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Relationship Doubt: Should I Marry My Girlfriend After Her Long-Term Past?

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himanshu Question by himanshu on Jan 11, 2025Hindi
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My girlfriend had 6 or 7 years relationship along with lived also in pg room with him for one year s?x inter course etc... involved but now 2024 she is become my more than girlfriend also had s?x with me I have a relationship only 4 mónths she said to whatever your decision she will accept but my mind is stuck she lived him one year in ROOM. My mind is fully confused she ready to married me she had no feeling for her past relationship..

Ans: Dear Himanshu,
How does her past matter in your present and future? Exactly how will her living together with her ex, at a point in time when you did not exist in her life, matter to you today? Why are you judging her based on the fact that she loved someone else before you? I understand that these feelings can creep in, but you have to counsel yourself. She isn't at fault here because everything that is bothering you today is in her past and she cannot change that, and why should she have to change it, anyway? Every time you find yourself feeling this way, you can ask the same question and answer honestly. And in case you think you cannot get over these thoughts, let her go. No one deserves to be in a relationship where they have to be constantly reminded of their past or judged for it.

Best Wishes.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are not even sure whether you want to accept her past with the other guy. If you have not made peace with this, why talk of marriage and indulging in physical stuff with her? It's not her this time; it's YOU!
So, take a break from this association, clear your mind space on what you want from life and a life partner. If she is the person you know that fits the description, then perhaps the past will not matter. Mere love is not enough, what you value in a relationship is in question now...so, take time to think i through and then make a decision on it.

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