HI,This is vishal ,age 48,lost my mother recently,but i think i was late to get her to hospital,and i feel really guilty,how to get out of it
Ans: Dear Vishal,
I am truly sorry for your loss.
It isn't easy to get over the loss of a loved one. I do see that in most cases, people find themselves in a guilty space constantly thinking that they could have done something more and that they haven't done it. Then they go on a guilt trip that makes the process of grieving even harder.
What I suggest is:
- Tell yourself that you did the best that you could as a Son even if you keep doubting this, keep saying this over and over again.
- Next, celebrate joyful moments that you had with your mother
- Lastly, as strange as it may seem; simply ask for forgiveness for any intentional or unintentional doings (I have seen this work during Grief counseling work. It may not appeal to the logical side of things BUT who is to say if things actually work unto relief)
You did what you could and in the best possible manner; period!
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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