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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 20, 2024Hindi
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My girlfriend proposed a guy being in a relationship with me what should I do now

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It seems like your girlfriend is two-timing unless that proposal was a joke. Either way, speak directly to her and ask her about her intentions. If he is interested in the other guy, it is best to move on from her. You deserve better.

Best Wishes.

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I have a girlfriend.. And i proposed a girl for fun i dont have any feelings on her.. Shes my friend and even she knows we are in a relation.. And another.. My girl has some issues with her friends.. They were planning to beat.. Or scold then i stood beside.. Not let them to hit but daid to speak to her.. She got insulted there.. Now my girlfriend broke up saying these reasons.. What should i do ?
Ans: Dear Srujan,

Your intentions might not be tainted but put yourself in your girlfriend's shoes, and don't think from your perspective. Think of hers. You might have been okay if the roles were reversed, but can't say the same for most people. Jealousy is a green-eyed monster, but for some instances, it is justified; not right, but understandable. You proposing to another girl might have been a joke for you, but it hurt your GF. The only thing you can do here is to explain the situation and apologize for making her feel this way, even though it wasn't your intention.

For your second issue, I'd say it was good thinking on your part not to get too involved and yet be there for your girlfriend and stop her friends from resorting to violence. If that has insulted your partner, you can try clarifying your intent, and if she still does not want to pay heed to your side of the story, you don't owe her any more explanation for this particular issue.

If you don't have trust and understanding in your relationship, it's a losing battle, no matter how much you both try to hold on to it. An honest and level-headed discussion is the only thing that can save your relationship at this point.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 15, 2024Hindi
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Hi. How to be more respectful towards to MIL and FIL. ??? They dont like me as a DIL bcz they feel that I am trying to steal their son which is absolutely wrong. I tried to improve my relation with them but with the passage of time , its getting worst. My husband is on their side too. I have a baby girl and they threaten me to send me to my hometown with my child if I speak againt any type of dicrimination happening with me. My MIL believes in keeping Nirjala fast, eating after husband, eating left over food. I dont feel good with them so I spend time alone whenever they are home but they dont like my behaviour of getting my own time. Whenver i talk with them, they just humiliate me and my family.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Do you all live together? If YES, maybe it's time to actually live separately where there is a healthy space between both families. This may not go well with a lot of families where joint family system have ruled for a long time BUT what's the point spoiling relationships and living under one roof. Of course, your husband also needs to be in alignment with this thought.
If not and this is not going to be possible, then do approach your side of the family to intervene...now, either things may get set right OR things may get worse. It's sad that your husband is unable to see your side of things.
One things I want to ask: What makes them feel that you are trying to steal their son? Is it some behavior of yours that they are misreading? Then it's possible to set things right if this can be identified...

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 21, 2024Hindi
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Hello, I need some opinions/advice/guidance in the following matter. I am 68 yrs old and I have invested 40Lakh in various equities & 50Lalk in Equity based M/F’s since last 14 years. Current market value is around 1.8crore & 1.6crore respectively & it may grow by 20% CAGR as per my assumption in the next 7 years and total market value may hit around 10crore mark. I have a land property valued 3crore where I am planning to build a 5 floor residential apartment on it. For this I need a fund around 2crores for construction & I am planning to raise funds from overdraft loans against my Equity shares & M/F at the rate 10.35%.approx . I do not have any other source to raise the required funds as I am retired now and I do not have any other liabilities. I am planning SWP of 10lacs every year to repay interest on OD. I wish that I would be able to pay off any loans and OD WITHOUT having to sell any apartment/unit. Will this be possible? Is there any other way? Thanks
Ans: Your efforts in building a substantial equity and mutual fund portfolio are commendable. Planning the construction of a residential apartment is an ambitious goal. Let us evaluate your plan step by step and explore alternatives.

Financial Overview
Equity Investments: Current market value of Rs 1.8 crore.
Equity Mutual Funds: Current market value of Rs 1.6 crore.
Expected Growth: Assuming 20% CAGR over 7 years, the portfolio may grow significantly.
Land Value: Rs 3 crore.
Construction Funding Needed: Rs 2 crore.
Plan for Funds: Overdraft loan against equities and mutual funds at 10.35%.
Assessment of Overdraft Loan Plan
Advantages
No Asset Liquidation: You retain ownership of your investments, benefiting from potential growth.
Flexible Repayment: Overdraft loans allow partial repayments, easing financial pressure.
Concerns
High Interest Rate: 10.35% on Rs 2 crore results in an annual interest of Rs 20.7 lakh.
Repayment through SWP: An annual SWP of Rs 10 lakh may not fully cover the interest.
Market Volatility: Fluctuations in market value could affect the collateral margin.
Risk of Insufficient Growth
If investments fail to achieve 20% CAGR, loan repayment may become challenging.
Exploring Alternatives
1. Partial Liquidation of Investments
Sell a Portion of Portfolio: Liquidating Rs 1 crore from your equity portfolio can reduce loan dependency.
Benefits: Lower loan amount decreases interest burden significantly.
2. Phased Construction
Stagger Construction Phases: Build the apartment in phases, reducing immediate fund requirements.
Benefits: Spreads out financial pressure and allows cash inflows from initial unit sales or rent.
3. Explore Joint Venture Options
Partner with a Developer: Share the construction cost and revenue with a reputed builder.
Benefits: Reduces upfront financial strain while retaining ownership of some units.
4. Leasing Out Units Post-Construction
Generate Rental Income: Post-construction, lease out units for regular cash flow.
Benefits: Supports loan repayment without liquidating the portfolio.
Revised Strategy for Loan Repayment
Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP)
Increase SWP Amount: Consider an SWP of Rs 15-20 lakh annually instead of Rs 10 lakh.
Combine with Partial Liquidation: Use SWP and proceeds from partial liquidation for interest repayment.
Mitigate Loan Risk
Prepay Loan with Surplus Income: Allocate any excess cash flows or savings to reduce loan tenure.
Reassess Growth Assumptions: Lower expected CAGR to 12-15% for a conservative approach.
Tax Implications
Equity Gains Tax: Long-term capital gains above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Plan Withdrawals Efficiently: Use tax-efficient strategies to minimise outgo.
Final Insights
Your plan to raise funds through an overdraft loan is viable but carries risks. Combining this with a partial liquidation of investments or phased construction can reduce stress. Joint ventures or rental income from units could provide additional financial stability. Consult a Certified Financial Planner to design a comprehensive strategy and avoid over-leveraging.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Ramalingam

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 20, 2024Hindi
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I’m a 20yr old student , currently doing internship and getting stipend of 30k, going to get package of 10LPA in 6 months. I want to save money and also get atleast minimal returns. I’ve very less idea about share market also. How can I save money and create a plan for me to save max and also get maximum returns.
Ans: You are at an ideal stage to start building wealth. Your internship stipend and future salary provide a strong foundation. With structured planning, you can save and earn better returns while managing risks. Let’s create a simple, actionable strategy for you.

Setting Clear Financial Goals
Short-Term Goals (1–3 Years):
Emergency fund, higher studies, or any immediate personal goals.

Medium-Term Goals (3–5 Years):
Buying a vehicle, planning vacations, or career enhancement expenses.

Long-Term Goals (5+ Years):
Buying a home, retirement savings, or wealth creation.

Creating an Emergency Fund
Importance of Emergency Fund:
Build a fund equal to 6 months' expenses. It provides financial stability during unexpected situations.

Where to Invest:
Use a mix of liquid mutual funds and high-interest savings accounts for easy access.

Budgeting Your Income
Stipend Allocation Plan:
Save at least 40–50% of your Rs 30,000 stipend. The rest can cover expenses and small indulgences.

Future Salary Planning:
After getting the Rs 10 LPA package, aim to save 30–40% monthly.

Investing in Mutual Funds for Returns
Equity Mutual Funds for Growth:
Equity funds are ideal for long-term wealth creation. Actively managed funds offer better growth than index funds due to expert management.

Systematic Investment Plan (SIP):
Start SIPs to invest consistently. Begin with Rs 5,000–10,000 based on affordability.

Avoid Direct Funds:
Regular plans with a Certified Financial Planner provide better guidance and monitoring.

Tax-Saving Investments
Utilise Section 80C:
Invest up to Rs 1.5 lakh annually in tax-saving instruments like ELSS mutual funds.

Consider NPS for Retirement:
NPS offers tax benefits under Section 80CCD. It also builds retirement wealth gradually.

Staying Cautious with Stocks
Learn Before Investing in Shares:
Direct stock market investing requires knowledge. Avoid risky investments until you gain expertise.

Start Small with Blue-Chip Companies:
If you wish to explore stocks, invest small amounts in reliable, large-cap companies.

Exploring Debt Instruments
Invest in Debt Mutual Funds:
Debt funds offer stability and are tax-efficient for your income bracket.

Avoid Over-Reliance on Fixed Deposits:
Fixed deposits provide safety but offer lower returns compared to mutual funds.

Managing Risks
Insurance for Protection:
Get health insurance for yourself. It ensures financial stability during medical emergencies.

Avoid ULIPs or Endowment Policies:
These provide low returns compared to mutual funds. Focus on term insurance when needed.

Tax Planning with New Income
Understand Tax Slabs:
With a Rs 10 LPA salary, you will fall in the 20–30% tax bracket.

Plan for Deductions:
Use Section 80C, 80D (health insurance), and other exemptions to minimise taxable income.

Steps to Monitor and Adjust
Review Portfolio Regularly:
Evaluate your investments every 6 months. Adjust as per market conditions and goals.

Increase SIP Amount Gradually:
As your income grows, increase your SIP contributions to grow wealth faster.

Final Insights
Starting early gives you a significant advantage in wealth creation. Focus on disciplined saving and investing with a mix of equity and debt funds. Avoid unnecessary risks and prioritise financial security through insurance and emergency funds. Monitor and adjust your portfolio regularly to stay aligned with your goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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