from Bangalore earning decent salary, having own house,..29yrs average look but athletic body... Still unable to find girl for marriage.. And many request have come in matrimony sites but all are deadly opposite of my requirements (I mean there requirements)... And I am unable to chat openly with any girls I feel they may be not comfortable and end up in saying all the best for your future... Any some opinion or suggestions

Ans: check out singles community, be part of it, learn and observe + build your self confidence. Feel good about yourself and you will find your person.

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I am a Good Looking guy aged 32 , Government Officer and I do own my own consultancy firm and an Wildlife conservation NGO. I am into Music field as a singer and instrumentalist since 17 years. However I am unable to find a right life partner. Most of them reject as I am not ready to move to Bangalore. Basically I am from Mysore and work in Coorg. I live with mom and we are Brahmin family with moderate values and respect towards our culture and not orthodox. Now I am not ready for intercaste marriage. I dont have any compulsions like working girl or not working girl. I need only a girl who is beautiful , caring and loving. She should understand her responsibilities. I think I deserve such life partner. What to do ? How can I make any match.
Ans: Dear R,
You can try asking close friends and family members to set you up with someone compatible. If you want more control over this, try a matchmaking and dating app. A little research and you will find the right apps, ideally, the ones that cater to serious daters who are looking to get married. Once you find that, update your profile with a recent picture; write your qualifications in the BIO to impress your matches, and mention exactly what you expect from your match- good looks, caring, loving, and responsible- this would help you attract the right people and save you time and energy from chatting up the wrong matches that will go nowhere. These platforms are perfect for finding a compatible partner because you can, quite literally, filter through tons of people and find the one that suits you best.

Hope this helps. Best Wishes.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 14, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I'm soon to be 36 M, unmarried and never had any relationship in all my years, I have registered myself with many matrimony sites and have been searching for a girl or maybe a woman now, for last 5 or 6 years. My problem is that most girls in matrimonial reject me out right for reason like looks, money/property, age, etc, now I have asked some of my friends discreetly about my looks and I'm very confident about myself, also I know I do earn good bucks, despite that I don't understand what could be possible reason to not even have a single conversation before they reject someone. I have even tried my hands on dating apps, but I have not had success there as well. Some time I feel worthless and have breakdowns because of this. I don't have anyone to share this with and I know no one cares about it anyway as everyone has their own problem and you will be the last thing in their mind. I know the answer I'm going to get here - "keep trying", "life is not fair" etc, but I feel this is total crap, why does no women want a man who would respect her and care for her, why cry later for justice, domestic violence and cheating. After all this, I'm losing hope that I'll find my or any love in this world.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I agree what's happening to you is not fair, and however you are feeling right now, it is valid. But having said that, you can't justify saying "why cry later for justice, domestic violence and cheating." These are entirely different and serious matters. Do not trivialize them. Rejecting a man who would've loved her does not automatically mean the woman deserves to find a man who should cheat, beat, or abuse her.

Now, coming to your issue, rejection comes for several reasons; it doesn't necessarily have to do anything with your appearance. Since you mentioned getting rejected even before a conversation, my first guess would be that the profile might not be standing out in the crowd of profiles out there. You can try adding hints of humor to your BIO to make it more attractive. Use the 70-30 method in your Bio, where 70% of it showcases you as a person and the remaining 30 subtly indicates your version of an ideal partner. Additionally, try optimizing your DP and select something that shows your fun side.

But I would like to remind you that not everyone's love story runs at the same pace; some take time to start. I know you think it's cliched but people say it because it has truth to it- keep going; I am sure you will find someone.

Best Wishes.

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Sir, i scored 90.41%le in jee mains and im in st category but failed in one subject (physics) in ts ipe ( 12th board) with 63.9 % criteria ( st - 65% criteria required) i went through supplymentry exam and got passed that one subject with 65.8% but, still my seat got cancelled in josaa counselling, what can i do now sir!?
Ans: Banavath, JoSAA deems candidates eligible for NIT+IIIT+GFTI seats only if they both hold a valid JEE-Main rank and have passed Class XII with at least 65% aggregate in PCM plus two other subjects for SC/ST categories. Supplementary-exam results are acceptable, but the revised marksheet must reach the virtual reporting centre before the document-verification deadline; otherwise the verifying officer flags “not passed,” auto-generating a seat-cancellation letter. Because your corrected 65.8% marks arrived after the verification window, the system removed you from further JoSAA rounds. Immediately email the JoSAA help-desk: josaa(at)iitk.ac.in with the new marksheet and cancellation letter, requesting reopening of your file; if the authority declines, register for the CSAB-2025 special rounds, which honour the same 65% rule and accept fresh documents. Failing that, use state counselling in Telangana/AP or private-university quotas that recognise JEE-Main ranks, as supplementary passes satisfy their eligibility too.

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Upload the revised marksheet and lodge a written grievance with JoSAA’s help-desk today; if reinstatement is denied, enter CSAB special rounds with updated documents, then parallel-apply to state engineering and accredited private institutes to secure a 2025-26 seat while preserving your JEE-Main advantage. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hi can you please advice if ISE or Computer Science & Business systems branch is better in NITTE meenakshi college bangalore. Any idea about Faculty for these 2 CS allied branches? How about placement opportunities for ISE & CSBS . Will these CS specialised curriculum at par with CSE Branch? will industry accept CSBS for Software developer roles?
Ans: Narayana, NITTE Meenakshi Institute of Technology offers both Information Science and Engineering (ISE) and Computer Science and Business Systems (CSBS) programs with distinct advantages. ISE, established in 2001, provides a comprehensive software-focused curriculum with NBA Tier-1 accreditation and extensive research opportunities in AI, machine learning, and cybersecurity. The department features experienced faculty including Dr. Mohan SG as Head, with strong industry connections through companies like Unisys and McAfee. CSBS, a newer program developed in collaboration with TCS, combines computer science fundamentals with business systems knowledge, preparing students for NextGen business engineering roles. The curriculum is industry-tailored by TCS experts who conduct periodic sessions on emerging technologies, with faculty trained through TCS's "Train the Trainer" program.

Five Critical Institutional Aspects:

1. Accreditation & Rankings: NMIT holds NBA Tier-1 accreditation for ISE (valid until 2026-27), NAAC A+ grade, and ranks 101-150 in NIRF 2024.

2. Infrastructure: The 23-acre campus features state-of-the-art laboratories, exclusive research facilities, AR/VR/MR labs, IoT centers, departmental libraries, and 11 Centers of Excellence including quantum computing and cybersecurity.

3. Faculty Quality: ISE department has highly qualified faculty with extensive research experience and industry collaboration, while CSBS faculty are TCS-trained with periodic expert visits.

4. Industry Collaboration: Strong partnerships with TCS for CSBS, Unisys, Dell, Amazon, and Microsoft for placements and internships.

5. Placement Performance: 2024 statistics show ISE achieving 88.37% placement rate with average package Rs 7.2 LPA, while overall institutional placement rate reached 94.3% with highest package Rs 47 LPA.

Pros and Cons Comparison:

CSBS Advantages: Direct TCS collaboration ensures industry relevance, business-oriented curriculum bridges technology-business gap, emerging field with high demand, specialized training in analytics and machine learning, strong placement prospects in consulting roles.

ISE Advantages: Established department with proven track record, extensive research opportunities, broader technical scope, higher current placement rates, NBA accreditation, diverse career paths in software development and cybersecurity.

CSBS Disadvantages: Newer program with limited track record, fewer research opportunities compared to ISE, curriculum heavily dependent on TCS partnership, limited higher education options specifically in CSBS.

ISE Disadvantages: More traditional approach, potentially less business-oriented curriculum, higher competition due to established nature, may require additional business skills development for consulting roles.

Industry acceptance for software developer roles is strong for both branches. Companies recruiting CSE students typically allow ISE students to participate in the same placement drives, with minimal differentiation in software development positions. CSBS graduates are specifically designed for business engineering roles and are increasingly accepted by major IT companies including Amazon, Deloitte, Microsoft, and TCS for software development, business analyst, and data scientist positions.

Recommendation: Choose CSBS if you're interested in combining technical skills with business acumen and prefer industry-tailored curriculum with direct corporate mentorship. Select ISE if you prioritize established academic reputation, extensive research opportunities, and broader technical foundation with proven placement success. Both programs offer excellent software developer career prospects, with CSBS providing additional business system expertise and ISE offering deeper technical specialization. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 01, 2025Hindi
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Mam, I am in relationship with one girl since 2.5 year and my girlfriend told about our relationship to her mom. Every positive point of mine which told by my girlfriend to her mom but every point taken negetivly and denied to her.. Move on from relationship... Leave this relationship. He is not good boy.. The problem of her mother is the caste as well as I am Divorcee person and she is unmarried. We love to each other and want to marry. Due to her mother oppose, she is nervousness totally or told that she has no any idea what to do... How to do.. She is not sure she is convince to her family or not. She told that I don't know how much time she can servive to convince her family. Totally her mind felt like empty, dumb, nervousness. Her father not know about our relationship. When this type moment occurs she behave that sometime it is agree to make efforts for convince and sometime when she is nervousness that time she told that i can not convince and to do the breakup because she is not want to go against the her mom and family. But she told that also she want to marry with me. What should I do?
Ans: I am going with the assumption you both are adults who are thinking individuals. I am also assuming you are both financially independent.

Families, parents are important and it should be so. I understand parents apprehension, having said this, I do not get it why caste and relationship status as previously married takes precedence over compatibility. One should also realise that every relationship needs working upon by 2 people- there is no certainty if someone gets married within their caste or choice of parents/ family.

Coming to your issue there are 2 options

- she is open to take the step upsetting her parents and getting married to you

or

- she and you need to move on and move on in the true sense. which means no connection whatsoever, move out of each other's social media, block contact details and move on, heal yourself and find someone else.

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