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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 20, 2023Hindi
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I had a girlfriend. Who got married in 2016. In 2023 I met her cousin sister. I started to love her. What to do? Should I tell her that I love her?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your ex-partner is married and that gives you every right to move on. I understand that the situation is tricky here but the first thing is to make sure you tell your present crush about your ex and the fact that they are related. If all of that is already out in the open, it's time to assess if the girl also feels the same way about you. If that aligns, there's no reason why you can't express your feelings for her. But if she isn't comfortable dating her cousin's ex, you should leave it at that.

It's important to understand that life does not have to be so complicated. You can give it a try but if things don't work out, move on. There are surely many more women who are looking for someone exactly like you.

Best Wishes.

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Hello Sir, I am looking at imvesting around Rs.20,000 per month in SIP with good returns and overall balanced portfolio along with some us stock exposure (Parag Parikh kind of funds). Please provide your valuable suggest in which mutual funds should I invest or is ETF better option
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