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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 07, 2024
Relationship

Hi Anu! I am married and have a kid . I love my husband and we both are working. The problem is that my husband wants me to have sex every day. But I am not able to. I love him so much, but I am upset with myself that i cant do that every day. Please suggest.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
And what are you upset with? That you can't give in to this everyday?
Hello, if the body needs it, it will go ahead and co-operate...if not, it's not going to move a muscle. And in women, the mind (emotional connect will also play an important role in it).
Maybe you are satisfied with the sex frequency and it's okay to tell your husband that you are satiated. I am sure he can find innovative ways to find that pleasure by himself OR you could just help him get there without actively playing a role in the act itself which can be tiring for you.
Talk, communicate, get playful and find ways to get to a balanced state. Most couple have different libidos but that doesn't mean either of the spouses needs to feel guilty, yeah? Just work at it...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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