Hi Anu , I am 43 YO and my wife is 37 . We have a 6 YO daughter. I am not happy with our sexual life. I want to have sex 2 times a week but my wife rarely agrees for it. We have sex only 2 times a month. I am not happy with it . Please advice.

Ans: Dear Prakash,

For communication you can look at the below mentioned options-

Read Books
Speak everyday in English (if you are facing challenge in this language)
Record yourself and hear and accordingly work on the gaps
Seek feedback on your communication from your friends and family and improve

Learning and practicing helps in regular improvements

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Ans: I would suggest staying positive, continuing to apply, upskilling yourself, and networking with people in your field. Wishing you all the very best!!

Ans: You are managing many responsibilities. It is not easy. Balancing income, expenses, and savings is a big task. But it is possible with thoughtful planning.

Below is a complete and structured guidance to reduce your financial stress and improve savings.

Let us go step by step.

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Assess Current Financial Position

Your combined monthly income is Rs. 2.05 lakh. That is a strong starting point.

Home loan EMI is Rs. 55,000. That is over 25% of your income. It needs attention.

Your mother-in-law’s expenses of Rs. 25,000–30,000 are fixed and necessary.

Household and lifestyle expenses are managed by your husband. That gives you space to plan.

But very little is getting saved now. This must change with a clear roadmap.

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Track and Categorise All Expenses

Start with writing down every rupee spent in a month.

Use simple categories. Example: EMI, groceries, medicines, education, transport.

Check for hidden spends. Subscriptions, dining out, online purchases, etc.

See which items are essential and which are flexible.

This small habit helps reduce wastage. It gives power over your money.

You will discover opportunities to save at least 5–10% monthly.

Involve your husband. Financial planning is teamwork. That makes it sustainable.

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Home Loan Strategy and EMI Load

Rs. 55,000 EMI is high. You must check your loan tenure and rate again.

If the loan is more than 15 years old, consider refinancing to lower rate.

Don’t rush to prepay unless you are saving enough for emergencies first.

If your savings increase later, partial prepayments every year can reduce burden.

A Certified Financial Planner can help you assess interest vs savings balance.

Keeping EMI under 40% of income is ideal. Work towards that goal.

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Emergency Medical Expenses for Mother-in-Law

Her health condition needs structured medical planning.

First priority: Check her current health cover. Does she have insurance?

If not, see if a senior citizen policy is possible. Costs will be higher at this age.

If insurance is not possible, start a dedicated medical fund for her.

Keep Rs. 5,000–Rs. 7,000 aside monthly in a low-risk instrument.

This helps reduce shock from hospital bills or scans.

Keep hospital records in order. Use preventive check-ups to reduce surprise expenses.

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Emergency Fund Creation

You need a safety fund of 4 to 6 months of expenses.

This protects you in case of job loss, illness, or sudden repair costs.

Even Rs. 5,000 saved monthly can build this in a year or two.

Use low-risk, liquid tools. Do not mix this with investments.

Emergency fund should be easy to withdraw, without penalty.

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Child’s Education Planning

Your son is 8 years old. In 10 years, college costs will start.

Higher education is getting more expensive. You must start a separate fund.

Begin a disciplined investment of Rs. 5,000–Rs. 7,000 per month.

Prioritise long-term, actively managed mutual funds through a CFP.

Don’t use direct mutual funds. Regular plans give access to expert reviews and advice.

Avoid ULIPs, endowment plans. These give low returns and poor flexibility.

Check this goal every year and increase SIP when income grows.

Small early efforts give big results later through compounding.

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Improve Savings Flow

You may feel there is no money to save now. But small steps help.

Start with fixed savings immediately after salary credit. This is “pay yourself first”.

Even Rs. 3,000 to Rs. 5,000 savings monthly builds habit and confidence.

Use auto-debit to mutual funds. Keep it separate from daily expenses account.

Don’t wait for “surplus”. Create savings as a non-negotiable part of monthly life.

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Insurance and Risk Protection

You must check your own term life insurance cover.

Minimum cover should be 10–12 times annual income. Your husband too needs the same.

Health insurance for all family members must be active. Confirm claim limits.

One hospitalisation without insurance can set you back financially for years.

Don’t rely on employer health plans only. Buy a personal policy too.

If existing policies are LIC or ULIP type, recheck their benefits.

If returns are low, surrender them after 5 years and shift to mutual funds.

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Joint Family Expense Sharing

Currently your husband handles household costs. That is generous support.

But as your income grows, split some expenses. This increases savings from both sides.

Joint saving goals for child, emergency fund, or a family vacation helps motivation.

Discuss money matters openly. Hiding expenses or worries creates stress later.

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Avoid Debt Traps and Buy Wisely

Don’t take personal loans or credit card EMI options unless very urgent.

Avoid buying expensive gadgets, furniture, or holidays on credit.

Focus spending on needs, not wants. That creates long-term peace.

Track EMI-to-income ratio regularly. Keep it under 40% total, including home loan.

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Invest in Growth-Based Instruments

Once emergency fund is ready, start equity mutual fund SIPs.

Do not use index funds. They give limited returns and copy market average.

Choose well-managed active funds through a certified MFD and CFP.

They give better risk control, fund rebalancing, and personalised guidance.

Rebalance your investments every year with help of a professional.

Avoid direct equity unless you have knowledge, time, and strong risk appetite.

For short-term goals, use safe options like short-term mutual funds or RDs.

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Use Bonuses and Increments Wisely

Any yearly bonus or appraisal should partly go to savings.

Avoid spending full bonus on gadgets or events. Use at least 50% for goals.

Increase SIP amount every time your salary grows. Even Rs. 1,000–2,000 more helps.

Stay consistent. Skipping SIP for small reasons breaks the wealth-building chain.

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Involve Your Son in Basic Financial Learning

Teach your son simple money lessons early.

Let him understand value of savings, budgeting, and delayed gratification.

This will help him grow into a responsible adult.

Financial literacy is as important as academic knowledge.

You are his best teacher. Your daily actions teach more than words.

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Mental and Emotional Health Check

Financial pressure can cause emotional stress in families.

Take one day a month to review your money matters calmly.

Don’t compare with others. Every family’s journey is different.

Seek help from Certified Financial Planner to structure your roadmap.

Set realistic goals. Celebrate small wins. Stay hopeful. Progress takes time.

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Avoid Common Investment Mistakes

Don’t invest in gold chits or unregistered chit funds.

Don’t mix insurance and investments. That reduces both benefits.

Don’t stop SIPs during market falls. That is when they benefit most.

Don’t rely only on FDs for long-term goals. They lose to inflation.

Don’t trust quick-return schemes. They often lead to scams.

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Final Insights

Your income is strong. But rising expenses and loan burden need balance.

Start with a written family budget. Identify cuttable costs.

Build emergency fund. Ensure full insurance coverage.

Begin long-term SIPs for child’s education and retirement.

Don’t aim for perfection. Consistency is more powerful than big steps.

Involve your husband and create joint financial goals.

Track progress every 6 months. Adjust based on income and health changes.

Stay disciplined. With patience, you can achieve financial security.

Consider a professional review once a year with a Certified Financial Planner.

That gives clarity, direction, and peace of mind.

Best Regards,
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K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
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Chief Financial Planner,
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www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: You can appear for JEE Main with Physics, Chemistry, Biology, and Mathematics (via NIOS). To get admission in NITs and other premier institutes, you must have at least 75% aggregate or be in the top 20 percentile in your Class 12 exams. For private colleges, eligibility is generally more flexible, so you should be eligible if you meet their minimum requirements and have a good JEE Main rank. Ensure you meet the 75% or top 20 percentile criteria in your qualifying exam to secure admission in NITs and other government institutes. Meanwhile, prepare well for JEE Main to achieve a competitive rank. Also, check the specific eligibility criteria of private colleges where you plan to apply. All the BEST!

Ans: At 45 years of age, with two growing daughters, you are right to think about a solid and secure future for them. Your savings, PPF, and plot ownership show a good foundation. Let’s now plan a 360-degree approach for a secure financial future for your daughters.

Below is a detailed plan for your financial roadmap, explained in simple terms. Each part addresses a specific need and goal for your family.

1. Secure Your Emergency Fund First

Keep at least 6 months of your salary as emergency savings.

 

This money should stay in a safe place like a bank or liquid mutual fund.

 

Do not invest this money in risky or locked-in options.

 

This helps during job delays, medical needs, or any sudden expenses.

 

2. Review and Strengthen Health Insurance Cover

You need a good health policy for yourself and your family.

 

A cover of Rs. 10 lakh or more is recommended today.

 

Medical expenses are rising faster than income.

 

Your daughters should also be part of this family cover.

 

Always prefer a separate health policy and not just the government-provided facility.

 

3. Review Your Life Insurance Coverage

Only pure term insurance should be considered.

 

Avoid plans that mix insurance with investments.

 

Your term cover should be at least 10 to 15 times your yearly salary.

 

This ensures your family’s lifestyle and dreams remain safe.

 

4. Continue with PPF Investment Smartly

Your PPF of Rs. 15 lakh is a solid base.

 

Continue small yearly deposits till maturity.

 

Use PPF mainly for your retirement.

 

Don’t touch this for your daughters' education.

 

5. Assign Goals: Education and Marriage Planning

Your elder daughter is 13. Education expenses will start in 5 years.

 

Your younger daughter is 8. You have 10 years for her needs.

 

Start goal-based investments. Separate plan for education and marriage.

 

Don’t mix both goals under one investment.

 

6. Use Mutual Funds to Grow Your Wealth

Choose diversified equity mutual funds for long-term goals.

 

These give better returns than savings or traditional policies.

 

SIP (Systematic Investment Plan) is a good method.

 

Start SIPs for both daughters in different folios.

 

Equity mutual funds suit education and marriage timelines.

 

7. Choose Regular Plans Over Direct Plans

Regular plans come with the help of trained experts.

 

A Certified Financial Planner with an MFD license helps guide you better.

 

Direct plans don’t give guidance or personal support.

 

Many investors make poor decisions with direct funds.

 

8. Avoid Index Funds for These Goals

Index funds follow the market, good or bad.

 

They can fall as much as the market.

 

They don’t try to beat the market returns.

 

For children’s future, you need stable and active management.

 

Actively managed funds handle risk better over long periods.

 

9. Assess the Value of the Plot

You already own a plot worth Rs. 50 lakh.

 

Do not consider more investment in land or property.

 

Real estate is not liquid. It cannot help during emergencies.

 

Hold the plot but do not add more to real estate.

 

If needed in future, you can sell or use it smartly.

 

10. Plan for Daughters’ Higher Education

Higher education costs are rising fast in India and abroad.

 

A mix of SIP in mutual funds and recurring deposits helps.

 

Create two separate mutual fund goals, one for each daughter.

 

Start with SIPs and increase every year by 10%.

 

11. Plan for Their Marriages Later

After education, marriage planning is your next step.

 

Avoid investing in gold chits or jewellery now.

 

Gold prices are unpredictable.

 

Use long-term mutual funds instead.

 

Shift investments to low-risk options 2-3 years before the goal.

 

12. Don’t Mix Investment with Insurance

If you have ULIPs or endowment policies, review them.

 

Most give low returns and high charges.

 

They lock your money for many years.

 

Pure investment should stay separate from life cover.

 

Only term plan is good for insurance needs.

 

13. Retirement Should Not Be Ignored

Retirement is your longest financial goal.

 

Don’t use PPF or savings for daughters’ expenses.

 

Your income stops in retirement. But expenses will continue.

 

Use a part of surplus to invest for retirement too.

 

14. Tax Planning with Investments

Use mutual funds that qualify under 80C only if they fit your goals.

 

PPF, term insurance, and ELSS can help save tax.

 

Don’t invest just to save tax. Purpose matters more.

 

15. Revisit Your Financial Plan Every Year

Every year, review your goals and investments.

 

Goals change with time and family needs.

 

Adjust your SIPs and increase your savings each year.

 

Don’t stop SIPs if the market falls. Stay invested.

 

16. Include Your Spouse in Financial Decisions

Share your financial plan with your spouse.

 

Let her know the goals, investments, and insurance details.

 

Keep documents safely with access to family.

 

This builds joint responsibility and awareness.

 

17. Maintain Nomination and Will

Nominate your spouse or daughters in all investments.

 

Make a basic Will to avoid future legal issues.

 

Mention plot, savings, PPF, and mutual funds clearly.

 

A Will ensures smooth transfer of wealth to your family.

 

18. Use the Right Mix of Risk and Safety

For long-term goals, equity gives good growth.

 

For short-term needs, use safer options.

 

Balance your portfolio every 2-3 years.

 

Take help from a Certified Financial Planner for a full plan.

 

19. Teach Your Daughters Financial Habits

Slowly teach them about saving and spending.

 

Make them part of small budget talks.

 

Teach them how money works early in life.

 

This builds their future independence.

 

20. Keep Financial Simplicity in Mind

Use fewer investment products.

 

Track them regularly.

 

Avoid complicated insurance or schemes.

 

Simpler portfolio is easier to manage.

 

Finally

You are on the right path with savings, PPF, and plot.

 

Now, shift focus to mutual fund SIPs for future goals.

 

Take proper life and health cover without delay.

 

Do not mix insurance and investment.

 

Prioritise education goals before marriage goals.

 

Review and act every year. Adjust as per your income and needs.

 

Keep investments simple, goals separate, and planning disciplined.

 

Financial discipline today will gift freedom to your daughters tomorrow.

 

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: Current Financial Situation

Your monthly income is Rs 50,000.



You send Rs 25,000 home monthly.



Rs 20,000 goes towards your own living and daughter's hostel.



You have Rs 1 lakh in fixed deposit.



No emergency fund or SIPs in place currently.



You are willing to work extra as a temporary home nurse.



Appreciating Your Commitment

Taking care of your daughter and mother is very responsible.



You are also exploring new income sources. That shows good planning intent.



Wanting to start SIPs is a wise first step towards future security.



Understanding Your Income and Expenses

Current fixed expenses are Rs 45,000.



This leaves Rs 5,000 buffer per month for savings.



You need to create an emergency fund first before starting SIPs.



Emergency fund should be at least Rs 1.5 lakh.



It can cover any unexpected job loss or medical event.



Building Your Emergency Fund First

Keep your Rs 1 lakh FD as it is.



Save additional Rs 5,000 per month into a savings account.



Continue this till you reach Rs 1.5 lakh in savings.



It will take around 10 months to build this buffer.



Once done, you can start SIPs confidently.



Planning for SIPs Gradually

Start SIPs only after emergency fund is in place.



You can begin with Rs 1,000 per month.



Increase SIP slowly every six months.



Aim to reach Rs 5,000 SIP monthly in two years.



Prefer regular plans through a Certified Financial Planner.



Avoid Index and Direct Mutual Funds

Index funds do not beat inflation consistently.



They copy market average. No active management is done.



Direct plans don’t provide guidance or support.



Regular plans through CFP and MFD give personalised help.



A CFP will suggest right funds based on your needs.



Exploring Temporary Job for Extra Income

Your plan to work as part-time nurse is very good.



Extra income of even Rs 5,000 monthly helps a lot.



You can use that income for SIP and insurance.



Keep this side income stable for at least 6 months.



Then you can increase your SIPs to Rs 3,000 monthly.



Consider Essential Insurance

You must have a basic health insurance cover.



A plan of Rs 5 lakh cover is a must.



This protects you from large medical costs.



Premium will be around Rs 500-800 monthly.



Start with this once emergency fund is done.



Future Planning for Your Daughter

Your daughter is in international school. That’s a high-cost choice.



Education inflation is around 10% yearly.



Create a goal-based SIP plan for her higher studies.



Even Rs 2,000 per month now helps in 7-8 years.



Discuss this with a Certified Financial Planner.



Don’t Depend Only on Fixed Deposits

FD interest is taxable and low return.



SIP in equity mutual funds beat inflation over long term.



Start slow but stay regular.



Equity helps build wealth for future goals.



FD can be used only for safety and emergency use.



Plan Retirement Carefully

You are 47. Retirement is 13 years away.



Start planning retirement corpus via SIPs.



Even Rs 2,000 monthly can build a base in 10 years.



Increase it once your income improves.



Speak to a CFP for a full retirement plan.



Finally

First step is completing emergency fund.



Next step is starting SIPs slowly.



Take term insurance and health cover also.



Use side income fully for financial goals.



Work with a Certified Financial Planner for proper guidance.



Keep growing your savings month by month.



Small but steady steps create financial independence.



Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: Vijayakumar Sir, Providing precise admission chances for each student can be challenging. Some reputed educational websites offer ‘College Predictor’ tools where you can check possible college options based on your percentile, category, and preferences. However, for a more accurate understanding, here’s a simple yet effective 9-step method using JoSAA’s past-year opening and closing ranks. This approach gives you a fair estimate (though not 100% exact) of your admission chances based on the previous year’s data.

Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Son's Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

Your JEE Main percentile
Your Son's category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if he is open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If he is open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select Your Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches your son is interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories.
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust Your Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.
Follow this approach for Other State candidates and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust your son's expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

Can This Method Be Used for JEE April & JEE Advanced?
Yes! You can repeat the same steps after your April JEE Main results to refine your admission possibilities.
You can also follow a similar process for JEE Advanced cutoffs when applying for IITs.

I also suggest you have 3-4 more backups instead of relying only on JEE/JoSAA.

Want to Learn More About JoSAA Counseling?
If you want detailed insights on JoSAA counseling, engineering entrance exams, preparation strategies, and engineering career options, check out EduJob360’s 180+ YouTube videos on this topic!

Hope this guide helps! All the best for your son's admissions!

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Ans: Dhruv, You are eligible for the form with a 60% cutoff based on your best marks (62.22%). But since you have RT in 2 subjects, you cannot appear for improvement in those subjects; you must clear them through compartment exams first. Check with your school/board for compartment exam dates and eligibility.

Ans: Your name appears as 'Tarun Kumar' in the JEE result because you entered it that way while filling out the application form. The difference between 'Tarun Kumar' and 'Tarun Kumar Sharma' may cause a minor verification issue during counselling, but this can usually be resolved with supporting documents or an affidavit. It is advisable to proactively inform the authorities and keep all relevant documents ready to ensure smooth processing.