I'm Feeling Guilty After My Wife's Death - What Should I Do?

Ans: Dear Vishal,
I am truly sorry for your loss.
It isn't easy to get over the loss of a loved one. I do see that in most cases, people find themselves in a guilty space constantly thinking that they could have done something more and that they haven't done it. Then they go on a guilt trip that makes the process of grieving even harder.
What I suggest is:
- Tell yourself that you did the best that you could as a Son even if you keep doubting this, keep saying this over and over again.
- Next, celebrate joyful moments that you had with your mother
- Lastly, as strange as it may seem; simply ask for forgiveness for any intentional or unintentional doings (I have seen this work during Grief counseling work. It may not appeal to the logical side of things BUT who is to say if things actually work unto relief)

You did what you could and in the best possible manner; period!

All the best!

Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There is no point wanting a 'past' relationship just because you have one...what if that relationship did not exist, you would have possibly made efforts to make your marriage work, right?
Then do just that...DO NOT treat your marriage as an option...which marriage is a perfect one? And are all spouses tailor-made to fit one another?
So, if her thoughts don't match with yours, then even yours don't match with hers...so, should she also think of jumping into some other relationship. Please act mature about this especially with a child in the entire equation; try and understand each other...speak about your differences and find ways of working on them by accepting them. Ex-love etc looks all very nice, but come down to ground reality; please...work on your marriage!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I strongly suggest that you see an expert who can help you with this entire journey. It's not simple yet it can have a solution for you. Approach a professional and let them work with you guiding you step by step on not only releasing guilt BUT also work on your past relationship with your late wife which needs closure.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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