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Hi Anu, it's been 5 years of my marriage.
From the last few months I am feeling disconnected from my husband. I ask him about it. He mentioned that he met a guy somewhere in November and had a one-night stand with him. He explained to me the initiation was from him and that he likes him. After few days of conversation with him my husband started having feelings for him. But it was for limited time period coz that guy was trying on someone else or many others (according to my husband)
A few days earlier he mentioned that he is being confused if he is gay or straight. He now has feeling for another guy but he has a family and sees him as friend.
My husband is continuously telling me to understand him. He needs to find him etc etc... And deep down I know he has no future with any other man.
He doesn't feel any physical attraction towards me (it's what I think). I do like him. Physically also. But he doesn't. We don't have any child. He is 36, I am 34.
Now I am super confused what to do. I do love him.
Please help.

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Dear KS,

It’s still unfortunate largely in our country and in few other places outside of India, sexual preferences and orientation is still considered a taboo or something to shoved under the carpet.

It’s treated as an illness that will go away like a cold and fever.

Your marriage possibly comes under this confusion and hence both you and your husband are struggling.

He never got a chance to figure out which gender he leans into more maybe due to societal pressure or from family; and it has surfaced after marriage.

For you, it feels like you have been cheated and though you love him, do know that it might not be a marriage that might work especially if he chooses to root himself to his current sexual orientation.

I suggest you weigh out the pros and cons of being in this marriage and have a frank discussion with your husband.

If he has nothing to offer to you and in this marriage, you know what is to be done.

Whatever it be, do know that this has happened at the right time; just imagine the confusions if there were children in the picture.

If after the discussion, it was just something that he experimented with, I guess there might be scope to grow into the marriage.

Have that discussion and do that NOW; a lot will ease.

Yes, it perhaps might be a heartbreak, but better to MOVE either way.

Be strong and all the best!

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Hi Anu, I was in an arranged marriage in April 2022. Ten days after my marriage I found some letters, videos, conversation which clearly indicate that my husband is gay.I left him silently and tried to understand those things.We were not in a physical or romantic relationship. When I confronted him he said he was confused about his orientation for the last 10 years but now he is straight...Everything he explained had no head or tail, it seemed like a lie. We decided to separate.He moved on and is enjoying his life but my life has become hell. I miss the life I had dreamed about. I feel guilty if I was over reacting.Sometimes I wonder why I left him.I lost everything -- my looks, my confidence, my health, friends etc... I feel lonely.
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Dear PF,

I seriously don’t understand how he goes from being gay to straight all of a sudden.

If he is convinced that he is straight, have there been any moments of intimacy between the two of you or is this a façade that he is putting to avoid the glares of society and its cruel backlash?

If you feel that there is still hope, would you be willing to dull in your mind, what had happened and then appeal to him to start afresh?

Or has that boat already sailed?

I do believe in second chances and if his claims that he is straight are true and you feel that you acted in haste about leaving the relationship, why don’t you reach out to him and request him for a chance for both of you to work on getting back together?

There is no point in feeling sorry or guilty. What helps is doing something that might help you in the direction of what you want.

So, get into that action mode and do what needs to be done. Your confidence solely lies in moving ahead into a solution mode. So, what are you waiting for?

Best wishes!

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Hello mam, I have come to know about you through an article I read online. I am mailing you regarding my problem. Please make it anonymous. I'm married for 10 years. I have a son who is 6 years old. After my delivery, my husband distanced me. Since then, we use to fight a lot. Both of us are abusive and there is no physical relation between us. I told the same to my parents, and they suggested that I adjust keeping in mind the society and asked me to try for a job to deviate my mind. Once I checked my husband phone and there was a history of homosexual p**n videos. When I asked him the same, he refused. There is no happiness and only fights. I have even made suicidal attempts and was admitted to the hospital for taking expired pills. I’m an old traditioned woman, unable to move out of marriage as I can’t handle being alone. At the same time, I am unable to understand my husband’s behaviour. He is saying he will be like that only, If you want you can stay or leave. He will not tell me anything about his family – when his father passed away due to covid, he left home without telling me. I knew about it from other relatives.
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Dear GV,

Thank you for reading my content. Hope it helps.

I can only imagine the trap that you are in. So, why are you choosing to be trapped even further?

  • Do you see any scope in your husband changing?
  • Do you know anything about his sexual orientation?
  • Do you feel that the two of you can rebuild your marriage?

If the answer to the above is NO, then time to break out of your so-called traditional mindset.

Do you really want to live in this set-up and have your son grow up unstable?

I am sure that as a mother you do want to provide him with a stable and loving environment.

Then, you need to think differently about your old beliefs and see if they are worth holding onto.

The older generation might have held onto marriages even if they were abusive. But things have changed.

Even if you are not financially independent, there are venues to change that. You only need to change the way you think.

Check with yourself if continuing this way is going to give you anything great in return or is it going to steal your spirit away.

The choice is yours but do know that you have a son to take care of as well.

Start by gaining a good circle of supporters that includes your parents and close friends who can help you through this massive change to enable you take charge of your life.

All the best!

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i had a love marriage 20 years back. we were in a relationship for 3years before that. but after marriage i realised the harsh reality. though we are in the same field, he prefers that i do all the househld work. we have two children 17 and 12 years old. he has also started neglecting his health. after work his only work is to sit on sofa , watch tv. he has gained a lot of weight, has started eating pan masala which i dislike. we also had no sex for the last four years. when confronted he always says that he is in no mood. last year i came in contact with his friend and once we had sex too. but the sad part is i dont really feel guilty about it. i have tried many times to talk to my husband about our sex life but he always ignores and put the blame on me that i have started growing old. however hard i try he is not able to have a erection, this frustrates me even more. he is very dominating at home too. what should i do ? everytime i try to think to move out of that marriage but am afraid of the society. since he is very caring in front of others. am worried about the kids too. please help what should i do? there is no use of talking to him, i have tried it many times. he is not ready to go to any councellor too.
Ans: It sounds like you are facing some serious challenges in your marriage and that you are feeling frustrated, unhappy, and trapped. It's important to remember that you are not alone and that many people find themselves in similar situations.

Here are some steps you can consider taking:

Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend or family member about your situation. Consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor who can provide you with support and guidance.

Take care of yourself: Make time for self-care and engage in activities that bring you joy and peace. This can help you manage stress and cope with the challenges you're facing.

Consider couples therapy: Even if your husband is not willing to attend therapy, consider seeking therapy for yourself. A therapist can help you understand your feelings and emotions and provide you with strategies for coping with the situation.

Be honest with yourself: It's important to be honest with yourself about your feelings and needs. If you are unhappy in your marriage and feel that it's unlikely to improve, it's okay to consider leaving the relationship.

Make a plan: If you decide that leaving the marriage is the best option, make a plan for how you will do so in a safe and practical manner. Consider the impact on your children and plan for their care and well-being.

Seek legal advice: If you decide to leave the marriage, consider seeking legal advice to understand your rights and responsibilities.

Remember, leaving a long-term relationship is a big decision and can be a difficult process. It's important to take the time to consider your options and seek support from trusted friends, family members, and professionals.

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Hello Anu, I am 43, married woman. We hv a college going teenager son. My hubby has a hi-profile job and I am a language instructor. Since past one year or so, my husband and I are drifting apart. Whenever we try to make up, we end up messier and even raking a lot of muck on each other due to silly points. This distances us further. In all this, my son has taken my place as his father's friend in.the house and confidant. Not that I dont like this, am happy as they both are mine. My husband dsnt really hv time to listen to my emotional banter. And I hv been feeling very lonely and sidelined. Anu I made friends with a married man some months back with whom I spoke for few months and he became a very good friend to me and my confidant.. it was a platonic friendship and he was always kind and sympathetic and supported me a lot.He brought so much goodness in my life in just those few months. But we decided to discontinue talking for sake of family and maybe I brought this on me by letting him know that I should not hide this from my husband about just plain friendship with another male. We r not talking anymore but he shares all that matters to him with me too not personally though(online) by letting me be part of his statuses. As for me, it hasn't been easy to let him go. Every single day, I hear his words in my head and there is this void which makes me squirm at my loss. Its as if a part of me is dead. I want him to just be back with me as friends or which ever way and talk to me. I ll make sure i make no mistakes this time. am unable to get over this friend of mine.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Filling up emotional voids by inviting another person only qualifies for more stress and confusion.
Obviously you have got attached to this other person and rightly so; someone who offers a lending ear when you need it the most always seems to be caring about you. Plus you have a comparison point in your husband which will always mostly make you believe that your actions are justified.

Now, this is not to make you feel guilty BUT just to tell you that any void that is filled with an external source and not by yourself is going to make you feel the way you are; strained, anxious and maybe even desperate over time.
Ask yourself:
Can I just stop with being friends with this man without having him fulfil my emotional void?
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If NO, then you might want to understand that entanglement of feelings is a possibility that you might have to deal with later.

Check where you are on the spectrum of emotions and whether you can find other ways of feeding your emotional needs without 'needing' this man. Then when you reach out to him, it will be a healthy association for both of you.
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Be your best friend first...

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Hello, I am 35 years old. Married. Not living with husband since an year, as he flirted with an office girl (this is the extent of it that I caught) and has tendency to do so. He is not emotionally aware (of himself or me) and I keep getting hurt as I am quite emotional. Also, I am not on talking terms with his parents as they had tried to sabotage our marriage in different ways on countless occasions. My husband wont agree (not that I want him to agree), but I think that's one reason of our increasing differences. I love him, but cannot find in my heart to move back with him ever again. We have a 5 year old kid, due to whom I am unable to move ahead with divorce. I am stuck in the midst, not knowing where to go next or stay in this same 'married but separated ' position forever. I'm definitely happier without the everyday petty bickering that we had when we lived together (which was turning me into a bitter and angry person, I don't want to be that). I have turned extremely distrustful of him. I do feel very lonely at times. We also went to a guidance counsellor to make the relation work some 1.5 years back, but my husband felt its a waste of money after 5 sessions, also he never invested in the emotional sorting that the counsellor mentioned our relation required. Any guidance?
Ans: It sounds like you're facing a complex and challenging situation. Here are some steps you might consider as you navigate your next steps:

Take care of yourself first and foremost. This means prioritizing your mental and emotional well-being. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you process your feelings, develop coping strategies, and explore your options moving forward.
Take some time to reflect on what you want for yourself and your child in the long term. Consider what kind of environment you want to create for your child, as well as what you need in terms of emotional fulfillment and stability.
If you feel comfortable, consider having an open and honest conversation with your husband about your concerns and feelings. Express how his actions have affected you and what you need from him moving forward. However, be prepared for the possibility that he may not be receptive or willing to change.
Consult with a family law attorney to understand your rights and options regarding divorce, custody, and child support. They can provide guidance tailored to your specific situation and help you navigate the legal process.
Regardless of whether you choose to stay married or pursue divorce, prioritize effective co-parenting for the well-being of your child. This may involve setting clear boundaries, communicating openly about parenting decisions, and prioritizing your child's needs above any personal conflicts.
Consider exploring alternative living arrangements or custody agreements that may better suit your needs and preferences. This could include living separately while co-parenting, or exploring shared custody arrangements that provide stability for your child while allowing you to maintain some distance from your husband.
Reach out to friends, family members, or support groups for additional support and guidance. It can be helpful to connect with others who have gone through similar experiences and can offer empathy, advice, and solidarity.
Ultimately, the decision of whether to stay married or pursue divorce is a deeply personal one that only you can make. Take your time, trust your instincts, and prioritize your own well-being and that of your child as you navigate this challenging process.

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• Evaluate Current SIPs: Your current SIPs reflect a diversified investment approach across various mutual fund categories, which is a positive step. However, it's crucial to review the performance of these funds periodically and ensure they are aligned with your risk tolerance and investment goals.

• Assess Target Corpus: To accumulate a corpus of 3-4 crores by the age of 55, you'll need to determine the monthly SIP amount required to achieve this target. Consider consulting a Certified Financial Planner who can conduct a detailed analysis based on factors like your current age, risk profile, expected returns, and time horizon.

• Factor in Home Loan: Since you have a home loan with a monthly EMI of 34,000, it's essential to ensure that your SIP contributions do not strain your monthly cash flow. Balancing your loan repayment with long-term investments is crucial to maintain financial stability.

• Review Investment Strategy: Depending on your risk appetite and investment horizon, you may need to adjust your SIP allocations to optimize returns and achieve your retirement goal. Consider diversifying your portfolio further or exploring other investment avenues to enhance growth potential.

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I am 56 and working in a MNC at Bangalore. I have a retirement corpus of 2 crore which includes PF, Gratuity, Super annuation, FDs and MF investment. I want to quit corporate life immediately and want to work wherein work life balance is better for another 6-8 years. I do have own house, a plot, term & medical insurance and completed my responsibilities ( son’s education, marriage). My question is whether this 2 crore corpus is enough to survive for next 30 years ( average yearly expenses is about 7.2L)
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• Assess Expenses: With an average yearly expense of 7.2 lakhs, it's crucial to ensure your retirement corpus can cover your lifestyle needs comfortably. Take into account inflation and any potential increase in expenses over time.

• Calculate Withdrawal Rate: Determine a sustainable withdrawal rate from your corpus that allows you to maintain your desired lifestyle without depleting your savings too quickly. A commonly recommended withdrawal rate is around 3-4% of your total corpus annually.

• Consider Investment Returns: Assess the potential returns on your investments and how they'll contribute to your income stream during retirement. Given your mix of FDs and MF investments, factor in both the interest earned and the growth potential of your mutual funds.

• Account for Inflation: Inflation can erode the purchasing power of your savings over time. Ensure your retirement income is indexed to inflation to maintain your standard of living throughout your retirement years.

• Emergency Fund: Set aside a portion of your corpus as an emergency fund to cover unexpected expenses or emergencies that may arise during retirement.

• Healthcare Costs: As you age, healthcare expenses may increase. Make sure you have adequate health insurance coverage and provisions for any potential medical costs in your retirement planning.

• Consult a Financial Advisor: Consider seeking advice from a Certified Financial Planner who can conduct a comprehensive analysis of your financial situation and retirement goals. They can provide personalized recommendations and help you develop a retirement income strategy that aligns with your objectives.

• Review and Adjust: Regularly review your retirement plan and make adjustments as needed based on changes in your lifestyle, expenses, and investment performance. Stay flexible and adaptable to ensure your financial security throughout retirement.

In conclusion, while a retirement corpus of 2 crore is a significant achievement, it's essential to carefully assess whether it can sustain your desired lifestyle and expenses over the next 30 years. By considering factors like inflation, investment returns, and healthcare costs, and seeking professional advice, you can make informed decisions and enjoy a fulfilling retirement with peace of mind.

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Hello Sir, I lost my job in layoff . I am 46 year old . I had a home loan of 1.18 cr with EMI of 1.07L per month . I have 2 kids, Daughter is in 12th and Son is in 9th . I am selling my other 2 flats so that i can repay the loan and left money i will put in FD. I have to plan my children education 60 L and Retirement planning ( Next Month onwards i require 1 L ). After paying home loan I left with 70 L which i will put in FD . I have 70 L in EPF, 30 L in PPF maturity in 2026, 19 L FD, 3.3 L NSC ( Maturity at 2032/ 6.6L), 14 L Mutual Fund. My wife earns 50 K per month . Monthy expenses are 75K . My goals of havinng 1 L from next month and kids education can be achieved with these investment .
Ans: I'm sorry to hear about your job loss, but it's commendable that you're taking proactive steps to manage your finances during this challenging time. Let's create a plan to address your immediate needs and long-term goals:

• Home Loan Repayment: Selling your other two flats to repay the home loan is a prudent decision, as it will relieve you of the burden of the EMI and reduce financial stress.

• Emergency Fund: It's essential to maintain an emergency fund to cover unexpected expenses and loss of income. Since you'll have 70 lakhs from the sale of your flats, consider keeping a portion of this amount aside as your emergency fund, ideally in a liquid and accessible form like a savings account or short-term FD.

• Children's Education: With 60 lakhs earmarked for your children's education, you can explore investment options that offer growth potential over the medium to long term. Consider a combination of equity mutual funds, balanced funds, and fixed-income instruments to achieve your education goals. Since your daughter is in 12th grade, you may need to prioritize her education expenses in the near term.

• Retirement Planning: Your goal of having 1 lakh per month from next month onwards for retirement can be achieved by structuring your existing investments wisely. With 70 lakhs in EPF, 30 lakhs in PPF (maturing in 2026), and other fixed deposits and mutual funds, you have a solid foundation. You can explore options like Senior Citizen Savings Scheme (SCSS), Post Office Monthly Income Scheme (POMIS), and systematic withdrawal plans (SWPs) from mutual funds to generate a regular income stream in retirement.

• Income Replacement: Since you'll no longer have a regular income from employment, it's crucial to plan for income replacement. Your wife's income of 50,000 per month will provide some support, but you may need to supplement it with income generated from your investments.

• Expense Management: Given your monthly expenses of 75,000, it's essential to budget carefully and prioritize your spending. Look for areas where you can cut costs without compromising on essentials.

• Professional Advice: Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner who can help you develop a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your specific circumstances and goals. They can provide valuable guidance on investment strategies, tax planning, and retirement planning.

In conclusion, while losing your job is undoubtedly challenging, with careful planning and prudent financial management, you can navigate this period of transition successfully. By leveraging your existing assets and making strategic investment decisions, you can work towards achieving your children's education goals and securing a comfortable retirement for yourself. Stay focused, stay positive, and remember that you're not alone in this journey.

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Hi sir , I would like to invest 6000 per month and iam 38 years old and by retirement u would like to get corpus fund of 2 crore, sir can you suggest me where to invest and reach my goal
Ans: It's great that you're planning for your retirement at 38. Let's explore your investment options to reach your goal of a 2 crore corpus:

• Start with SIPs: Since you're looking to invest 6000 per month, Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs) in mutual funds are a smart choice. SIPs offer the benefit of rupee cost averaging and can help you build wealth over time.

• Asset Allocation: Given your age and long-term investment horizon, consider a diversified portfolio comprising equity and debt funds. Equity funds offer growth potential, while debt funds provide stability.

• Equity Mutual Funds: Allocate a significant portion of your SIPs to equity mutual funds. These funds invest in stocks and have the potential to generate higher returns over the long term. Look for funds that have a track record of consistent performance and align with your risk tolerance.

• Debt Mutual Funds: To balance risk, consider allocating a portion of your SIPs to debt mutual funds. These funds invest in fixed-income securities like bonds and offer relatively stable returns. They can provide a cushion during market downturns.

• Review and Adjust: Regularly review your investment portfolio and make adjustments as needed. As you approach retirement, consider gradually shifting your allocation from equity to debt to reduce volatility and preserve capital.

• Consider Tax-saving Funds: If you haven't already, explore Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS), also known as tax-saving funds. These funds offer tax benefits under Section 80C of the Income Tax Act while providing exposure to equity markets.

• Consult a Certified Financial Planner: Seeking advice from a Certified Financial Planner can provide valuable insights into structuring your investment portfolio and achieving your retirement goals. They can assess your risk profile, investment horizon, and financial objectives to tailor a plan that suits your needs.

• Stay Disciplined: Consistency is key to long-term investing success. Stick to your SIPs even during market fluctuations and avoid making impulsive decisions based on short-term market movements.

• Monitor Progress: Keep track of your investment performance and periodically reassess your progress towards your retirement goal. Adjust your strategy as necessary to stay on track and maximize returns.

By following these steps and staying committed to your investment plan, you can work towards achieving your retirement goal of a 2 crore corpus. Remember, investing is a journey, and patience and discipline are essential for success.

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Invest in different mutual funds every year lumpsum and sell MF bought latest year in case of fund requirements (to reduce taxation,) is it good strategy??
Ans: Investing in different mutual funds every year and selling the funds bought in the latest year to meet fund requirements can be a strategy worth considering, but it's essential to understand its implications:

• Taxation Benefits: This strategy can help reduce taxation by leveraging the benefit of long-term capital gains tax. Mutual funds held for more than one year qualify for long-term capital gains tax, which is currently taxed at a lower rate compared to short-term capital gains tax.

• Diversification: Investing in different mutual funds every year allows you to diversify your portfolio across various asset classes, sectors, and investment styles. Diversification can help mitigate risk and optimize returns over the long term.

• Flexibility: Selling the mutual funds bought in the latest year to meet fund requirements provides flexibility in managing your cash flow needs. It allows you to liquidate investments strategically while minimizing tax implications.

However, it's essential to consider the following factors:

• Transaction Costs: Buying and selling mutual funds frequently can incur transaction costs, including brokerage fees, entry and exit loads, and other administrative charges. These costs can eat into your returns and affect the overall performance of your portfolio.

• Market Timing: Timing the market to buy and sell mutual funds can be challenging and may result in missed opportunities or losses. It's crucial to base your investment decisions on sound research, analysis, and a long-term perspective rather than short-term market fluctuations.

• Investment Goals: Your investment goals, time horizon, and risk tolerance should drive your investment strategy. While tax efficiency is important, it should not compromise the alignment of your investments with your financial objectives.

• Tax Implications: While long-term capital gains tax rates are lower, they still apply. Additionally, selling mutual funds bought in the latest year may trigger short-term capital gains tax, which is taxed at a higher rate. It's essential to weigh the tax implications carefully and consult with a tax advisor or Certified Financial Planner.

In conclusion, while the strategy of investing in different mutual funds every year and selling the latest year's funds to meet fund requirements can offer tax benefits and flexibility, it's essential to evaluate its suitability based on your individual circumstances and financial goals. Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to assess the strategy's implications and determine if it aligns with your overall investment strategy.

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Hi sir, I am fifty years old. I was already invested one month ago 12,50,000/- in SBI equity regular growth mutual fund. Now, I am planning to start SIP and monthly 5,000/-. Kindly, advice me for the SIP. Thanks.
Ans: It's excellent to see your commitment to investing, especially as you plan for your financial future. Let's explore your options for starting a SIP:

• Given your existing investment of 12,50,000/- in SBI Equity Regular Growth Mutual Fund, it's clear you're already on the path to building wealth.
• Adding a monthly SIP of 5,000/- will further enhance your investment strategy and help you achieve your financial goals.

• When selecting a SIP, consider factors like your investment horizon, risk tolerance, and financial objectives.
• As you're fifty years old, it's essential to strike a balance between growth potential and stability in your investment choices.

• Equity mutual funds offer growth potential but also come with higher volatility. Since you're already invested in SBI Equity Regular Growth Mutual Fund, you may want to diversify your portfolio with a different category of mutual fund.
• Debt mutual funds or balanced funds could be suitable options to consider, offering a more conservative approach while still providing potential for growth.

• Additionally, ensure you choose a SIP with a reputable fund house and a track record of consistent performance.
• Look for funds that align with your investment goals and have a proven track record of delivering returns over the long term.

• As a Certified Financial Planner, I'm here to guide you in selecting the right SIP to complement your existing investment and financial objectives.
• We'll evaluate various mutual fund options, assess their suitability for your portfolio, and ensure they align with your risk profile and investment horizon.

• Remember, investing is a journey, and it's essential to stay disciplined and patient.
• By making informed decisions and staying focused on your long-term goals, you can achieve financial success.

• If you have any further questions or need assistance in selecting a SIP, feel free to reach out.
• Your commitment to investing is commendable, and I'm here to support you every step of the way.

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Hi sir, I am 30 and currently doing a sip of 5k in ppfas and 5k in quant infrastructure fund. I have home loan of 65 Lakhs as well at 8.75%. I am planning to invest another 10k per month. Could you kindly suggest where I can invest for my son (3 years) higher education and for retirement. Can investing in nps beat mutual funds?
Ans: It's commendable that you're prioritizing financial planning at such a young age. Let's delve into your investment options:

• Firstly, I appreciate your disciplined approach to investing through SIPs, which is a smart way to build wealth over time.
• It's great that you're thinking ahead about your son's future education and your retirement needs.

• Considering your current investments, we can explore additional mutual fund options to diversify your portfolio.
• Diversification helps spread risk and optimize returns, essential for achieving long-term financial goals.

• When it comes to investing for your son's education and your retirement, it's crucial to align your investments with your time horizon and risk tolerance.
• For long-term goals like these, equity mutual funds offer the potential for higher returns, albeit with higher volatility.

• Regarding your query about the National Pension System (NPS) versus mutual funds, both have their pros and cons.
• NPS offers tax benefits and a structured retirement savings platform, but it comes with restrictions on withdrawals and limited investment choices.

• On the other hand, mutual funds provide greater flexibility in investment choices and withdrawal options.
• However, they lack the tax benefits of NPS.

• Ultimately, the decision between NPS and mutual funds depends on your individual preferences, risk appetite, and financial goals.
• It's essential to weigh the pros and cons of each option and choose the one that best aligns with your needs.

• As a Certified Financial Planner, I can help you analyze your financial situation and goals to create a customized investment plan.
• Together, we'll select suitable mutual funds that balance growth potential and risk for your son's education and retirement.

• Remember, investing is a journey, and it's essential to stay disciplined and focused on your long-term objectives.
• With careful planning and prudent decision-making, you can build a secure financial future for yourself and your family.

• Keep up the excellent work with your investments, and don't hesitate to reach out if you have any further questions or need assistance.
• You're on the right track towards achieving your financial aspirations, and I'm here to support you every step of the way.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 12, 2024Hindi
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Hello, I have a mutual fund corpus of ~32Lakhs. Per month SIP is 46k. When will I reach my first 1cr and by 2030 I want 5 CR corpus. I can increase the monthly SIP to 50K
Ans: It's fantastic to see you diligently investing in mutual funds to build your wealth. Let's crunch the numbers to chart your path to financial milestones:

• With a current mutual fund corpus of ~32 lakhs and a monthly SIP of 46k, your wealth is steadily growing.
• By increasing your monthly SIP to 50k, you're demonstrating a proactive approach to accelerating your wealth accumulation.

• To estimate when you'll reach your first 1 crore milestone, we'll consider factors like your current corpus, SIP amount, and expected rate of return.
• With consistent monthly investments and potential market growth, you're on track to achieve this milestone in the foreseeable future.

• However, reaching a 5 crore corpus by 2030 is a more ambitious goal and may require additional contributions and strategic planning.
• Increasing your monthly SIP to 50k is a step in the right direction, but you may also need to explore other avenues for wealth creation.

• It's essential to consider factors like market volatility, inflation, and your risk tolerance when projecting future returns.
• As a Certified Financial Planner, I can help you create a personalized financial plan to align your investments with your goals.

• By optimizing your asset allocation, diversifying your portfolio, and staying disciplined with your investments, you can enhance your chances of reaching your financial objectives.
• Regularly reviewing your investment strategy and making adjustments as needed will keep you on track towards achieving your goals.

• Remember, patience and consistency are key to long-term wealth creation.
• Keep up the excellent work with your investments, and together, we'll work towards realizing your financial dreams.

• If you have any questions or need further guidance along the way, don't hesitate to reach out.
• You're on a path to financial success, and I'm here to support you every step of the way.

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