I have bf he is very nice to me and we both love eachother but I don't know what's the problem that I can't speak to much with him

Ans: Dear Priya,
It seems you're experiencing a relationship with mixed behaviors from your boyfriend. On one hand, he supports you financially and shows affection, but on the other, he becomes verbally abusive and dismissive when angry. This duality can be confusing and emotionally draining.

It's important to recognize that his abusive behavior, even if it's only during moments of anger, is a significant issue. Such behavior can erode your self-esteem and sense of safety over time. Abuse isn't just physical; verbal and emotional abuse can be just as damaging.

When someone shouts at you or dismisses your feelings, especially in public, it indicates a lack of respect and self-control. This kind of behavior is unacceptable and should not be excused or normalized, regardless of the moments of kindness and support he shows.

Consider discussing your concerns with him during a calm moment, emphasizing how his behavior affects you. If he's willing to listen and seek help, such as anger management or couples counseling, there might be a way to address these issues. However, if he dismisses your concerns or refuses to change, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship for your own well-being.

You deserve to be in a relationship where you're consistently treated with respect and love. Seeking support from friends, family, or a professional counselor can also help you navigate this situation and make the best decision for your future.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Sometimes people are truly busy in their work place especially if they have meetings of deadlines coming up. But, if you are feeling that your partner can put a little more effort and reply to your messages, you are not wrong. If you have a gut feeling that something is wrong, do not ignore it. Talk to him directly. Tell him that you do not appreciate the way he is acting. There is nothing wrong in standing up for what you think you deserve. And as a matter of fact, you do not deserve to feel this way in a relationship. Talk about it.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Aditi,
It is a classic response of many men BUT not all men. You need to understand that men and women are wired very differently. men do not think of sex through an emotional lens whereas women do.
Now this is where you need to communicate to your partner clearly; what it feels like! Do not expect him to understand and turn a new leaf immediately as his is just an automated response. Work at it and tell him what you would like after your physical 'meet' and what kind of communication you would like from him afterward.
On a separate note, how is he as a person while the two of you are together? Caring, affectionate and respectful?
Then this thing that you are facing us just a matter of communicating with him...

All the best!
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