Hello Ma’am/Sir.
I, Shivam Sharma. I want a suggestion for the problem I am facing right now. Before that I am going to share my story with you.
It is about 2018 when I joined a gym near-by my house. I got a crush on a girl. She came with her sister and brother.
I used to watch her in gym. Later I found that I love her. I have had her in my dreams.
After some time I think she knows that I watched her in gym and got a crush on her. Then she, her sister started watching me every day and sometimes they smile sometimes they used to make a strange face like angry or something but I didn't understand at all (mixed reactions).
All this went for a long time till 2020 before COVID-19.
I know her Instagram and Facebook handle but I didn’t her send her a request becoz of reputation. Even I can't able to talk to her in gym becoz of reputation.
After that I didn't get the time to join the gym till now.
Now the situation is I joined the gym but still I got mixed reaction sometimes smile or strange or no reaction. I don't able to understand what is going on in her head.
I really want something to happen but in a positive way. I really like this girl I want to spend my whole life with her. I want to marry. I want this to happen in 3 months becoz after that I will move to some other state for my further studies. I don't have enough time.
Ma’am, please help me how can I approach her. How can I make her feel positive or to like me and relationship all. I can't able to understand what I am going to do.
Shivam
Ans: Whoa, slow down Romeo!
Just seeing a girl in the gym is different from spending the rest of your life with her.
Please be a little practical...you know NOTHING about her. So I’d suggest that you make a move to get to know her first, because you haven’t for three years!
And stop building her up so much in your head, it’s not healthy.
You’re obsessed with someone you don’t know. Go up to her and her sister in the gym, introduce yourself and maybe ask them both out for coffee after your workout session and get acquainted first.
You can think of marriage when you’re dating a person, not when you don’t even know her name!
