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Harsha Question by Harsha on Jun 16, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu, After reading a lot of your responses I started to believe that you probably have a solution to my complex problem I am 42 yr old and wife 40 and we live in AUS. We have 2 beautiful, smart kids 11 and 7. She is a nice person but not very smart to think what should we care and what not care and live a happy life. A few years ago my mom from India used to visit how used to complain about my in-laws about how rude they are how they not keep in touch at all and all that. This is absolutely true because I saw that myself. But my wife being a loving daughter thinks none of that is true and my mom is lying. 10 years ago my dad passed away after 2 months of lot of suffering from cancer, my wife was pregnant here at the same time in AUS. I had to go to India to spend with time with my dad during his last days.One unbelievable truth is when I was performing funeral rituals on on side my father in law was telling all my close visitors that I am not talking/calling much to my wife during these days to AUS. All those guests told me about it. But my father-in-law says that he never said those things to visitors and they are all lying. My wife firmly believes that they are all lying. When I talked to him in person he agreed that he said those things. He is never nice to our family. He never even offered help to my family when my dad was suffering. All that a side, realizing that me and my family is disturbed a lot, none of my family members are saying anything to her just so that we are happy and nothing bothers us. It's been 2 1/2 years like that. But she is not ready for forget what happened in the past and live a happy family life. Despite suffering I myself tell her to forget all that happened and I never talk about past things. But she still clings on to those thoughts. My kids are suffering now. To keep my family happy, I try to make fun , talk to her, go places and all that. But with those past thoughts she turned into a heartless person. Please help. Tell me where, what and how can I/we fix this.

Ans: Dear Harsha,
Thank you for the acknowledgement.
My suggestion to you: Start afresh!
Digging what happened only puts your wife in the spotlight...maybe she wasn't at her best and things went downhill, but it will not give her the chance to rework things and integrate back into the family.
So, press the RESET button and along with the kids, focus on your family...what her father said or not, what someone should have done or not; let it be done and dusted.
For relationships to work and move, both parties involved, must make that choice to leave the past behind, else the shadows keep growing and casting a cloud over something that is healthy and has a chance to grow beautifully.
Does this make sense here? If I tell you to go down the path and confront her about her father, she will get defensive and this thing will get ugly and perhaps backfire.
Are you willing to start afresh is the question here? If YES, what will this do for you? Now, you know what to do...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Asked on - Jun 17, 2024 | Answered on Jun 17, 2024
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Thank you so much for the response, Anu. But I never ever dig anything from the past. It's her who does that and I am trying to help her not live in the past. I try to tell her not to think about past things that bothers her. But she always lives in the past. Never moves on. That is what I was trying to ask you what else I could do.
Ans: Dear Harsha,
The suggestion that I made was for both of you. it's not a She v/s Me battle here...In a marriage, it's team work and a tough one at times...
So, as a team if you can set aside what's happened and look forward to what can be different in the future, that will really set the tone going! Get the drift, here? As a team; so it is probably going to take a different way of communicating with your wife where she feels not pointed out to and that might possibly help her let her guard down and she might start looking at you and the marriage slightly different. When this happens, that's when your team work starts to fusion into something very fruitful. Give that a shot, you never know!
Start afresh simply meant for both of you to drop all baggage and start right from the very beginning...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Hi Anu, I'm a 50 year old male married for 10 years. This is our second marriage for both of us. We live abroad. Since Day One my spouse was suspicious of me linking me with anyone on the street. She says I'm sighting girls. She suspected that I am interested in my elder sister-in-law since marriage. She never told me this for three years. Due to this we never had any relationship (and no child). Because of this constant fighting I lost my mother (I apologised to mother since I was not able to take care of her and I was unhappy. She died within a month of my apology.) I never told anyone either of our relatives about our problems. My father is 90 and alive. I don't want to cause any problem to him. During these 10 years her father never bothered to check if any problems. I hardly slept 1-2 days a week during these years.My spouse never changed a bit during these 10 years. Her position reached a stage where I had to admit her to hospital for psychosis. She got discharged in 2 months because her parents were adamant on discharge on the condition that she will travel to India. But once discharged, she refused to travel for nearly 10 months. Her father supported her. When her mother passed away in December 2020, due to Covid her return tickets got cancelled. In December 2021 she was again in hospital for 20 days in India for similar psychological issues. In April 2022 I visited her house in India and gave her father a 4-page document detailing her behaviour during these 10 years. He simply said she has done unknowingly. He is adamant on trying to send her back to me. While I am struggling to live, her father lives a happy life with his pension. As a father he never corrects his daughter and instead tries to push the problems to me.I have asked for a divorce but she is not willing to give and starts shouting hysterically. Please let me know how to proceed.
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Dear S,

If you have decided that divorce is the only option to consider, then yes, file for divorce legally by hiring a lawyer who has specialized in cases where the spouse is unwilling to let the divorce happen.

In short, if it’s not a mutual consent, it might drag on for years, so get a good skilled lawyer to take up your case.

On the emotional side of things, I urge you to be patient and empathetic towards your wife. With her mental health condition, she possibly has no control over her thoughts and subsequent actions are a result of an impulsive reaction.

Yes, it is unfortunate that the marriage went through a lot of low phases but do remember she is a human who is going through a challenge which is not easy to fathom by people who don’t have a mental illness.

I realise that this might be a little difficult to do, but in the long-term scheme of things, it will be a good ally as a sound and calm mind helps you through challenging times.

This point of view will help you through the divorce proceedings where you will be able to be fair and just to make sure that she is also taken care of.

All the best for a better journey ahead!

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Hi Anu...i hv been reading ur expertise to solve the issues of people and am really impressed. We have been married for 19years now and have a son and daughter .From the start of the marriage my wife have been inclined towards her mother and her family paying less or no heed to us. Circumstances were also favorable to her and she always got the opportunity to stay close and visit her parents often which i did not mind.We lived in Mumbai and she is from Chennai.After marriage my mom-in-law used to continuosly interfere into our lives by calling her and she used to act as per her suggestions only which led to problems as she was a puppet in the hands of my Mom-in-law. Moreover since my mom-in-law was not in good health my wife tried not to over rule as she did not want her mom to feel sick as she doesnt like to be over ruled or by pass failing which she goes on hunger strike and stop taking tablets spoiling her own health. Due to this reason everybody has been appeasing her.Initially i thought to ignore but slowly it started to affect my family as well as my wife started to see things thru my mom-in-laws perspective and find faults in everything. We shifted to overseas to stay away from all these and we really had a good life for 10 years there but since i lost job during covid i had to shift base to India for my son's education but she chose to stay back there with my daughter as she is working there.I too felt that let her spend some time so that i could settle things in India and call her but it is more than 2 years now and she refuses to come back and dont even care for us and neither call us as family. I tried to involve my in-laws to convince her but they are also playing a diplomatic game and doesnt want to go against their daughter's wish.Due to this attitude of my mom-in-law their own daughter-in-laws have been staying away and since my in-laws stay alone my wife feels that she is the only support system for her parents but it has come on my life's sacrifice. She has been ignoring us and even i kept moving for the sake of my family and children instead of respecting my feelings she has become more adamant now.Her brother is also seperated from her wife and he also looks forward for a support system from my daughter and my wife and they seem close ignoring myself and my son.We have been trying to convince her thru all means but she is caring. Even i feel that it is futile to force someone into relationship but she unknowingly spoiling my family and deprieve my son the mother;s love and also depreive my daughter from affection and love.Due to this my son has also stopped expecting from her and my daughter treats me as a stranger due to long distance. Pls suggest the way forward. Shud i wait for things to improve or leave as it is.I am 47 now and she is 45..told her that let us enjoy the best things in life rather than regretting later but she does not understand.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Logic does not appeal to your wife!
What can you do with someone who is adamant about ruining her own family life? It's purely clouded judgement on her part on what to do and not!
With more people dependent on your wife for support, she has found a way of moving even more away from you...what I do not understand is: how is she able to do that to your son?

Either the two of you talk this out and take firm decisions OR accept that this is how it's going to be...sooner or later, she will realize what is happening and will become more aware of her priorities. But, being where you are is painful and it will stress you even more...So, find a way to talk things out is a step that you can take NOW!

Impress upon her as to how important it is keep the family together as a unit for the children to grow in a healthy manner and also how much this time investment will help the two of you as a couple.

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My wife got posted in distant place 10 years back. I had to ask for help from my inlaws as our child was very young. They started to live with her. After 1 year she got transferred back to the place where I was living. She got a flat from the company and we started to live together. Since then my inlaws are also staying with us. They purchased another flat nearby but are not willing to move there. Now, the problem is that whenever me and my wife have a quarrel she just stops talking and starts to take decisions in consultation with my inlaws. I am completely out of the loop in these circumstances. Over the years my relationship with inlaws has gone sour and quarrels with wife have been lasting longer (upto 2 months). My inlaws are otherwise well behaved but their presence somehow is hindering the process of natural reconciliation between me and my spouse or I am perceiving the situation incorrectly. Please guide
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What you all have done is jumped impulsively into one situation, made it comfortable asking people to help and then jumped back into the original situation and not knowing how to ask the same people to stay away!
Your wife has to grow out of her parents being around and you have to understand that your in-laws have got used to stepping in while you were away.
It's about time that you and your wife had a mature conversation on how to manage your family yourselves and be responsible for raising your child. But do remember to deal with your in-laws carefully. After all, they gracefully kept their lives on hold to help your wife and your child. Without hurting their sentiments, you are going to have to convey to them that you are thankful for what they have done for you BUT now you would like to be there for your family. Initially, this will hurt them and your wife, but anymore of this game will pull you and wife away from one another. So, they do need to move out...
You are not cutting strings but simply loosening the grip it currently has which is unhealthy for your marriage. Hope that your wife also understands this which means she will put you to test and in her mind or vocally compare what you bring to the table and how her parents supported her. Bear with it and as the two of you work together in putting the family back together, she will eventually understand that this is for the best.

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I got married in 2008. Our son was born in 2013. My wife was doing PhD at that time and we both took good care of him as we were staying in an academic campus. Upon completion, my wife moved away from our place with her job in 2018. Initial one year, everything was fine. I used to visit them once in a month as the place was far away. Later in 2019, she moved to a better job location with our son. This place was also far from my workplace. Due to some reasons, she started avoiding me and I could hardly meet them especially my son. I could talk to my son only once/twice every month and see him on average of every 4 months. She does not allow me talk to him over video call as well. My parents who had a great memory with their grandson also cannot talk to him, except after several persuasions by me, she visits my paternal home once or twice in a year. She takes our son to my parents house for an hour and never allows to stay with them. This is happening for the last 5 years. I am clueless as any movement to court might lead us filing a divorce, which will grossly hurt my parents. Sometimes I feel that I should wait for my son until he becomes 18 (he is 11 now) and see him once he goes out of his mom's house. Requesting for your suggestion.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I truly believe that distance can drive a huge gap between two people in a relationship. Long distance relationships (LDRs) are not for everyone and if someone is into something like this, they would have or must have an honest chat about it.
Not being able to be in the company of one another, not being able to share their day with the other, not being able to communicate as often as they want can lead them to become their own person and highly independent not really missing their partner. It can also lead them to find other pair/pairs of ears almost replacing their partner at that moment. Repeating this over time can lead to romantic associations outside of the relationship as well.

Now, what could have caused your wife to take a step to be isolated from you, only you will know...and what has made you wait for 5 years to actually realize that something must be done about this?

Anyway, talk to your wife...I mean, how long can she avoid you? Meet her at a common place, like at your parents' place so that it does not flare up into a big thing. Take the opportunity to try and win your family back. Maybe it was a simple misunderstanding that caused all of this. Only when you try to find out, will you know, yeah?

All the best!
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Hello Sir, I am 45 years old and I have invested through SIP in the following funds since last 13 years. 1. HSBC Flexi Cap Fund - Regular Growth 2. Invesco India Midcap Fund - Regular Growth my question is should I continue with these funds or should I shift to any other fund ? If I should shift then which fund do you suggest ?
Ans: Understanding Your Investment Goals
At 45, your financial goals are likely focused on retirement planning and wealth preservation. It's crucial to align your investments with these goals.

Reviewing Your Current Funds
You've been investing in HSBC Flexi Cap Fund and Invesco India Midcap Fund for 13 years. These funds have given you exposure to both large-cap and mid-cap stocks.

Performance Evaluation
Evaluate the performance of these funds. Check their returns, consistency, and performance against benchmarks. If they have consistently outperformed, they might still be good choices.

Risk Assessment
Assess the risk associated with your current funds. Mid-cap funds can be more volatile compared to flexi-cap funds. Ensure this risk aligns with your risk tolerance.


You've done a commendable job by investing regularly for 13 years. It shows your discipline and commitment to building wealth.

Should You Continue or Shift?
Reasons to Continue
Consistent Performance: If your funds have shown consistent performance, you may want to continue.
Low Exit Load: Exiting a fund with a low exit load or after the exit load period can save you money.
Familiarity: You're familiar with these funds and their performance trends.
Reasons to Shift
Underperformance: If the funds have underperformed compared to peers, it might be time to switch.
Changing Goals: If your financial goals or risk tolerance have changed, you may need different funds.
Market Conditions: Adapting to changing market conditions can sometimes warrant a shift in funds.
Evaluating Alternatives
If you decide to shift, consider funds that align with your goals. Evaluate their performance, risk, and consistency. Diversify across large-cap, mid-cap, and multi-cap funds.

Advantages of Actively Managed Funds
Active Management Benefits
Actively managed funds have fund managers who make strategic decisions to outperform benchmarks. They can adapt to market conditions better than index funds.

Flexibility
Actively managed funds can move in and out of sectors or stocks based on performance and market trends. This flexibility can lead to better returns.

Disadvantages of Index Funds
No Flexibility: Index funds stick to a predetermined portfolio, regardless of market conditions.
Average Returns: They aim to match, not beat, the index, leading to average returns.
Limited Downside Protection: In a downturn, index funds fall with the market, without any active measures to mitigate losses.
Personalized Recommendations
Aligning with Goals
Select funds that align with your retirement goals and risk tolerance. Consider a mix of large-cap, multi-cap, and balanced funds for a diversified portfolio.

Regular Reviews
Regularly review and rebalance your portfolio. Adjust your investments based on market conditions, fund performance, and changes in your financial goals.

Consulting a Certified Financial Planner
Consult a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) for personalized advice. They can provide tailored recommendations based on a comprehensive analysis of your financial situation.

Diversifying Your Investments
Balanced Funds
Balanced funds invest in a mix of equities and debt. They provide stability and growth, making them suitable for retirement planning.

Large-cap Funds
Large-cap funds invest in well-established companies. They offer stability and consistent returns, ideal for conservative investors.

Multi-cap Funds
Multi-cap funds invest across large, mid, and small-cap stocks. They provide diversification and potential for higher returns.

Debt Funds
Debt funds invest in fixed-income securities. They offer stability and are less volatile compared to equity funds.

International Funds
Consider international funds for geographic diversification. They provide exposure to global markets and reduce country-specific risks.

Final Insights
You've done well by investing regularly for 13 years. Evaluating your current funds and considering alternatives is wise as you approach retirement. Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWPs) offer many benefits, including higher returns, tax efficiency, flexibility, and inflation protection. Diversify your portfolio across balanced, large-cap, multi-cap, debt, and international funds. Regularly review your investments and consult a Certified Financial Planner for personalized advice. This comprehensive approach will help you achieve your retirement goals and financial security.

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Mr Ramalingam what do you think is the importance of a regular income payout after retirement ? Are mutual funds only way to create a corpus ? Im talking about a fixed monthly income not a corpus. Can you suggest?
Ans: Importance of Regular Income Payout After Retirement
Financial Stability
Regular income ensures financial stability post-retirement. It covers daily expenses, medical bills, and lifestyle needs without depleting savings.

Peace of Mind
Knowing you have a steady income stream provides peace of mind. It allows you to enjoy retirement without constant financial worries.

Inflation Protection
A regular income helps combat inflation. With rising costs, a fixed income ensures you can maintain your standard of living.

Independence
Having a reliable income allows you to be financially independent. You won't need to rely on family members for financial support.

Health and Well-being
Financial stress can impact health. A regular income contributes to better health and well-being by reducing financial anxiety.

Are Mutual Funds the Only Way to Create a Corpus?
Diversification is Key
While mutual funds are an excellent option, they shouldn't be the only investment. Diversifying across different asset classes reduces risk and enhances returns.

Other Investment Options
Fixed Deposits (FDs): Safe and secure, offering fixed returns.
Public Provident Fund (PPF): Long-term savings with tax benefits.
National Savings Certificate (NSC): Safe investment with fixed returns and tax benefits.
Employee Provident Fund (EPF): For salaried individuals, offering tax benefits and compounded returns.
Real Estate: Can provide rental income, though not recommended as the primary option.
Creating a Fixed Monthly Income
Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWPs)
SWPs in mutual funds allow you to withdraw a fixed amount regularly. It's a good way to generate monthly income while keeping the corpus invested.

Senior Citizens' Saving Scheme (SCSS)
SCSS is a government-backed scheme offering regular interest payouts. It’s a secure option with decent returns for senior citizens.

Post Office Monthly Income Scheme (POMIS)
POMIS is another government-backed scheme providing fixed monthly income. It’s low-risk and suitable for conservative investors.

Annuity Plans
Annuity plans from insurance companies provide regular payouts. You invest a lump sum and receive a fixed monthly income for life.

Dividend-paying Stocks or Funds
Investing in dividend-paying stocks or funds can provide regular income. However, dividends can fluctuate, so it's not as predictable as other options.

Rental Income
If you own property, rental income can be a steady source of funds. Ensure you account for maintenance and vacancy risks.

Fixed Income Securities
Bonds and debentures offer fixed interest payments. Consider high-quality corporate or government bonds for regular income.

Why SWP Can Outbeat Other Options
Flexibility
SWPs offer greater flexibility compared to other options. You can choose the amount and frequency of withdrawals, adjusting based on your needs.

Potential for Higher Returns
Investing in mutual funds through SWPs can offer higher returns than fixed deposits or POMIS. This is due to the equity component, which can outperform over the long term.

Tax Efficiency
SWPs are tax-efficient. Only the capital gains portion of each withdrawal is taxed, unlike fixed deposits where the entire interest is taxable.

Inflation Protection
SWPs in equity mutual funds provide a hedge against inflation. Equities typically outperform inflation over the long run, maintaining your purchasing power.

Customizable Payouts
You can customize SWP payouts to suit your financial needs. This is not possible with annuities or fixed deposits, which have fixed payouts.

Capital Appreciation
While providing regular income, SWPs also allow for capital appreciation. Your remaining corpus continues to grow, offering long-term benefits.

Professional Management
Mutual funds are professionally managed. Fund managers actively manage the portfolio to optimize returns, unlike fixed income or real estate where you need to manage yourself.

Liquidity
SWPs offer better liquidity compared to other fixed-income options. You can stop or change withdrawals anytime without penalties.

Balancing Risk and Return
Diversified Portfolio
Create a diversified portfolio combining various income sources. This reduces risk and ensures a stable income stream.

Regular Reviews
Regularly review your investment portfolio. Adjust based on changes in your financial situation, market conditions, and inflation.

Professional Guidance
Consult a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) for personalized advice. They can help you create a balanced, diversified retirement income plan.

Final Insights
A regular income post-retirement is crucial for financial stability, peace of mind, and independence. While mutual funds are a great option, diversify your investments across various asset classes. Consider SWPs, SCSS, POMIS, annuities, dividend-paying stocks, rental income, and fixed income securities. SWPs, with their flexibility, potential for higher returns, tax efficiency, and inflation protection, stand out as a superior option. Regularly review and adjust your portfolio with professional guidance to ensure a secure and comfortable retirement.

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Hello, I'm 25 years old and working at a service-based company earning approximately 44,000 per month. I am the sole provider for my family, which includes my mother and younger sister (who has completed her education and is preparing for government jobs). My monthly expenses are around 20,000. Currently, I have no savings except for about 1 lakh in my Provident Fund (PF). Additionally, I've begun investing 4,000 per month in the Public Provident Fund (PPF) over the last 4 months. I lack knowledge about other investments like SIPs and mutual funds. I am planning to purchase health and term insurance soon. I am currently upskilling myself to secure a higher-paying job, which I aim to achieve by the end of this year. Presently, I live on rent but have plans to buy a home in the future. I can currently allocate 15,000 per month towards investments, with the intention of increasing this amount in the near future. Could you please suggest some suitable investment plans or schemes for me?
Ans: You’re doing an excellent job managing your finances and taking care of your family. Let's explore how you can enhance your investment strategy to achieve your financial goals.

Understanding Your Financial Situation
You are 25 years old, earning Rs. 44,000 per month. Your family depends on you, including your mother and younger sister. Your monthly expenses are around Rs. 20,000, and you’ve just started investing Rs. 4,000 per month in PPF. You have Rs. 1 lakh in your Provident Fund (PF) and no other savings. You’re also planning to purchase health and term insurance soon. You aim to buy a home in the future and currently live on rent. Additionally, you can allocate Rs. 15,000 per month towards investments.

Setting Financial Goals
Your main financial goals are:

Building an emergency fund
Investing for future growth
Securing health and term insurance
Saving for a future home purchase
Upskilling for a higher-paying job
Let’s break down how to achieve these goals.

Building an Emergency Fund
Importance of Emergency Fund
An emergency fund is crucial. It helps you handle unexpected expenses without disrupting your financial plans. Aim to save at least 3-6 months’ worth of expenses.

Starting Small
Begin by setting aside a portion of your income each month. Given your expenses are Rs. 20,000, aim for an emergency fund of around Rs. 60,000 to Rs. 1,20,000.

Gradual Savings
You can start small and gradually increase the amount. For instance, allocate Rs. 5,000 per month initially. Once you achieve your emergency fund target, you can redirect this amount to other investments.

Investing for Future Growth
Understanding Investment Options
Investing in mutual funds and SIPs can offer higher returns compared to traditional savings methods. Let’s explore these options.

Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs)
SIPs allow you to invest a fixed amount regularly in mutual funds. This approach helps in averaging the cost of investment and leveraging the power of compounding.

Diversified Mutual Funds
Consider diversified mutual funds that invest across various sectors and companies. They offer a balanced risk-reward ratio and are managed by professional fund managers.

Balanced Advantage Funds
These funds dynamically manage the allocation between equity and debt. They provide a balance of growth and stability, ideal for investors with moderate risk tolerance.

Equity Linked Savings Scheme (ELSS)
ELSS funds offer tax benefits under Section 80C and have a lock-in period of three years. They invest primarily in equities and have the potential for high returns.

Securing Health and Term Insurance
Health Insurance
Health insurance is crucial to cover medical expenses and protect your savings. Choose a comprehensive policy that covers a wide range of illnesses and treatments.

Term Insurance
Term insurance provides financial security to your family in case of an unforeseen event. Opt for a term plan with adequate coverage based on your family’s needs and future goals.

Saving for a Future Home Purchase
Planning for Down Payment
Start saving for the down payment of your future home. Typically, lenders require a down payment of 20% of the home’s value.

Allocating Funds
You can allocate a portion of your monthly savings towards this goal. For example, you can set aside Rs. 5,000 per month for this purpose.

Long-term Investment
Consider long-term investments like PPF and mutual funds for your down payment fund. They offer good returns and help in accumulating a significant amount over time.

Upskilling for a Higher-paying Job
Investing in Education
Upskilling yourself is a great step towards securing a higher-paying job. Allocate time and resources to enhance your skills and qualifications.

Potential Income Increase
A higher-paying job will significantly improve your financial situation. It will enable you to save and invest more, achieving your financial goals faster.

Investment Strategy
Monthly Allocation
You can allocate your Rs. 15,000 monthly investment as follows:

Emergency Fund: Rs. 5,000
SIPs in Diversified Mutual Funds: Rs. 6,000
PPF: Rs. 4,000
Reviewing and Adjusting
Regularly review your investments and financial situation. Make adjustments as needed based on your income, expenses, and goals.

Evaluating Investment Options
Avoid Index Funds
Index funds might seem attractive due to lower fees, but they have limitations. They may not always beat inflation or provide superior returns consistently. Actively managed funds, with professional management, can offer better returns and adapt to market changes.

Benefits of Regular Funds
Direct funds require active management and market knowledge. Investing through a Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD) with CFP credentials offers professional guidance and better fund selection. This can lead to better performance and peace of mind.

Final Insights
You’re on the right track with a clear focus on your financial goals. Prioritizing an emergency fund, investing for future growth, securing insurance, and planning for a home purchase are wise steps.

Start with small, manageable investments and gradually increase them as your income grows. Regularly review your financial situation and seek professional advice if needed. With dedication and strategic planning, you’ll achieve your financial goals effectively.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jun 26, 2024

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for long term investment time span 15 to 18 years for grand daughter which SIP to invest can you name the scheme . Amount range 2 to 5 thousand
Ans: Here's a detailed and comprehensive guide on selecting the best SIP investments for your granddaughter's long-term financial goals:

Understanding the Importance of Long-Term Investments
Investing for your granddaughter's future is a wonderful decision.

It ensures her financial security and helps in meeting her educational and other significant expenses.

A long-term investment horizon of 15 to 18 years provides ample time for your investments to grow and compound.

Benefits of SIP for Long-Term Investments
Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs) are an excellent way to invest for long-term goals.

They provide the benefit of rupee cost averaging, reducing the impact of market volatility.

SIPs instill a habit of regular investing, making it easier to accumulate a significant corpus over time.

By investing a fixed amount regularly, you can take advantage of compounding returns.

Factors to Consider While Choosing SIPs
When selecting SIPs, consider the following factors:

Investment Goals: Define clear investment goals for your granddaughter, such as education, marriage, or any other future needs.

Time Horizon: A long-term horizon of 15 to 18 years allows you to take on more equity exposure for higher returns.

Risk Tolerance: Understand your risk tolerance and choose funds that align with your risk profile.

Fund Performance: Look for funds with a consistent performance track record over the years.

Expense Ratio: Lower expense ratios can significantly impact your overall returns over the long term.

Equity Mutual Funds for Long-Term Growth
Equity mutual funds are ideal for long-term investments as they offer higher returns compared to other asset classes.

Consider investing in a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds for diversified exposure.

Large-cap funds invest in well-established companies with stable growth prospects.

Mid-cap and small-cap funds invest in companies with higher growth potential but may carry more risk.

Benefits of Actively Managed Funds
Actively managed funds are managed by professional fund managers who aim to outperform the market.

They offer better returns compared to index funds in many cases.

Fund managers actively select and manage the portfolio to achieve higher returns.

Disadvantages of Index Funds
Index funds simply replicate market indices and do not aim to outperform the market.

They may not provide optimal returns in the long term, especially in a growing economy like India.

Actively managed funds, on the other hand, have the potential to deliver better returns.

Importance of Diversification
Diversification reduces risk and enhances returns.

Investing in a mix of equity, debt, and hybrid funds ensures a balanced portfolio.

Equity funds provide growth, while debt funds offer stability and lower risk.

SIP Amount and Frequency
For a long-term goal, investing Rs 2,000 to Rs 5,000 per month is a good start.

Set up SIPs in multiple funds to diversify your investments.

Regularly investing a fixed amount ensures disciplined investing.

Evaluating Fund Performance
Regularly review the performance of your SIP investments.

Compare the fund's performance with its benchmark and peers.

Rebalance your portfolio if needed to maintain the desired asset allocation.

Benefits of Regular Funds and Certified Financial Planner (CFP)
Investing through regular funds with the guidance of a CFP adds value.

CFPs provide personalized advice and help in creating a well-diversified portfolio.

They offer professional expertise and help you make informed investment decisions.

Monitoring and Rebalancing
Regularly monitor your SIP investments and review your financial plan.

Market conditions and personal circumstances change over time.

Rebalance your portfolio periodically to maintain the desired asset allocation.

Tax Benefits of SIPs
SIPs in Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS) offer tax benefits under Section 80C of the Income Tax Act.

ELSS funds have a lock-in period of three years and provide both tax savings and long-term growth.

Consider allocating a part of your SIP investments to ELSS funds for tax-efficient investing.

Financial Discipline and Consistency
Financial discipline is key to achieving your long-term goals.

Stick to your SIP investment plan and avoid the temptation to time the market.

Consistent investing will yield significant results over time.

Leveraging Professional Advice
Seek advice from a Certified Financial Planner to create a tailored investment plan.

They provide valuable insights and help you navigate through market complexities.

A CFP helps in aligning your investments with your financial goals.

Avoiding Common Investment Mistakes
Avoid high-risk and speculative investments that promise quick returns.

Don’t chase past performance of funds; instead, focus on long-term potential.

Stay disciplined and stick to your investment plan.

Building a Corpus for Your Granddaughter
Building a significant corpus for your granddaughter requires careful planning and disciplined investing.

Start early and invest regularly to take advantage of compounding returns.

Review and adjust your investments as needed to stay on track with your goals.

Final Insights
Investing for your granddaughter’s future is a noble and rewarding decision.

A well-structured SIP investment plan will help you achieve your financial goals.

Focus on long-term growth, diversification, and regular monitoring.

Stay disciplined and seek professional advice to make informed investment decisions.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jun 26, 2024

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I am a Railway employee, my monthly salary is approx 38000. I have a personal loan of monthly emi 17000 and it's outstanding amount 490000 about remaining 40 months. I have also invest 9000(5000 RD + 4000 MF) for my marriage in first of 2026 . My total expenditure ={ 23000 ( including loan emi) and invest 9000 for marriage and 7000 for try to prepayment to loan }= 39000 My next plan build my house take a home loan about 15 lakh and try to prepayment my personal loan with extra emi 7000 but it takes 20 months, I want to take home loan in next year 2025 about 8 month later, so I try to close my personal loan as early as possible in each month with extra emi. But can't get the result at proper time. what should I do ? And Ami I going in right path? Pls suggest me
Ans: I see you're working hard to manage your finances and future goals. Let's look at how you can achieve your plans effectively.

Understanding Your Current Financial Situation
First, let's break down your current financial position:

Monthly Salary: Rs. 38,000
Personal Loan EMI: Rs. 17,000
Personal Loan Outstanding: Rs. 4,90,000 (40 months remaining)
Monthly Investments: Rs. 9,000 (RD and MF)
Total Monthly Expenditure: Rs. 23,000 (including loan EMI)
Additional EMI for Loan Prepayment: Rs. 7,000
You have a clear goal: to close your personal loan as early as possible and take a home loan next year.

Loan Repayment Strategy
Focus on Personal Loan Prepayment
You're already paying Rs. 7,000 extra towards your personal loan each month. This is a good step. By prepaying, you're reducing the interest burden. However, it may not close the loan as quickly as you hope.

Increase Prepayment Amount
If possible, try to increase the prepayment amount. Even a small increase can significantly reduce the loan tenure. Check if you can cut some discretionary expenses temporarily to allocate more towards prepayment.

Lump Sum Payments
Whenever you receive any extra income, such as bonuses or gifts, use it for lump sum payments towards your personal loan. This will further reduce your outstanding amount.

Investment Strategy
Balancing Loan Repayment and Investments
You’re investing Rs. 9,000 monthly (Rs. 5,000 in RD and Rs. 4,000 in MF) for your marriage in 2026. This is important, but your immediate priority is clearing the personal loan.

Temporarily Redirect Investments
Consider temporarily redirecting some of your investments towards loan prepayment. For instance, reduce RD and MF contributions slightly and use this amount for prepayment. Once the loan is cleared, you can increase your investments again.

Continue Some Investments
It’s essential to continue some investments for your marriage goal. Don’t stop investing completely, as this goal is also crucial.

Planning for the Home Loan
Timing of Home Loan
You plan to take a home loan in 2025. Clearing your personal loan before that is wise. This will improve your credit score and reduce financial stress.

Home Loan Amount
Plan your home loan amount carefully. Ensure the EMI is manageable within your monthly budget. Avoid over-borrowing to keep financial stress low.

Save for Down Payment
Start saving for the down payment of your home loan. Typically, lenders require a down payment of 20% of the home’s value. This will reduce your loan amount and EMI.

Building an Emergency Fund
Importance of Emergency Fund
An emergency fund is crucial to handle unexpected expenses without disrupting your financial plans. Aim to save at least 3-6 months’ worth of expenses.

Gradual Savings
Start small. Save a portion of your salary each month towards the emergency fund. You can increase this amount once your personal loan is cleared.

Ensuring Financial Stability
Budgeting and Expense Management
Create a detailed budget to track your income and expenses. Identify areas where you can cut costs. This will free up more money for loan repayment and savings.

Avoid New Debt
Avoid taking any new loans or credit until your personal loan is cleared and you have a stable financial situation. This will help you stay on track with your goals.

Regular Financial Reviews
Monitor Progress
Regularly review your financial situation. Check your loan balance, investment growth, and budget adherence. This will help you stay focused and make necessary adjustments.

Seek Professional Guidance
Consider consulting a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) for personalized advice. They can provide insights tailored to your situation and help you achieve your goals efficiently.

Evaluating Investment Options
Avoid Index Funds
Index funds might seem attractive but they have limitations. They may not beat inflation or provide superior returns consistently. Actively managed funds, with professional management, can offer better returns and adapt to market changes.

Benefits of Regular Funds
Direct funds require active management and market knowledge. Investing through a Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD) with CFP credentials offers professional guidance and better fund selection. This can lead to better performance and peace of mind.

Final Insights
You’re on the right path with a clear focus on your financial goals. Prioritizing loan repayment is wise, but balancing investments for your future goals is also essential.

Increase your prepayment amount if possible and consider redirecting some investments temporarily. Regularly review your financial situation and seek professional advice if needed. You’re doing great, and with some adjustments, you’ll achieve your goals effectively.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in

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