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Avinash Question by Avinash on Apr 24, 2023Hindi
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Madam my girl friend was proposed to me for marriage. i was ready. but i asked her to talk with your parents first. after that we will marry. I have convinced to my family. but she failed to convince her parents. now she tell me forget to me and marry with other girl. but i cant leave without her. what should i do now.

Ans: Dear Avinash,
If she is not willing to marry you, what can you do? She wants her parents also to be convinced, but that hasn't happened. Either you can wait and convey to her that you are willing to wait till she also is able to get her parents to agree. I don't see why she would not want you to wait.
So, talk to her once and tell her again about how you feel and that you are willing to wait. If she still asks you to forget her, then please move on...she would then have made her decision.

All the best!

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Sometimes the reason for someone not liking you maybe a silly one.
Maybe her father wanted to find a boy for your lady or he wanted time to get to know the person. Try and find out from her what exactly bothers her father about you or the marriage. It can be frustrating to dig into this BUT hey, do what you have to, to make the relationship work, yeah?
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You did invest too much of yourself in him; but who can stop the way feelings move, right?
As hard as it maybe to accept this reality, move on...initially, it will be painful, but it's not worth losing yourself to anyone. Protect your identity and know that it does not stem from anyone or anything BUT it's YOU who defines it.
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