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Sujith Question by Sujith on Apr 08, 2023Hindi
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Hi, I've gotten into relationship an year ago, for the first eight months it was long distance, couple months ago she had the need to do intership and needed to move to the place im working at, it was hard to find pg so we disided to be in live in together, i have two more guy friends who live next door, we all cook and eat together and all, the problem arose when we started to live together and we are constantly fighting, about tiny things , some of it are my mistakes and some are hers, we are finding hard to go along, i really want this relationship to work ,y friends are also telling me we are not going in right direction, sometimes i feel it too, yesterday after fight she said she regrets being in relationship and she is going back(she didn't) , need some solution to get the things under control, i love her with all my might and want her in my life.

Ans: It’s never easy to adjust to living together, that’s the hardest part of a relationship. And if you’re having so much trouble so early on, you don’t sound very compatible to me. If you gave me examples of what you fight about, I may be better placed to help you. But here’s the golden rule if you both want to get along under the same roof: housework is NOT the woman’s responsibility. She’s working, you’re working. It’s the same at home. She lives there, so do you. Pick up after yourselves and halve the duties for everything. No clothes and personal items lying around. Everything in its place. If one cooks, the other does the dishes. Own up to your mistakes, both of you, and make a real effort to end bad habits on both sides.

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I am in a relationship for 9 years including 4 years of marriage. Since the day of marriage, I am having regular fights with my wife concerning my mother and sisters. Of late, I am feeling like I have lost the love between the two of us. We have stopped talking and don’t get a chance to spend some time together. Whenever we do, we end up arguing about past mistakes and all. We never talk about the future. During this pandemic second wave, we came to our native place and after spending some good days, she went to her home for some days and now she is not willing to come back. We recently had a fight over phone and stopped talking. I started calling her and talking to her but she does not seem to be in a mood to talk. Now I have stopped talking to her. I am a bit worried as I feel like I am left alone. Despite so many efforts towards her and her family, she finds a reason to get pissed at me every time. I am not sure anymore what to do. I try to make her understand. We are in the same situation for 4 years. If I don't, she won't be taking any initiative from her end.
Ans: Dear S, It does seem that you have concluded what’s going to happen before you have tried everything in the treasure chest?

Relationships can have a long life if we are willing to set aside our differences and keep egos at bay. Now read on and think deeper about these questions.

What went on between your wife and mother/sisters? Did you wife end up feeling hurt and lonely? Did she feel that you sided with your mother and sisters more than you did with her?

Constant arguments about things from the past honestly can lead to no good. It is important to know what exactly your wife feels at this very moment, but it seems like she doesn’t want to talk to you.

When you say you have made many efforts towards her and her family, why do you think, she hasn’t come back home or why has she stopped talking to you?

You did mention that she finds a reason to get pissed, but is there something that she expects from you or a certain behaviour that might help her get to an even ground?

Will involving a senior family member to talk to someone senior family member (not your mother) on her side?

With their experiences and their calm minds, they maybe able to break the ice between both sides and get the two of you to talk.

Please find a neutral member on both sides who can arrange for this in a wise manner without bringing in egos or past battles inside.

Communication must be re-established and throwing your hands up in the air may not be very useful if you want your marriage to continue.

Yes, past need not be brought back into the present, but it is necessary to understand what is going on in her mind before concluding anything.

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Relationships Expert - Answered on Dec 21, 2021

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I am in a relationship since nine years, including four years of marriage. Since the day of marriage, I am having regular fights with my wife concerning my mother and sisters. Of late, I am feeling like I have lost the love between the two of us. We have stopped talking and are not even getting a chance to spend some time together. Whenever we do, we end up arguing about past mistakes and all. We never talk about the future. During the second wave of the pandemic, we came to our native place. After spending some good days, she went to her home for some days and now she is not willing to come back. We recently had a fight over phone and stopped talking. Then I started calling her and talking to her but she does not seem to be in a mood to talk. Now, I have stopped talking to her. I am bit worried as I feel like I am left alone. Despite so many efforts towards her and her family , she finds a reason to get pissed about me. I am not sure anymore what to do. If I try to make her understand, then this is again the same situation happening since four years. If I don’t, then I know she won’t be taking any initiative from her side. Please suggest.
Ans:

You have left out one very important piece of information. Do you and your wife live with your mother and sisters?

I know in-laws are a bone of contention in most households at some point, but it comes to such an extreme only when people are forced to cohabitate with them. And if this is the case, you need to change the living arrangements pronto.

Never mind whether your wife is right or your family is right; if you want to save your marriage and improve relations between your family and your wife, move out. Immediately.

I’d like you to write in again and tell me exactly what’s going on. And this is for both of you -- if you don’t let go of the past and forgive each other’s past mistakes, you’ll never move forward.

The idea is not to repeat them and fall into old patterns of behaviour.

You need to make a promise to each other that, when having a discussion, neither will rake up past fights unless they have an extreme bearing on the current scenario.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 21, 2023Hindi
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Hi Ravi, I am currently in relationship of almost 7 years but after the COVID there was some conflict or no contact with my partner just because of a scenario. I always used to order some food for her at his flat. Let me clear one things we were in a long term relationship that time. So I ordered food and she got the order then called me in the night with a different voice tone, I said yes then It felt odd. Then she said someone is here I will call you back. Then she didn't so I called her after 2 hour she rejected and after sometime messaged me on whatsapp that deleted everything our chats and conversation because she caught by his brother (who is 10 years older than her), she told me to not contact her she will call or message only. I got scared I deleted all chats because her brother is so rude and arrogant. After 10 days she called me and said we are not going further with this relationship now on we will not be in touch, I was devastated by listening these things so I tried my best to make her understand that I will talk to your parents or brother but she denied NO and said I will again talk with bro. After these scenario she tried not to contact me and I kept trying to reach out to her via messanger because she has blocked me from everywhere. I cried alot in first 2 month then I started to link all those things that she said and try to find out the matter ( note - she got lot of friends) so I found that she in her flat then I got the tickets and go there to see what is happening I waited for the whole day then in the evening I go upstairs and open the doors, she got scared h and stunned by seeing me and I saw a guy in the flat they having hookah then I said give me my stuff and ask her to talk for the final tine 10 min downstairs. She said not now then didn't came. I took my stuff nd leave the next day I tried to over come this situation nd reaching out to his bro but didn't get connected. She also called me the next day nd her frnd but I was not able to talk. After we got disconnected for sometime. And I am a person who always wanted to know the truth behind the things because I can't live with these traumas in my mind so I tried contacting her asked lot of time why did you do that nd all but kept denying that he is just a friend. After sometime on day she came with sone massages nd saying my mom is not good nd there is nothing going well in my house plss sorry nd all so I took it normally but after sometime we got attracted again little bit then realise that we can try atleast once to be together. I know she loves me but I don't like her priorities she always put his frnds over me. Idk what to do pls tell me the way to cop up with this thing. Also I still have in mind that she has something to tell me about that boy but not telling me.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand how challenging it must be for you; I get that you are considering giving it another shot, but please be careful. If there is any doubt, anything at all, do address that right now before you are knee-deep in the relationship again. I suggest you tell your partner to first sit and clear out everything that happened before you two broke up and explain how you need a clean slate and for that, you have to know the truth.

If you suspect cheating in the past breakup, be cautious about getting back together and thinking it through. Do you want to patch things up because you love her or is the idea of being together again more comfortable than the idea of having to move on? We go back to the same person, even if it's toxic for us because there's comfort in familiarity, not because it's the best choice. It's time for introspection. Also, don't feel guilty about saying no to getting back together if it's not the right decision for you. Whether it was family issues or infidelity, she chose what seemed best for her at the time, and it's okay for you to do the same.

Best Wishes!

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 11, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 11, 2025Hindi
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Want approx Rs. 10000/month as return for withdrawal towards investments so how much amt need to invest and which MF will be good to invest and can give return to me, plz guide
Ans: Your goal to withdraw Rs. 10,000 monthly from investments is achievable with proper planning. This requires a combination of systematic investment and disciplined withdrawals. Below is a detailed assessment and plan.

Key Considerations
1. Expected Return on Investment

Mutual funds can deliver an annual return of 8%-12% over the long term.
For a regular monthly withdrawal, balanced or hybrid funds can provide stability.
2. Withdrawal Strategy

Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWPs) are ideal for regular withdrawals.
They offer consistent cash flow without disrupting investments.
3. Investment Corpus Requirement

To withdraw Rs. 10,000 monthly, an estimated corpus of Rs. 15-20 lakh is needed.
The exact amount depends on fund performance and withdrawal duration.
Selecting the Right Mutual Funds
1. Balanced Advantage Funds

These funds invest in a mix of equity and debt.
They provide stable returns and minimise market volatility.
Ideal for generating regular income with moderate risk.
2. Hybrid Funds (Aggressive)

These funds invest predominantly in equity and some debt.
They offer growth potential with partial downside protection.
Suitable for long-term withdrawals with higher returns.
3. Equity Income Funds

These funds focus on dividend-paying stocks and equity instruments.
They generate regular income and capital appreciation over time.
Best for moderate risk-takers with a long horizon.
4. Debt-Oriented Funds

These funds invest primarily in fixed-income securities.
They ensure low risk but lower returns compared to equity-heavy funds.
Suitable if stability is a higher priority than growth.
Recommendations for SWP Strategy
1. Diversified Allocation

Allocate funds across equity, hybrid, and debt categories.
This reduces risk and ensures consistent withdrawals.
2. SIPs for Corpus Building

If corpus is not yet ready, invest through SIPs in hybrid funds.
SIPs average out cost and build the desired corpus systematically.
3. Monitor Fund Performance

Review fund performance every six months.
Exit funds consistently underperforming their benchmark.
4. Tax-Efficient Withdrawals

SWP redemptions from equity funds are taxed as per LTCG/STCG rules.
Plan withdrawals to minimise tax impact.
Steps to Implement the Plan
1. Assess Current Investments

Check existing investments for overlap and performance.
Consolidate into funds aligning with your withdrawal goals.
2. Start with Hybrid Funds

Begin investing in balanced or aggressive hybrid funds.
Ensure funds have a proven track record of delivering consistent returns.
3. Plan Withdrawal Amount and Frequency

Use an SWP to withdraw Rs. 10,000 monthly.
Start withdrawals only after the corpus reaches the required size.
4. Consider Inflation Adjustment

Plan for increasing monthly withdrawals in the future.
Ensure the corpus grows to sustain inflation-adjusted withdrawals.
Taxation Awareness
1. Equity Fund Withdrawals

LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
STCG is taxed at 20%.
2. Debt Fund Withdrawals

Gains are taxed as per your income slab.
Plan withdrawals to minimise overall tax liability.
Final Insights
A corpus of Rs. 15-20 lakh is necessary to withdraw Rs. 10,000 monthly.

Invest in a mix of balanced advantage, hybrid, and equity income funds.

Start with SIPs if you need to build the corpus gradually.

Opt for SWPs to ensure consistent and tax-efficient withdrawals.

Review fund performance regularly and adjust investments as needed.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Hello sir/ma'am, i am 24 yrs old and my boy friend 25 yrs old.I met him in a friendly chat app .We were talking on calls,texting and video calls and met each other in real after a 1 yr of relationship.He is the first guy and love in my life and want to marry him.I even made my family to agree for our marriage.He too says he loves me so much and has imagined his life with me and want to marry me.He even told his parents will stick on to whatever he says.He hasn't yet conveyed to his parents yet and told he will introduce to them after his younger sister marriage.We both are students still. I recently found that,he goes to the chat apps again and chats to other girls.When i asked ..he told just friends and even questioned me saying don't u have guy friends? and don't u meet them?....i told him u r the first guy n i dont have any. When our relationship has gone till marriage...why is that he wants to chat to multiple girls?...Now,i started feeling like he doesn't love me as he expressed. He even had past 3 online relationships n all 3 breakups,he told all these before..he told i am the first girl in real life.. I am worried now.Why do guys chat with multiple girls though they are in a serious relation?..does he really love or is it a game? No physical between us.We just met once in a temple and he just kissed my hands while we are going back and got very emotional while he was about to leave. I am worried..what should i do?.please,suggest.
Ans: Could be many reasons. Maybe his physical needs aren't being met. Maybe he is not attaracted to you anymore . Love is not permanent in all scenarios. Enjoy it while it lasts. Don't have expectations

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 09, 2025Hindi
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I’m a 32-year-old guy working in a corporate job with crazy hours. My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years, but in the last one year, I feel like we’ve become more like roommates than partners. Our conversations have become short, our intimacy feels forced, and honestly, I think she’s getting tired of my work-first attitude. I don’t want to lose her, but I’m also struggling to find a balance between my career and my relationship. How do I balance the both?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sure work is bringing in more than just satisfaction at this point in time for you...But for your girlfriend, she misses your care, love and attention that she is used to from you.
How do you manage this gap?
Firstly, talk to her about work and why you seem to be giving that more time. At times, communicating this can give the other person an understanding of what you are going through and will be able to support you better.
Secondly, give her a time period until when you will be busy. Knowing this will give her an idea that this isn't about to go on and on.
Next, ask yourself: Am I using work to stay busy and run away from something?

The last question put onus on you to know what exactly is happening inside your mind and help you course correct. Also, you and girlfriend sit down and drop down your couple goals and larger life goals. You will both have clarity on whether you both are moving in different directions and that will help in discussing how to bring things back.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 11, 2025

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Dear Sir, Many thanks for the advice mail. Now, as you mentioned that I need to do lot of compliance in case I invest in mutual funds in my daughter’s name, I have decided to invest in my name itself. The following is the SIP I just started 10 days back. 1. HDFC BALANCED ADVANTAGE FUND – DIRECT – GROWTH – Rs. 10,000/- per month. 2. ICICI PRUDENTIAL MULTICAP FUND – DIRECT – GROWTH – Rs. 10,000/- per month. 3. ICICI PRUDENTIAL BLUECHIP FUND – DIRECT – GROWTH – Rs. 10,000/- per month 4. JM FLEXICAP FUND – REGULAR – GROWTH – Rs. 10,000/- lumpsum. 5. PARAG PARIKH FLEXICAP FUND – DIRECT – Rs. 10,000/- per month. Now, kindly study the same and advise me whether it is ok to invest continuously. I require 30% CAGR in one year. Thanks and regards,
Ans: Your decision to invest in your name is practical and simplifies compliance. Your portfolio reflects a strong inclination towards equity. I appreciate your initiative to create a diversified SIP plan. Let us assess the current investments and their alignment with your ambitious 30% CAGR goal in one year.

Key Observations
1. Portfolio Composition

HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund – Rs. 10,000 per month SIP.
ICICI Prudential Multicap Fund – Rs. 10,000 per month SIP.
ICICI Prudential Bluechip Fund – Rs. 10,000 per month SIP.
JM Flexicap Fund – Rs. 10,000 lumpsum.
Parag Parikh Flexicap Fund – Rs. 10,000 per month SIP.
Your portfolio includes a mix of large-cap, multi-cap, and hybrid funds. This ensures diversification but lacks tactical allocation for high-growth expectations.

2. Growth Expectation: 30% CAGR in One Year

A 30% CAGR in one year is highly aggressive.
Equity funds typically deliver 12%-15% CAGR over the long term.
Market conditions rarely support consistent one-year returns of 30%.
Evaluating Individual Investments
1. HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund

This is a hybrid fund with equity and debt allocation.
It provides stability but may not meet your high-growth expectations.
Balanced advantage funds are ideal for moderate risk-takers.
2. ICICI Prudential Multicap Fund

A well-diversified fund across market capitalisations.
Multicap funds are suitable for capturing market-wide growth.
This fund can add good balance to your portfolio.
3. ICICI Prudential Bluechip Fund

A large-cap fund focusing on stability and steady returns.
Large-cap funds offer lower risk but limited upside in short-term goals.
Consider reducing allocation if high growth is your priority.
4. JM Flexicap Fund

Flexicap funds provide flexibility to invest across market caps.
Lump sum investment may expose you to market timing risks.
Use systematic transfer plans (STP) for better risk management.
5. Parag Parikh Flexicap Fund

A unique fund with international exposure.
It can enhance diversification but may face currency fluctuation risks.
Retain it for long-term growth and global diversification.
Recommendations for Rebalancing
1. Increase Mid-Cap and Small-Cap Allocation

Mid-cap and small-cap funds deliver higher growth in a favourable market.
Allocate 30%-40% of your SIPs to mid-cap and small-cap funds.
This rebalancing can support your high-growth expectations.
2. Reduce Large-Cap Fund Allocation

Large-cap funds are stable but unlikely to deliver 30% returns.
Lower allocation to large-cap funds to 20%-30%.
3. Balanced Advantage Funds

Retain HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund for portfolio stability.
Limit allocation to 10%-15% due to its conservative nature.
4. Avoid Overlap

ICICI Multicap, JM Flexicap, and Parag Parikh Flexicap may overlap.
Diversify into funds with distinct strategies to avoid redundancy.
Optimising Your SIP Strategy
1. Tactical Allocation with Focused Funds

Consider adding focused equity funds for high-growth sectors.
These funds invest in fewer stocks with strong growth potential.
2. Systematic Transfer Plans (STPs)

Use STPs for lump sum investments like JM Flexicap Fund.
STPs reduce market timing risks by spreading investment over time.
3. Review Fund Performance

Evaluate fund performance every six months.
Exit funds underperforming benchmark indices consistently.
Important Considerations
1. High Growth Comes with High Risk

Targeting 30% CAGR involves substantial market risk.
Be prepared for potential volatility and drawdowns.
2. Diversification vs. Concentration

Diversification reduces risk but may limit returns.
Balance between high-conviction funds and diversified funds.
3. Taxation Awareness

LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
STCG from equity is taxed at 20%.
Optimise redemptions to manage tax outflows.
Suggestions for Disciplined Investing
1. Maintain Investment Discipline

Avoid frequent fund switches based on short-term market trends.
SIPs ensure disciplined investing irrespective of market conditions.
2. Be Realistic with Expectations

Expecting 30% CAGR in a year is overly optimistic.
Long-term equity investment can deliver sustainable returns.
3. Align Investments with Goals

Define short-term, medium-term, and long-term goals clearly.
Allocate funds accordingly for better results.
Finally
Your portfolio is well-structured for long-term growth.

To meet short-term goals, rebalance with higher mid-cap and small-cap allocations.

Be cautious of high growth expectations in a short time.

Continue SIPs with discipline and make data-driven adjustments.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 11, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 11, 2025Hindi
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I am 34 Year old I am debt free, I have emergency fund of 5 lac in FD and my mutual fund corpus is 16 lac and stock is 1 lac and PF valued around 12 lac I am investing in mutual fund 55 k out of 70% is on large cap and 20% in mid cap and 10% in small cap fund I want to rebalance and achieve my goal of one 1 crore corpus in next 3 year please suggest where and what and how much I need to invest to achieve this short term goal
Ans: You have a well-structured financial base with Rs. 16 lakh in mutual funds, Rs. 1 lakh in stocks, Rs. 12 lakh in PF, and Rs. 5 lakh in FDs. Achieving Rs. 1 crore in 3 years is challenging but feasible with focused efforts.

Step 1: Assess Your Current Portfolio
1. Mutual Fund Allocation

70% in large-cap, 20% in mid-cap, and 10% in small-cap funds.
This allocation is conservative for a short-term aggressive goal.
2. Emergency Fund

Rs. 5 lakh in FD ensures liquidity for emergencies.
No need to divert this fund towards your goal.
3. Stock Portfolio

Rs. 1 lakh in stocks is a small percentage of your portfolio.
This provides minimal impact on your overall returns.
4. PF Balance

Rs. 12 lakh in PF is stable but offers limited growth potential.
Avoid touching this as it’s meant for long-term goals.
Step 2: Define Investment Strategy for Rs. 1 Crore
1. Target Corpus and Existing Assets

Your existing corpus: Rs. 34 lakh (MF: 16 lakh, Stocks: 1 lakh, PF: 12 lakh, FD: 5 lakh).
Required growth: Rs. 66 lakh in 3 years.
2. Achieving 3-Year Target

Focus on higher growth from equity and tactical allocation in debt.
Short-term goals need a careful balance of risk and returns.
Step 3: Portfolio Rebalancing
1. Increase Mid and Small-Cap Allocation

Mid-cap and small-cap funds have higher growth potential.
Increase their combined allocation to 40%-50%.
Reduce large-cap allocation to 50%-60%.
2. Add a Tactical Debt Component

Allocate 10%-15% of your portfolio to debt for stability.
Use short-term debt funds or ultra-short-term funds.
Avoid long-term bonds as they are interest rate sensitive.
3. Retain Equity Focus

Equity should remain the primary driver of growth.
Choose actively managed funds with consistent performance.
Step 4: Adjust Monthly Investment
1. Increase SIP Contribution

Your current SIP: Rs. 55,000 monthly.
To achieve Rs. 1 crore, increase it to Rs. 75,000 monthly.
2. Break Down SIPs

Large-cap: Rs. 37,500 (50%).
Mid-cap: Rs. 22,500 (30%).
Small-cap: Rs. 7,500 (10%).
Debt funds: Rs. 7,500 (10%).
3. Top-Up SIPs Annually

Increase your SIP contributions by 10%-15% annually.
This ensures alignment with your goal despite market volatility.
Step 5: Use Lump Sum Strategically
1. Existing Corpus

Retain Rs. 5 lakh in FDs as an emergency reserve.
Redeploy Rs. 16 lakh mutual fund corpus into rebalanced SIPs.
2. Additional Investment

If you receive bonuses or windfall income, invest in equity funds.
Avoid timing the market; invest immediately or in tranches.
Step 6: Tax Planning
1. Plan Withdrawals for Tax Efficiency

Equity LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Plan withdrawals to minimise tax liabilities.
2. Avoid Frequent Debt Fund Redemptions

Debt fund returns are taxed as per your income tax slab.
Limit redemptions to avoid higher tax impact.
Step 7: Monitor Performance
1. Review Quarterly

Track the performance of your mutual funds every quarter.
Replace underperforming funds promptly.
2. Seek Expert Guidance

Work with a Certified Financial Planner for fund selection and rebalancing.
Professional advice ensures goal alignment and risk mitigation.
Step 8: Manage Risks
1. Avoid Overexposure to Small-Cap

Small-cap funds can be volatile.
Limit their allocation to 10%-15%.
2. Use Diversification

Diversify across fund houses and sectors.
This reduces risks associated with a single market segment.
3. Do Not Depend on Direct Funds

Direct funds lack professional guidance.
Regular funds with CFP assistance provide better support.
Step 9: Discipline and Consistency
1. Stay Invested

Avoid panic during market corrections.
Short-term fluctuations do not affect long-term goals.
2. Maintain Investment Discipline

Continue SIPs even during market downturns.
Consistency ensures wealth creation over time.
Finally
Your Rs. 1 crore target in 3 years is achievable.

Rebalance your portfolio to include more mid-cap and small-cap funds.

Increase your SIP to Rs. 75,000 and top it up annually.

Monitor performance regularly and make data-driven adjustments.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 11, 2025

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How I should I generate 75000 per month income increasing at 5 % every year with mix of equity and debt.
Ans: Understand Your Financial Goal
You need Rs. 75,000 monthly income in the first year.
The income should increase by 5% annually to combat inflation.
A mix of equity and debt investments can help achieve this goal.
Step 1: Estimate Required Corpus
Calculate the corpus required to generate Rs. 75,000 per month.
Consider safe withdrawal rates for long-term sustainability.
Include the impact of 5% annual increase in income needs.
Step 2: Allocation Between Equity and Debt
1. Equity for Growth

Allocate 60%-70% of your corpus to equity mutual funds.
Equity helps combat inflation and grows your wealth over time.
Choose a mix of large-cap, flexi-cap, and mid-cap funds for diversification.
2. Debt for Stability

Allocate 30%-40% of your corpus to debt mutual funds.
Debt investments provide stability and regular income.
Consider short-term bond funds or corporate bond funds for steady returns.
Step 3: Use a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP)
1. Regular Monthly Income

Use SWP from mutual funds to get Rs. 75,000 monthly.
SWP lets you withdraw fixed amounts periodically from your investments.
2. Manage Inflation Adjustment

Increase the SWP amount by 5% every year.
This ensures your income keeps pace with rising costs.
3. Tax Efficiency

Equity SWPs are more tax-efficient due to favourable capital gains taxation.
Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Debt fund SWPs are taxed as per your income tax slab.
Step 4: Portfolio Rebalancing
1. Maintain Allocation Ratio

Rebalance your portfolio every year to maintain equity and debt allocation.
Sell over-performing assets and reinvest in under-performing ones.
2. Reduce Risk Gradually

Shift more funds to debt as you age or near your financial goal.
This safeguards your principal while ensuring stable returns.
Step 5: Choosing the Right Funds
1. Actively Managed Equity Funds

Avoid index funds as they don’t offer active performance management.
Actively managed funds can generate better returns in dynamic markets.
2. Professional Guidance for Fund Selection

Regular plans with Certified Financial Planner guidance are beneficial.
Direct funds lack expert support, leading to potential missteps.
3. Debt Funds for Predictable Returns

Short-term and corporate bond funds are good options for debt allocation.
Avoid riskier debt funds to preserve capital.
Step 6: Emergency Reserve and Insurance
1. Emergency Fund

Set aside six months of expenses as an emergency reserve.
Keep this fund in liquid or ultra-short-term debt funds for quick access.
2. Adequate Insurance

Ensure you have adequate health and life insurance coverage.
This safeguards your family from financial burdens in unforeseen situations.
Step 7: Periodic Review and Monitoring
1. Annual Portfolio Review

Review your portfolio’s performance annually with a Certified Financial Planner.
Check if your income and growth objectives are on track.
2. Adjust for Market Changes

Adjust SWP amounts or reallocate investments based on market trends.
Ensure the portfolio remains aligned with your financial goals.
Step 8: Tax Planning
1. Plan Withdrawals to Minimise Tax

Limit withdrawals from equity funds to stay under LTCG exemption limits.
For debt funds, structure withdrawals to reduce tax impact.
2. Invest in Tax-Saving Instruments

If eligible, invest in tax-saving mutual funds (ELSS) for additional benefits.
This adds to your wealth creation while reducing tax liability.
Step 9: Long-Term Wealth Creation
1. Retain Growth Component

Avoid withdrawing the entire equity growth.
Let a part of the equity investment compound over time.
2. Build a Legacy

Ensure your investments are structured to pass on wealth to heirs.
Use nominations and wills to simplify inheritance.
Finally
Generating Rs. 75,000 monthly income with a 5% annual increase is achievable.

A balanced mix of equity and debt ensures growth and stability.

Regular review, disciplined withdrawal, and expert guidance will keep you on track.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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