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Harsha Question by Harsha on Jun 16, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu, After reading a lot of your responses I started to believe that you probably have a solution to my complex problem I am 42 yr old and wife 40 and we live in AUS. We have 2 beautiful, smart kids 11 and 7. She is a nice person but not very smart to think what should we care and what not care and live a happy life. A few years ago my mom from India used to visit how used to complain about my in-laws about how rude they are how they not keep in touch at all and all that. This is absolutely true because I saw that myself. But my wife being a loving daughter thinks none of that is true and my mom is lying. 10 years ago my dad passed away after 2 months of lot of suffering from cancer, my wife was pregnant here at the same time in AUS. I had to go to India to spend with time with my dad during his last days.One unbelievable truth is when I was performing funeral rituals on on side my father in law was telling all my close visitors that I am not talking/calling much to my wife during these days to AUS. All those guests told me about it. But my father-in-law says that he never said those things to visitors and they are all lying. My wife firmly believes that they are all lying. When I talked to him in person he agreed that he said those things. He is never nice to our family. He never even offered help to my family when my dad was suffering. All that a side, realizing that me and my family is disturbed a lot, none of my family members are saying anything to her just so that we are happy and nothing bothers us. It's been 2 1/2 years like that. But she is not ready for forget what happened in the past and live a happy family life. Despite suffering I myself tell her to forget all that happened and I never talk about past things. But she still clings on to those thoughts. My kids are suffering now. To keep my family happy, I try to make fun , talk to her, go places and all that. But with those past thoughts she turned into a heartless person. Please help. Tell me where, what and how can I/we fix this.

Ans: Dear Harsha,
Thank you for the acknowledgement.
My suggestion to you: Start afresh!
Digging what happened only puts your wife in the spotlight...maybe she wasn't at her best and things went downhill, but it will not give her the chance to rework things and integrate back into the family.
So, press the RESET button and along with the kids, focus on your family...what her father said or not, what someone should have done or not; let it be done and dusted.
For relationships to work and move, both parties involved, must make that choice to leave the past behind, else the shadows keep growing and casting a cloud over something that is healthy and has a chance to grow beautifully.
Does this make sense here? If I tell you to go down the path and confront her about her father, she will get defensive and this thing will get ugly and perhaps backfire.
Are you willing to start afresh is the question here? If YES, what will this do for you? Now, you know what to do...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
Asked on - Jun 17, 2024 | Answered on Jun 17, 2024
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Thank you so much for the response, Anu. But I never ever dig anything from the past. It's her who does that and I am trying to help her not live in the past. I try to tell her not to think about past things that bothers her. But she always lives in the past. Never moves on. That is what I was trying to ask you what else I could do.
Ans: Dear Harsha,
The suggestion that I made was for both of you. it's not a She v/s Me battle here...In a marriage, it's team work and a tough one at times...
So, as a team if you can set aside what's happened and look forward to what can be different in the future, that will really set the tone going! Get the drift, here? As a team; so it is probably going to take a different way of communicating with your wife where she feels not pointed out to and that might possibly help her let her guard down and she might start looking at you and the marriage slightly different. When this happens, that's when your team work starts to fusion into something very fruitful. Give that a shot, you never know!
Start afresh simply meant for both of you to drop all baggage and start right from the very beginning...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Hi Anu, I'm a 50 year old male married for 10 years. This is our second marriage for both of us. We live abroad. Since Day One my spouse was suspicious of me linking me with anyone on the street. She says I'm sighting girls. She suspected that I am interested in my elder sister-in-law since marriage. She never told me this for three years. Due to this we never had any relationship (and no child). Because of this constant fighting I lost my mother (I apologised to mother since I was not able to take care of her and I was unhappy. She died within a month of my apology.) I never told anyone either of our relatives about our problems. My father is 90 and alive. I don't want to cause any problem to him. During these 10 years her father never bothered to check if any problems. I hardly slept 1-2 days a week during these years.My spouse never changed a bit during these 10 years. Her position reached a stage where I had to admit her to hospital for psychosis. She got discharged in 2 months because her parents were adamant on discharge on the condition that she will travel to India. But once discharged, she refused to travel for nearly 10 months. Her father supported her. When her mother passed away in December 2020, due to Covid her return tickets got cancelled. In December 2021 she was again in hospital for 20 days in India for similar psychological issues. In April 2022 I visited her house in India and gave her father a 4-page document detailing her behaviour during these 10 years. He simply said she has done unknowingly. He is adamant on trying to send her back to me. While I am struggling to live, her father lives a happy life with his pension. As a father he never corrects his daughter and instead tries to push the problems to me.I have asked for a divorce but she is not willing to give and starts shouting hysterically. Please let me know how to proceed.
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Dear S,

If you have decided that divorce is the only option to consider, then yes, file for divorce legally by hiring a lawyer who has specialized in cases where the spouse is unwilling to let the divorce happen.

In short, if it’s not a mutual consent, it might drag on for years, so get a good skilled lawyer to take up your case.

On the emotional side of things, I urge you to be patient and empathetic towards your wife. With her mental health condition, she possibly has no control over her thoughts and subsequent actions are a result of an impulsive reaction.

Yes, it is unfortunate that the marriage went through a lot of low phases but do remember she is a human who is going through a challenge which is not easy to fathom by people who don’t have a mental illness.

I realise that this might be a little difficult to do, but in the long-term scheme of things, it will be a good ally as a sound and calm mind helps you through challenging times.

This point of view will help you through the divorce proceedings where you will be able to be fair and just to make sure that she is also taken care of.

All the best for a better journey ahead!

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Hi Anu...i hv been reading ur expertise to solve the issues of people and am really impressed. We have been married for 19years now and have a son and daughter .From the start of the marriage my wife have been inclined towards her mother and her family paying less or no heed to us. Circumstances were also favorable to her and she always got the opportunity to stay close and visit her parents often which i did not mind.We lived in Mumbai and she is from Chennai.After marriage my mom-in-law used to continuosly interfere into our lives by calling her and she used to act as per her suggestions only which led to problems as she was a puppet in the hands of my Mom-in-law. Moreover since my mom-in-law was not in good health my wife tried not to over rule as she did not want her mom to feel sick as she doesnt like to be over ruled or by pass failing which she goes on hunger strike and stop taking tablets spoiling her own health. Due to this reason everybody has been appeasing her.Initially i thought to ignore but slowly it started to affect my family as well as my wife started to see things thru my mom-in-laws perspective and find faults in everything. We shifted to overseas to stay away from all these and we really had a good life for 10 years there but since i lost job during covid i had to shift base to India for my son's education but she chose to stay back there with my daughter as she is working there.I too felt that let her spend some time so that i could settle things in India and call her but it is more than 2 years now and she refuses to come back and dont even care for us and neither call us as family. I tried to involve my in-laws to convince her but they are also playing a diplomatic game and doesnt want to go against their daughter's wish.Due to this attitude of my mom-in-law their own daughter-in-laws have been staying away and since my in-laws stay alone my wife feels that she is the only support system for her parents but it has come on my life's sacrifice. She has been ignoring us and even i kept moving for the sake of my family and children instead of respecting my feelings she has become more adamant now.Her brother is also seperated from her wife and he also looks forward for a support system from my daughter and my wife and they seem close ignoring myself and my son.We have been trying to convince her thru all means but she is caring. Even i feel that it is futile to force someone into relationship but she unknowingly spoiling my family and deprieve my son the mother;s love and also depreive my daughter from affection and love.Due to this my son has also stopped expecting from her and my daughter treats me as a stranger due to long distance. Pls suggest the way forward. Shud i wait for things to improve or leave as it is.I am 47 now and she is 45..told her that let us enjoy the best things in life rather than regretting later but she does not understand.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Logic does not appeal to your wife!
What can you do with someone who is adamant about ruining her own family life? It's purely clouded judgement on her part on what to do and not!
With more people dependent on your wife for support, she has found a way of moving even more away from you...what I do not understand is: how is she able to do that to your son?

Either the two of you talk this out and take firm decisions OR accept that this is how it's going to be...sooner or later, she will realize what is happening and will become more aware of her priorities. But, being where you are is painful and it will stress you even more...So, find a way to talk things out is a step that you can take NOW!

Impress upon her as to how important it is keep the family together as a unit for the children to grow in a healthy manner and also how much this time investment will help the two of you as a couple.

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HI mam, i am 55 year old married staying with wife & two daughters & i am earning a good salary, no loans nothing & we can live happily. My wife bit under educated ( 12 std) & she has some health issues also (arthritis from past one year) & getting treatment. We are living separately from my parents from the past 17 years. My wife does not like my mother ( 80 years with old age health issues) coming to my home since my wife commanded by my mother when we were staying with my parents 17 years back. Still she has that old days struggle in her mind & there is a clash between me & my wife whenever my mother comes to my home. So many times I told her to forget all old bad days memories live today's happy life which she never wants to forget. My father passed away 04 years back & my mother comes to my home whenever there is a function or due to health issue stays for hardly about 15-20 days in a year. How to resolve this issue & get back happiness in my family.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I wish it were easy to forget...and it's a matter of choice whether we want to keep the past behind us or bring it again and again in out present moment. If your wife does not choose to keep the past behind, it is going to be a huge nightmare for you and especially you constantly having to mediate between your mother and wife.
Yes, since your mother stays only for a few days with you in a year, it is fair of you to expect your wife to 'adjust'...But she is unwilling, so what do you do?
If you can afford to keep your mother in a separate room and have someone care for her just for those 20 days, it will keep your wife away and having to do anything with your mother. So, your mother's needs are taken care of AND your wife has nothing to do with her.
You cannot force anyone to like someone else and that's what is happening at your home. Your wife has her reasons and your mother would have had hers when she was playing the active role of a mother-in-law. Let bygones be bygones. You want your mother to be treated well for that short time in your home; then give her just that...But without expecting that your wife is going to agree to anything. Instead, do what you need to for your ageing mother but keep your wife off the responsibility...That should keep both sides satisfied...
Life is filled with curve balls; you just learn to navigate then better every time...

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Is ulip plans are good to invest or sip is better can you suggest???
Ans: ULIPs are hybrid products combining insurance and investment.
They offer a life insurance cover and invest your premium in equity or debt.
A portion of your premium is used for insurance. The remaining is invested.
However, there are some disadvantages to ULIPs:

High Costs: ULIPs charge fees like premium allocation, policy administration, and fund management charges. These reduce your net returns.
Lock-In Period: They have a minimum 5-year lock-in period, limiting liquidity.
Complex Structure: Balancing insurance and investment often leads to sub-optimal outcomes in both.
Advantages of ULIPs:

They provide dual benefits of insurance and investment in one product.
Tax-saving benefits are available under Section 80C and maturity proceeds under Section 10(10D) (subject to certain conditions).
But are these advantages worth the high costs and reduced flexibility?

Understanding SIPs (Systematic Investment Plans)

SIPs are a disciplined way to invest in mutual funds, primarily equity or hybrid.
SIPs allow you to invest small amounts regularly. This ensures affordability and consistency.
They provide the benefit of rupee cost averaging and the power of compounding.
Advantages of SIPs:

Low Costs: Actively managed mutual funds through MFDs with CFPs offer low expense ratios.
Flexibility: You can increase, decrease, or stop your SIP anytime.
Customised Returns: SIPs focus solely on wealth creation. This allows professional fund managers to maximise returns.
Transparency: SIPs offer clear insights into fund performance, portfolio, and management strategy.
Why SIPs Are Better Than ULIPs for Most Investors

Insurance and investment serve different purposes. Combining them often leads to inefficiency.
SIPs give you higher returns as the entire amount is invested, not split like in ULIPs.
ULIPs are suitable only for investors comfortable with long lock-ins and high charges.
You can pair SIPs with a term insurance plan for a more cost-effective strategy.
A Certified Financial Planner’s Recommendation

Buy a term insurance plan for pure risk coverage. It's cheaper and offers high cover.
Invest separately in SIPs for wealth creation. This ensures focused returns without compromising insurance needs.
How SIPs Outperform ULIPs in Various Scenarios

Scenario 1: Flexibility

SIPs allow you to stop or change investments. ULIPs restrict this with lock-ins.
Scenario 2: Costs and Charges

SIPs charge only fund management fees. ULIPs have multiple charges, reducing your returns.
Scenario 3: Wealth Creation

SIPs focus solely on wealth creation with expert fund management. ULIPs split their focus.
Scenario 4: Tax Implications

Mutual fund taxation rules depend on the type of fund and holding period. ULIPs offer tax benefits but may still fall short on returns.
Disadvantages of ULIPs to Keep in Mind

They are often mis-sold as high-return products without highlighting costs.
They don’t offer flexibility in insurance coverage.
They limit liquidity for five years, affecting short-term goals.
Final Insights

ULIPs may seem attractive for combining insurance and investment. However, they often fall short when compared to SIPs in mutual funds.

By separating your insurance and investment needs, you gain flexibility, transparency, and better returns. Always prioritise cost-effective and goal-aligned strategies for long-term financial growth.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 11, 2024Hindi
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I have 50 lakhs with me i am 25 years old which is best investment for me!
Ans: At 25, you have a golden opportunity to build wealth early. Let's explore a diversified investment plan considering your age, goals, and risk tolerance.

Setting Your Financial Goals
Define short-term, medium-term, and long-term financial goals.

Short-term goals can include buying a car or creating an emergency fund.

Medium-term goals may involve higher education or starting a business.

Long-term goals should focus on retirement, buying a house, or other life aspirations.

Prioritise these goals and allocate funds accordingly.

Building an Emergency Fund
Reserve six to twelve months' expenses as an emergency fund.

Invest this amount in liquid funds for easy access and stable returns.

Keep this fund untouched for emergencies only.

Health and Life Insurance
Ensure adequate health insurance coverage for yourself and family.

Purchase a term insurance policy to safeguard your dependents in case of unforeseen events.

Choose policies that align with your income and future responsibilities.

Investing in Mutual Funds
Allocate a significant portion to equity mutual funds for long-term growth.

Actively managed funds provide better potential than index funds due to skilled fund managers.

Regular mutual funds through a certified financial planner offer guidance and expert oversight.

Avoid direct funds unless you have expertise in fund selection and management.

Diversify across large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds for balanced growth.

Stock Market Investments
Invest 10%-15% of your corpus directly in stocks for higher returns.

Focus on companies with strong fundamentals and growth potential.

Review your portfolio periodically to ensure alignment with your goals.

Limit exposure to speculative stocks or high-risk sectors.

Debt Investments
Allocate 20%-30% of your corpus to debt instruments for stability.

Consider options like corporate bonds, government securities, or fixed deposits.

These provide steady returns with lower risk than equity.

Retirement Planning
Start building a retirement corpus early for the power of compounding.

Allocate a part of your funds to long-term equity mutual funds.

Use tax-efficient schemes like PPF or EPF to complement retirement savings.

Tax Saving Investments
Utilise tax-saving options under Section 80C of the Income Tax Act.

Consider ELSS funds for both tax benefits and equity exposure.

Avoid locking funds in instruments like NSC or ULIPs with low returns.

Diversifying with Alternative Investments
Allocate 5%-10% to gold, either through gold ETFs or sovereign gold bonds.

Explore REITs for exposure to real estate without physical property investment.

Avoid direct real estate investments due to liquidity and management issues.

Systematic Investment Planning (SIP)
Deploy funds systematically through SIPs for disciplined investing.

SIPs benefit from rupee cost averaging and reduce the impact of market volatility.

Increase SIP amounts gradually as your income grows.

Avoiding Index and Direct Funds
Index funds track benchmarks and lack active management, limiting potential returns.

Direct funds require expertise and time for monitoring, which many investors lack.

Regular funds offer guidance and active management through certified financial planners.

Monitoring and Rebalancing Investments
Review your portfolio semi-annually or annually to track performance.

Rebalance the portfolio to maintain the desired asset allocation.

Adapt your strategy based on market conditions and changing goals.

Final Insights
With Rs 50 lakhs at 25, you can create a strong financial foundation.

Diversify across asset classes while balancing risk and return.

Seek guidance from a certified financial planner to optimise your investment strategy.

Stay consistent with your plan and avoid impulsive financial decisions.

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I am 46 years old, doing job in Kolkata and my salary is 1.4 lac per month.I have savings of Rs. 1 Cr 10 Lac. 52 lacs in PPF, 13 Lacs in PF, 9 Lacs MIS post office.10 lacs Mutual fund. 20 lacs FD, 5 lacs Savings account. I have 2 PPFs which I need to pay 3 lacs per year as savings, 10k per month as SIP. No debt. I live in my parental house and I am the only son. I have daughter of 7 years age studying in class 1. My present family expenses are 40k What is the perfect age of taking retirement.
Ans: Your financial discipline is remarkable, and you are in a strong position.

You have Rs. 1.1 crore in savings spread across various instruments.
Your monthly income is Rs. 1.4 lakh, with expenses of Rs. 40,000.
You live in your parental house and have no debt.
Your financial commitments include SIPs and PPF contributions.
Your daughter is young, and her education requires long-term planning.
This stability provides a good foundation for retirement planning.

Key Factors to Consider for Retirement
1. Desired Retirement Age:

The ideal retirement age depends on your goals and financial needs.
Early retirement at 55 is possible if you ensure adequate savings.
A standard retirement age of 60 allows more time to build wealth.
2. Post-Retirement Expenses:

Estimate post-retirement expenses, including healthcare and inflation.
Current expenses of Rs. 40,000 may rise with time and lifestyle needs.
Factor in additional costs for your daughter’s education and marriage.
3. Life Expectancy:

Plan for at least 25-30 years post-retirement.
Ensure your savings generate steady income over this period.
4. Emergency Corpus:

Maintain at least 2 years’ expenses in liquid funds.
This ensures financial security during unforeseen situations.
Evaluating Existing Investments
1. Public Provident Fund (PPF):

Rs. 52 lakh in PPF ensures tax-free returns.
Continue annual contributions for long-term compounding benefits.
2. Provident Fund (PF):

Rs. 13 lakh in PF is a stable retirement asset.
Avoid withdrawing this corpus before retirement.
3. Mutual Funds:

Rs. 10 lakh in mutual funds provides growth potential.
Consider increasing SIPs to diversify and maximise equity exposure.
Actively managed funds can outperform during volatile markets.
4. Fixed Deposits (FD):

Rs. 20 lakh in FD ensures stability but offers limited growth.
Explore alternatives like hybrid funds for better returns with moderate risk.
5. Savings Account:

Rs. 5 lakh in a savings account is good for liquidity.
Avoid keeping excess funds here due to low returns.
6. Post Office MIS:

Rs. 9 lakh in MIS provides steady income but limited growth.
Redeploy this in equity or balanced funds for inflation-adjusted returns.
Planning for Your Daughter’s Future
1. Education:

Allocate funds for her higher education in equity-oriented investments.
SIPs in child-focused or diversified funds ensure disciplined savings.
2. Marriage:

Start a separate goal-based investment for her marriage.
Long-term equity investments provide better inflation-adjusted returns.
Building a Retirement Corpus
1. Increase Equity Exposure:

Equity is essential for wealth creation over the long term.
Gradually increase allocation to equity funds for higher returns.
2. Diversify Investments:

Combine equity, debt, and hybrid funds for balanced growth.
Diversification reduces risk and ensures stability.
3. Reduce Dependence on Fixed Income:

Fixed income instruments like FDs provide low post-tax returns.
Reallocate some funds to equity for higher growth.
4. Regular Portfolio Review:

Monitor your portfolio’s performance every six months.
Rebalance assets to maintain desired risk and return levels.
Tax Planning
1. Tax on Mutual Funds:

LTCG on equity funds above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
STCG is taxed at 20%. Plan redemptions to optimise taxes.
2. Tax-Efficient Investments:

PPF and PF remain tax-efficient instruments.
Consider ELSS funds if additional deductions under Section 80C are needed.
3. Avoid Tax Drags:

Fixed income returns are taxed as per your income slab.
Redeploy funds for better post-tax returns.
Deciding the Perfect Retirement Age
1. Retiring at 55:

This requires a larger corpus due to an extended retirement period.
Aggressive savings and investments are needed in the next 9 years.
2. Retiring at 60:

More time to build wealth reduces financial stress.
A balanced approach ensures a comfortable retirement.
3. Retiring at 58 (Mid-Way):

Retiring at 58 balances early retirement and corpus adequacy.
It aligns with both financial and lifestyle goals.
Additional Steps for Financial Security
1. Health Insurance:

Ensure adequate health insurance for your family.
This reduces the burden of medical expenses post-retirement.
2. Emergency Fund:

Maintain Rs. 10 lakh in liquid funds or FDs for emergencies.
This ensures immediate access during financial crises.
3. Will and Estate Planning:

Create a will to ensure smooth transfer of assets.
This avoids disputes and protects your family’s financial security.
Final Insights
Your current financial position supports a flexible retirement plan. Retiring at 58 offers a balanced approach, giving you time to build a corpus.

Focus on equity for long-term growth while maintaining stability in debt instruments. Plan separately for your daughter’s education and marriage to avoid straining your retirement corpus.

Review your investments regularly with a Certified Financial Planner. This ensures alignment with your evolving goals and market conditions.

With disciplined savings and strategic investments, you can achieve financial independence.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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Greetings Sir!!. I have 20 Lacs amount and I need to invest for a short term period (05 months) what would be the best scheme to invest in? to gain good returns.
Ans: Investing for five months requires a cautious and strategic approach. Your goal should be to prioritise safety, liquidity, and optimal returns. Below are investment strategies tailored to your needs, ensuring a 360-degree perspective.

Key Considerations for Short-Term Investments
Before we dive into suitable options, consider these factors:

Liquidity: Ensure easy access to funds after five months.
Capital Safety: Short-term investments should minimise risk to your principal.
Tax Efficiency: Assess post-tax returns under your income tax slab.
Investment Options for Your Time Horizon
1. Ultra-Short Duration Funds
These funds focus on very short-term debt instruments.
They typically mature between three to six months.
Risk is low, making them ideal for short-term needs.
Returns are better than savings accounts or fixed deposits.
Tax efficiency is better if held beyond three months.
2. Arbitrage Funds
These funds capitalise on price differences in equity and derivatives.
They offer returns comparable to liquid funds but are taxed like equity.
Short-term gains are taxed at 20% for your five-month tenure.
Ideal for slightly higher-risk takers seeking tax efficiency.
3. Liquid Funds
Liquid funds invest in securities with a maturity of up to 91 days.
They provide stable returns and high liquidity.
Ideal for parking funds for three to six months.
Suitable for risk-averse investors with short time horizons.
4. Bank Fixed Deposits (Short-Term)
Consider FDs with a maturity of six months or less.
They offer assured returns, albeit lower than market-linked funds.
Taxation depends on your income tax slab.
Use this if you prioritise safety over returns.

Evaluating Key Points in Your Investment Journey
Liquidity Is Essential
Liquidity ensures your funds are accessible when required.
Avoid options with lock-in periods or exit loads.
Consider Risk Tolerance
Stay conservative, as your tenure is short.
Avoid high-risk instruments like equity mutual funds.
Focus on Post-Tax Returns
Understand the tax implications on interest or capital gains.
Equity fund short-term gains are taxed at 20%.
Debt fund gains are taxed as per your income slab.
Avoid Index Funds for This Tenure
Index funds track the broader market, which is volatile in the short term.
They don't provide capital safety over five months.
Actively managed funds offer more stability for short durations.
Additional Insights
Regular vs Direct Plans in Mutual Funds
Direct plans lack professional guidance, which may affect investment decisions.
Investing through a certified mutual fund distributor ensures tailored advice.
Regular plans offer value through personalised strategies and market insights.
Taxation Awareness
Use the updated mutual fund tax rules for calculating gains.
Ensure short-term gains are aligned with your tax-saving strategy.
Suggested Investment Allocation
Low-Risk Strategy
60% in liquid funds for safety.
30% in ultra-short duration funds for moderate returns.
10% in arbitrage funds for tax-efficient gains.
Moderate-Risk Strategy
50% in ultra-short duration funds for slightly higher returns.
30% in arbitrage funds for equity-like taxation.
20% in liquid funds for instant access to funds.
Final Insights
Short-term investments should prioritise stability and liquidity over high returns. Diversify across instruments to balance risk and return. Review tax efficiency to maximise post-tax benefits.

Evaluate progress in three months and adjust based on market conditions. A structured approach ensures your capital is safe while earning optimal returns.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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I am married for 17 years. Since ours was a arranged marriage we had many ups and downs but slowly we have settled all our matters. We have three kids. Elder one is 16yrs, 11yrs and 3yr. I am having a guilt feeling that we have not been a good parent to our 16yr old. When he was born I was young and inexperienced and was always settling my difference with my husband and was not taking good care of my son. Now he is in college he is not performing well in his studies. And has become very aggressive. I am very much worried about his future. Now I want to repair the damages I have done to him and I am very much feeling guilty and blaming myself that it was all because of me and my husband's misunderstanding his life is affected. My other two kids are doing good in everything they do. I cry every day that I have done mistake with my son and pray for his successful life. Now what can I do to improve my son's overall wellbeing. Please suggest.
Ans: Dear Mom,

I can totally empathise with you...so here is what I am going to tell you out of my own experience and what I did to overcome this mom guilt and seeking forgiveness. It's good that you are have worked on your marriage and have 3 kids, pat yourself on the back for it. And it's normal in any marriage for these kind of ups and downs and then attaining peace and love, so good going for having found them!!And remember marriage is continuous work.

The solution I am going to give, I am going to divide it into two parts..

1. Forgiving yourself first..be kind to yourself, you were young, you were inexperienced, the mom you are to your 3 yr old is not the same person who brought up your first child, so quit being guilty! Every soul has a journey to take, your son chose you as a mother so that he could take that journey with you...you both had to take this journey together in order to evolve and grow into the people you are today. So, FORGIVE YOURSELF AND QUIT FEELING GUILTY, it's not easy but you have to start doing it. Be kind to the old you... and embrace the new you!! You are not the same person and so is your first born, this continuous evolving as a human being and becoming better is called life, rt?

2. Your SON is 16yrs old, the aggression that he has may not be because of what you did to him... it may be the changing hormones? When you are a guilty mother, you tend to blame yourself for all the wrongs that happen in your child's life, so quit being guilty.
Talk to him about how young you were when he was born and how guilty you feel about some things( be careful about what you say, kids are very resilient, they know how to protect themselves , so maybe how you remember things may not be the same way that he remembers), say sorry and seek his forgiveness. Check if you can have this conversation with him, don't give him the power to make you feel further more guilty. I leave this decision to you.

Don't cry dear mom, forgive yourself, heal and see what best you can do from now on with your first born...just move on from the past... be there for him, cherish him, love him and be there for him, help him navigate through life with compassion and understanding. It might take time, but it's all doable. Take care of him.. and a mother truly knows what is best for her child, trust your instincts, the mother's instincts are far too powerful, take back your power from the "guilty mother" and nourish your bond.

What "I do' and also advice all parents is to spend excusive time with each child, scheduling time with each child and doing something which they like takes the bond to new levels!! Try this out...

All the best... and wishing happy times ahead for you and your beautiful family!!

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 11, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir, hope you’re doing well. My age is 33. I am investing 40K via SIP in MF in 5 different funds, 20K per month as EPF, 50K NPS annually, 28K EMI - 20 years for 2nd flat for investment, 1st flat home loan completed, 9K car loan for 5 years, also doing SIP 5K in momentum ETF on my own, health insurance from company side(5L) plus additional 5L but no term or life insurance yet. How am I doing financially? Scope of improvement? Please let me know
Ans: You are making commendable progress in financial planning at the age of 33. Your diversified investments and insurance indicate a proactive approach. Let us evaluate your situation and identify areas for improvement.

Current Financial Highlights
SIP in Mutual Funds (Rs. 40,000): This is a disciplined step towards wealth creation.

EPF Contribution (Rs. 20,000): Provides a stable retirement base.

NPS Contribution (Rs. 50,000 Annually): Strengthens retirement planning with tax benefits.

EMI for Second Flat (Rs. 28,000): Shows commitment to asset building.

Car Loan EMI (Rs. 9,000): Necessary, but car loans are liabilities, not assets.

Momentum ETF SIP (Rs. 5,000): Innovative but high-risk strategy.

Health Insurance (Rs. 10 Lakh): A good backup for emergencies.

No Term or Life Insurance: This is a critical gap that needs immediate attention.

Areas of Concern
1. High Loan Commitments
EMI for the second flat and car loan may strain cash flow.
The second flat as an investment can yield lower returns than mutual funds.
2. Lack of Term Insurance
Your dependents would face financial insecurity in your absence.
A term plan with at least 15 times your annual income is essential.
3. Momentum ETF Investment
ETFs are passive investments and lack active fund management benefits.
High volatility can lead to inconsistent returns.
4. Diversification of Investments
While your mutual fund SIPs are good, ensure they cover all categories: large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, and hybrid.
Overconcentration in one type of fund or asset class can impact returns.
5. Insufficient Emergency Fund
Emergency savings for 6-12 months of expenses is crucial.
6. Tax Efficiency
Your investments and loan repayments must be optimised for tax savings.
Leverage Section 80C and 80D benefits effectively.
Recommendations for Improvement
1. Review Loan Strategy
Focus on prepaying the car loan as it carries no wealth-building advantage.
Reassess the investment potential of the second flat. If returns are poor, consider selling it and reinvesting in mutual funds.
2. Purchase Term Insurance
Opt for a term plan with Rs. 2 crore coverage.
Term insurance is cost-effective and ensures family security.
3. Optimise Mutual Fund Investments
Diversify across actively managed funds, avoiding over-reliance on ETFs.
Consult a Certified Financial Planner to refine your portfolio.
4. Enhance Emergency Fund
Save Rs. 2-3 lakh in liquid funds or high-interest savings accounts.
Use this only for unforeseen expenses.
5. Increase Health Insurance
Add a top-up plan of Rs. 10-15 lakh for better coverage.
6. Avoid Momentum ETFs
ETFs do not benefit from active management.
Actively managed funds outperform in volatile markets.
7. Plan Tax Efficiency
Invest up to Rs. 1.5 lakh under Section 80C in ELSS funds.
Claim additional tax benefits under Section 80D for health insurance premiums.
Retirement Planning
Increase your NPS contribution to Rs. 1 lakh annually.
Diversify retirement planning by investing in hybrid funds for stability.
Children’s Education and Marriage
If you have or plan to have children, start early with SIPs in child-specific funds.
These investments should align with the time horizon for each goal.
Actionable Steps
Prepay the car loan at the earliest.
Reevaluate the second flat for potential sale and reinvestment.
Start a term insurance policy immediately.
Build a robust emergency fund.
Review and diversify your mutual fund portfolio with expert guidance.
Increase health insurance coverage for better security.
Avoid ETFs and shift focus to actively managed mutual funds.
Final Insights
You are on the right path but need adjustments for financial security and growth. Address the gaps in insurance and diversify your investments further. By following these steps, you can achieve financial freedom with better peace of mind.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 10, 2024Hindi
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My age is 47 and I have invested 7.75 lakh in multiple stock and its grow arround 10 lakh from the past 2.5 years. I have 5.5 lakh home loan remaining . Should I withdraw these money and repay the home loan first and after that increase the SIP of that amount of mf .my current mf sip amount is 30k pm. Please suggest
Ans: Your query reflects careful consideration of financial priorities. Let's analyse whether using your stock investments to repay the home loan is the right step.

Evaluate the Existing Stock Portfolio
Your stock portfolio has grown from Rs 7.75 lakhs to Rs 10 lakhs in 2.5 years.

This indicates a strong return of approximately 29%. If these stocks have long-term growth potential, continuing to hold them might be advantageous.

Consider whether these stocks align with your risk tolerance and long-term financial goals.

Impact of Repaying the Home Loan
Your remaining home loan is Rs 5.5 lakhs. Paying this off will eliminate your EMI burden.

Repaying the loan early saves on interest costs, but assess the prepayment charges, if any.

Compare the effective interest rate on your home loan with the expected annualised return from your stock portfolio.

Home loan interest rates are usually lower compared to stock market returns over the long term.

Increasing SIP After Loan Repayment
Repaying the loan frees up EMI money that can be channelled into mutual fund SIPs.

By increasing SIPs, you benefit from disciplined investing and rupee cost averaging.

Use the additional SIPs to diversify into funds aligned with your risk profile and financial goals.

Considerations for Long-Term Wealth Creation
Mutual funds, especially actively managed ones, provide better diversification than direct stocks.

Your current SIP of Rs 30,000 per month is a good start. Increasing this amount post-loan repayment accelerates wealth creation.

Actively managed funds can outperform index funds through skilled fund management. Avoid direct funds unless you have deep knowledge and time to manage investments.

Evaluating Stock Liquidation
Selling your stocks could trigger capital gains tax. For gains above Rs 1.25 lakh, you will pay LTCG tax at 12.5%.

Factor in transaction costs and tax implications before selling.

Retain stocks that have strong fundamentals and growth prospects. Sell only non-performing or high-risk holdings.

Holistic Financial Planning
Build an emergency fund covering 6-12 months of expenses if you don’t already have one.

Ensure you have adequate life and health insurance coverage for your family’s security.

Maintain a balanced portfolio with exposure to equity, debt, and alternative assets.

Monitor your investments regularly and rebalance them to align with changing goals and risk tolerance.

Final Insights
If your home loan interest is significantly higher than potential stock returns, repayment is wise.

Otherwise, consider maintaining the stock portfolio and continuing your SIPs.

A mix of both strategies—partial loan repayment and increased SIPs—may offer balanced benefits.

Engage a Certified Financial Planner for a tailored strategy that ensures long-term financial success.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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