Anu Krishna |1267 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 20, 2021
I lost my father 3 months back which still does not go out of my head.
I met a girl recently and developed some sort of feelings for her but she is not at all interested in me which made me more sad as I feel as I am just not good enough.
Due to my professional work I am not living with my family and their tensions extra.
I have zero friends who talk regularly to me or ask about me.
I have a thin body so people body shame me and it decreases my morale and confidence.
Profession is also not going as good I thought due to relationship issues with my manager.
Everything is making me more sad and lonely.
Please give me something to cheer. Don't want to live life like this.. I am writing this with a heavy heart.
Now let’s focus on what you might be bothered by. See, if you are going to depend on the external environment to increase your confidence or self-esteem, then you are setting yourself up for a rude disappointment.
Your state of mind is your choice which is the one that dictates how you perceive the environment around you.
If you wake every morning feeling sorry for yourself, do you think you are going to perform well at work?
Shying away from a social life just because you are body shamed pushes you back into an unfavorable state of mind where you shut away even a few ‘good’ people.
Why deprive yourself of the little joys just because some people measure you by how you look?
What do you get by giving into that drama that these people have created?
More agony, I presume! And then the loop goes on and on…
Do check a few inspiring videos on how people have overcome body shaming and take a leaf out of it and start living for who you are; people start respecting you when you respect yourself first.
Well, romantic feelings sometimes may not be reciprocated; but you feel sad because you already are in a self-pity mode; what if your mind space was stronger?
A rejection from a girl, would have still been fine and would have been easy to move on.
Sorry, I need to be honest and show you the mirror, rather than just cheer you up. Get up, stand tall, show up. Show Up, no matter what!
Respect yourself for who you are…you are your best Ally…Now, I want you to dust yourself off of all the feelings that are not useful and Show Up and Take Charge…watch how things change…
Best wishes and simply Show Up…You can do this…
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