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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 31, 2024Hindi
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Hi we got intimate on our 2nd date and met few times after that, she was all about dating me and not time pass since after 2nd date she didn’t get fully intimate and wanted to be sure of me, showing all the interest but she had come out of a relationship 3 months back and now suddenly she ignores and ditches to meet, i don’t know what could be the reason, she found someone else or she wants me to try hard for her

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

There is no point in assuming what she wants. The best part of being in an adult relationship is that you get to ask directly instead of trying to read your partner's mind. Please ask her if she is done with you, or if she wants you to put in more effort. It's not necessary that she will give you a direct answer but it should give you some idea of the situation.

Best Wishes.

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I was in a relationship for 3 months but the girl never reciprocated in the same way as i did.There was no initiative from her side but when I used to ask her why is this happening only i m trying to build but you aren't, she used to say that i was unable to see anything she is doing for me.To be very honest and being impartial if i was at level 10 she was at 1.One day on this very topic some arguments happened and she walked away.After that no message no call and she used to tell me that she loved me but she never ever tried to reach out to me.Now its been one month.I literally am feeling really gloomy.Now she is putting status and showing that to me that i was not ready to build with her i uttered wrong words to her.But honestly i am telling you that I loved her very much and tried all the ways to build with her but she never reciprocated.I still miss her a lot but she seems to moved on so easily that's hurting me too much simultaneously she is putting these statuses too What to do?
Ans: Dear Sid,

If you, even for one moment, felt that you have been putting more work into the relationship than your partner, there must have been reason to believe so. Do not doubt your concerns just because your ex tried to pin the blame on you by minimizing your worries. It's a clear sign of gaslighting. As for the statuses, some people take pleasure in making others feel unnecessarily guilty, even if the fault lies on their part. My advice would be to not pay attention to any of it. If necessary, delete her contact; a clean break might help you move on. Don't do it to show her that you have moved on, but try to move on in reality. You deserve more than half-hearted efforts.

Best Wishes!

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