Hello Anu, I am 48, male. I married in 2007 and we were blessed with a daughter in 2015.

Ever since we were pregnant, I left my regular job and started working from home instead. Things went off smooth and professionally there is not much of a problem.

Agreed, 2020 has been quite a bad year for almost everyone and I am no exception. But then, things are somewhat better with me when I see people around and learn about their getting unemployed or otherwise.

My problem is related to family, relationship with my wife and this has started playing on me.

The last time we indulged in any sexual activity was probably before my wife became pregnant. And even before that, she was always uninterested in having anything physical between us.

At max, we would have sex just once a month. But after her birth, we have never had sex, no time together. The most we talk about in a day is the stock of this is finishing up or you need to get this or that kind of things.

She works in an office, so she has friends, people whom she can talk to and spend time. I stay home caring for my daughter. Though most of the day is spent with caring for her, there is something that is dying inside me.

I had tried asking her to make a visit to the consultant locally, but she has always denied. And she keeps telling me that all I need is sex from her, which of course has never been true.

I wished there was some medical solution for my problems but I know there is nothing wrong. It is just some psychological issue. At times I just want to leave up everything and quit, but then I prefer not to do it thinking about the daughter.

I now feel that I do need some friends, but at my age, finding them is also tough. I do not feel comfortable talking about these issues to even my friends because - 1. I do not feel that close with any and 2. I wonder, if any of those confronted up my wife with this - that would be asking for a chaos as well.

I could go on into more details but am unsure if you would have that enough time. Please suggest if you can.

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There are opportunities in both Electronics and Telecommunications (EnTC) and Information Technology (IT). Generally, EnTC is ranked higher than AIDS but lower than IT. The choice is yours. Given that the field is constantly evolving, you must be ready to accept various challenges after graduation. Additionally, consider pursuing online or part-time courses from reputable organizations to enhance your job prospects.

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Ans: You have built a strong financial base, especially with no loans and good liquidity. At age 52, the main focus should now be capital protection, regular income and your childs education.

» Overall Financial Position

– Your Rs.1 crore FD provides a strong safety base.
– You have around Rs.15 lakh separately for emergencies.
– Your second flat can provide additional capital if sold.
– The plot is another existing asset, but need not be increased.
– Your term insurance is already fully paid.
– Family health insurance provides important protection.
– Most importantly, you have no EMI or outstanding loan.

Overall, your financial position looks comfortable.

» Your Retirement Requirement

Your present expenses are around Rs.50,000 to Rs.60,000 monthly.

Since you are already retired, your investments should now generate stable income.

I would not put the entire Rs.1 crore FD into equity.

Instead, create a proper mix of:

– Safe fixed-income investments for near-term expenses.
– High-quality mutual funds for long-term growth.
– Adequate bank liquidity for emergencies.
– A separate education corpus for your child.

This can give you both stability and growth.

» Childs Education

Your child is already in 12th grade.

Therefore, this is your immediate financial priority.

Do not take high equity risk with money needed soon.

Keep the education requirement separately identified.

If a large amount is required for higher education, plan this before investing for long-term growth.

» ULIP Policies

This is the area I would review carefully.

You have a large ULIP with Rs.15 lakh annual premium. Three years are already paid, with Rs.30 lakh still payable.

You also have another Rs.10 lakh ULIP and an LIC policy.

At your present stage, these policies should not automatically be continued.

Ask for the following details for each policy:

– Current surrender value
– Maturity value
– Remaining premium
– Guaranteed benefits
– Fund value
– Applicable surrender charges
– Tax implications
– Actual expected return

The large ULIP needs particular attention because substantial premiums are still pending.

After comparing the benefits and surrender value, exiting unsuitable policies and redirecting money towards suitable mutual funds may be better.

Do this only after reviewing the exact policy terms.

» FD Management

Rs.1 crore in FD is a strong safety cushion.

But keeping the entire retirement corpus in FDs may reduce long-term growth.

Interest income is also taxable as per applicable rules.

Therefore, gradually creating a diversified portfolio can be considered.

Do not move the entire FD amount into equity at one time.

A phased approach is more suitable for a retired investor.

» Second Flat

You are considering selling the second flat for around Rs.55 lakh.

If there is no personal use for it, selling it can simplify your finances.

The proceeds can be allocated towards:

– Child education
– Retirement income
– Emergency reserves
– Long-term growth investments

I would not recommend buying another property with the sale proceeds.

» Plot

The plot can remain as an existing asset.

But I would not depend on its future appreciation for retirement planning.

If it is eventually sold, the proceeds can strengthen your financial portfolio.

» Mutual Fund Strategy

You have not mentioned any existing mutual fund corpus.

This is one area where you can gradually add a growth component.

At age 52, some equity exposure is still useful.

It can help your portfolio beat inflation over the long term.

But equity allocation should match your retirement income needs.

Avoid taking aggressive risks simply to generate higher returns.

» Monthly Income Planning

Your present spending is manageable compared with your financial assets.

Still, inflation will increase your monthly requirement over time.

So your portfolio should have two parts:

– A stable income bucket for regular expenses.
– A growth bucket for expenses many years later.

This structure can reduce the need to sell equity during market corrections.

» Insurance Review

Your health insurance is a good protection layer.

Continue reviewing the cover as medical costs increase.

Your fully paid term insurance is also useful for family protection.

Since you are retired, review whether the insurance still serves a specific family need.

Do not buy additional investment-linked insurance without a clear need.

» Emergency Fund

Your Rs.15 lakh emergency fund is quite healthy.

Keep this amount easily accessible.

Do not invest emergency money aggressively.

This provides peace of mind during unexpected situations.

» Important Tax Point

Before selling the flat, plot or ULIP, check the applicable tax impact.

Property transactions can create capital gains.

ULIP surrender or withdrawal can also have tax implications depending on policy conditions.

So calculate the post-tax amount before taking decisions.

» 360-Degree Action Plan

– First secure your childs immediate education requirement.
– Review all three insurance-linked investment policies.
– Decide whether the large ULIP should continue.
– Maintain adequate FD and emergency liquidity.
– Consider selling the unused flat if financially suitable.
– Do not add more property investments.
– Gradually build a diversified mutual fund portfolio.
– Keep retirement income and long-term growth separately.
– Review the entire portfolio at least once every year.

» Final Insights

Your financial position is stronger than it may initially appear.

You have substantial assets, no debt and manageable monthly expenses.

The main issue is not creating wealth aggressively now.

The bigger objective is managing your existing wealth efficiently.

Your ULIP portfolio deserves the most detailed review.

With proper restructuring, you can aim for stable retirement income while still allowing part of your money to grow.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

AMFI-Registered MFD – ARN 4188

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

Ans: Prefer AI @ LNMIT if possible.

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Ans: Yes. It is a good option.

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Ans: Go with AI+BS @ IIM Lucknow if possible.

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