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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 03, 2024Hindi
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I have an autistic son of 4 year old. I feel depressed while taking his care. My married life is also not good. I dont have career. I want to run away from my son. I am unable to understand how to restart my career

Ans: If you're feeling like running away, it's a sign that you need support—emotionally, physically, and mentally. Do you have anyone you trust who can help, even for short periods, so you can take a break? Support groups for parents of autistic children (both online and offline) can also be a great place to find understanding, advice, and emotional relief.

As for restarting your career, it’s never too late. Since you have childcare responsibilities, looking into work-from-home or flexible jobs might be a good first step. What was your field of interest before marriage? Do you have any skills that can be refreshed? Even small steps, like taking online courses or freelancing, can help you regain confidence and financial independence.

You’re dealing with so much right now, and you don’t have to figure it all out at once. The most important thing is to take one step at a time—whether it's seeking emotional support, finding small ways to regain control of your career, or even just taking a moment for yourself. If the depression feels overwhelming, reaching out to a therapist or counselor might be really helpful. You deserve support, and your well-being matters just as much as your child's.

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Hi Anu,Iam completely in to a bad a stage.I lost my job,my son is a disabled kid doesn't have money to run future completely in hell Been a banker for 19 years and not getting any jobs outside Please suggest what should be my next step
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I do hear you...
It is perhaps time to do something different. You have a wealth of experience of 19 years and it can be put to good use.
Independent consulting in Wealth management maybe something that you might want to consider. There are courses online that help you get initiated in this and using your Banking knowledge it maybe possible to consider this option.
Also, speak with your close circle of friends and family and take their advice as well. It will also help you to take strategic advice from someone in your field and who has also is updated with all the current happenings. Someone senior is what I suggest...
What you need is some direction which this expert in your field can offer...what else you need is some confidence, which you need to instil within yourself.

When something does not work, do something else for a different result...But giving up hope is the worst option...Push yourself to think different and ask:
What else can I do to make things work?
What can I do differently than before for things to align better for me?
How can I keep my state of mind upbeat even though things are not going well for me?

Asking useful questions can change the course of one's life...So keep at it please...

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Hi My daughter is studying in Cambridge syllabus and have chosen A levels in physics, chemistry, and biology along with economics. I would like to know the qualifying requirements for getting into Indian universities in core science and biosciences streams
Ans: Shalini Madam, Cambridge International A Levels are widely recognized by Indian universities for undergraduate admissions in core science and biosciences streams. The Association of Indian Universities (AIU) has granted equivalence to Cambridge International AS & A Levels, recognizing them as equivalent to Indian senior secondary qualifications. Eligibility criteria include subject requirements, number of A Levels, and additional considerations such as entrance exams, university-specific tests, and equivalency certificates.

Some Indian universities mandate entrance exams, such as CUET-UG for Central & State Universities, NEET for medical and related courses, and some institutions conduct their own entrance exams. Some universities may request an equivalency certificate from the AIU to validate the comparability of Cambridge qualifications to Indian standards.

To ensure eligibility, it is recommended to consult with admissions offices of targeted universities, prepare for entrance exams, and ensure all necessary documents are prepared and submitted according to university guidelines. By proactively engaging with the admissions processes and understanding specific requirements, your daughter can effectively navigate her path to securing admission in her chosen field of study in India. All the best for your Daughter's Bright Future!

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Mar 23, 2025

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I got 90.87 percentile in JEE mains 2025 . I belong to obc ncl category and I am a male. Which nit or iiit can I get in csab round??
Ans: Pushkar, here is, How to Predict Your Chances of Admission into NIT or IIIT or GFTI After JEE Main Results – A Step-by-Step Guide

Once the January JEE Main session results was declared, many students and JEE applicants started asking common questions about eligibility for specific institutes (NITs, IIITs, GFTIs, etc.) based on their percentile, category, preferred branch, and home state.

Providing precise admission chances for each student can be challenging. Some reputed educational websites offer ‘College Predictor’ tools where you can check possible college options based on your percentile, category, and preferences. However, for a more accurate understanding, here’s a simple yet effective 9-step method using JoSAA’s past-year opening and closing ranks. This approach gives you a fair estimate (though not 100% exact) of your admission chances based on the previous year’s data.

Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

Your JEE Main percentile (Convert your percentile into All India Rank with the help of a formula available in Google).
Your category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if you're open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If you are open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select Your Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches you are interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories.
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust Your Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.
Follow this approach for Other State candidates Option also and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust your expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

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IMPORTANT: It is suggested to have 3-4 other Engineering Entrance Exams as back-ups instead of relying only on JEE.

Hope this guide helps! All the best for your admissions!

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Nayagam P

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Mar 23, 2025

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sir my son got 91.56 percentile in jee main 2025 jan in sc category from home state Tamilnadu which nit he get in cs, ece, mechanical
Ans: Punitha Madam, here is, How to Predict Your Son's Chances of Admission into NIT or IIIT or GFTI After JEE Main Results – A Step-by-Step Guide

Once the January JEE Main session results was declared, many students and JEE applicants started asking common questions about eligibility for specific institutes (NITs, IIITs, GFTIs, etc.) based on their percentile, category, preferred branch, and home state.

Providing precise admission chances for each student can be challenging. Some reputed educational websites offer ‘College Predictor’ tools where you can check possible college options based on your percentile, category, and preferences. However, for a more accurate understanding, here’s a simple yet effective 9-step method using JoSAA’s past-year opening and closing ranks. This approach gives you a fair estimate (though not 100% exact) of your admission chances based on the previous year’s data.

Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Son's Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

Your JEE Main percentile (Convert your son's percentile into All India Rank with the help of a formula available in Google).
Your Son's category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if you're open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If your son is open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select Your Son's Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches your son is interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories.
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch your son is interested in.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust Your Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.
Follow this approach for Other State candidates Option also and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust your expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

Watch 180+ EduJob360 YouTube Videos to Know More on ' Jobs | Education | Careers'

IMPORTANT: It is suggested to have 3-4 other Engineering Entrance Exams as back-ups instead of relying only on JEE.

Hope this guide helps! All the best for your Son's admissions!

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NEET, Medical, Pharmacy Careers - Answered on Mar 22, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 20, 2025Hindi
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Sir what are some of the top colleges in India to study pharmacy after class 12? What is the eligibility criteria? Is NEET compulsory?
Ans: Hi,

I’m not sure where you’re from, but according to the NIRF, the top colleges are located in Ooty, Mysuru, Manipal, and Mumbai. In most states, NEET eligibility is not required for admission, but state-level exams are necessary. Many deemed-to-be universities conduct their own entrance exams, so if you’re interested in joining one of these universities, you can reach out to them for further information.
Eligibility Critieria:(https://gurus.rediff.com/question/qdtl/career/give-neet-exam-12th-maharashtra-board-marks-less-than-150/5186648)

Minimum qualification for admission to –(extracted from Pharmacy council of India.)
A(after HSC). First year B. Pharm – A pass in any of the following examinations - i. Candidate shall have passed 10+2 examination conducted by the respective state/central government authorities recognized as equivalent to 10+2 examination by the Association of Indian Universities (AIU) with English as one of the subjects and Physics, Chemistry, Mathematics/Biology as optional subjects individually. “However, the students possessing 10+2 qualification from non-formal and non-class rooms based schooling such as National Institute of Open Schooling, open school systems of States etc. shall not be eligible for admission to B.Pharm Course.” ii. Any other qualification approved by the Pharmacy Council of India as equivalent to any of the above examinations. Provided that a student should complete the age of 17 years on or before 31st December of the year of admission to the course. Provided that there shall be reservation of seats for the students belonging to the Scheduled Castes, Scheduled Tribes and other Backward Classes in accordance with the instructions issued by the Central Government/State Government/Union Territory Administration as the case may be from time to time. B. B. Pharm lateral entry (to second year/third semester) - A pass in D. Pharm course from an institution approved by the Pharmacy Council of India under section 12 of the Pharmacy Act

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