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Should I be Attracted to My Sister in Law? A 38 Year Old's Confusion.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 16, 2024

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Question by mitesh on Sep 14, 2024Hindi

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I am getting attraction to my sister in law, but she is just using me for her work

Ans: Dear Mitesh,
Keep away from getting into relationships within the family...it will hit you hard and you will have no where to hide...

All the best!
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Iam 50 yrs old married man i have attraction towards my maid servant she is married.I gifted her some gifts she accepted the same but after she told me that if my wife knows that i have gifted her.I usually get attracted towards ladies.Kindly suggest the same

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Attraction is normal BUT acting on that attraction is a CHOICE...
So, what makes you choose to gift your maid and then create nuisance within your family life?
Someday when your wife is not so 'accepting' of this great gesture of yours, she may threaten to walk out OR worse still the maid may threaten to expose your deeds to other people around.
What makes you play around with your life like this?
'I usually get attracted towards ladies' - then kindly learn and train your mind to focus on things that add value to life instead. Indulging in this attraction will only make you want to earn the attention of more women. Instead gain the same attention by using your work expertise and/or hobby within your social circle and family. But this is only temporary...Find the motivation within you to be able to focus on things that matter for your growth...that's a good way to rework this habit that you have cultivated over time.

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I am 42 years old married who is woking at an establishment of a Public Sector company. I am holding a senior position. I have one female colleague who is of my age and married. She very frequently comes to my cabin and sits with me. She sits very close to me almost touching my body. She is very frank with me and discuss very personal things with me. She adores me a lot. Since last couple of days, I have started missing her when she is not around. I don't know how to overcome this situation. I think she also has liking for me. Please advise what to do

Ans: If you choose to go ahead, then let her know and take things forward with her. Its clear you are attracted to her.

If you are attracted to your colleague and you believe that she is interested in you, then you may want to consider pursuing a relationship with her. However, it is important to be aware of the potential risks and consequences of doing so.

If you don't want to proceed with her, then start focusing on your hobbies, works, other interests.

If you are not interested in pursuing a relationship with your colleague, then it is important to set clear boundaries and focus on other aspects of your life. This may include spending more time with your family and friends, pursuing your hobbies, or focusing on your career.

Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to pursue a relationship with your colleague is up to you. However, it is important to weigh the potential risks and benefits before making a decision.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 05, 2024

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I am 29 years old man we have maid who is elder than me and married. I am getting attracted towards her. I want to get into relationship with her how to proceed

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Just imagine a situation where this maid cries 'foul' after your association and then you have to live within the same apartment/society/surrounding.
Oooops, and she's not attracted towards you, then why are you all over the place on this one? Better to focus on your life and it might help to find another maid to work at your place.

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Question by Rupannita - Nov 16, 2024Hindi

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Dear Mam I am a fifty year old man with a loving family. I was employed in a company which I left earlier. During COVID I was little stressed in another company on my job and I rejoined my earlier company. One of my female colleague who was in the earlier organisation during my first innings helped me to join the organisation and in my second innings we are the only two in the department. Naturally there are lots of conversations, communications, interactions related to work. She is around nine years younger than me and is unmarried. We used to share lots of moments in office like common topics, health, my family, friends, her parents, friends etc...apart from work. Gradually I started developing feelings for her. I have a notion that she also developed the same. There has neither been any physical intimacy nor joint outings outside office. But as you know both of us started to realise that I cannot sail in two boats at the same time and also she. We both share a very professional relation amongst us in the Office with boundaries and caution and rarely interact on issues other than office work. We still are the two in our department. Somehow I cannot delete the feelings for her from my mind and its more difficult as we are the only persons in our department and in constant touch for work But yes, I will never be able to leave my family. Please advise. Thanks and Regards,

Ans: Dear Rupannita,
You can't keep one leg at home and another in another place and expect both to work the way that you want.
You are attached to the family and that's the place you are going to feel happy as well. So, all these feelings for the other person; do evaluate what it's going to do to your peace of mind.
Feelings cannot be deleted as you said BUT whether you want to act on those feelings is a choice that you must make. See where your life moves hanging onto a parallel life!

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My jee mains rank is CRL 37314 Should I go for iiits cse/it/ece branch or chemical engineering in nits like nagpur and surat In future I want to pursue government job in PSUs

Ans: Akshat, With a JEE Main CRL of 37,314, securing a seat in Computer Science, Information Technology, or ECE at premier IIITs is highly unlikely, as last-round closing ranks for CSE at IIITs like Bangalore (8,706), Pune (17,637), Nagpur (23,445) and Sri City (30,681) all fall well below your rank. In contrast, Chemical Engineering at NIT Nagpur (last-round General AI closing rank ~28,900) and SVNIT Surat (30,056) remains within reach. Both NITs are National Institutes of Technology with NBA-accredited curricula, experienced PhD faculty, modern chemical process and pilot-plant labs, industry-aligned internships and centralized placement cells. VNIT Nagpur’s Chemical branch achieved a 69.88% placement rate in 2024, including top PSU recruiters like ONGC and GAIL, while SVNIT Surat’s Chem Eng sees 30,056–34,327 rank allotments with strong core-sector hiring.

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My son got 99.34 percentile pls which college ho got? Btech computer science

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