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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 28, 2025Hindi
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i got married to a guy six years he was very handsome and i think he loved me but he was u can say mammas boy. Soon after our marriage my mom in law started telling if anything was wrong in the kitchen like once i had burnt a cloth she told me she will send me back to my house . In the same way 4 months after my marriage she asked to get out of her house because not knowing how to house hold work. As she had me to do a specific dish but i didnt know she began to scream in the house asking me get out of the house. i called my parents that mom in law was shouting they came to take me i took all my belongings she took away my chain which was given to me during my marriage and when i placed my wedding ring on the floor she kicked it was a football we came from their house . later on i tried to call my husband many times but he never picks up any call from our side. then my father had given for divorce even to the court he had not come to court . even on the day i left their house we had gone to the church we got married and the priest had called him but he did not come and the reason told was his mother i sick and wants to be near her. i had called him several times he never replied even to emails etc. my civil divorce is done from court. but i still love and regret the decision to come from that house but is scared of my mom in law she threatened she will throw me down from balcony . On the day i was leaving their home my mom in law gave bad words to my father. my mother and father always tell me they are not okk people. but i like him and always miss him or a gap is there . he also told my husband that from me body odour comes. what should i do ???

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Sometimes in life our choices can go very wrong and it's okay to understand and accept this.
Do you not think that it is time to move on? Your divorce is done and you have a chance ar rebuilding your life with someone that loves and values you.
My suggestion to you would be to not look back at what can happen there; it's the past that did not hold up to any of your expectations and your dreams came crashing down. Move on and move ahead to what can be newly built so that you meet someone who carries the same values as you...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Basically you have been cheated; period!
What do you with even a basic thing like being cheated at a shop? Do you actually keep the product OR return it?
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Do you not see that they have begun to make you depend on them for the basic things? This is how it all begins before it gets into other shades of harassment which I do not want to speculate.
Put yourself first; be selfish and think about what to do next to actually live a peaceful and carefree life like the way it was before marriage.

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