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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 18, 2024Hindi
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Hi Gurus, I am 40yrs Female. I have 2 kids. Daughter is 12yrs and Son is 11 yrs. Because of kids we hardly have sex 1-2 times in a month. My husband is a nice person and he is ok in bed(sometimes satisfying and sometimes not). Since 5 yrs I have been chatting with my Ex-colleague who is 28 yrs unmarried. Recently he proposed me for sex. I said ok but I am afraid of getting caught. Please Gurus suggest me what to do.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Running away from discomfort into the arms of a person who gives you the illusion of attention isn't going to help you or your marriage.
Focus on your family and marriage and work on ways and means if spicing up your sex life instead of giving into the charms of this young man. You know what's at stake and also that after the initial craze with you, he might just hop onto the next woman who will catch his attention...You will not just get caught, the guilt perhaps will eat into you and seep into your marriage.

Do what must be done to spice things up with your husband...start with a simple conversation. Also, your children are old enough to be taken care of by a relative or a friend for an evening of fun with your husband.

Of course, the decision is still yours to make...but know what's at stake here and tread carefully. What's done can never be undone!

All the best!

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Hi Madam, I am 36 yrs old girl, working in central govt, I lost my parents long back, all my siblings are elder & busy in their family, brothers doesnt even talk to me, so there is no one who is seriously finding boy for my marriage, I tried through matrimonial apps, it didnt work. Based on my colleague advise, I tried through dating apps but nobody is genuine there, most of them are looking for hook up. Finally I found one guy who is 3 years elder than me but come to know within 3months that he too married but we are in touch through calls & msgs from past 6 years, since I stay alone at quarters, he met me more than 30 times at my place, even spent nights with me but never forced me for anything that I dont like. I love him a lot but he is married so I dont want have physical relationship with him but I too have biological urges but I am scared of getting pregnant or even loosing virginity which might affect my marriage, at the same time I dont have any hopes left on my marriage. This guy has lots of patience , we meet, drink together , do all things except intercourse , could you pls advise me whether I should have sex with him? also I stopped using dating apps as I love this guy.
Ans: I read your question a few times...I will respond it in 3 parts
Part 1:
Current relationship with someone who is not available - You are 36 and are smart to take life decisions. You can do as you wish but incase you get intimate - keep it to that only. Do not let your emotions come to play and get used to him - treat this relationship as a casual relationship which it is already. As for getting pregnant - take precautions, but more than pregnancy you should be worried about STD's hope this man is clean. As for you stopping your search because of this man - Remember - He is NOT AVAILABLE - so rethink why are you being available for someone who is not available to you. You and only you are responsible for your current situation. You have the mind to decide if you wish to continue to know or him or stop this relationship.

Part 2:
Finding someone compatible/ likeminded can become easy if you are (a) not in a hurry (b) know your dealbreakers and negotiables (c) feel confident and good about yourself...if you have these things in place then you would need patience and with that you will find your person - online or offline.

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Its unfortunate you lost your parents - a virtual hug coming your way. While parents and sibling do help in introducing their people to others its wrong to Expect them to help - its your relationship and its ok to find your person, in fact its awesome to do so.
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 09, 2024Hindi
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Hello madam, i m 32 year married women, my husband love more than anything, he is good in everything, he take care of me, he bring me whatever i want, he is very good in bed. But i dont love him. Before marriage i had boyfriend, he never accepted me and assured he will marry me, so i decided to marry my husband in 2019. Till oct 2022 i had communication with my ex boyfriend, but when he got married he stopped calling me and i also stoped thinking about him. Lately i meet guy in my office he is 23, music teacher, not so good looking, not completed graduation, not financial strong but i developed feeling for him. I lied to him about my marriage, to get close to him. Once my husband caught me doing wrong, told me to not do. But still i want to continue and want to live with this guy. I want to divorce and live with young guy. I am doing correct or not please suggest.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The fact that you are asking me whether it is correct or not shows that you are absolutely questioning yourself...
You yourself said that your husband loves you more than anything...then what makes you go around in circles searching for love and attention outside? Obviously you are unable to appreciate what you have...when you can't see that you have a stable life, all you think of doing is thinking of the boyfriend who did not accept you and the young boy who all of 23 is immature and financially unstable with who you want to live with!
Are things described in a nutshell now? You are free to make your choices but also know that you will have to bear the consequences.
At 23,
What sort of a life ahead he visualized for himself?
Does it include you?
What is the guarantee that he will not meet younger women later on?
And if you wish to start a family considering that he is already 23, does he have the capability to support you and the baby?
- Have you considered all of this?
Kindly step up for yourself and start thinking rather than running around in a scattered way looking for someone else to make you happy...

All the best!
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Hello madam, i m 32 year married women, my husband love me more than anything, he is good in everything, he take care of me, he bring me whatever i want, he is very good in bed also. We dont have kids because i never loved my husband. Before marriage i had boyfriend, he never accepted me and assured me that he will marry me, so i decided to marry my husband in 2019. Till oct 2022, i used to communicate with my ex boyfriend, but when he got married he stopped calling me and i also stoped thinking about him. Lately, in Sept 2023, i meet guy in my office he is 23, music teacher, not so good looking, not completed graduation, not financial strong but i developed feeling for him. I lied to him, told i am not married, to get close to him. Once my husband caught me cheating with him in whatsapp messages, told me to not do. But still i went ahead to continue my relationship with this young guy and want to live with this guy. I want to divorce and live with young guy. My parents and family love and respect my husband like their own son. I am doing correct or not please suggest me.
Ans: No you certainly are not “doing correct”! Here’s a good man who loves you and treats you well and has forgiven your indiscretions and still you want someone else? You agreed to marry, right - no one put a gun to your head. Now honour that commitment and stop being so fickle-minded. At 23, your boyfriend is really young and immature. Right now you’re all hot and heavy, but give it a minute; realistically your relationship is unlikely to survive in the long run. And you want to hurt your husband and walk out on your marriage for nothing…he’s only ever treated you right. Don’t be a fool!
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Sir, I am 37 years old and plan to take a term life insurance for my family, which consists of my wife and 6 year old daughter. I am confused whether I should choose a normal policy which expires after the coverage period, or one which returns the premiums after the coverage period. Obviously, the latter involves spending a higher sum as premium per month. Also please suggest the companies offering policies with better claim settling history
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I have a corpus fund of 20 Lacs. Could you please suggest any investment strategy where I can earn monthly income
Ans: With a corpus fund of 20 lakhs, generating a monthly income requires a prudent investment strategy. Consider allocating a portion of your corpus to income-generating assets while preserving capital. Here are some potential strategies:

Fixed Deposits (FDs) or Recurring Deposits (RDs): Invest a portion of your corpus in FDs or RDs with banks or NBFCs to earn a fixed interest income monthly.
Debt Mutual Funds: Consider investing in debt mutual funds that focus on generating regular income through interest payments from debt securities. Choose funds with a track record of stable returns and low expense ratios.
Dividend-Paying Stocks: Invest in dividend-paying stocks of established companies to receive regular dividend income. Focus on companies with a history of consistent dividend payouts and strong fundamentals.
Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP): Implement an SWP in mutual funds to systematically withdraw a fixed amount from your corpus each month. Opt for funds with a balanced allocation to equity and debt for stability and growth potential.
Real Estate Investment Trusts (REITs) or Infrastructure Investment Trusts (InvITs): Consider investing in REITs or InvITs, which distribute a portion of their rental income or infrastructure project cash flows to investors as dividends.
Annuities: Explore the option of purchasing annuities from insurance companies, which provide a regular income stream in exchange for a lump-sum investment.
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I am investing ?3, 000/- each in SIP of Axis Blue Chip Fund, Parag Parikh Flexi Cap, Edelweiss Balanced Advantage, SBI Magnum Mid Cap, Kotak Small Cap and Kotak Gold Fund. Is my portfolio an investment in right direction. I intend to keep the investment for 10 years.
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Axis Blue Chip Fund: This fund invests in large-cap stocks with a track record of stable earnings and strong fundamentals. It offers stability and growth potential, making it suitable for conservative investors.
Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund: This flexi-cap fund has the flexibility to invest across market capitalizations and sectors. It follows a bottom-up stock-picking approach, aiming for long-term capital appreciation. It's suitable for investors seeking diversification and growth.
Edelweiss Balanced Advantage Fund: This fund dynamically allocates between equity and debt instruments based on market conditions. It aims to provide stable returns with lower volatility, making it suitable for investors with a moderate risk tolerance.
SBI Magnum Mid Cap Fund: Mid-cap funds like this one invest in mid-sized companies with the potential for higher growth. They can be more volatile but offer the potential for significant long-term returns.
Kotak Small Cap Fund: Small-cap funds invest in small-sized companies with high growth potential. They can be more volatile but offer the potential for substantial long-term gains.
Kotak Gold Fund: This fund invests in gold ETFs, providing exposure to the precious metal. Gold can act as a hedge against inflation and currency fluctuations, adding diversification to your portfolio.
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Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to review your portfolio and make any necessary adjustments based on changes in market conditions or your personal circumstances. They can provide personalized guidance to help you achieve your investment objectives with confidence over the next 10 years.
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Sir I am just start sip UTI NIFTY F 50 3500 UTI NEXT 50 2500 PARAG PARAGH FELXI CAP 4000 NAVI MIDCAP 150 2500 QUANTH SMALL 2000 ITS GOOD SIR
Ans: Your selection of mutual funds for SIP investment appears to be diversified across different market segments, which is generally a good strategy for long-term wealth accumulation. Here are some considerations:

Index Funds: UTI Nifty 50 and UTI Next 50 are index funds that track the Nifty 50 and Nifty Next 50 indices, respectively. These funds provide exposure to top-performing large-cap and mid-cap companies, offering broad market diversification with relatively lower expense ratios.
Flexi-cap Funds: Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund and Navi Midcap 150 are flexi-cap and mid-cap funds, respectively. These funds have the flexibility to invest across companies of various market capitalizations, providing diversification and the potential for higher returns.
Small-cap Funds: Quant Small Cap Fund focuses on investing in small-cap companies with high growth potential. Small-cap funds can be more volatile but offer the potential for significant long-term returns.
Overall, your portfolio is well-diversified across large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap segments of the market, which can help spread risk and optimize returns over the long term. However, it's essential to regularly review your portfolio's performance and ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals and risk tolerance.

Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to evaluate your investment strategy and make any necessary adjustments based on changes in market conditions or your personal circumstances. They can provide personalized guidance to help you achieve your investment objectives with confidence.
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Sir , I'm 35 years now , Investing In company PPF ( COAL INDIA LIMITED) 10500 per month, need to further Invest 10000 per month in MF for long term and my risk category is Conservative
Ans: Given your conservative risk profile and the desire for long-term investment, it's prudent to consider mutual fund options that prioritize stability and consistent returns. Here are some suggestions:

Large-cap Equity Funds: These funds invest in well-established companies with a track record of stable earnings and lower volatility. They offer relatively lower risk compared to mid-cap or small-cap funds. Look for funds with a proven track record of delivering consistent returns over the long term.
Balanced Advantage Funds: These funds dynamically allocate between equity and debt instruments based on market conditions, aiming to provide stable returns with lower volatility. They can be suitable for conservative investors seeking a balance between growth and capital preservation.
Hybrid Equity Funds: These funds invest in a mix of equity and debt instruments, offering diversification and downside protection. They are suitable for investors looking for a combination of growth and stability in their portfolio.
Index Funds: These funds passively track a market index like the Nifty 50 or Sensex, offering broad market exposure with low expenses. They can be a suitable option for conservative investors seeking stable returns without active fund management.
Debt Funds: Consider allocating a portion of your investment to debt funds for stability and income generation. Options include short-duration funds or corporate bond funds, which invest in high-quality fixed income securities.
Before investing, carefully assess the risk-return profile of each fund and ensure it aligns with your investment objectives and risk tolerance. It's also advisable to consult with a Certified Financial Planner to create a personalized investment plan tailored to your financial goals and circumstances. They can provide valuable guidance and help you navigate the complexities of mutual fund investing to achieve long-term wealth accumulation with peace of mind.
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I am buying MFs through icici direct It was till now mostly elss to save tax I want to invest in bulk ( no SIP ) now My questio is I gather icici would charge 1.5 % upfront for any buys and 1% on it every year then onwards so after 10 yars i gain say 15 % overall then , 11.5 % ( 1.5 +10 ) will already been charged by icici leaving me with 3.5% returns? Is this correct ? they never rwspond transparently abd give evasive replies
Ans: It's important to clarify the fee structure and its impact on your overall returns when investing through platforms like ICICI Direct. While they may charge an upfront fee and an annual fee for maintaining your investments, the impact on your returns may not be as significant as you've outlined.

Firstly, the upfront fee is typically a one-time charge applied at the time of purchase and is not deducted annually from your investment returns. Similarly, the annual fee (if applicable) is usually a percentage of the assets under management and is deducted from your investment periodically, rather than as a lump sum at the end of the investment period.

While fees can affect your returns, it's essential to consider the potential returns generated by your investments over time. If your investments perform well, they can potentially outweigh the impact of fees on your overall returns.

However, it's crucial to have clarity on the fee structure and its impact on your investments. If you're unsure about the fees charged by ICICI Direct or if you feel they're not being transparent, it may be beneficial to seek advice from a Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD) who can provide unbiased guidance and help you navigate the investment process more effectively. Working with an MFD can bring synergy to your investment journey and ensure you make informed decisions aligned with your financial goals.
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Would like to invest 20L lumpsum for period of next 5 to 7 years
Ans: Investing a lump sum of 20 lakhs for a period of 5 to 7 years requires a careful approach to balance potential returns with risk. Here are some considerations:

Risk Tolerance: Assess your risk tolerance to determine the appropriate allocation between equity and debt investments. For a shorter investment horizon of 5 to 7 years, it's generally advisable to lean towards a more conservative allocation to minimize the impact of market volatility.
Asset Allocation: Consider diversifying your investment across asset classes such as equities, debt, and possibly alternative investments like gold or real estate investment trusts (REITs). This can help spread risk and optimize returns based on market conditions.
Equity Investments: Allocate a portion of your lump sum to equity investments for the potential to generate higher returns over the long term. You may consider investing in diversified equity mutual funds or index funds that track broad market indices.
Debt Investments: Allocate another portion of your lump sum to debt investments for stability and income generation. Options include fixed deposits, debt mutual funds, or government bonds. Choose instruments with a suitable maturity period based on your investment horizon.
Review and Rebalance: Periodically review your investment portfolio and rebalance as needed to ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals and risk tolerance. Adjustments may be necessary based on changing market conditions and your evolving investment objectives.
Consult a Financial Advisor: Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner who can provide personalized advice tailored to your financial situation and goals. They can help create a customized investment strategy and provide ongoing guidance to optimize returns while managing risk.
By taking a diversified approach and staying disciplined with your investment strategy, you can work towards achieving your financial objectives over the next 5 to 7 years.
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 11, 2024Hindi
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Why don't you take into reckoning schemes of Quant Mutual Fund while suggesting funds to investors, despite their outperformance? Secondly, what do you think about lump sum investment vis a vis SIP ?
Ans: When suggesting mutual funds to investors, I aim to provide a broad range of options that align with their financial goals, risk tolerance, and investment horizon. While Quant Mutual Fund schemes may have delivered outperformance in certain periods, my goal is to offer a balanced perspective by considering various fund houses and investment styles.

Regarding lump sum investment versus SIP (Systematic Investment Plan), both approaches have their pros and cons. Lump sum investment involves investing a large amount of money upfront, which can potentially lead to higher returns if the market performs well. However, it also exposes investors to the risk of market timing and volatility.

On the other hand, SIPs involve investing a fixed amount regularly over time, which helps average out market fluctuations through rupee cost averaging. SIPs are suitable for investors who prefer a disciplined and systematic approach to investing and want to mitigate the risk of timing the market.

Ultimately, the choice between lump sum investment and SIP depends on factors such as the investor's risk tolerance, investment horizon, and market outlook. It's essential to consider individual circumstances and consult with a Certified Financial Planner to determine the most suitable approach for achieving financial goals.
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Suggest me sip for 10 yrs wth gud profit mam I m bala
Ans: Bala! Investing in SIPs (Systematic Investment Plans) for a period of 10 years can be a prudent way to build wealth over the long term. Here are some suggestions for SIPs that have the potential for good returns:

Large-cap Equity Funds: These funds invest in well-established companies with a track record of stable earnings and are relatively less volatile compared to mid-cap and small-cap funds. Examples include funds that track the Nifty 50 or Sensex indices.
Multi-cap Equity Funds: These funds have the flexibility to invest across companies of various market capitalizations, offering a diversified portfolio. Look for funds with a proven track record of delivering consistent returns over the long term.
Mid-cap and Small-cap Equity Funds: These funds invest in companies with smaller market capitalizations, which have the potential for higher growth but come with higher volatility. If you have a higher risk appetite and a longer investment horizon, consider allocating a portion of your SIP towards these funds.
Sectoral Funds: Investing in SIPs focused on specific sectors like technology, healthcare, or banking can be profitable if you have a strong conviction about the growth prospects of these sectors. However, sectoral funds come with higher risk and volatility, so it's essential to diversify your portfolio accordingly.
Remember to choose SIPs that align with your risk tolerance, investment goals, and time horizon. It's also crucial to review your portfolio periodically and make adjustments as needed. Consulting with a Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized guidance tailored to your financial situation and objectives. Happy investing!
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